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Forum => Cafe => Topic started by: Sunshine Meadows on 01 Jan 2013 07:45PM

Title: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Sunshine Meadows on 01 Jan 2013 07:45PM
This is the Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!!!! thread for people to Arghhhh or growl grrr whatever.

People can use consecutive capitals if they wish to and you dont have to add why you are Argghhhing or growling or whatever.

I get to go first


ARGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHH !!!

(I want to go back in time 20 years tell my twin brother he is being an idiot, give him a hug and tell him he needs to make better choices or he will end up a  >bleep< >bleep< >bleep<)

Hopefully I will now be able to let go of wanting to post a few choice words on his Twitter account.


Was on the 3am board which is now closed so I went through and edited out the more sensitive posts so the thread could be transfered to a public area. If anyone wants their old posts removed please let me know - Sunshine  >bighugs<
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: myrtlemaid on 02 Jan 2013 06:44PM
just not had a "good day " since xmas day and Im fed upwith being fed up....GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR and ARRRGGGGHHHHH


Families can be harder to stand than any other group of people!
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Sunshine Meadows on 04 Jan 2013 12:42PM
Families and the down side, I need another....

Agggggrrrrhhhhhh  >steam<

Sometimes it is good to ArggHHHH without needing to explain why.

Myrtle,

I hope you get a good day soon :-)

Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: ATurtle on 06 Jan 2013 04:34PM
Good idea,

When I was working with a boss that was a pain in the anatomy, I was told by Mrs T to stand outside and scream.

 >bleep< >bleep< >bleep< >bleep< >bleep< >bleep< >bleep< >dontpanic<
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: myrtlemaid on 12 Jan 2013 07:33PM
No real stimuli... just feel  grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr   and agggggrrrrrrrrhhhhhhhh
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Mabelcat on 12 Jan 2013 08:03PM
A minor scream but I just sharpened my cook's knife and promptly cut my finger!
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Fiz on 12 Jan 2013 08:28PM
ouch  >hugs<
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: ATurtle on 12 Jan 2013 08:51PM
Oooh,  >pukey smilie<  >hugs<
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: ditchdwellers on 14 Jan 2013 03:55PM
 >steam<  tax return time.
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Otter on 14 Jan 2013 09:54PM
the same tax return and payment, I earn an extra 542 in tha last year and they have charged me 269 on it and I'm in the lower tax band. They always rig it to make sure the odds are tipped against you.

then major aaaarrrggghhhh!!!

parents of small children who have flu please keep them to yourselves because unlike them older folks are not developing immune systems they have depleted ones - my father has been ill fo 3 weeks and I have for 2 weeks and want to throttle my sister in law, not that thats anything new
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Otter on 23 Jan 2013 06:34PM
 >steam<

I'm blind, I can not take a silent visual cue into a conversation. Why do they always expect that it will be me who apologises
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Otter on 28 Jan 2013 08:40PM
working hard with the daring do, only to be threatened by those you are helping and yes its in writing and I will be keeping a copy. Why threaten me and my job, when i am actually defending yours. The mind boggles, it really does
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Fiz on 29 Jan 2013 11:03AM
What's happened Otter?
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Otter on 29 Jan 2013 09:14PM
a rivil department is trying to shut us, so our funding (or the funding I secure can be directed to them). They have questioned our peer review, accounts and application quality, its extremely underhanded and unfortunately legal. Now there are 80plus people employed here and I spent yesturday proving all was in order to auditors and accountants who could have frozen us only to have a professor who I contacted to explain what had happened and it was all sorted say I had to be careful what I said or I would talk myself out of a job. Yep I lose my job, he'll lose his as will everyone else. I do not get it. How stupid can people be. Yesterday I got home, I could not function. I have had someone senior today come in on my side - i can not put into writing here exactly what was said
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Fiz on 30 Jan 2013 06:26AM
(((Otter))) that sounds very tough
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: seegee on 30 Jan 2013 03:27PM
Otter, if that professor thinks "all sorted" means all will be well for ever so you are no longer needed, he obviously hasn't understood the nature of your job in maintaining funds for the department, or perhaps he thinks you are a magician who can set things to remain in place indefinitely while all around is changing - either way, he's the one who hasn't understood; try not to worry too much about his ignorance unless your job also officially involves educating everyone about what you do. >bighugs<
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Otter on 30 Jan 2013 07:02PM
Fiz and Seegee
thanks for your responses
he has been removed from the decision process today, okay he is still a Professor, but he is not making decisions on funding (the removal wasn't me). It isn't unusual for them to pay a new employees salary on a piece of kit, only for them to work a month and find their 3 year contract isnt there anymore. I have had to walk into staff rooms and say give it back, I don't care if another university has got one, like its an upgrade in playstation. My crime is bringing in an account to stop adhoc funding decisions, basically those which would bankrupt us. I have decided not to care anymore, because if I do care it will be the end of me and unfortunately the end of many other innocent auties

Otter
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: ATurtle on 31 Jan 2013 03:55AM
I know where you're coming from Otter, I don't normally deal with budgetting at the Cadet unit I help at, but I have had my share of "characters" that make my job nigh-on impossible.

One of my troubles is that it's a Combined Cadet Force unit, so there's "Army" Officers and "RAF" Officers, I sit in the middle doing the admin for the whole unit, and I have been told off for providing a tick box grid to some cadets for working out the personnel for a complex competition.  I told the officer concerned that I had done it for them, "THAT'S NOT PART OF YOUR YOUR JOB ARE NOT TO DO ADMIN FOR MY SECTION!"

It was only a simple piece of paper, but they blew up!

I do realise that personalities make our lives difficult, and you sometimes wish you could baffle them with language like Sir Humphrey Appleby in "Yes, Minister!"  Fortunately for you, the system has eased a bit. 

I like the fact that it's because you have done your job for the organisation that has caused this!  It was broken and you fixed it!  They should give you a pay rise, not hassle!


 >bighugs<
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Otter on 31 Jan 2013 07:24PM
post was self defeatist

i am working with stupid people
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Otter on 20 Feb 2013 11:51PM
phishers I am sure someone loves them, its certainly not me
morals that have not, but messing up blind peoples comms takes the biscuit
needless to say my emails changed >angry<
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Mabelcat on 24 Feb 2013 01:46PM
If I find just one more CFS/ME/fibro site which stigmatises people with mental health issues I will probably have to shoot someone, well I would if I had the energy.  It makes me really angry and it upsets me both on a personal level and on behalf of others who are seeking support with their conditions.

I see so many people expending their already sparse energy (and money) on the endless quest for physical or biochemical explanations and treatments and leaving themselves with no capacity for actually leading any sort of life.  I'm not saying there isn't a physical basis for these conditions, I'm sure there is, but focussing on the purely physical does not help with any long term condition, or with learning to live with and manage it.

I'll spare you a repetition of the points I have raised in previous threads on here, suffice it to say I am not happy.
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Fiz on 24 Feb 2013 02:16PM
 >hugs<
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Mabelcat on 25 Feb 2013 10:54PM
Another set of postings today on the UK Fibromyalgia forum?  I know I need to respond in a sensible and calm manner but I just want to shout at them all.
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 03 Mar 2013 05:35AM
 >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs<

Sorry for cutting in everyone, but I badly need to get this off my chest. Along with about 500 pints of bright green phlegm and a bucket of iron filings.

Why is it that when you come down with some mingin' infection that resists the first set of antibiotics used against it, everyone around you thinks you're some sort of fekkin' Typhoid Mary?  It doesn't even matter to these plonkers that 'Typhoid Mary' correctly refers to an asymptomatic carrier of an infection. Me arse it does! We know far better!  Lock 'er up an paint a great big fekkin' cross on her door!! Does it  occur to these healthy bastards that there's only a few antibiotics I can be safely given??? And that some of  them don't agree with me that well, and that might be the reason I'm suddenly puking as well as coughing up what remains of my lungs??? Does it ever occur to these thoughtless arseholes that they or one of their precious bloody work colleagues might have given the infection to me, and that perhaps they, not me,  should be locked away in some fekkin' isolation ward???

But they're graduates, I hear you cry! And some of them have master's degrees and doctorates - they couldn't possibly harbour any pathogens! Mank-producing bacteria are carried exclusively by the poor, the scummy and the thick!! Besides - we all know that immune response is directly proportionate to a person's level of eduction!!! So, if someone has come down with a horrible dose of bacterial bronchitis, it must be their own fault for not trying hard enough at school.  >doh<

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!

Thank you, and apologies for the interruption.
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Fiz on 03 Mar 2013 11:19AM
 >hugs<
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 03 Mar 2013 11:59AM
Thanks, Fiz.  >hugs<

I've just realised how uncharacteristically sweary I was in that last post. If anyone would like me to edit and "bleep" it, no problem.

Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: ditchdwellers on 03 Mar 2013 12:13PM
Don't worry NN.  The whole point about this thread is to let people let off steam  >steam<  >hugs<
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: seegee on 03 Mar 2013 05:24PM
Hope that infection shifts soon, NN - possibly in the direction of someone who deserves it. >devil<
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 04 Mar 2013 08:46AM
Thanks DD and seegee. >hugs<
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Hurtyback on 04 Mar 2013 10:49AM
Poor NN,  >bighugs< , I don't see any need to 'beep' your post and, as you said yourself, it is far better (for you) to rant on here than to take an axe to someone in real life...
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: ATurtle on 04 Mar 2013 11:15PM
As much as I deplore the use of profanity in the written media, I do realise that there is a place and time that it is needed, this is one!

Hope you get better soon NN  >rose<

I'd offer a  >hugs< but I don't want what they've given you!  >biggrin<
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 05 Mar 2013 07:54AM
Thanks Hurtyback and ATurtle >bighugs<  (the was a special sterilised hug, ATurtle ;-) )

Starting a new course of antibiotics today. They're more potent and broad-spectrum than the last ones, so hopefully they'll do the trick.

Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Hurtyback on 06 Mar 2013 06:36PM
ARRRRGGGGGHHHH.  Actually, it would be more accurate to say boooohooo  >crying<  There is nothing 'wrong', I am just feeling tearful. And wanting to eat (I have an ED).
 
