Sorry, I should have read this before sending my delayed season's greetings. Like others I'd have happily contributed but if it's causing Sunshine Meadows too much stress that's fair enough. Be nice to keep in touch with others though.

Hello Sunny, I think you are both right and I'll leave things in Glasgow for them to sort themselves out. As I was saying at the end of my last comment good intentions are all very nice and that but I could, even inadvertently, cause a lot of problems where there might be none as things stand for my ex. It could be she is well settled in her life and not in any danger or trouble.

JLR - I think Monic's right that you have to look after yourself, keep yourself safe.  So whatever you choose to do, my version of that would be that it won't help her if you put yourself in a situation where you could be harmed.

Only you know what is or isn't possible in terms of dropping into the shop, but reading what Monic said, I now feel less positive about it as an option.

I am biased in this respect.  I don't want to go into too many details, but many years ago, I went to police with concerns about the activities of a local criminal gang, giving them a list of names, house numbers and telephone numbers of others who wanted also to speak to them.  (We'd held a meeting.)

The police didn't interview us, they just tipped off the nasties and I was driven out of my home, selling it at a loss in a property crash.  It cost me my sanity, my career etc.  If I still owned that house, the increase in value by now would be over £200,000.

I don't say don't try to look after others, but having read Monic's wise post, I echo the view that you should look after yourself.

Hi
First did you have any children with the ex? If no and you haven’t had any contact with her for a few years then I’d leave well alone.
I say that not because I’m not concerned for the ex who as you say may be getting taken advantage of but more concern for you.
If you get in touch with her and she is being controlled then the controller will want to know your concerns and what you know or don’t know.


If you are concerned about her wellbeing then maybe an anonymous letter to crime stoppers with your suspicions but focus on how the person you knew may be a victim of coercion and at risk of abuse.


That might put your mind at rest but unless you have a good relationship with the ex I’d be wary about turning up out of the blue.

Recently I found myself looking at an old photo of my ex-wife and out of curiosity/boredom did a few web searches and found some things that I wasn't quite expecting. I was surprised just how much you can find out on the web.


I read of some guys who were being linked to my ex, who I might add I split from without bad feelings, last time we met over 30 years back, she even told me the name and weight of her two daughters to the guy she had become involved with. What I learnt recently was a guy she is now involved with has it appears his fingers in numerous pies. There are two guys who share the same name but different birthdates and he seems to be setting up companies registering the companies addresses at domestic flats, and on one page at what appears to be a gatehouse/security office entrance to a group of unrelated businesses complex.


Some of the folk involved register the company as being a director before ending their directorship the same day and all this has me wondering if there is some sort of money laundering thing going on. My ex doesn't appear to do the likes of Facebook or twitter and the most recent contact address given for the business, she is said to be running, is a domestic flat in a Glasgow tower block where she is living with this guy. I have seen recently stories of various criminal groups using 'shell companies' to launder their profits and find myself wondering is she might be being used and perhaps be being coerced into fronting a loss making company.


I know it may come over as all daft or mad as a hatter thinking by me but knowing the lassie that was my ex I just can't see her as being someone who would get involved in anything dodgy off the own bat as it were. One of the earlier links I found suggested she was involved, at one given address, where there were three guys registered on the voting roll but she was mentioned through the Companies House register as being connected, rather odd I thought, like why make such a linkage at all?  And the guy she is apparently living with now is one of these guys, the one who has two different given birthdays and is being linked with 4+ companies around Glasgow. The other wee thing I noticed there was no mention anywhere online of her two daughters who would now be in their 30's.


So I find myself thinking about just dropping in to the shop she is said to be running as both director and manager, just to see if she is OK or at least not looking terrified. On one hand I could just get myself a coffee there and move on or it could all explode in that she might look to me to give her help if she is in any danger or under threat or she might feel as if I was stalking her and given she knows of where my family live in Glasgow contact them to ask that I do not visit the shop again. Calling my family could cause a reaction for which I would need to provide some sort of explanation. Whether my family could or would understand my concerns is a bit of a worry for me.


Should I bother with any of this at all?  Or just ignore it and  hope for the best that everything is OK?