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Title: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: ditchdwellers on 05 Apr 2022 01:03PM
After having covid there seems to be so much mess, clutter, and paperwork that needs to be attended to. My dining table and chairs seem to be heaped with "stuff ".


At the weekend I sowed some seeds in my new windowsill propagator but the packaging hasn't yet made it into the recycling!


So my plans for the week consist of:


1. Putting the three boxes of books that are going to my sister in the back of the car. My husband will have to shift these.


2. Sort out the items for the charity shop and put them in a bag


3. Install the new modem that's been sitting in a box for weeks!


4. File all the paperwork, recycle envelopes, put sensitive papers in confidential waste sack.


5. Recycle all the packaging materials in boxes laying around.


And I think that is my week planned out for me!
It helps me to break things down into individual tasks so I tick them off one at a time. It seems less overwhelming this way otherwise I look at our huge table and don't know where to start. Plus it's a great way to pace if , like me, you have fatigue issues; I will sit down and have a cup of tea between tasks. I'm really tired at the moment and I think I'm still struggling with some of the after effects of covid compounded by my usual fatigue and narcolepsy.


So what is your week looking like? Do you have any plans? How are things for you?



Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: Sunny Clouds on 05 Apr 2022 03:08PM
I'm struggling myself, so I can't get my head round making a proper reply now but just wanted to say hugs and I'll read what you wrote in more detail later and respond properly.

 :f_hug:
Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: Fiz on 05 Apr 2022 05:46PM
I'm struggling too. The wretched PIP review is still not looked at. I actually left the house today to collect owing items from the pharmacy which still aren't in after 7 days so I have ordered some from Amazon. It's such a trial leaving the house or making a phone call I've taken the easy option. I wore a mask everywhere I went but I didn't see anyone else anywhere wearing one. I did wonder whether because I so rarely leave the house maybe I am behind the times wearing a mask and maybe I look odd?!


Tomorrow I plan to put some things in the shed which will clear some space in the kitchen. And there's the Mind peer support group on zoom at midday. My weekly event where I actually speak.


I used to have a short list of tasks for each day but recently one thing feels like an achievement.
Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: Sunny Clouds on 05 Apr 2022 09:02PM
DD - it seems like you've got a practical plan for the week.  Encouraging.

Fiz, too, doing some bits of practical stuff.

I'm in a bit of a mess emotionally.  My boiler's broken down and it's not a heating crisis because I have electrical alternatives, but it means trusting the boiler company I have an annual service contract with to fix it. They've looked after my family's boilers for about 40 years, and they were always symbolic for me of whom I can trust, but a couple of years back, they ripped me off, so it hurts.

Anyway, they're visiting tomorrow and if they say it's not covered, I'll get quotes elsewhere.

Meanwhile,  I just had a letter from HMRC in response to a letter I sent them literally a year ago, saying sorry it's taken them so long, and they can't answer my question because my circumstances might have changed.

I phoned HMRC and got through to a member of staff who was very obviously having a breakdown, barely able to interact calmly, so I tried again and got through to someone helpful.

But I'm still struggling enormously with a sense I can't trust anyone. 

On the other hand, I went for a walk and there were kind and smiling people and it helped. 



Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: Fiz on 06 Apr 2022 03:06PM
I had a really bad night and took diazepam at 4.30am to calm down so today hasn't been great. I would have put things in the shed but the padlock keys won't turn. The very solid padlock that is only a few months old is going rusty and appears to have jammed. Now how am I going to get into the shed? You would think large solid padlocks are meant for the outdoors? I didn't keep the B&Q receipt. No idea how I will get in the shed now. So today has been pants. Also realised it's my son's birthday tomorrow and am hoping Moonpig is way more effecient than I could be. My head is all over the place.
 
Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: KizzyKazaer on 06 Apr 2022 04:50PM
I've just written a long post (for me) and my >expletive deleted< clumsy stupid fingers have (again) hit some sort of button which wiped the lot.  Can I have a new pair of better working hands, please  :f_steam: :f_doh: :f_wah: The shorter version:

Fiz, I assume you've tried dousing padlock's keyhole with WD40?

DD, have you managed any items off your list yet? (I'm a great fan of plans)

Sunny  :xfingers: re the boiler and you were well brave actually phoning a large organisation, which is something I try to avoid like, well, Covid-19 really (which started all the trouble getting through to any institution/company in the first place -  one wonders when it will end....)