Yes, I'm sore, but not much more than usual. Perhaps hormonal, I can't tell as I have ovaries but no uterus, so don't have the usual clues. A bit lonely, despite having been out and about with friends on Monday and lunch with Mr H yesterday. Mr H is late home from w*rk today, which hasn't helped.
 
As I say, nothing really wrong. No more than many people here deal with every day - and a lot less then some have to cope with  >blush< .
 
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Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Mabelcat on 06 Mar 2013 08:56PM
 >bighugs<
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 06 Mar 2013 09:09PM
Here's one from me too  >bighugs<
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Hurtyback on 06 Mar 2013 09:16PM
Thanks guys. Mr Hurty is home now too and I have eaten a proper meal, so I am feeling a bit better.
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 07 Mar 2013 07:41AM
I'm glad you're feeling slightly less  >crying< , Hurtyback.  >bighugs<

Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Hurtyback on 07 Mar 2013 05:47PM
Better day today. I have been out for a drink with my 'Thursday Man' who always cheers me up  :-)
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 08 Mar 2013 09:03AM
Glad to hear it, Hurtyback >bighugs<

Thursday Man? Sounds intriguing.
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: KizzyKazaer on 08 Mar 2013 09:12AM
Yes, I'm now wondering about Monday man, Tuesday man, Wednesday man....
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Sunshine Meadows on 08 Mar 2013 09:29AM
NN,

In my opinion a bit of swearing can be good medicine and it is not like you used any PG 13 words

I hope the infection is now taking a battering from the new antibiotics  >bighugs<

Mabelcat,

I sometimes find myself bursting into tears when the house is quiet and I am not doing anything in particular, I think it is just delayed tears from other days and times when I really needed to cry at the time but there was not 'room' for me to do that.

Otter,

I like your comment about working with stupid people my sister has the same thing with some of the bosses where she works.
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Hurtyback on 08 Mar 2013 12:38PM
Sunshine  >hugs<  I am sorry that you have tearful days.
 
Ah, my Thursday Man. He is a good friend with whom I go out for a drink most weeks, usually on a Thursday would you believe??!  >lol<  He is the person who tells me that I am sexy, gawjus and all the other positive things that I don't get from Mr H. I am very lucky in that Mr H trusts me enough to do this - I have had some friends who are barely 'allowed' to speak with other men!
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Yvette on 08 Mar 2013 04:33PM
I would love to have a Thursday Man too.  >biggrin<
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: KizzyKazaer on 08 Mar 2013 05:25PM
I'd settle for any day of the week...

Now my own  >bleep< and scream moment:

***advisory - you might like to stop reading if you are eating or ready to eat ****

I'm feeding my aunt's 4 cats this week while she's on holiday and she did warn me that some other cats were coming through the flap and eating the resident felines' food.  So she asked me to put down the food in the living room where the trespassers don't go.  Only today I found out that they probably have been in there - for what greeted me?  A pile of poo under the coffee table;  another pile of poo in the kitchen; but by far the worst, one of the buggers had had an attack of diarrhoea all up one of the curtains, spattered in globs on the carpet and worst of all, over a load of electrical leads plugged into an extension socket.  Which all had to be unplugged, untangled, cleaned and dried individually - there I was with my Marigolds and a bucket of bleach and hot water for a good half hour  >steam<

Needless to say, the cats are now all banned from the living room for the remaining 2 days of my duty  >angry< 
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 08 Mar 2013 05:31PM
 >bighugs< What a horrible thing to have to deal with!  >bighugs<
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: KizzyKazaer on 08 Mar 2013 05:37PM
Thanks for the hugs, NN - I was not a very happy bunny, I can tell you!   At least tomorrow I won't face anything of that magnitude, because their access to soft furnishings and carpet has been completely cut off - I think my aunt will have to start blasting the interlopers with a SuperSoaker or something when they venture into her garden in future....

How's the antibiotic treatment going?
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Hurtyback on 08 Mar 2013 05:41PM
KK  >hugs< , that kind of thing is bad enough when it is your own cat!
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: KizzyKazaer on 08 Mar 2013 05:47PM
 >tah< to you too, Hurtyback - I could have done with a Friday man to clear it all up for me  ;-)  I didn't mind the neat little mounds of firm turds so much, it was the semi-liquid stuff that was the horror; and right near my lunch time as well  >feeling-sick<  Mind you, by the time I got home I was hungry enough  >biggrin<
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 08 Mar 2013 06:25PM
Thanks, Kizzy. My temperature has come down really well in the last few days, and I'm beginning to feel a little better.
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Hurtyback on 09 Mar 2013 02:34PM
That is good to hear, NN.
 
I am feeling very  >feeling-sick<  at the moment. I started to feel queasy on Thursday but it was controllable. Yesterday it was getting worse despite bucastem + stugeron. I used one of my precious ondansetron this morning because I was feeling so bad and phoned the out of hours doc for help. They cannot prescribe ondansetron so have given my cyclizine. I'm trying to keep my fluid intake up but am still feeling really unwell. Pain levels are high too, probably because I didn't really absorb my meds. I am reluctant to take any more cos I know they will increase the nausea...
 
I am such a wuss when it comes to puking!
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: KizzyKazaer on 09 Mar 2013 05:41PM
Not wussy at all, Hurtyback - I think that feeling (and being) sick is one of the most unpleasant bodily discomforts of all, hoping you get some relief soon  >x-fingers<

I'll therefore spare you the latest grisly details of the cats' doings when I called round at aunt's earlier to feed them - let's just say I'm glad I was dealing with a tiled floor  >whistle<  Still worth a good >bleep< though , but at least it's my last day of it  >magic<
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 09 Mar 2013 08:10PM
Hurtyback, nausea is downright horrible, and I hope that yours can be brought under control asap. >hugs<

Kizzy - I'm sure you're glad that's over!
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Hurtyback on 10 Mar 2013 07:48PM
Thankfully I am feeling much better today  >biggrin< . I wasn't able to eat the lovely meal that Mr H had made for us, but I was able to enjoy spending some time with my mother and son. I am still taking the cyclizine and get occasional bouts of dizzyness, so I suspect I have picked up a bug that has affected my inner ear.
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: ditchdwellers on 10 Mar 2013 08:20PM
Hope it clears up soon and your symptoms ease
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Yvette on 11 Mar 2013 05:44PM
Ditto.  >hugs<

P.S. What Kizzy described on the previous page is what I have been cleaning up after Ives for several weeks - both ends. 

The vomit is much easier to clean up than the liquid output from the other end!  *holds nose*.
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: KizzyKazaer on 11 Mar 2013 07:04PM
Oh heck, Yvette, I didn't know you'd been having similar problems with feline waste for such a long time  >yikes<   I agree about the upchucking being easier to deal with  >erm<
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 11 Mar 2013 08:01PM
Hurtyback - it's good to know that you've been having a slightly more easy time. If the cause of your nausea is an inner ear infection, here's hoping it can be shifted soon. >hugs<

Kizzy and Yvette -  >hugs< >hugs< I too would rather deal with the puke than the poo. Even on those occasions when the puke has the face of some hapless rodent poking out of it!  >yikes<
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: KizzyKazaer on 11 Mar 2013 09:56PM
Even on those occasions when the puke has the face of some hapless rodent poking out of it!  >yikes<

Oh no, that's just ... I almost urged while I was reading it!!!

We could get together and write a whole new kind of book for would-be dieters who wish to curb their appetites  >lol<
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Mabelcat on 12 Mar 2013 08:09PM
I got home from work desperate for a nap to find someone feline had thrown up in my bed.  I hadn't made it before I left because I didn't want to disturb the furry occupants who were tired from their busy lifestyle.
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Mabelcat on 12 Mar 2013 09:37PM
Latest update: Annie brought me a mouse just now which is currently under the freezer.  Whilst it's a bit hard on the mouse I do hope one of the cats catches it for me.
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: KizzyKazaer on 13 Mar 2013 05:54PM
Ooh, what happened to the rodent in the end?

....someone feline had thrown up in my bed.  I hadn't made it before I left because I didn't want to disturb the furry occupants who were tired from their busy lifestyle.

Some gratitude  >doh<
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Mabelcat on 13 Mar 2013 06:55PM
A small mouse corpse was presented to me at around 1.10am.
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Yvette on 15 Mar 2013 09:41AM
At least that was the end of that.
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: ATurtle on 15 Mar 2013 10:30AM
The problem is that as Alpha Cat in the house, you have to praise the little feline in your family.

Telling the cat off will confuse the heck out of her, after all she is defending your property from the evil mouse empire!
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Hurtyback on 15 Mar 2013 02:45PM
Alfie brought home his first mouse the other evening. We didn't realise until I went into the hall to see what he was up to (we could hear him thundering up and down stairs and skittering around on the lino in the hall). Poor little mousie was well dead by that stage but Alfie was still happily throwing it around. He was most put-out when I took it away!  >blackcat<
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Mabelcat on 15 Mar 2013 03:24PM
We generally have a presentation ceremony and I thank the relevant cat who goes off happy.
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Post by: ATurtle on 15 Mar 2013 06:47PM
My cats used to get their presentation ceremony on the back door step.  Now, I just praise her and say "Go take it out" and she does!

 >biggrin<
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 18 Mar 2013 10:48PM
Oh no, that's just ... I almost urged while I was reading it!!!

We could get together and write a whole new kind of book for would-be dieters who wish to curb their appetites  >lol<

Kizzy - sorry for making you feel unwell >hugs<

George very often brings live prey into the house, and looks very upset when I proceed to trap and remove the little creatures. I have no problem with the predatory nature of cats, so he still gets a big fuss made of him and a reward to compensate for the loss of his prey, but I do draw the line at having my house turned into a theatre of death! Clear tilt traps baited with peanut butter are pretty effective, and allow Mr or Mrs Mouse to be taken outdoors and released at a safe distance.

When he kills something outdoors, he usually deposits it on the doorstep and uses his special 'I am the greatest, worship me' mew to draw attention to his amazing prowess.


