Thank you
After reflecting on things and talking it through further with my PA and my husband, I tried to make a complaint to the County Council Social Services team about the meeting but there was no-one available for me to speak to. So I've put in a detailed complaint to my MP and will follow up with a similar complaint to the Head of Social Services.
To use an example of the bullying tactics used by this SW:
I explained that I couldn't change the bed and that was one of the tasks my PA did for me. I was made to provide exact reasons and explanations for why I couldn't do each and every task involved in changing the bed linen. I felt humiliated having to describe why my disabilities prevented me from changing the bottom sheet on my bed, or put on a clean pillowcase. I had already been through my list of conditions and how each of them affected me. I had even explained how many of the effects were compounded through having multiple conditions, yet here I was having to justify why the spinal tumours, severe arthritis, dislocating joints, neurological disorders etc made life difficult for me. But the SW obviously wasn't listening.
What infuriated both myself and my PA was that he wouldn't let my PA speak at all when he was questioning me, and would then ask my PA exactly the same questions

So he asked my PA what problems he thought I would have changing the bed! My PA was fuming, bless him. I've never seen him get anywhere near cross before and he turned round to the SW and said "When was the last time you made a bed? It's completely knackering! There's no way DD can change the bed".
My lovely PA then challenged the SW to look up all my conditions when he got back to the office and try and learn and understand a little about how they might affect me. The SW looked at us blankly and continued with his questions.
We went through the minutiae of my problems with doing the laundry, to preparing food and cooking it, to my lack of socialisation. This particular SW is fixated on Day Care Centres being the key to getting me out more. Personally, I can't think of anything worse and I asked if it's possible for me to have support to visit my friends instead and this seemed like an alien concept! Why can't I have support to go to a tearooms or out to see a film like a normal person would? Why should I be limited to a minibus at a Day Care Centre?
This seems such an outdated idea. I mean I'm only 53 and have plenty of living to do yet!
Overall, this was the worst experience I have ever gone through. My first PIP medical assessment was a walk in the park compared with this.
So I'm determined not to let it rest until I get a full apology from Social Services.