As for me this week to date, I've at last sorted a problem I had with my bank, so one happy bunny!
Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: bulekingfisher on 06 Apr 2022 10:02PM
Hello DitchDweller


I now live in the village Wigginton to the North of York + we have 2 duck pond's Gessee seem to like 1 + duck's the other + I get a bag of wild bird food recomened by the RSPB they are greed critter's as I throw hand full's of seed in front of them I get a warm + fuzzy sence of pride + pleasure feeding them have'nt seen any baby's yet But I am entering a scare crow compation + as I'm disabled it will have only one leg + Sarah (staff) has a pair of flowery legging's I bought a pair of boot's with flower's painted on them but will need only 1 boot + we'll go for the flower power look + aged hippy will try to get a make beileve pot pipe (don't tell the police) joke
Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: Sunny Clouds on 06 Apr 2022 11:46PM
Gosh, that's a mixed bag of ups and downs.  I'm mentally gathering in the smiles from Ouchers having better days and distributing them amongst Ouchers having worse days.

Fiz - if all else fails with the lock, it may be possible to attack it with heavy duty bolt cutters like thieves do with some padlocks.  If you don't have any, it might be worth putting word out with neighbours that  you need to borrow some.

Bule - lovely of you to get proper bird food not bread.  So much better for the birds' health.

Kizzy - bank?  Well done! 
Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: Fiz on 09 Apr 2022 04:02PM
I used to have some WD40 and I rarely get rid of things so might be able to try that. Unless I have put it in the shed.


I am continuing to struggle. Just taking life one day at a time right now.
Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: Sunny Clouds on 09 Apr 2022 05:22PM
I wish I could 'un-struggle' you.  I know hugs don't do a lot, but it comes with hope for you

 :f_hug:
Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: oldtone27 on 10 Apr 2022 02:39PM
I broke my ankle 2 week ago. In hospital recovering. I was lucky that a&e experience was good. Problem is mobility as broke ankle on good leg. Can't weight bear so pretty stuck. Fortunately pain well controlled. Just waiting around.
Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: Sunny Clouds on 10 Apr 2022 03:30PM
Aargh!  I confess that I hate being in hospital (well, it was ok in a military hospital having leg surgery, but maybe I was just lucky).  I don't know what your home circumstances are like (maybe you've said and I just didn't store the info adequately in my brain) - is everything ok in terms of your home and any family commitments?  Have you got what you need at the hospital?   (It's ok to ignore my questions!)

Big hugs

 :big_hugs:

(Notice the hugs are carefully circular with a hole in the middle so as not to squeeze your ankle.)

Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: KizzyKazaer on 10 Apr 2022 05:29PM
Oh, how rotten for you, OldTone!  I hope the hospital food is up to scratch...
Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: Fiz on 11 Apr 2022 08:03AM
Oh oldtone, poor you. I hope you're not too bored and have nice roomies that don't snore. Are you able to have visitors? My local hospital has a norovirus outbreak so is closed to visitors which an online acquaintance is struggling with. But visitors were allowed prior to that despite Covid so hopefully you are allowed them there. Do they have any idea how long before you can go home? So frustrating to be bed bound  :f_hug:
Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: Fiz on 20 Apr 2022 01:35AM


Fiz, I assume you've tried dousing padlock's keyhole with WD40?




The WD40 arrived from Amazon today and worked a treat! So that rusty padlock and keys are now in the bin and my new weatherproof padlock is on the shed door and the things that I had wanted to put in the shed are now in there. So that days tasks took a while but it's done. One thing went right today. Or should I say yesterday as it is now tomorrow.
Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: Sunny Clouds on 20 Apr 2022 03:25PM
I love it when a problem is frustrating and then someone comes up with a simple workaround like Kizzy's WD40 suggestion.
Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: Sunny Clouds on 20 Apr 2022 08:14PM
I want to go for a walk.  I know jolly well that whilst I could do with the fresh air and exercise, it's primarily to say hello to people and wave at people as we play the socially distancing reel.