>Editing to remove the upsetting sentence from the quoted text.
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Mabelcat on 18 Mar 2013 10:57PM
It is a very characteristic mew though sometime muffled by the cat's mouth being full.
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Hurtyback on 19 Mar 2013 04:51PM
Yes, I know what you mean about the special mew. I haven't had chance to learn Alfie's yet - although I did wonder what I had got on the bottom of my shoe yesterday, then realised I was standing on a mouse corpse!
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: KizzyKazaer on 19 Mar 2013 06:25PM
Kizzy - sorry for making you feel unwell >hugs<

No worries, NN, you didn't - my post was tongue-in-cheek/'gallows humour', your tale was a great 'joys of catkeeping' moment!  As per above with what found its way onto Hurtyback's shoe  >yikes<  >lol<

Still on the theme of animals and their, er, emissions, my Aaaaargh! today was walking through a short-cut used by dog-walkers on their way to the park and having to side-step and shuffle to avoid the   >bleep< ing piles of mess  >angry<  Sometimes it's worse than others, but it seems really noticeable at the moment.  You know how a deterrent for puppies when they foul indoors is to get their noses rubbed in it? I think the dirty, selfish owners' faces should be.....you get the picture  >devil<
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Mabelcat on 19 Mar 2013 08:11PM
A friend wrote a song: 'Make the owners eat it!'
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 19 Mar 2013 08:13PM
 >lol<  >lol<  Can you get hold of the lyrics for us?  >biggrin<
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Post by: Mabelcat on 19 Mar 2013 08:14PM
Sadly he died three years ago so no.
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Post by: Defying Gravity on 25 Mar 2013 06:36PM
Arrrggghhh.....

I do love my job, but I sometimes hate the fact that we're extra busy at festival times (Christmas, Easter) and when everyone else seems to be having time off (bank holidays, Sundays). This week I still have to do all the normal things that people do for Easter (clean the house before my mother arrives, host family, shop for Sunday lunch, buy chocolate etc) but in a work week that's at least twice as busy as normal.
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 27 Mar 2013 06:18AM
 >bighugs<
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Sunshine Meadows on 27 Mar 2013 12:15PM
Arggghhhhhhhh

Trigeminal Neuralgia went  to a 12 yesterday and I remember at one point feeling so overwhelmed and pukey on top of the pain I thought what if I die? to which my reply was nowt I can do about that then the pain over took again.

It was a good thing I had meds to stop me being sick but all the same Tramadol, and a hot wheat bag could not prevent the pain train taking me on a 5 hour round and round trip like I was circling a drain.

 >bleep< >bleep< >bleep< >bleep< >bleep< >bleep< >bleep< >bleep< I will have to be careful about computer time for the next few days.
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: ditchdwellers on 27 Mar 2013 12:34PM
Hope it has eased a bit today.  Take care and try and pace yourself over the next few days  >hugs<
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Post by: Richard_D on 27 Mar 2013 01:25PM
How are you today Sunshine Meadows? Is the TN any better today?   >bighugs<
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: ATurtle on 27 Mar 2013 04:49PM
Ouch, I just used NHS Choices (http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Trigeminal-neuralgia/Pages/Symptoms.aspx) to look at the symptoms of TN.  It's one of the things I will never wish on my worst enemy!
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Hurtyback on 27 Mar 2013 05:47PM
Sunshine  >hugs<  I do hope you are feeling better today.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 27 Mar 2013 08:56PM
Hope things are calming a little for you Sunshine >hugs<
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Sunshine Meadows on 28 Mar 2013 11:10AM
Things improved a bit yesterday but I could not tell whether it was going to get worse again.

This morning its improved thank you, have the normal (for me) pain level and just have to take things steady (as we say up north).
Thank goodness for Tramadol even though it does give me tummy ache it does get me out of the pain dungeon a lot of the time.

ATurtle,

TN is a 'bastard' of a condition to have because for me it is harder to get away from any pain in my head/face than it is for example in my leg. Can't hug my head.
One thing though I had TN since I was 19 and although the pain level and occurrence of pain is higher than it used to be I at least know what it is.

Having a good ARRRRRRGGGGGHHH helped to thanks everyone.
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: ATurtle on 28 Mar 2013 02:13PM
Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!

I just lost it on the phone to the DWP!

I got asked "what benefit are you on?"

My answer "I'm not sure"

"OK, is it JSA, ESA, or something else?"

"Look I'm not sure what I'm getting, it's either DLA, ESA, ISA, JSA, PIP, WCA, DWP or BHS!"

OK, I was in tears at the time! >crying<  I now really hate the depression the DWP is pushing me into.   
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Sunshine Meadows on 28 Mar 2013 02:53PM
 >bighugs<

Next time you could always mention you have a problem with  I Dee 10 TS >  Id10ts
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: KizzyKazaer on 28 Mar 2013 06:03PM
....or a problem with IDS  >whistle<

'What's that, Mr Turtle - IBS?'

'No, but they have a lot in common...'

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I will have to be careful about computer time for the next few days.

>nanny mode on<   You be sure to stay careful, even if you are feeling better today  >nanny mode off<

Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: SteveX on 25 Apr 2013 12:21PM
Arrgghhhh!

(rant begins)

Some great nights sleep I had last night, its bad enough trying to get to sleep in the first place apart from worrying about my upcoming wrag appointment but last night was a joke.

I was still awake at 3:43am, the neighbours dog was 'yap yap yap yap whine whine yap yap yap' none stop.  The other neighbour had left all his lights on so it was like daylight even with my curtains closed (really must save up for some blackout curtains) and then would you believe it, about 4:20am just as I'm beginning to doze off, some muppet pulls up nearby in a car and leaves his engine idling for over a hour.   I'm a very light sleeper, the slightest thing stops me from sleeping.

Thing is, its almost impossible to recover some lost sleep in the daytime, always traffic or people around. 

ughh..  need coffee (I hate coffee too and only drink tea but I don't seem to get the same caffeine boost from tea)

(rant over)
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Hurtyback on 25 Apr 2013 01:39PM
Steve  >hugs< , poor you! I hate sleepless nights, I have never been able to function on less than 8 hours a night (and preferably more!).
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 25 Apr 2013 08:27PM
Steve >hugs< Insomnia is the pits!
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: ATurtle on 29 Apr 2013 07:20PM
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

OK, I may not live in the best town in the country, we have our problems, now we get them added to, by, you won't believe this, it's the person that is supposed to shout loudest for us - our MP.

Financial Times, and she gives such a  >bleep<ing >bleep< of a >bleep< up interview!

http://www.ft.com/cms/s/2/97b6f7e6-ad46-11e2-b27f-00144feabdc0.html#axzz2RsHrs56v (http://www.ft.com/cms/s/2/97b6f7e6-ad46-11e2-b27f-00144feabdc0.html#axzz2RsHrs56v)

Now I ask you, if your MP trashed your town so well, would you want her burnt in effigy? (I think she might be in Oct/Nov)
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 30 Apr 2013 01:30PM
ATurtel >bighugs<

What a horrible article! If any MP or MLA slagged off Belfast like that in the national press, they'd have rather more than their effigy burnt!

Here's hoping that appalling woman gets the boot in 2015.
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: AndMac on 30 Apr 2013 02:06PM
What a Grade One Bitch. "Cut-glass accent", "raised in a manor house". Goes to show how disillusioned folks were with Gordon Brown if she got in.
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 02 May 2013 10:50PM
Apparently, filming a woman who is having difficulty in parking, haranguing her, humiliating her, then plastering the results all over YouTube for all the world to see is just a bit of a laugh! Oh silly me - there I was thinking that it was an unbelievably unpleasant thing to do!

Wonder how funny the lads involved would have found the whole thing if the object had been their mother, or granny or sister or aunt?

 >steam<

Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: ATurtle on 03 May 2013 06:19PM
I'm with you NN, they were horrible.  I know I get irate by people who can't park or park in the middle of a parking place for 2 cars, but people who harass me when I'm parking is also an ARRRRRRGH!
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: starsmurf on 03 May 2013 06:43PM
Apparently, filming a woman who is having difficulty in parking, haranguing her, humiliating her, then plastering the results all over YouTube for all the world to see is just a bit of a laugh! Oh silly me - there I was thinking that it was an unbelievably unpleasant thing to do!

Wonder how funny the lads involved would have found the whole thing if the object had been their mother, or granny or sister or aunt?

 >steam<
I'm with you NN, they were horrible.  I know I get irate by people who can't park or park in the middle of a parking place for 2 cars, but people who harass me when I'm parking is also an ARRRRRRGH!

I understand why you're both upset but my anger wasn't with the students but with the BBC for reporting this non-story.

In the students' defence, they didn't put it on YouTube.  One of the students put it on his facebook page.  In the BBC interview they said that they never expected it to be popular and that they'd tried several times to find the woman to get "her side of the story" (not sure what they mean but perhaps to find out if there'd been a problem with the car or something). 

They had gone down several times to offer to park the car for her and you can see one of the students trying to guide her and that he's giving instructions on what to do.  The video only starts twenty minutes into the parking attempt and you can clearly hear them say that they'd gone down and offered to help.  They may be shouting but it the bits I heard weren't abusive, more what they probably thought was encouraging ("Go on! Get her in her!").  You can hear them telling one of the students to go down again and help her park the car.  They may have been insensitive and thoughtless but I wouldn't say they were abusive.

My wee sister is a police officer and said that the woman's driving was of a standard that would get her pulled over for a "quiet word", as she doesn't even seem to understand how to parallel park.  Her "police sixth sense" made her suspect that the woman either doesn't have a licence at all or is a provisional holder only.  She keeps trying to turn the car 90 degrees as she reverses, as if doing a three-point turn.
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 04 May 2013 12:16AM
Starsmurf - I'm about to embark upon a sizeable rant here, and would like to make it clear that none of it is directed at you >hugs<

As someone who spent a year of pure hell living in the street where this footage was filmed, all I can hear is a bunch of entitled wee  >bleep< s  acting like ... a bunch of entitled wee  >bleep< s.

I couldn't hear anything in the way of encouragement being directed at the woman who was attempting to park, just simple derision.

Why not just take a note of the car's registration and then call the PSNI? Why film the episode and stick it on a social networking site? What, exactly, did anyone hope to achieve by that?

I know that a lot of my attitude towards this sorry event is informed by the  >bleep< ing horrible time I had living in the Holyland, but it'll take a lot to convince me that the folk who filmed and then uploaded this did it for anything other than their own gratification.

