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Title: Summer Fetes
Post by: ditchdwellers on 25 Jun 2022 10:31AM
Yesterday I went to a school summer fete with my grandchildren at their school.
It was the first one for two years since Covid and the first one experienced by my seven Yr old granddaughter.


I had such fun introducing her to Granny's favourite fete stall, the tombola!  :f_laugh:  And we won! She went away laden with questionable goodies, all the delicious joy of a tombola.


She bought her first raffle tickets and I had to explain how it worked.


We ate cakes, candyfloss and drank tea and had a wonderful time.
Today I'm contentedly knackered.


So, what's your favourite summer fete stall?
Title: Re: Summer Fetes
Post by: Sunny Clouds on 25 Jun 2022 11:43AM
Home-made cake.
Title: Re: Summer Fetes
Post by: KizzyKazaer on 25 Jun 2022 06:18PM
I don't think I've been to a summer fete since I was a schoolgirl!  I'm asssuming the weather behaved itself, DD  :62_62:
Title: Re: Summer Fetes
Post by: ditchdwellers on 27 Jun 2022 10:44AM
I replied to this yesterday and today my post has disappeared  :f_yikes:


The weather was perfect, thanks Kizzy, and you are missing out on a treat at the summer fete. As Sunny said, who can't resist the cake stall and a strong cuppa  :cake: :cake: :item3678: .  Plus if you hang on towards the end when the crowds are thinned out then things are usually reduced  :f_laugh:



Title: Re: Summer Fetes
Post by: lankou on 27 Jun 2022 11:13AM
In my experience fetes are fete worse than death.
Title: Re: Summer Fetes
Post by: Sunny Clouds on 27 Jun 2022 04:07PM
In my experience fetes are fete worse than death.

 :f_yikes:
Title: Re: Summer Fetes
Post by: Sunny Clouds on 27 Jun 2022 04:14PM
Actually, I struggled as I thought 'fetes, what fetes?' then thought of school fates, with next to no recollection except cake and tombola.  Then I vaguely thought of church fetes but I don't usually go to them.

Then, to my embarassment, I realised that I used to be on a committee that organised a community event each year (I was only on it for a few years) but we didn't call it a 'fete' because other things happened as well.  (I don't want to be specific.)

But a large part of it involved a park where there were lots of stalls and also some activities.  I picture that part of it it as a cross between a fete and a funfair without large rides.

My main role was liaising between groups and fundraising.  I didn't get involved in the 'what will we do and who will do it' stuff.

I picture myself going to the park and not being interested in the stalls - I went to meet the people, the community, the people I saw around me but didn't always get to chat with.

But that's not a stall.  Hang on...got it - I liked the not-a-stall best!
Title: Re: Summer Fetes
Post by: KizzyKazaer on 27 Jun 2022 04:31PM
I replied to this yesterday and today my post has disappeared  :f_yikes:
I assure you I didn't nick it  :f_winkeye:

These summer fetes tend to be held in the early-to-mid-afternoon - not my best time, generally having snoozage then  :f_doh:

Title: Re: Summer Fetes
Post by: Sunny Clouds on 28 Jun 2022 10:44PM
No use us trying to meet up anywhere then. Early to mid afternoon is usually my peak time.
Title: Re: Summer Fetes
Post by: KizzyKazaer on 29 Jun 2022 04:54PM
I assume you are an 'owl' rather than a 'lark', Sunny?  I'm deffo a morning person...
Title: Re: Summer Fetes
Post by: Sunny Clouds on 30 Jun 2022 08:45AM
What's a 'morning'? 
Title: Re: Summer Fetes
Post by: Sunny Clouds on 30 Jun 2022 10:29AM
Hang on, I've got it, it's a euphemism for 'middle of the night', which was when the army, for some mysterious reason, expected me to get up. 

Still, I suppose that getting up then means you can leave a gap between breakfast and lunch. 
Title: Re: Summer Fetes
Post by: ditchdwellers on 30 Jun 2022 01:15PM
Do you think that contributes to your sleepless nights Sunny? A hangover from your army days?
Title: Re: Summer Fetes
Post by: Sunny Clouds on 30 Jun 2022 02:14PM
I don't think so, (I was just being silly mentioning it) but it's a valid and thought-provoking question and I think that other sorts of hangovers from the past are a factor when enmeshed with a sense of impotence and panic over getting things sorted.

Bed has somehow become 'place to fret' not 'place to go to sleep'.  I've relied too much on puzzles to blot things out, so then when I stop the puzzles and switch off the light, the thoughts flood back and swamp me.  But I'm weaning myself off the puzzles.

The irony is that as I think of it, times in my life when I've got up earlier have tended to be more productive.  The other thing that I sometimes do is split-sleep and that has worked quite well for me.

I wonder how I'd re-set my mental associations?  I could map it onto how I'd re-set my mental associations in relation to fetes.  For example, I didn't see any point at all in tombolas until I re-conceptualised them not as trying to win but as making a donation.
Title: Re: Summer Fetes
Post by: KizzyKazaer on 30 Jun 2022 06:19PM
What's a 'morning'?