But I've mapped it onto buying food.  I've tried to find something else to latch it onto.  Then the other day, I thought of something.  I keep seeing rubber bands discarded on the pavement and thinking what a waste.  I'm not short of rubber bands but the last twice I've been out, I've picked up several plus several discarded hair ties.  In the process I've spotted some other small things to pick up.  When I've got a whole blob of them, several dozen, I'll soak them in detergent then rinse them, then add them to my collection of 'useful things to tie bags used to put rubbish in'.  (I've also got a collection of used bags for rubbish, such as empty looroll bags etc.)

Meanwhile, we're now into "Put it at the end of your drive for others to take" weather.

So now I'm going to go 'bargain hunting' and see if I can avoid also 'cookie hunting'.
Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: KizzyKazaer on 21 Apr 2022 06:47PM
I love it when a problem is frustrating and then someone comes up with a simple workaround like Kizzy's WD40 suggestion.


So pleased I could be of some use  :f_biggrin: :thumbsup:


Sunny, I used to collect the red rubber bands discarded by the postman - only I had to be sure my cat of the time didn't get hold of them, he loved to try to eat them (once I found a turd in his tray with guess what wrapped round it  :f_yikes: )


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So now I'm going to go 'bargain hunting' and see if I can avoid also 'cookie hunting'.


Good luck with that  :f_winkeye:
Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: Sunny Clouds on 21 Apr 2022 09:08PM
I've been cat-sitting for a neighbour.  It occurs to me that it would have been great fun to leave silly things in the cat litter or near it. 

Talking of which, I'm now getting anxious.  They said they'd be back this afternoon but their lights aren't on yet.  I  may go round and feed the cats again.

Meanwhile, I've just been out with my trolley for a big supermarket shop and yes, I bought some cookies, but although I ate more than I should have done, I didn't eat all of them.  A teensy bit of progress, but still some.

I've also realised that looking downwards is good at this time of year.  So many dandelions, daisies, nettles, bluebells etc. by the edge of the pavements.  Very cheerful.
Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: Tony_Demoncy on 21 Apr 2022 10:49PM
I had a surprise text from a friend today asking me if I wanted to go out for coffee. I hadn't seen her for months so it was very good to see her.
Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: Tony_Demoncy on 21 Apr 2022 11:09PM
I am also doing what I do most Friday nights these days which is to host a social on zoom for members of Outsiders (Outsiders is a disabled people's social club and dating club - it is national)
Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: Sunny Clouds on 21 Apr 2022 11:15PM
That sounds like it could be very satisfying. 
Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: Tony_Demoncy on 21 Apr 2022 11:23PM
Hiya Sunny Clouds! It can be satisfying. It varies from me running it from 7 to 10pm or until 11pm which is the stated time, although I have been known to still be chatting on it at 9am the next morning. Sometimes my health isn't up to it but I try to make it as regularly as I can
Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: Sunny Clouds on 22 Apr 2022 12:08PM
I've only belonged to one zoom group from autumn 2020 to early 2021.  I enjoyed it but felt absurdly awkward about the view behind me.  I wouldn't now, but it's because in my den/dayroom/study I've got lots of shelves behind me.  There are some books, but mostly it's stuff stored in transparent plastic boxes. Some is stationery, but there's also a range of stuff from sewing things to spare cables. 

I'm glad you raised the issue of zoom meetings. Some formal community meetings are zoom meetings and I haven't had courage to go to any.  I'd also thought of, but abandoned the idea of, finding local online social groups.  Time to get my act together.
Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: Tony_Demoncy on 22 Apr 2022 01:02PM
Hiya Sunny Clouds, if one has a new enough computer or a new enough graphics card, there is an option in zoom to blur the background or to use a photograph as a background - like with a greenscreen but without needing to use a greenscreen.
Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: Sunny Clouds on 22 Apr 2022 04:00PM
My desktop isn't new enough, but my laptop would be.  Another incentive to try to pluck up courage to use it.  I've been trying to find someone I could pay to teach me and help me.  I've just lost pretty much all my courage with new things.  I even took about 3 weeks to get it together to plug it in and the best part of a week or so to pluck up courage to switch it on. (I don't use an ordinary cooker, although I've got one, just countertop things like microwave, kettle, stockpot etc.)