Sorry again for the ranting and swearing. Seem to be doing a lot of that of late :-(
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: starsmurf on 04 May 2013 01:25AM
Don't worry NN, not feeling ranted at! >hugs<

I can feel for you living in a student area.  I worked at Armagh Observatory, which is part of Queens University and I lived in a student house during that time  :-(. 

I know that many students act very selfishly and thoughtlessly.  Time as a student seems to be a time when people either grow up or actually become worse.  I think there is a small minnority of the students, often from better-off backgrounds, who've been to good schools, got good grades effortlessly and never had to really struggle.  When they go to uni, they've no responsibilities and they're free from parental and school control but have no self-control.  Their entire life becomes focused on their needs and wants.  They may not be intentionally cruel but they can be immature, thoughtless and hurtful.

I do have to say that many people (including students) don't realise how "public" their facebook pages are.

I have to say that my first thought on seeing that clip was "Wow, that's nice for a student flat" but then I stayed in a house with walls so thin you could hear each other breathe at night.   >biggrin<

I always said that St Andrews was a great place to be a student but I would never want to live there when not one.
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: ATurtle on 04 May 2013 08:47AM
My apologies for not realising you were ranting at the BBC, I had seen this from a link in the Daily Heil or similar.  I didn't realise the BEEB would demean itself by posting it.
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: starsmurf on 04 May 2013 01:49PM
My apologies for not realising you were ranting at the BBC, I had seen this from a link in the Daily Heil or similar.  I didn't realise the BEEB would demean itself by posting it.

I thought when I clicked on the link on the BBC webpage that it would be something like someone crashing into several cars and then driving off or a friend of the person having a laugh.  I put in a complaint about it, as having this clip on the internet where several thousand people would see it is one thing but to broadcast it to millions is appalling.  I get the feeling that the management at the BBC news are doing these stories in a desperate attempt to attract younger viewers and to prove that they move with the times.  Some poor newbie is probably getting badgered to "find the latest YouTube hit" every single day.

I get so angry that the media, including the supposedly-impartial BBC, will cover non-stories like this but not the destruction of the NHS or the nightmare that people on benefits are going through.  I can imagine those same managers deciding that they can't cover another story about a sick, disabled person being told they're fit to work or a working family struggling to meet the bills and then being told that they need to pay bedroom tax because the council believe their child with autism can share a room with two other siblings.

I am trying to think of someone who would be willing to speak out for disabled people and be listened to by the media.  Labour won't do it and will move even more to the right in an attempt to woo UKIP voters, many of whom voted that way because of a combination of belief that Labour are no different to the Tories and the Fib Dems and believing the dodgy government figures predicting a wave of immigration from the EU.
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 04 May 2013 05:59PM
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I can feel for you living in a student area. I worked at Armagh Observatory, which is part of Queens University and I lived in a student house during that time  :-(. 

Poor you! >hugs< I'm surprised you got any work done at all! Oddly enough though, I was hoping to go Queens myself before illness made that impossible.

Mercifully, I no longer live in that area, but the memory of it still haunts me. Owing to the constant, terrible noise, the threats and bullying from my supposedly well-educated neighbours, the windows of my flat being smashed in several times a month, I became uncontrollably unwell during my time there, and spent a long period back in hospital as a result. The video resurrected a lot of unpleasant memories.

I agree 100% with your comments about the BBC's reporting of this matter (obviously a very slow news day down at Broadcasting House), but don't feel it excuses the students' behaviour.

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I have to say that my first thought on seeing that clip was "Wow, that's nice for a student flat" but then I stayed in a house with walls so thin you could hear each other breathe at night.   >biggrin<

Know the feeling well. The toilet in the neighbouring house is right next door to my bedroom. It's made for some ... 'interesting' insights over the years >lol<
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: auntieCtheM on 04 May 2013 07:05PM
BBC non-stories. Didn't I hear something on the radio about something that had already been removed from YouTube.  Why did they bother when it had been already dealt with, I asked myself.
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: starsmurf on 05 May 2013 02:13PM
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I can feel for you living in a student area. I worked at Armagh Observatory, which is part of Queens University and I lived in a student house during that time  :-(. 

Poor you! >hugs< I'm surprised you got any work done at all! Oddly enough though, I was hoping to go Queens myself before illness made that impossible.

It wasn't all bad as I was only 21 at the time but it could get 'interesting'.  The best bit was living next to the planetarium, we got free entry.  Living in the grounds of an observatory and planetarium was heaven for an astronomer!  I'm sorry that you never got to Queens because of your illness  :-(

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Mercifully, I no longer live in that area, but the memory of it still haunts me. Owing to the constant, terrible noise, the threats and bullying from my supposedly well-educated neighbours, the windows of my flat being smashed in several times a month, I became uncontrollably unwell during my time there, and spent a long period back in hospital as a result. The video resurrected a lot of unpleasant memories.

Poor you, that must've been awful  >hugs< >hugs< >hugs<  I had a neighbour who made my life hell in a different way but I can only imagine how awful what you went through was.  My own condition is made worse by stress, if I had been in that position I'd have been hospitalised in a day!

I knew students who were noisy and could be thoughtless but never anything like that.  I totally understand your reaction to the video.  If, God forbid, you were ever in such a situation again, report them to their university (it doesn't matter if you don't know their names, the university will know who's living at the address).  The university would probably suspend or even expel them for it.  If they get flung out of university, they'd also lose the flat.  Every university and college has their students sign a code of conduct, they're very tough on hate crimes and bullying.

If you're sick and/or disabled and any neighbour is treating you in such an awful way, call the police and report a hate crime.  After that terrible case of the poor woman who killed herself and her daughter, most police forces are now much better at dealing with such behaviour.  In fact, most forces now give them very high priority.  A night (or weekend!) in the cells might give them cause to think on their behaviour.  Facing a possible prision sentence, having to tell their parents (who're probably paying the rent) what they've done and being thrown out of university would give them some worries of their own  >devil<

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Know the feeling well. The toilet in the neighbouring house is right next door to my bedroom. It's made for some ... 'interesting' insights over the years >lol<

 >lol<
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Dic Penderyn on 05 May 2013 05:19PM
I and my wife used to live in army married quarters in Bristol, we were awoken one night by the most blood curdling screams from the next door flat where a mate and his young wife lived.
It turned out that he had reached for the Vaseline in the darkness and picked up the Vicks Vapor rub by mistake.  >yikes<
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: AndMac on 05 May 2013 10:32PM
Now that did make me laugh. And shudder slightly ....!
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Post by: ATurtle on 06 May 2013 01:29PM
It brought tears to my eyes!
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Post by: SteveX on 10 May 2013 09:02PM
I and my wife used to live in army married quarters in Bristol, we were awoken one night by the most blood curdling screams from the next door flat where a mate and his young wife lived.
It turned out that he had reached for the Vaseline in the darkness and picked up the Vicks Vapor rub by mistake.  >yikes<

haha thats funny and quite shocking at the same time :)

I have an AAArrrgggghhhhh now.

My WRAG meeting is early next week and I'm terrified again, the last time I went I was, well.. having seriously bad thoughts about my life.

I know though if its the same guy there, as soon as I see him I will walk out and yeah, I'll be in huge problems when they cut my money but I cannot face that person again, I simply cannot. he was so uncaring, mean and cruel.  I am going to the appointment but I've told myself if its that person I will leave.   if that stops my money and gets me in the clink for not paying my bills, so be it. 

Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Dic Penderyn on 11 May 2013 01:14AM
Steve I don't know how these things are organized but hopefully it will be some one else next week in which case it should be easier for you. And maybe you just caught the guy from last time on an off day and his attitude may have changed. It is always possible

So heres hoping that all goes well next week and you get someone understanding and helpful  good luck and keep us posted.
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Dic Penderyn on 11 May 2013 01:21AM
I have not slept for three days I thought after all this time I was impervious and used to the noises in my head but at 3 AM yesterday morning I was up prowling around the house looking for the source of a noise I should have known was in my head the last time it was this bad I ended up on anti depressants for two years.
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: KizzyKazaer on 11 May 2013 07:49AM
Three days is a long time to go without sleep, Dic, no wonder you're 'hearing' strange noises - is it time to visit your GP?  If you need anti-depressants, you need them - and the sooner the better if you think you're 'in that place' again...Hope you can get some rest soon.

I had a huge Aaarrrgggghhh last week discovering that I had a flea infestation, despite Cindy being Frontlined about 3 weeks ago - had to treat all the carpets and upholstery with special insecticide that I'd bought from the vet's surgery last time I had the problem (with a different cat).  Cindy never goes outside, how do the wretched parasites get in here  >angry<  Anyway, touch wood I've not seen a live flea for six days now!
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Yvette on 11 May 2013 02:29PM
Flea eggs can (can't think of the proper word) go to sleep in carpets and curtains and then when the spring starts, they come to life.  A sleeping flea egg can tell if a cat goes anywhere near them and will jump on it.
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: SteveX on 11 May 2013 03:07PM
I have not slept for three days I thought after all this time I was impervious and used to the noises in my head but at 3 AM yesterday morning I was up prowling around the house looking for the source of a noise I should have known was in my head the last time it was this bad I ended up on anti depressants for two years.

ohh thats not nice :(
I hope it goes soon.
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Sunshine Meadows on 11 May 2013 04:04PM
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>nanny mode on<   You be sure to stay careful, even if you are feeling better today  >nanny mode off<

 >biggrin< sorry about the late reply.

Steve,

I wonder if it would be worth writing something out about how things have been for you and the stress you are under. Make it no more than one side of A4 paper and bear in mind it might end up being put on your file so make it as calm and considered as you can. Then when you go to your next Work Focused Interview you can give it to the advisor and ask them to read it before the interview starts. This means anyone who is going to bully you will have to pull their head in because you have explained the situation in writing and also it will give you a few minutes at the start of the interview to just look at the advisor and your surroundings, hopefully this will reduce you aniety.

Dic,

I got a lot of Tinnitus when I was working in the call centre and remember feeling desparate for the whoosh whoosh heartbeat sound to stop, it does eventually reduce but the waiting time is very AAAAAAAGGGGRRRHH

 >hugs<

Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Sunshine Meadows on 11 May 2013 04:14PM
Kizzy,

I agree with Yvette,

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Flea eggs can (can't think of the proper word) go to sleep in carpets and curtains and then when the spring starts, they come to life.  A sleeping flea egg can tell if a cat goes anywhere near them and will jump on it.

