Hello Ditch Dweller


Just to say I've  wrote my idea to BBC radio York will let you know any reply  .A.S.A.P

As regards my invasive friend, it wasn't particularly me she latched onto, she's just invasive.  She'll do it with anyone.  E.g. I mentioned to her that I'd joined a group.  Just before it, she said she was going.  She hadn't asked me anything about the group.  I didn't go.  She phoned me before the group finished, evidently having left early, screaming "Where are you?!"

Well, that sounds like it's me specifically, but lots and lots of people have said she does it to them, or tries to.

Someone described her thus.   If there were four seats somewhere and two were occupied and the people had put their coats and bags on one of the empty seats, she wouldn't sit on the empty one, she'd move their coats and bags and sit there.  I've actually seen her do that in an almost empty auditorium. 

My problem with it has been my vulnerability to it, taking far too long to realise I was making excuses for her behaviour.

I've spent my life making excuses for other people.  I don't do that any more but I still lack assertiveness skills in relation to what I'll call 'paid predators' or 'rip-off service providers'. 

I'm horrified how assertive I wasn't in relation to my last landlord over damage to my things by workmen he employed.  Damage he should have paid for.  It's symbolic.

I have to either learn and move forward or I might as well give up. 

Pouring out what I think has been another coping skill, but it's one I need to adapt, alter, modify.  I need to spend more time working out how to move forward.  It's bloody difficult.  In the past, I spent a lot of time with others mired in mental illness in almost a 'career mental' way.  Here, I find others who are also disabled/impaired, but also finding a range of coping strategies, also doing their damnedest not just to keep their heads above water, but swim forward, even if just a bit at a time.

(And I've just been on a clear out of my stationery.  An amazing realisation I've got sticky labels I bought in the early 90s.)

I think some of us seem to just attract people like that, myself included.
I've recently joined the U3A and a woman appears to have latched onto me and I think I might be her new BFF!


Anyway, back to your original point Sunny, I use decluttering as a way of reducing stress and anxiety in a similar way to Kizzy cleaning.
Over the Bank Holiday weekend I discovered the Vinted app and I started sifting through items in my wardrobe that I haven't worn for years and unlikely to again and began listing them for sale. I have sold two items so far and have listed 13 items in total. It's a great way to recycle your unwanted items and make a few pounds in the process. I will put the money towards our holiday in August.

Hello Sunny Clouds


It thus was a radio show I would want banners put banners put around the bar walls of York no paint Graffti as tgee walls were built by the Romans 2,ooo years ago (but rebuilt by a modan scoiety + banners on 10th centuary York minster with remains of a church going back 2,200 years going back to the vikings in the city of Jorvick ( the name of their city( it would inform all the International tourists who come to York then we could say the World is not enough we could look at the moon colanise for disabled space tourists


GO MAN GO MAN GO WE ARE UNSTOPABLE dream big