Madness.
Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: Tony_Demoncy on 22 Apr 2022 05:17PM
Hugs I hope that you find your courage with new things again.
Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: Sunny Clouds on 22 Apr 2022 07:41PM
Something's happened where someone's kindness has nearly set me back but I'm pleased with how I'm dealing with it.  Background - as the years have gone by, I have been let down, sold short, misled, cheated etc. by so many people and organisations.  E.g. various government departments, employers, health professionals, lawyers, builders, plumbers, fuel companies, cable companies etc.  I've reached the point of finding it very, very difficult to trust anyone to help.

But the pandemic built on existing community structures where I am, making it easier to ask for and give free help.  I both give and take.  But someone asked me to do something I very happily did, then suddenly gave me a present to say thank you.  Earlier today, I felt suddenly like it made asking for help harder. Will people expect a 'payment'?

But I've now managed to remind myself that they didn't offer any payment/reward when they asked me to help, and they would know that there was no expectation of one when I agreed to help.  That doesn't mean I wouldn't give someone who helped me anything, it just means that I've reminded myself that people don't feel you're ripping them off if you ask for help as a neighbour and don't offer any payment/reward.
Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: oldtone27 on 26 Apr 2022 03:24PM
Making progress walking with frame today. Food is good. Other guys ok but everyone snores. I am coping with that.  Had some visitors, neighbour and coordinator from charity I volunteer for. Maybe getting home soon .
Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: Sunny Clouds on 26 Apr 2022 06:22PM
Very disappointing, I thought you'd be onto marathons by now...

Ok, I'll be serious for a moment.  I'm glad you're making some progress and hope the pain levels are bearable and that you're ok to go home soon.

Big hugs and keep plodding away at it.

 :big_hugs:
Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: oldtone27 on 01 May 2022 10:18AM
There it is has been a delay in delivering equipment so it's a bit longer in hospital bed blocking. Bank holiday doesn't help.
Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: Sunny Clouds on 01 May 2022 10:49AM
I'd hate to be stuck in hospital, and the equipment thing is a pain.

I've got 3 wheely walkers I'm not using (from when my ataxia was bad) and when a neighbour had surgery on her leg a little while back, she borrowed two.  Until then, I hadn't taken on board that whereas with me, the issue was a sort of balance where I could cope upstairs ok, for her, it was weight bearing so she wanted one walker for upstairs and one for downstairs, but they don't issue two. Do they expect people with serious leg problems to find a way to slide their bed downstairs and hump it into their living room or something?

So big hugs to help keep you going.

 :big_hugs:
Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: Sunny Clouds on 01 May 2022 10:58AM
As for me, I had a near miss a week ago.  I was hit by a car as I was crossing the road by a roundabout.  As I shouted at him "Even if you haven't read the new highway code, it's never been ok to run over pedestrians."

I was hit and flung hard enough for lots of shopping to be smashed as it hit the ground, but with my martial arts background plus experience of hundreds of falls from ataxia plus sheer good luck, I wasn't significantly physically injured, just sore.  Very lucky.

I still feel emotionally wobbly, but I'm bouncing back.  The thing I found hardest at the time was people fussing around me.  It's really stressful turning my head back and forth, back and forth to pick up what people are saying.  But hey, hearing aids are magic, aren't they?  Sorry folks, the dangerous driver didn't manage to splat my wryness!
Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: KizzyKazaer on 01 May 2022 08:32PM
OMG, didn't the driver even stop to see what they'd done?   Thank goodness you weren't more seriously injured - what a horrible shock to the system, though.  Did any of the witnesses get the reg number or anything?  He shouldn't be in charge of a wheelbarrow, let alone a motorised vehicle  :f_steam:


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Sorry folks, the dangerous driver didn't manage to splat my wryness!

Well, that's something to be thankful for - I think  :f_winkeye:
Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: Sunny Clouds on 01 May 2022 09:48PM
Yes, the driver stopped and as I was sitting there in the road, he came up to me and started chivvying me to get up and I told him to back off and not to touch me.

You see, there are a few things that were affecting me in terms of emotion and thought.