It is something about floor vibration causing the flea eggs to become 'active' and babies to hatch.
My sister and I once had a problem similar to the one you described, it was in a large attic room that was carpetted.

Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: KizzyKazaer on 11 May 2013 05:48PM
Now you mention it, Yvette and SM, I remember reading about the way the horrid little critters can lie dormant for months!  It's my own silly fault because up till the beginning of this year, I'd become rather remiss about doing the Frontline bit.  I've been thinking of trying out flea collars on Cindy...

Good idea for Steve there, getting stuff in writing  >thumbsup<
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Fiz on 11 May 2013 07:54PM
Fleas can be dormant for up to 2 years even. Fleas are now resistant to Frontline and it has little or no effect in many areas and some honest vets are saying so. I'm using advocate/advantage/advantix on mine atm. Much easier to prevent that deal with an infestation and works out cheaper too. Thankfully I can get my treatments from the PDSA at cost price atm.
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: ditchdwellers on 11 May 2013 07:58PM
I use advocate too. Not on myself, on the dog!
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Dic Penderyn on 11 May 2013 08:08PM
I think I read on another forum recently that some one controls fleas by using vinegar and lime that is vinegar with lime juice mixed in and sprays his carpets with it and applies it to his dogs as well.
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: KizzyKazaer on 11 May 2013 09:53PM
Fleas now resistant to Frontline?  >yikes< 

Am I glad there's such a wealth of information here - I shall get this Advocate stuff next time round, or perhaps try the lime and vinegar!   >tah< everybody for your tips  >thumbsup<
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: starsmurf on 12 May 2013 03:13AM
Now you mention it, Yvette and SM, I remember reading about the way the horrid little critters can lie dormant for months!  It's my own silly fault because up till the beginning of this year, I'd become rather remiss about doing the Frontline bit.  I've been thinking of trying out flea collars on Cindy...

Don't bother wasting your money on flea collars, they're useless and can cause skin irritation and distress to your cat.  If your flea infestation is bad and the Frontline isn't effective, you'll need to go to the vet, as the shop-bought stuff doesn't work.

My big boy Titan has a flea allergy and I Frontline him religiously.  The vet gave me a spray to use in the summer months and the spot-on for the winter, when fleas are less active.  I am worried that the Frontline is becoming less and less effective, as there are three dogs in my block of flats and a carpet on the communal stairs.  I've used flea spray everywhere but I'll repeat the treatment after my home care person bleaches the vinyl on Tuesday.  Thank goodness I don't have carpets or curtains, just vinyl and blinds.

Just as a general warning to everyone: Never use a flea product for dogs on a cat, it will kill them!  You also need to be extra careful with household flea sprays as they contain a lower dose of the same, very toxic chemical.

Thinking about this is making me feel itchy...
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: KizzyKazaer on 12 May 2013 09:02AM
Thanks for the heads-up regarding the collar, Starsmurf!  Something I won't be bothering with after all..

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Thinking about this is making me feel itchy...

 >biggrin< me too >scratch, scratch<

Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Yvette on 12 May 2013 10:16AM
Eighteen months ago my two (when Ebbs was alive) became immune to Frontline. The Vet recommended Advocate and I bought a huge aerosol from the Vets to spray carpets, curtains, matressed and soft furnishings. 

So far so good.
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: starsmurf on 12 May 2013 03:43PM
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Thinking about this is making me feel itchy...

 >biggrin< me too >scratch, scratch<

 >lol<
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 13 May 2013 10:21AM
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I had a huge Aaarrrgggghhh last week discovering that I had a flea infestation, despite Cindy being Frontlined about 3 weeks ago - had to treat all the carpets and upholstery with special insecticide that I'd bought from the vet's surgery last time I had the problem (with a different cat).

I use Acclaim to treat carpets. It's really noxious stuff, and isn't the convenient to apply, but it does the job. I treat the little box room where George likes to sleep every spring. I also spray some the the Acclaim into the bag of the vacuum cleaner, which seems to help as well.
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: SteveX on 13 May 2013 11:57AM
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Steve,

I wonder if it would be worth writing something out about how things have been for you and the stress you are under. Make it no more than one side of A4 paper and bear in mind it might end up being put on your file so make it as calm and considered as you can. Then when you go to your next Work Focused Interview you can give it to the advisor and ask them to read it before the interview starts. This means anyone who is going to bully you will have to pull their head in because you have explained the situation in writing and also it will give you a few minutes at the start of the interview to just look at the advisor and your surroundings, hopefully this will reduce you aniety.


Thank you, that is a good idea and I am writing it right now, appointment is tomorrow morning.

 >yikes<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 13 May 2013 12:00PM
Good Luck Steve
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 13 May 2013 12:15PM
All the best Steve. Let us know how you get on.  >hugs<
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Post by: seegee on 13 May 2013 03:53PM
Hope your appointment is OK tomorrow, Steve.  >hugs<
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 13 May 2013 08:07PM
Hi Steve,

Just think, in 24 hours it will all be over.   >hugs<
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Defying Gravity on 14 May 2013 09:28PM
Separate aargh.... Local kids + rocks/bottles/air rifles + my windows = aaaarghhh.... Wouldn't be so bad if it didn't make me jump so much every time, each rock feels like 3 minutes off my life that I won't be getting back!
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: ditchdwellers on 14 May 2013 09:41PM
That sounds horrible DG.   >hugs<
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 14 May 2013 09:41PM
DG, that's awful! Do you know what's prompting the attack?  >bighugs<
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Defying Gravity on 14 May 2013 09:49PM
Thanks, fortunately the double glazing has stood up to most of it apart from the air rifle. It's not a personal thing, they go round the estate throwing rocks at lit windows. I get it worse than most because of the location of the house - an alleyway down one side, a rec at the back, and corner shops just opposite, plus a high fence and loads of mature trees round the garden. Sometimes it's nice living in a vicarage, other times it's a right pain. Also means I can't go out and swear at them!!
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 14 May 2013 09:59PM
 >bighugs< You could always get your own air rifle. A pellet in the bum might modify their attitude  >devil<
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Defying Gravity on 14 May 2013 10:02PM
:) I think that might fall into the same category as swearing at them! I have considered installing some kind of movement sensor that instead of triggering a security light would trigger a recorded voice saying "Be careful, God is watching you".
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: auntieCtheM on 14 May 2013 10:17PM
 >lol<

I suppose that the Police know and that you are keeping a diary.  This is very serious behaviour.
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Dic Penderyn on 14 May 2013 10:49PM
God sees all the police require informants.   >lol<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 14 May 2013 11:27PM
Has SteveF1 posted since his appointment? it was today I believe I wonder how he got on. Do hope he is alright and things went OK for him.
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Post by: SteveX on 15 May 2013 08:12PM
Separate aargh.... Local kids + rocks/bottles/air rifles + my windows = aaaarghhh.... Wouldn't be so bad if it didn't make me jump so much every time, each rock feels like 3 minutes off my life that I won't be getting back!

Thats terrible :(  I hope it stopped and I hope you kept a record, what a mean and vile thing to do.   >hugs<
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Post by: SteveX on 15 May 2013 08:16PM
Has SteveF1 posted since his appointment? it was today I believe I wonder how he got on. Do hope he is alright and things went OK for him.

Sorry I'm slow to respond, was feeling very bad yesterday and couldn't cope with using the computer.

It was a different guy thank heavens, far nicer and understanding he was, he explained he wasn't looking to put me on anything right now and give me a list of help groups in my area.  The entire meeting was only 20-25 minutes but I'd spend several weeks working myself into a frazzle and getting stressed and panicked so even though it went well, when I got home I was simply exhausted and went to bed.

He said he will be sending another appointment to me in 3 months, but if its the same guy again, I'm sure it will be ok.  :)

Thanks for caring!

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Post by: Hurtyback on 15 May 2013 08:30PM
That is very good news Steve. I hope that you are feeling better today.
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Post by: sherbs on 15 May 2013 08:49PM
Steve

As Hurty said, that is good news. 
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 15 May 2013 08:59PM
Great news was getting a little worried glad your OK  >thumbsup<
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Post by: Fiz on 15 May 2013 09:35PM
Good news!
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Post by: seegee on 15 May 2013 09:41PM
Glad to hear your WFI went OK Steve.   :-)
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 15 May 2013 09:58PM
I think that you said it yourself Steve - weeks of worrying over a short appointment.   >hugs<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 15 May 2013 11:06PM
That's great news Steve, and thanks for letting us know how it went >hugs<
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Post by: Sunshine Meadows on 15 May 2013 11:58PM
 >spoonarmy< >big-smile<
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Post by: starsmurf on 16 May 2013 04:59AM
I have considered installing some kind of movement sensor that instead of triggering a security light would trigger a recorded voice saying "Be careful, God is watching you".

I know a community of nuns who were getting a lot of trouble from teenagers.  One night, a group had broken into the grounds and were trying to get into the building itself.  The Superior (foolishly) went outside to make sure the police could get in.  As she came out of the building, the wind caught her veil and made it stand on end.  One of the teenagers saw her silhouette and screamed, "it's the Devil!"  They all fled  >lol<
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Post by: starsmurf on 16 May 2013 05:00AM
Glad everything went ok for you Steve  >hugs<
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Post by: Hurtyback on 17 May 2013 05:34PM
Please can I add a heartfelt 'aaaaarrrrrrrggggghhhh'?
 
I am currently feeling rather overwhekmed while having work done on our bathroom -the bath is coming out and a shower going in, washbasin position being changed and everything retiled.
 
3 people quoted and said 3 days, Mr H wanted to go with the 4th person who charged much less - he said 6 days. The guy seems pleasant enough but is quite slow, nevertheless he thought he could get finished without going into next week. Today is day 4 (he had Wednesday off for exams) and he is no-where near finished. He is going to work on until 6.30 today, will be back tomorrow and then has exams Monday and Tuesday so cannot come back until Wednesday. He will 'try' to leave us with a working shower tomorrow.
 
