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Talk / Re: Between one thing and another
« Last post by Sunny Clouds on 07 Jun 2022 11:09PM »
Nah, not a toddler's temper tantrum.  You're going to be in Germany, so everything has to be expressed in umpteen-syllable words carefully constructed into sentences with the verbs in the right places (or, if you're anglophone, the wrong places).  A toddler can't do that.  It needs to be at least a teenager strop!
Talk / Re: Between one thing and another
« Last post by Sunshine Meadows on 07 Jun 2022 12:43PM »
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« Last post by ditchdwellers on 07 Jun 2022 09:01AM »
Excellent Bule!
I look forward to hearing what they have to say. Good luck!
« Last post by bulekingfisher on 06 Jun 2022 09:56PM »
Hello Ditch Dweller

Just to say I've  wrote my idea to BBC radio York will let you know any reply  .A.S.A.P
« Last post by bulekingfisher on 06 Jun 2022 09:16PM »
Hello Ditch dweller

This afternoon 6/6/22 I wrote  a basic idea for a radio play to BBC radio york I used an offical form but think it was to small to say all I wanted but will try again tomorrow
Talk / Re: Self-soothing & coping strategies
« Last post by Sunny Clouds on 06 Jun 2022 03:43PM »
As regards my invasive friend, it wasn't particularly me she latched onto, she's just invasive.  She'll do it with anyone.  E.g. I mentioned to her that I'd joined a group.  Just before it, she said she was going.  She hadn't asked me anything about the group.  I didn't go.  She phoned me before the group finished, evidently having left early, screaming "Where are you?!"

Well, that sounds like it's me specifically, but lots and lots of people have said she does it to them, or tries to.

Someone described her thus.   If there were four seats somewhere and two were occupied and the people had put their coats and bags on one of the empty seats, she wouldn't sit on the empty one, she'd move their coats and bags and sit there.  I've actually seen her do that in an almost empty auditorium. 

My problem with it has been my vulnerability to it, taking far too long to realise I was making excuses for her behaviour.

I've spent my life making excuses for other people.  I don't do that any more but I still lack assertiveness skills in relation to what I'll call 'paid predators' or 'rip-off service providers'. 

I'm horrified how assertive I wasn't in relation to my last landlord over damage to my things by workmen he employed.  Damage he should have paid for.  It's symbolic.

I have to either learn and move forward or I might as well give up. 

Pouring out what I think has been another coping skill, but it's one I need to adapt, alter, modify.  I need to spend more time working out how to move forward.  It's bloody difficult.  In the past, I spent a lot of time with others mired in mental illness in almost a 'career mental' way.  Here, I find others who are also disabled/impaired, but also finding a range of coping strategies, also doing their damnedest not just to keep their heads above water, but swim forward, even if just a bit at a time.

(And I've just been on a clear out of my stationery.  An amazing realisation I've got sticky labels I bought in the early 90s.)
Talk / Re: Self-soothing & coping strategies
« Last post by Sunny Clouds on 06 Jun 2022 03:34PM »
I've never tried selling things, except, when younger, taking stuff to a pawnbroker when in crisis.  But then, I suppose I didn't end up doing big clearouts until it was a question of clearing out my parents' stuff then also having a clearout of my stuff.  Maybe some day I'll have a go at selling stuff. 
Talk / Re: Self-soothing & coping strategies
« Last post by ditchdwellers on 06 Jun 2022 02:27PM »
I think some of us seem to just attract people like that, myself included.
I've recently joined the U3A and a woman appears to have latched onto me and I think I might be her new BFF!

Anyway, back to your original point Sunny, I use decluttering as a way of reducing stress and anxiety in a similar way to Kizzy cleaning.
Over the Bank Holiday weekend I discovered the Vinted app and I started sifting through items in my wardrobe that I haven't worn for years and unlikely to again and began listing them for sale. I have sold two items so far and have listed 13 items in total. It's a great way to recycle your unwanted items and make a few pounds in the process. I will put the money towards our holiday in August.
« Last post by ditchdwellers on 06 Jun 2022 11:51AM »
I really like the idea of using murals and street art to help get the issues across.

If you wanted to pick a specific day for the one off play to be set in, how about the day that the Equality Act was passed? We could focus on how little has actually been achieved in real terms since then and how most companies pay lip service to accessibility needs of all types.

We could dress the PM in disguise and make him attend (in an old wheelchair) medical appointments and PIP assessments with disabled people so he sees first hand how people are treated and spoken to, and just how complicated arranging transport can be on a limited budget when you have access needs.

So that's just a few thoughts off the top of my head......
« Last post by bulekingfisher on 05 Jun 2022 08:29AM »
Hello Sunny Clouds

It thus was a radio show I would want banners put banners put around the bar walls of York no paint Graffti as tgee walls were built by the Romans 2,ooo years ago (but rebuilt by a modan scoiety + banners on 10th centuary York minster with remains of a church going back 2,200 years going back to the vikings in the city of Jorvick ( the name of their city( it would inform all the International tourists who come to York then we could say the World is not enough we could look at the moon colanise for disabled space tourists

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