1. Feeling generally shaken.
2. Needing to check around me to make sure other cars weren't going to run me over.  (Not a problem - another car stopped behind, parked at a slight angle with hazards on.)
3. Trying to assess myself for injuries before I moved.  If I'd damaged my spine, for instance, moving could have been dangerous.  My wrist, which is rather wonky after a previous break when falling was painful and I was trying to check out if I'd injured it or just annoyed it.
4. Others were getting involved and with my hearing, that means looking back and forth, trying to work out who's saying what, who's doing what.
5. Sadly, in the past, I've been on the wrong end of 'helper muggers'.  They pretend to be helping whilst they rob you.
6. Psychologically I perceived the driver the way I would if a strange thuggish-looking man had barged past me and shoved me into the road.  He might have misjudged it, thinking I'd jump out of the way, but it would still be aggression so I'd be wary.
7. The  man who hit me might have been drunk, high on drugs, manic or whatever.  Again, potentially still dangerous due to impaired judgement.  (I don't assume he would be, but I'd want to assess him first.)
8. My groceries were smashed and he didn't give a toss.  That to me was painful.  He didn't know whether I could afford to replace them.  About £15 worth of food ruined but for all he knew, it could have been twice that or more.  For all he knew, it could have been my children's supper.  To give you an idea of the level of impact, three apples were totally squashed and a load of almonds and brazils were reduced to powder and crumbs.  I didn't land on them, that was the force of impact.  There was hummus and juice from squashed fruit on the bags and on me.

The driver told someone else he would report it to the police.  What he didn't do, though, was give me or the witnesses his details.

Someone called an ambulance.  I said I didn't want or need an ambulance, I wanted police but nobody listened to me.  The person calling the ambulance refused to cut the call until they'd passed my details onto the switchboard, by which time the driver had gone.

Someone kicked up such a fuss insisting on driving me home, with others nagging me to accept the offer, that I gave way, even though it was a very short walk along a couple of very familiar roads.

I felt horribly, horribly disempowered.

I wasn't going to report it to the police, remembering how not many years ago, I reported an assault by a woman on a bus who, seeing my disabled bus pass and the signs on my mobility aid, had physically assaulting me whilst shouting and swearing.  "[Expletive] disabled...!"  It was on camera (from more than one angle), the driver will have had to fill out a report at depot, and there were witnesses who'd helped me to safety.  The police didn't even think it worth giving me a log number, much less investigating.

But others chivvied me so I did.  I stayed in all day Thursday and Friday for the call I was told I'd get but didn't.  Emotionally as opposed to logically, I felt like I'd been subjected to a curfew, like it was me that had committed the offence.
Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: Sunny Clouds on 04 May 2022 06:41PM
I didn't stay in all day at the weekend but dialled 1471 when I got back to check to see if I'd had any calls but hadn't (the last one being a particular call from before the weekend that I recognised).

I stayed in all day Monday but to no avail.  Tuesday I went out, but again checked 1471 when I got back but again latest incoming call was Thursday.  Today the only call I had was from someone I knew.

So as I see it, whilst I don't think I can complain if it takes me until a bit through Wednesday to report an accident on Monday evening, if by the following Wednesday evening I haven't had a call back, we can safely say they're not going to investigate.

I wish I hadn't reported it, because the police failure to investigate has increased my sense of vulnerability and disempowerment.
Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: Sunny Clouds on 04 May 2022 07:03PM
Meanwhile, for the first time ever after decades of voting, I'm seriously considering spoiling my ballot paper.  Where I am, I'd say this time around it's a toss-up between Libdem and Labour, and as a leftie, usually my logic would be to vote for whichever I thought would keep the Tories out (just as I assume happens in reverse with voters on the right).  I can't stomach voting for those candidates, given the local corruption and cronyism.

You could say just not vote but that wouldn't feel the same.


Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: Sunshine Meadows on 05 May 2022 01:15PM
OMG Sunny that is horrendous and the fact the police failed you too no wonder you feel vulnerable and disempowered  :big_hugs:


Old Tone I hope you get a proper amount of care when you get back home. Ankles can take a long time to heal so I am assuming you know to take it steady.


As far as my plans go it is kind of  :f_bleep: :f_bleep: :f_bleep: :62_62: :coffee: :sleepimg_moon: :f_gift:



Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: Sunny Clouds on 05 May 2022 03:07PM
Only three bleeps bad?  Hmm.  I wonder how many hugs map  onto that.

Aha, 3 hugs?

 :f_hug: :f_hug: :f_hug:

Nope, that only matches it.  An extra one to make the difference.