 I'm fed up of the noise, not having a bath/shower/washbasin, having someone in the house all the time and lack of sleep (need to be up in the mornings and too noisy to sleep during day). Mr H, of course, is out all day and thus blithely unconcerned  >angry<
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Post by: Fiz on 17 May 2013 06:25PM
 >hugs<

I hate having workmen in the house too.
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Post by: sherbs on 17 May 2013 07:57PM
 >hugs<   Hurtyback

I really dont like workmen in the house either, even for a few hours.  The house just doesnt feel like your own.  Have another    >hugs<
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 17 May 2013 08:15PM
Oh gosh, 6 days is a long time to have workmen in.  And they always take longer than they originally say.  My kitchen took around a month as i recall - there was always something that needed tidying up or sorting out.

There is nothing that you can do except keep popping out to get away from it all.  I wish you all the best with this.  >hugs<
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Post by: oldtone27 on 17 May 2013 08:22PM
As I think I have said before at least double any time estimate a builder gives then add a bit. Also beware the cheapest especially if much lower than the others.

Hope your job is finished soon.
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Post by: starsmurf on 18 May 2013 01:13AM
 >bighugs< >bighugs< Hurty.  It must be a nightmare.
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Post by: AndMac on 18 May 2013 09:27AM
Oh Hurty, I do sympathise....

I probably shouldn't say this, but I feel sorry for anyone who books my brother to do a job in the winter. In the summer he does gardens - and very well too, every year he has provided full time seasonal employment for someone. This year it's the husband of my sister's friend. The friend's smallholding in Spain took a massive knock in the recession.

However, the winter is a different story. He installs things in the winter - bathrooms, kitchens, showers.  Bro is a perfectionist and takes expletive ages to do anything related to installations. I mean perfectionist too, everything is absolutely exact. You get a beautiful job but you wait forever for it.

Thankfully I'm at the other end of the country, the only thing he's done in my house was when he so kindly bought me my first PC.  He took all day to install it and the wiring in May 2000. I love him to bits but I love my sister in law just as much for putting up with him and making him happy.
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Post by: Hurtyback on 19 May 2013 05:34PM
Well, we have a nice walk-in shower and a rest until the plumber returns on Wednesday, so I will have to make the most of it!
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 19 May 2013 05:58PM
I remember the upheaval and disruption for my parents when they had a total bathroom refurbishment last year - two weeks turned into three because of some cock-up at some wholesalers' with the tiles.  Fingers crossed the rest of your 'works' go as smoothly as possible, Hurtyback!
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Post by: Hurtyback on 19 May 2013 06:38PM
We did think that we might go away while the work was being done, but we couldn't actually afford it! The kitchen needs doing at some stage and I have made it clear that we will have to factor in the cost of going away while it happens.
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 19 May 2013 07:34PM
Except don't you want to be there to tell them where you want things and what to put right?
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Post by: Hurtyback on 19 May 2013 08:37PM
I think you are speaking from experience there, aren't you auntie? One would hope that the plans would be clearly drawn up and followed - but I know that doesn't always happen!
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 19 May 2013 10:34PM
Oh yes Hurty, bags of experience.

Don't hover over them, but check up every two or three hours before they get a chance to make irrevocable mistakes.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 20 May 2013 05:44AM
Hurtyback >hugs<

I hated the chaos here when the hall had to be modified for my scooter. It was a very unpleasant few days, and I hope that the work to your bathroom is completed soon, and to your satisfaction.

>Edited for typo
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Post by: SteveX on 20 May 2013 12:07PM
Hurtyback, hope its all over soon and you'll get some peace and quiet.  >hugs<
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Post by: Defying Gravity on 21 May 2013 10:12PM
Sorry to be aarghing again, but, aargh. Oh how I love dealing with bigotry and discrimination. Not. I don't think I have the energy for the fight this time.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 21 May 2013 10:19PM
DG >bighugs<

Sometimes all we can do is rest for a while, and let someone else fight on our behalf.
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Post by: Defying Gravity on 21 May 2013 11:00PM
Thanks NN. Unfortunately in this case if I don't fight it then no one will - it is direct discrimination against me.
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Post by: Hurtyback on 22 May 2013 12:01PM
DG  >hugs<
 
After a few days of blessed peace, and a working shower, the plumber is back today. This is supposed to be his last day but, judging by what there is left, I am not convinced!
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 22 May 2013 03:03PM
DG, would you care to tell us a little more about your current problem?
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Post by: Defying Gravity on 22 May 2013 11:37PM
Thanks Auntie. It is an employment situation so I can't be too specific. I had been pressured to withdraw a job application because of my sexual orientation. However I discovered today that the person I had been dealing with lied about a number of things and rather than institutional discrimination I'm simply dealing with his individual homophobia, which is much less upsetting to me. I will go to the interview and stand my ground, and if he wants to discriminate he'll have to do it to my face and in front of his colleagues. I work in a faith based organisation so applying the equalities legislation is rather more complex than it might otherwise be.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 23 May 2013 08:02AM
DG >bighugs<
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Post by: Fiz on 23 May 2013 08:13AM
 >bighugs<
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 23 May 2013 12:28PM
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.. I will go to the interview and stand my ground, and if he wants to discriminate he'll have to do it to my face and in front of his colleagues.

 >thumbsup<  >thumbsup<  >x-fingers<
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Post by: Hurtyback on 23 May 2013 05:23PM
DG  >hugs<  I am sorry that you are having to deal with this.
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 23 May 2013 06:28PM
Don't let the  >bleep< put you off the interview.    >bighugs<
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 23 May 2013 07:02PM
Remember, we will all be standing behind you egging you on.  So stick to your guns and say it as it is.  Your orientation is nobody's business but your own.
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Post by: Yvette on 23 May 2013 07:37PM
Go for it DG.   >thumbsup<
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Post by: sherbs on 23 May 2013 07:41PM
 >hugs<  DG
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Post by: Defying Gravity on 24 May 2013 09:28AM
Thanks everyone! Weekend will be spent cramming to try and sound knowledgeable. (The job is a step up from my current one. Well, in terms of responsibility anyway. Salary wouldn't change much, everyone's paid more or less the same unless you're the archbishop  >biggrin<)
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 24 May 2013 09:42AM
I had been hoping to be made Pope this year but have been overlooked yet again.
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Post by: Defying Gravity on 24 May 2013 09:43AM
 >biggergrin<  >biggergrin<  >biggergrin<

Me too but I don't think the world's ready for that yet...
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 24 May 2013 04:54PM
Don't forget to give yourself a treat so that you will be in a good mood and smiley when you are answering the questions.
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Post by: seegee on 24 May 2013 07:58PM
Hope it goes well, DG.  >thumbsup< :-)
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Post by: Defying Gravity on 26 May 2013 06:39PM
Thanks folks. It starts with death by buffet tomorrow evening, then various types of meet and greet on Tuesday morning and then the formal interview in the afternoon. I have bought a new suit  :-) Well actually that should be, I have bought a suit, since it's my only one! I will even iron a shirt to go with it, I hope they appreciate the effort!
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 26 May 2013 07:09PM
Best of luck DG >hugs< >x-fingers<
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 26 May 2013 08:24PM
You sound as though you can see the positive side of the process.  If you start to get the heeby jeebies just think of this one as practise for your next interview.  That should help to take the stress away a bit.  If you look relaxed they will think you are, even if it is just like a duck!
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Post by: starsmurf on 28 May 2013 01:08AM
 >bighugs<

Good luck DG.

I'm sorry that you have to fight this battle.  It's so sad that someone uses their faith to justify homophobia.
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Post by: SteveX on 29 May 2013 01:25PM
Arrghhhhhhhh!!

Neighbours dog kicking off again...

11pm BARK! BARK! BARK! BARK! BARK!
Midnight ...same
1am ...same
2am ...same
3am ...barking changes to barking/whining
4am ..as above
after that I can't remember as I was so tired.

Slept late trying to get some sleep back and woke at 10am

10:15 it continues..
11am barking and whining
same for 12 and 1 and now approaching 1:30.

Trying to decide which would be best, ripping my ears off or banging my head against the wall until I'm knocked out.
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Post by: Richard_D on 29 May 2013 01:42PM
I know this may sound like a stupid question, but have you tried to use soft foam ear plugs?

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Post by: Defying Gravity on 29 May 2013 06:23PM
Just letting folks from further up the thread know that I did get that job but I have turned it down. Complicated decision but I think the right one.

Steve, as well as foam earplugs have you tried negotiating with your neighbour at all to see if there's a solution? I know that might be easier said than done.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 29 May 2013 06:54PM
DG, nice one for being offered the job  >bubbly< >hugs<

Steve, I would also recommend the soft earplugs. If you do decide to approach your neighbours, and they're not amenable to your views, then your local council should have a noise control department which may be able to help, although this is a pretty extreme measure. >hugs<
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 29 May 2013 08:28PM
Steve, get the local council involved.  They have laws about noise abatement.  Dogs that bark all night and day are a nuisance.

And/Or

Report the dog to the RSPCA.  There is probably an online form for doing this.  A dog should not be left out all night.  That is cruelty and the dog is barking because it is unhappy.  The RSPCA will come round very quickly and check that the dog is being looked after.  If not they will take the dog away and prosecute the owners.

Keep a diary, exactly like you have written above, including how the dog wakes you up.  You can show this to whoever you choose to get to deal with this situation.  The law is on your side and people will act quickly on your behalf.
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 29 May 2013 08:30PM
Hi DG,

You sound quite upbeat about your decision, so it was obviously the right one.  People who do interviews often forget that they are being interviewed from the other side of the desk too.  It is a feather in your cap that they asked you to go to the interview.   >hugs<
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Post by: Hurtyback on 29 May 2013 08:31PM
We have 2 dogs at the back of us. We won't hear anything from them for weeks on end, then we will get incessant barking for a few days. I always know that they will stop which helps me deal with it, I have the greatest sympathy for anyone who has to put up with it without any respite  :-(
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Post by: sherbs on 29 May 2013 08:41PM
Talking about barking dogs, my neighbour ( who has just moved ) had a lovely springer spaniel but boy did it bark, whinge, whine. 

The neighbour left for work at 6am and did not return until 6pm, so i told him ever so nicely that his poor dog barked, whinged and whined all day, and i mean literally all day.