 :f_laugh:

Regarding a 're-set', maybe stop altogether with the puzzling in bed - you could still do puzzles at another time of day in another place to break the link - and pick up a book or magazine to just read until you're tired enough to nod off?
Title: Re: Summer Fetes
Post by: Sunny Clouds on 30 Jun 2022 06:36PM
I know simply stopping altogether sounds logical, but it's like any other addiction, some people find cold turkey easiest, some people find weaning off easiest.  I've tried the former and it didn't work.  I'm doing the latter and I'm doing well.

I cope with reading in bed a bit, but it's really, really difficult once I start reading to stop.  I have to sort of rotate what I read to break the anankastic 'must finish' thing. What I'm using at the moment is mostly tree and bird identification books.

I'm now editing this, having thought about it overnight.  I've realised that I've got to go back to seeing the early morning thinking as positive problem-solving, followed by a second period of sleep.  That can then shift as it has in the past to getting up earlier and doing things in problem solving phase.

Also, I'm going to have another go at looking round a bookshop to see what sort of books would be worth a try.  In the past, joke books and poetry books helped.  I wonder whether 'how to do' books would be worth a try.  Not complex ones, simple ones.

Sorry to have diverted the thread.  It's amazing, though, how someone posts abotu one thing, the responses prompt thinking about other stuff, and before you know, someone (in this case me) has been helped.

Meanwhile, I walked past a school last night and saw signs saying they've got a summer fayre coming up.  I think I shall go to it.
Title: Re: Summer Fetes
Post by: ditchdwellers on 02 Jul 2022 10:46AM
Don't apologise for diverting the thread  :f_hug:  I think it was me that diverted you!


Anyway, that's one of the things I love about OuchToo. The way our conversations wander and take on board the needs of the people participating in that conversation, just as it would in real life. Plus I posted this in the Cafe and I don't think it's quite as important for conversations to stay on thread as much as in other categories such as Talk or Welfare Rights.
I tend to view the Cafe as a less structured, more casual place to be, and we all respect each other here and understand our boundaries so hopefully nobody will overstep the mark. Or else they might have to contend with Kizzy and her flyswatter! (I wonder if Kizzy still has the flyswatter? It must be covered in cobwebs through inactivity these days)
Title: Re: Summer Fetes
Post by: KizzyKazaer on 02 Jul 2022 04:19PM
 :f_laugh: oh, it's still kicking around if needed  :f_racket1: It's an electric one so might need a recharge
 :f_winkeye:

You're right about it not being required much lately because everyone here is just so well-behaved, just the odd spambot for me or Sunshine to ban  :f_erm:   Most of what I find myself doing is thread management stuff, like moving a topic from one sub-board to another or taking out a duplicate post.   And you are spot-on about the Cafe - it is, after all, the 'official' off-topic part of the board, so let this thread go where it will, no worries!

Title: Re: Summer Fetes
Post by: SashaQ on 03 Sep 2022 08:46PM
Glad you had a lovely time at the summer fete, ditchdwellers


There was a Jubilee Fete near me this summer, which I wasn't sure I would enjoy as I thought it would be more aimed at children, but it was very good - they had a stage with performers playing music at good volume (not too loud) and I met many people I knew so we had a chat as we moved around the field.  I played the tombola and bought something from the cake stall.  There was also a classic car section  :thumbsup:  so it was a good afternoon!
Title: Re: Summer Fetes
Post by: Sunny Clouds on 04 Sep 2022 12:22AM
I meant to go to a fete at a local school this year and forgot about it.  Oh well, next year.

That being said, I wonder what winter holds for those of us that missed the summer fetes? 
Title: Re: Summer Fetes
Post by: SashaQ on 04 Sep 2022 10:41AM
My local village hall hosts Coffee Mornings in spring and autumn - there is a raffle, tombola, cake stall and book stall  :thumbsup:   Would be good if there's something similar to that near you  :f_smiley:
Title: Re: Summer Fetes
Post by: Sunny Clouds on 04 Sep 2022 12:12PM
That's a good idea.  I previously tried to go to 'be with other people in a friendly environment' by joining exercise classes, my main interest being the chat in between the physical stuff, but it didn't really work. Most of the chat was next to the chairs we put our coats and bags on, which meant the same people every time.

I go for walks round where I live to meet people.  You've prompted me to look around at a range of different 'activities'.  I think some of our local places of worship do coffee mornings or similar.  Community activity rummage, rummage.  Thank you for the 'nudge'.

 
Title: Re: Summer Fetes
Post by: ditchdwellers on 04 Sep 2022 01:06PM
Coffee mornings are great!


On 30th September it's the Macmillan Big Coffee Morning event coming up so that might be one to look out for in your area. I'm going to keep a look out for one around me and pop along. I thought I might bake some cheese scones to take along if I find one nearby.
Do you think cheese scones would be acceptable or would people just be expecting cake?
I like making scones because they're so quick and easy!


SashaQ, how lovely to see you again and to meet another tombola lover! I love a good fete. They're somehow addictive in nature and so simple in nature. It's wonderful to see all generations having fun!
Title: Re: Summer Fetes
Post by: Sunny Clouds on 04 Sep 2022 03:17PM
Cheese scones sound lovely.  There might be someone who doesn't want dairy, but if there was, they might avoid cake because some people put milk products in them, so I can't see that as being an issue.