 :big_hugs:
Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: KizzyKazaer on 05 May 2022 08:42PM
Sorry to read the police have let you down so dismally, Sunny - makes me wonder what exactly they do these days  :thumbsdown:    I can see why you'd feel twice wronged, because you have been!  That >expletive deleted< driver could have at least offered to pay for your ruined groceries...


Re the local elections:  Already done my postal vote about two weeks back, it's a choice between Libs and Tories in my part of the South-West.  But I like the idea of you spoiling your ballot paper, you rebel  :f_biggrin:

..and what's worth three whole bleeps, Sunshine? (if you're up to telling us)

Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: Sunshine Meadows on 06 May 2022 11:21AM
Hmm I was feeling particularly sweary because I feel trapped and like I am going in circles from one thing to the next and achieving little. On the upside I did make it to Wales for my father In Law's funeral and managed my medication well enough to participate in family conversations. I can't talk about it much here so I might use the 3am board but then again I am okay within myself.


I delete the rest of what I said because it would be high jacking this thread.


Soooo on topic my plans for the week are to sell some old tech to pay for the new phone I bought when life felt particularly bad and I distracted myself by camera shopping.


I am very lucky or maybe good at What If planning because I have a roof over my head, food in my tummy and manageable mental health and what is shaping up to be a better garden.


Milocat just pootled into my study and he is 14 this year can still move and enjoy life including the 2am pester for cuddles.that's iit ihe is on the desk ttfn
14
 :f_hug: :f_hug: :f_hug: :big_hugs:

Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: Sunny Clouds on 07 May 2022 10:25PM
My life's getting surreal.  I've a long list of non-grocery shopping to catch up with and made myself head for the town centre for it rather than my local high street.

To my amazement, almost straight away I found something I've been looking for for months going cheap as a bargain, so didn't grumble when the next thing I wanted was more expensive than expected.

Then I went into another shop and there was a zigzag queue for the checkouts and I wasn't being low, but someone behind me caught me off balance.

I wasn't entirely certain whether she was just being careless, but her body language and her eagerness to reach out and make 'reassuring' gestures and physical contact suggested it was distraction theft and she was after my purse, so I hobbled out, having caught my ankle slightly against something.  (No permanent damage.)

It was only a few minutes later that I realised that I'd dropped not only the item I'd intended to buy as I stumbled, but also the carrier bag with my earlier bargain in it. Fortunately I didn't drop the more expensive item which was in my handbag.  I went back but the shop staff said it wasn't there.  Who took it is anybody's guess.

Oh well, although in most places the lost item would, in that condition, be over a tenner, I'd got it for £2, and whilst there've been times in my life when £2 would have been a disaster, it's not now.

So I cheered myself up with some nice chats with strangers.  They gave me verbal hugs, so I'll pay some forward to Ouchers.

 :f_hug: :f_hug: :f_hug: :f_hug: :f_hug: :f_hug:
Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: Sunny Clouds on 09 May 2022 08:04PM
I phoned the shop where I dropped my carrier bag.  They don't have it and confirmed that if it had been put in a display basket by someone, it would have been found when they tidied.

So whether the thief was the woman I felt pushing/moving my shoulder bag, or whether it was someone else, that means that less than two weeks after being run down, I was robbed.

It's not the loss of the item, it's the loss of dignity, it's the fact that in the moment, I forgot that I'd been carrying a bag. 

I tried talking to a Samaritan about how utterly overwhelmed with stuff I feel, with a build-up of so many enmeshed issues in my life, saying I wanted to draw together the key elements so that then I can try to find things in common between them that I can tackle, ways of moving forward. The Sam listened for a while, then just as I felt I was making progress, asked why I'd called.  I gave up.

So now what I'll do is to go for a walk.  Whilst I'm out...

- I'll look at the sky and remind myself summer's coming. 
- In relation to the people I meet, I'll focus not on the small number of inconsiderate wotsits, but on the majority of friendly, considerate, kind people. 
- I'll look at the dandelions, which I love. 
- I'll keep an eye open for anything interesting put outside people's houses for people to help themselves to.  (We do that round here.)
- I'll engage in something I'm doing to give a silly giggle purpose to going out - I take a little polythene bag with me and collect thrown away rubber bands and hair ties.  My aim is to collect a ball of them the size of a grapefruit, then soak them in soapy water, rinse and find a use, e.g. tying tops of rubbish bags.  Yes, daft, which is the whole point when I'm feeling ghastly.