Anyway, the neighbour said he thought Molly ( the dog) did bark as soon as he left for work as he heard her once when he was sitting in his car, so he thought it would be a good idea to get a dog-walker, phew was i pleased, i felt so sorry for Molly, but as soon she started going for regular walkies each day she was much more settled.

Mind you, she still barked for hours when the dog-walker left    >doh<  but it was much better than all day barking and whining.

Poor Molly   :-(
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Post by: Hurtyback on 29 May 2013 08:55PM
Poor Molly indeed! One of my neighbours once tried to speak with the owner about the barking dogs; he threatened to run her over with his pickup truck!
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 29 May 2013 09:10PM
That is exactly why the Council have noise abatement people.  They are not the last resort, they are the second resort.  First is speak to the person concerned.  Next the council / RSPCA, and if they do nothing, an injunction through the court.
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Post by: sherbs on 29 May 2013 09:14PM
Poor Molly indeed! One of my neighbours once tried to speak with the owner about the barking dogs; he threatened to run her over with his pickup truck!


Oh thats awful, People just amaze me.

Thank goodness i knew the neighbour quite well before he got Molly, if i thought i would have had a mouthful from him i really would not have said anything, but he was quite approachable.

Molly has now gone with his owner to Bournemouth, and the owner has retired down there, so no doubt Molly will be getting lots of Walkies !!     :-)
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Post by: SteveX on 29 May 2013 09:47PM
Did I try soft foam earplugs?

Yes, in fact I had them in and a set of headphones blasting out white noise over the top but it doesn't block it out.  I have very VERY acute hearing and nothing at all blocks certain things out like barking or road drills.  :(

as for the council, I did contact them the last time this was bad and they wanted to send someone around to check on it, but I don't want people in my house so said no thanks.  :(

I have contacted the neighbours before, when it got so bad I had no decent sleep for 3-4 days but they didn't care much and threatened to get me in trouble with my landlord as it seems they are close friends.

What can you do huh?   like someone once said, ...life sucks, then you die.
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Post by: SteveX on 29 May 2013 09:48PM
Poor Molly indeed! One of my neighbours once tried to speak with the owner about the barking dogs; he threatened to run her over with his pickup truck!

wow...  >angry<
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 29 May 2013 09:53PM
Steve,

The council and the RSPCA will listen in the street outside.  They have no need to go into your house.

My horrid neighbour once reported me to the council for having a barking dog.  All I knew about it was a letter from the council telling me that they sometimes get complaints that were false and not to worry. 

That animal is suffering.  Please help it.  Get on to the RSPCA urgently.  Here is the page to go to:  http://www.rspca.org.uk/allaboutanimals/helpandadvice
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 29 May 2013 10:27PM
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I have contacted the neighbours before, when it got so bad I had no decent sleep for 3-4 days but they didn't care much and threatened to get me in trouble with my landlord as it seems they are close friends.

What a bunch of ...  >angry<

I'm with Auntie. It's time to get the RSPCA involved.  The kind of people who don't care about a neighbour in distress probably aren't going to care about a dog either. >hugs<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 30 May 2013 09:41PM
I once lived next door to a guy who had over thirty six animals in a one bedroom bungalow including four dogs six cats two parrots rats  guinea pigs canaries two rabbits that lived in the house and various other sundry pets one day the RSPCA turned up accompanied by a television crew and various other officials from the police and council and forcibly removed all the animals most of which were in a pretty sorry state.
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 30 May 2013 10:08PM
That is so sad.  Those poor animals.  And I bet that you were not happy with that sort of thing going on next door either, Dic.
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Post by: Defying Gravity on 30 May 2013 11:37PM
That's terrible for those animals. I think it just seems to get out of hand for some people. They start out able to cope and it gradually gets overwhelming. On a lighter note I recently watched a program about the RSPCA help line. Someone phoned to report an aggressive hedgehog in their downstairs toilet. It turned out to be a loo brush! And someone else reported a radioactive squirrel, which was actually an albino ferret!
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Post by: Fiz on 31 May 2013 07:15AM
 >lol<
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Post by: Richard_D on 31 May 2013 01:19PM
I have contacted the neighbours before, when it got so bad I had no decent sleep for 3-4 days but they didn't care much and threatened to get me in trouble with my landlord as it seems they are close friends.

What can you do huh?   like someone once said, ...life sucks, then you die.

Have you talked to your landlord and your local council about them saying that they will get you into trouble?

Is your place adapted?

Would it be possible to move if the the landlord and council aren't willing to do anything?

Would trying to shame them into doing something by using local newspaper be an option?
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Post by: Otter on 18 Jun 2013 07:11PM
started smelling smoke, got colleague who screamed and told me that it was coming out of my A2W kit. A2W don't do repairs... there are many things I thought would contribute to me ceasing to work - techological meltdown was not one of them
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Post by: seegee on 18 Jun 2013 08:01PM
Will A2W fund a replacement, Otter?  If it's something you need in order to work...
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Post by: SteveX on 20 Jun 2013 09:12PM
I have contacted the neighbours before, when it got so bad I had no decent sleep for 3-4 days but they didn't care much and threatened to get me in trouble with my landlord as it seems they are close friends.

What can you do huh?   like someone once said, ...life sucks, then you die.

Have you talked to your landlord and your local council about them saying that they will get you into trouble? - not really

Is your place adapted?  - nope but I've lived here 28 years, I'm too old to move.

Would it be possible to move if the the landlord and council aren't willing to do anything? - see above ;)

Would trying to shame them into doing something by using local newspaper be an option?  - maybe as a last resort

It got so bad over the last week I've ordered a silent dog whistle in the hopes if I blow it, it'll distract it.  but we'll see.

tbh as annoying as that is, its my 2nd concern atm, my right arm is hurting a lot recently, above the elbow its throbbing like toothache and sleeping with it is rather hard...

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Post by: auntieCtheM on 20 Jun 2013 09:21PM
So you have decided not to report it to the RSPCA?  I'm very sorry to hear that.  Cruelty to animals is not something that I would condone.
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Post by: SteveX on 20 Jun 2013 10:12PM
So you have decided not to report it to the RSPCA?  I'm very sorry to hear that.  Cruelty to animals is not something that I would condone.

I agree with you 100% on this and I already did this, I actually emailed them a while ago, actually quite a while ago maybe 8-9 months.  I went into detail about where it was and what was happening and the fact that the animal might be in distress but nothing that I know of was done about it.

I have to admit to being a coward and not putting my name on the email but I can promise you, they were told about it.
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 20 Jun 2013 10:22PM
Could you bear to report it again then?
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Post by: SteveX on 21 Jun 2013 12:00AM
Could you bear to report it again then?

Yes, I can do that, I'll do it right now.
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Post by: ally on 21 Jun 2013 12:58PM
I'm cutting tooth.  I'm sixty next year, and can't believe I'm cutting a tooth I don't want,or need.  Unfortunately, its impacted,  hardly surprising its left it a bit late, and there's  no where for it to grow.  Also I have an infection, and have had trouble opening my mouth, glands are swollen as well as face.  I'm on my third lot of antibiotics.  My dentist informed me on Monday that  ill need it out. But she can't extract it.  I'm now waiting for an appointment for the dental hospital.  I really don't need this on top my ongoing chronic pain and SCS.   I know others on here are worse off, but, I hate this new tooth.  :-(
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 21 Jun 2013 01:09PM
Otter, Steve and Ally. >bighugs<
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Post by: SteveX on 21 Jun 2013 09:16PM
ohh Ally that sounds terrible :(

I hope you're feeling better soon.
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 21 Jun 2013 10:46PM
I hope that you have given that tooth a good telling off for getting out so very late!
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Post by: starsmurf on 21 Jun 2013 11:30PM
I'm cutting tooth.  I'm sixty next year, and can't believe I'm cutting a tooth I don't want,or need.  Unfortunately, its impacted,  hardly surprising its left it a bit late, and there's  no where for it to grow.  Also I have an infection, and have had trouble opening my mouth, glands are swollen as well as face.  I'm on my third lot of antibiotics.  My dentist informed me on Monday that  ill need it out. But she can't extract it.  I'm now waiting for an appointment for the dental hospital.  I really don't need this on top my ongoing chronic pain and SCS.   I know others on here are worse off, but, I hate this new tooth.  :-(

Oh Ally, I am so sorry you've got this. >hugs<  I once said to my dentist that he should find a harmless way of producing the pain of a dental abscess.  He could market it as a diet aid and make millions because you can't eat anything and even drinking is painful.

I've not got the problems you have, so you've make me feel better.  I'm getting an impacted and broken wisdom tooth out on Tuesday so I'm a little nervous.  My dentist originally referred me to the dental hospital but when it broke, it started cutting into my gum and cheek, which is now a huge wad of scar tissue.  He's now decided to try and remove it, as he's worried I'll get problems if it's left any longer.  Due to my medical problems and the medication I take, my teeth are in a terrible state.
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 22 Jun 2013 12:01AM
Oh starsmurf, is it too much sugar?
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 22 Jun 2013 09:50AM
Best of luck for Tuesday, Starsmurf >x-fingers< >bighugs< >x-fingers<
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Post by: starsmurf on 22 Jun 2013 02:58PM
Oh starsmurf, is it too much sugar?

 >lol< I wish!

Drugs I took as a child have left my teeth with little strength.  Opiates often left me vomiting.  Then they put me on methadone syrup, as it can help some peoplewith my condition.  It didn't help the pain but did punish my teeth.  Just to add the coup de grace, with the pain I'm in, I can't get to the bathroom to brush my teeth last thing at night.

Oh well, in ten years they'll be able to grow you new teeth.  It's already in the trial stages. >biggergrin< <-- me in a decade
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Post by: ally on 22 Jun 2013 07:39PM
Starsmurf good luck on Tuesday.  I'm not looking forward to the dental hospital at all.  I feel pathetic, and a right moan.  I've just had enough of interventions and operations.  Some dental equipment aren't compatible with the SCS either, so, ill need to look that up.  Wish the little horror had decided to pop up years ago when I was young fit and healthy.  I couldn't believe I was cutting one at my age.  I've been dribbling at night too.  Perhaps I should be looking at those teething rings you can put  into the fridge.  I now have sympathy for teething babies.  :-(
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Post by: Mabelcat on 22 Jun 2013 08:46PM
My brother in law who is 61 has just sprouted an impacted wisdom tooth and is awaiting surgery.