Oh, and if another driver mows me down, instead of looking calm, I'll guilt-trip him by going full-on 'woe is me', so there!
Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: bulekingfisher on 10 May 2022 01:18PM
Hello DitchDweller


About plan's for the week. Yesterday I sent a photo of me + the scarecrow/carecrow to the newspaper Dsability Turst my scarecrow was reprersenting disabled people as I gave it one leg as disability is found in EVERY LEVAL OF SCOIETY + I stood my walking stick next to the scarecriw to help enphize the disability. So now
Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: bulekingfisher on 10 May 2022 01:40PM
Hello DitchDewller


Sorry for not finnishing my last post (I am not sure what button I pressed by mistake) Next year I will ask the wheelchair repair service if they can lend me a W/c I can put a disabled scarecrow in the wheelchair + I'll give carecrow only one arm + one leg because I have a positve atti
Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: Sunny Clouds on 10 May 2022 03:05PM
I love the idea of your disabled scarecrow.  Much better than standard disability images, and I bet it would work far better with children to change their mental images of disabled people than pictures of 'brave' humans 'triumphing' over their disabilty.

I know it's not the same as your scarecrow, but you know how my mind makes connections.  Why aren't children's dolls and other toys disabled in a range of ways without it being a big thing?

Or now I think of it, things for adults like models in shops.  Why's it somehow a big thing if a shop dummy has an imitation prosthetic leg?

So at least having something like a disabled scarecrow gets a message across without people getting wound up about it.
Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: bulekingfisher on 11 May 2022 10:11AM
Good Morning Sunny Clouds


I've just read your reply to my idea put a disabled scarecrow in a wheelchair + your idea about a disabled doll + I thought about an ACTION MAN/G I JOE as war leave's million's of disabled personal both male/female so from a commercial point of view it could be a money spinner. If Sun Shine Meadow's I would Email the manafacter pointing out they could make a fortune
Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: oldtone27 on 13 May 2022 02:13PM

Sorry for slow reply but am home and had a bit of sorting out  do to get everything easily accessible. My neighbour has been exceptionably helpful. Started with a morning and evening care package which worked well and have now mutually reduced that to evenings only for now.


Also had morning and evening district nurse giving heparin jabs. That has ended now.


Otherwise I am getting increasingly mobile. Saw surgeon Wednesday and all looks good so has given me regime of gradual increasing weight bearing. Thankfully no pain so far except hip is aching a little due to unaccustomed weight transfer. At least that is my diagnosis.


Now planning to catch up on weeks of TV mostly old stuff I was watching before my accident.


Hugs to everyone
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Post by: Sunny Clouds on 13 May 2022 02:33PM
That sounds very promising.  I hope you find TV to watch that will act as sufficient reward for your hard work in rehabilitating yourself.
Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: KizzyKazaer on 14 May 2022 09:39AM
Wishing you an 'uneventful recovery' now, OldTone  :thumbsup:

Forgot to mention something I planned for last week and enjoyed greatly - a belated birthday meal with Dad at a Chinese eat-all-you-can buffet restaurant.  Oh, the joy of refilling a plate with whatever one fancied, plus an amazing selection of puds including a chocolate fountain with marshmallows on sticks to cover with the delicious dark stuff.  Not for those with small appetites... Anyone else ever been to one of these type of places?
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Post by: Sunny Clouds on 14 May 2022 12:56PM
I've never been to one, but mentally I'm mapping it onto the sort of party where they've got tables full of food and you help yourself.  I've been to those at places where I only knew a few people, so maybe that would feel like being with those few people in an eat all you can restaurant.  Forgotten pleasures.

I've been feeling very low but finding sillinesses to get me through, and there have been kindnesses from people as well.
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Post by: Tony_Demoncy on 17 May 2022 11:33PM
Hi All  :big_hugs: Hugs all round. OldTone, I am sorry to hear about your ankle but glad that it is healing.Sunny Clouds, Bloody bastard dangerous driver. And that thieving scumbag in the shops and the bloody useless police! Grrrrrr :f_steam: :f_steam: :f_steam:
Sending hugs and best wishes and spoons.  :big_hugs:
Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: Sunny Clouds on 18 May 2022 11:51PM
I hope you're also doing ok, Tony.  I'm guessing writing the poetry helps you as well as helping others here?

More hugs for you and the other Ouchers. 

 :big_hugs:
Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: Sunny Clouds on 19 May 2022 04:30AM
Half past four in the morning.  Can't sleep.  My fault - bought a puzzle book and raced through it.  I've been cutting back on puzzle books and thought I'd got it down to ones I don't race through.  That one won't be bought again in a hurry.  In practical terms, I'm down to simple sudoku and arrowwords now.

Meanwhile, I'm still horribly depressed.  I had food for thought recently, though.  I phoned the Samaritans and after a few minutes, the Sam asked "What do you expect us to do about it?"

I felt frustrated, but thought after "What do I expect to get out of talking to the Sams?"  Sometimes it helps me to get my thoughts in order, but often not.  Ok, different approach.

Meanwhile I want to rearrange my house a bit.  If I'm not doing paperwork, I need a new 'office space' or 'work space'.  This desk and computer have become 'leisure space'.  Rearranging my space can often help me to get things done.

Meanwhile, I need professional help and there has to be a way to find it.  I'd given up but now I'm going to try again.

And tonight?  I'm going to stay up the rest of tonight to try to reset my internal clock.  I haven't done it this way for a while, but sometimes it works.
Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: KizzyKazaer on 21 May 2022 08:13PM
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Meanwhile, I'm still horribly depressed.  I had food for thought recently, though.  I phoned the Samaritans and after a few minutes, the Sam asked "What do you expect us to do about it?"

Good grief, on the surface of it that is a really inappropiate thing for a Samaritan to say  :f_doh:
Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: Sunny Clouds on 21 May 2022 09:35PM
There are those brilliantly absurd moments in life.

I just got a box of chocs given me by someone whose passport I found and got back to him via a neighbour who works for the same organisation (fortunately he was readily traceable online because of his job).  The neighbour got some chocs, too.

I try not to worry but I hope others here are somehow still getting by.
Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: KizzyKazaer on 23 May 2022 04:24PM
How nice to know that proper courtesy still exists, in the form of the passport-loser thanking you and your neighbour with a gift.  Savour every chocolate!
Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: Sunny Clouds on 23 May 2022 07:29PM
Yes, it's lovely.  Mind you, when you find something like that, you never know the back story.  Imagine if he'd been robbed and the thief had just chucked away his passport.  There you go, it was really savvy of me to find a passport belonging to someone who could afford chocs.  But why didn't I find one belonging to a millionnaire who'd give me something massive and impressive?  Oh dear, even with something like this, my sense of humour gets the better of me.

I'm feeling a bit better today because this last couple of days I've been on a tidying and re-organising blitz and got some paperwork done.  I'd forgotten just how much sorting and weeding stuff makes me feel more in control so better able to cope with other stuff.

Big hugs to anyone that needs it.  Ouchers make such a difference to my ability to cope.
Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: lankou on 23 May 2022 07:55PM
On Thursday my wife and I are going to "Sarah the Cakes" motorcycle rally on the Somerset Levels. There is a regular bus service from outside the rally site so we will both be able to use our bus passes to visit Bridgwater for the day.
Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: Sunny Clouds on 23 May 2022 09:01PM
Have a good time there.  I look forward, fingers crossed, to a "We had a great time" message posted by you in due course.
Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: lankou on 23 May 2022 09:18PM
Have a good time there.  I look forward, fingers crossed, to a "We had a great time" message posted by you in due course.


Unfortunately for health reasons I can't eat any of Sarah's cakes.
Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: Sunny Clouds on 24 May 2022 09:32PM
You'll have to settle for a virtual one, then.

 :cake:

And a virtual drink to flush it down with

 :f_ale:

Title: Re: How is everyone getting on this week? Any plans?
Post by: lankou on 25 May 2022 07:59AM
You'll have to settle for a virtual one, then.

 :cake:

And a virtual drink to flush it down with

 :f_ale:


The rally site is close to a bus route with a good bus service into Bridgwater, so my wife and I will be using our bus passes to get into town and try to find a pub full of reprobates and "dangerous" dogs and have a real drink.
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Post by: Sunny Clouds on 25 May 2022 10:28AM
Ooh, that sounds good.  Enjoy!