You are not alone!

Good luck.
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Post by: ally on 23 Jun 2013 09:22AM
My dad was 74 when he cut one.  It possibly runs in the family
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Post by: starsmurf on 23 Jun 2013 02:04PM
Thanks for the good luck messages.  I think I'll need them  :-(

Good luck with the dental hospital Ally  >bighugs< >bighugs< >x-fingers< >clover<

I tried the teething rings a few years ago when the wisdom tooth came through.  It was actually comforting. :-)  It helped with the feeling that you just want to get it through the gum and get it over and done with.
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Post by: Hurtyback on 23 Jun 2013 04:27PM
Ally  >hugs< , Starsmurf  >hugs<
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Post by: Fiz on 24 Jun 2013 07:25PM
I need a place to go arrggghhhhhh went to wales to see youngest son with my dd and her partner. However dd took ill with intense unbearable pain and couldn't stop vomiting so called 999 and once the ambulance men had morphined her we all went to hospital where they diagnosed a kidney infection. We scrabbled our pennies together to pay a taxi to get back to the premier inn and then couldn't afford breakfast. I am feeling so ill with tiredness, just taken some sleeping meds and am in bed already. Have cancelled tomorrows plans as the house is a tip because while I was away my older son sliced the top of his thumb off and had to go to A&E and now has a netting type bandage to stop the bleeding and can't get that wet for a few days and the cats have massacred a bird all over the upstairs and I am too tired to deal with it so have retreated to my bed and will see what I can get done tomorrow. I think going away for a night is a bad idea, safer to stay at home.
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 24 Jun 2013 07:41PM
I think that you have done exactly the right thing Fiz.  Retreat to bed.  It can all wait until another day to clean up.
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Post by: SteveX on 24 Jun 2013 08:15PM
oh dear Fiz,  thats such a lot of stress to cope with..  you have so much on your plate, sending hugs and love.
>hugs<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 25 Jun 2013 02:03AM
Fiz >hugs<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 25 Jun 2013 10:50AM
Best of luck with your appointment, starsmurf. Hope it's all goes smoothly. >hugs<
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Post by: starsmurf on 25 Jun 2013 03:32PM
My poor dentist had a fight to get part of the tooth out (it had broken into three parts).  I felt really sorry for him as he's a lovely caring person.  We also had a laugh as my jaw is a bit loose and I had to thump it back into place, they were saying that they hoped no-one heard and thought the dentist was beating me up >biggrin<

I'll probably be a little more unhappy when the anaesthetic wears off but for now I'm ok.  Thank you for all the good thoughts and good lucks!
 >thankyou< >thankyou< >thankyou<
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 25 Jun 2013 05:49PM
A kind dentist is a jewel to be treasured...  Good to hear it's over with and you were able to have a bit of a giggle into the bargain!
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Post by: ally on 26 Jun 2013 10:45AM
Glad its over for you.  I'm waiting for appointment for the dental hospital.  If its anything like my SCS, or other hospital appointments ill be in for a long wait.  Were you put to sleep, or was it by injection?  I'm dreading it.  Again, happy for you.  Lets hope neither of us have any more problems regarding teeth.
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Post by: starsmurf on 26 Jun 2013 04:43PM
Glad its over for you.  I'm waiting for appointment for the dental hospital.  If its anything like my SCS, or other hospital appointments ill be in for a long wait.  Were you put to sleep, or was it by injection?  I'm dreading it.  Again, happy for you.  Lets hope neither of us have any more problems regarding teeth.

I hope you'll get an appointment asap. >x-fingers< >x-fingers< >x-fingers<

I had it done with local anaesthetic, so no going to sleep.  It was fine, even though I have a resistance to the stuff they use.  It took the poor dentist a while to get the tooth out as it had a funny root but we got there in the end.  It wasn't that different to a normal extraction.

I imagine at the dental hospital you'll be sent off to sleep, so you won't have to worry.

Today I have a swollen cheek on that side but it's not that sore.  The worst part is the need to rinse your mouth with salty water four times a day for a week  :-(
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Post by: ally on 26 Jun 2013 06:07PM
Yuck!! Poor you.  Ill possibly have that to come.  I hope you feel better soon, and the swelling goes down.  I suppose having the tooth out is better than repeated infections.  It makes me wonder why you grow wisdom teeth as most seem problematic.
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Post by: starsmurf on 26 Jun 2013 07:22PM
Yuck!! Poor you.  Ill possibly have that to come.  I hope you feel better soon, and the swelling goes down.  I suppose having the tooth out is better than repeated infections.  It makes me wonder why you grow wisdom teeth as most seem problematic.

The swelling isn't painful, I just look like I've been thumped  >lol<  Please don't worry, it isn't painful or making me feel unwell.  I think some of the swelling is because of my very difficult tooth.  My dentist said he'd not had one that difficult before, so it's unlikely you'll have anything like that.  It's really nothing to worry about.  You'll feel relief that the pain from the impacted tooth is gone.  :-)

If you want the science, wisdom teeth used to be an advantage because we ate a lot of tough, fibrous matter, like leaves, so you needed lots of molar-like teeth to grind them up.  Once we started eating more meat, humans didn't need the big jaws that had been an advantage before.  As a result of that, most humans have jaws large enough for about 28 adult teeth.  Unfortuately, we have 32, with the 'extra' four teeth usually being the wisdom teeth, as they normally come in last.

To ease the pain of your impacted tooth, try the salt water rinse.  It doesn't taste very nice but it does help calm down the inflamation.  Put a teaspoonful of salt in a cup of warm water, make sure it isn't too hot!  Swish the salty water around the gum so you can get it into all the areas that you can't reach with a toothbrush.  Do that several times a day, until the inflamation calms down. 

You can also try the special mouthwashes that contain chlorhexidine, if you don't want to try the salt rinse.
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Post by: sherbs on 26 Jun 2013 07:47PM
Can I have an Arghhhhhhh !!

Back from my MRI in London, door to door 6 1/2 hrs, so not as bad as I thought, well 4 those hours were travelling, !!

Suprisingly the MRI was fine, lovely nurses and radiologists to help with the process of getting onto the scanner and off, also sis had to help haul me off, and I only weigh 8 stone, but after 1 hour under that scanner and no moving your body sort of gets stuck in one position, well I say 1 hour that's when it all went a...se up.

I was feeling well pleased with myself, got through the scan no problem, lots of pain but just tried to think of nice thoughts and the shopping list to do sort of thing, got off, well helped off, got to changing room to put my clothes back on, then there was a knock knock at the door "sorry Ms......  but we need to do just a few more scans, oh and we forgot to but the dye in your arm.

Honestly, I could have cried     >crying<   Back onto the scanner, much discomfort and psychological war going on in my head, telling me "oh no, oh no not again,  I feel anxiety creeping in, please no !!.

Anyway, no time to think of anxiety or panicking, back onto the scanner 3 quick scans before dye goes in, then slid out again, doctor comes and puts a canuela (sp) in arm with dye, slide back in and another 20 minutes worth of scans and its done, phew.

I am shattered,   but all in all I do think I did jolly well this time and didn't suffer too much anxiety, thank goodness that's over for now.

Back in August for results. 

Arrived home safely put the kettle on, nice cup of tea and a Belgium bun, bliss
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Post by: Hurtyback on 26 Jun 2013 08:19PM
Well done Sherbs - and Starry too. At least that is over for both of you now  :-)
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Post by: starsmurf on 26 Jun 2013 08:31PM
Thanks Hurty!

Oh Sherbs, well done  >hugs< >hugs< >hugs< >chocolate< >chocolate< >chocolate< >chocolate<

I know how you feel, it's enough to make you cry.  I had an MRI when I was having a month-long migraine and couldn't cope with loud noises or bright lights.  I was being scanned as some of the symptoms I had suggested a stroke.  I was in the scanner when suddenly went dark and silent.  "Phew," I think, "it's all over!" 

Nope.  The radiologists came in to tell me one of them had accidentally pressed the emergency shutdown, which is on the keyboard near the other controls (like catching an "E" with your fingernail when you were trying to type "D").  It had never happened in all the years they'd been doing the scans.

As all power had been shut off, they had to pull me out of the scanner, as the sliding table didn't work.  I had to wait outside while they got it working again and then got put back in.  Finally they got the scans done.  However...

The day before, my GP had sent up to the hospital as an emergency, when I started having problems speaking in his surgery. As I was waiting to see a doctor on the ward round, a woman visiting another patient collapsed with a major asthma attack.  Because they had to deal with that, I didn't see the doctors until after 9pm.  They wanted to do a lumbar puncture but as I get severe burning, stabbing pain every night, they would leave it until the next day.  When I got back from the MRI the next day, I was told to go home and they'd call me if I needed to come back! ("Hello Ms Starsmurf?  You're having a stroke, the ambulance is on its way.")  I assumed that the lumbar puncture had been cancelled.

When I saw the neurologist a few weeks later, after telling me it probably hadn't been a stroke, he asked about the lumbar puncture.  When I explained why they couldn't do it in the evening and that no-one had mentioned it the next day, he told me that it had been forgotten and they'd always intended to do it.  He then told me that I'd been really lucky. 

As a matter of chance, the MRI revealed that a little bit of my skull is missing, it's like a little shelf on the inside of the skull.  It's very, very rare, it causes no symtoms and wouldn't cause any problems.  Unless you have a lumbar puncture.  If you have one, the draining of the cerebrospinal fluid means that your brain sinks a bit, as you don't have much cerebrospinal fluid in total, until it rests on that little shelf.  If you're like me, that doesn't happen and your brain will basically sink into the hole in your skull where the brain stem is.  That normally kills you >yikes<

So if that poor woman hadn't had that asthma attack, I wouldn't be here.  I leave it up to you to decide if that's a good thing or not  ;-)
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 26 Jun 2013 08:49PM
Blimey!
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Post by: Mabelcat on 27 Jun 2013 12:00AM
My aargh is pretty trivial compared to the last few but my cat, Harriet, has just thrown up on a photograph of one of her companions, the windowsill and my router.  She's been out all day and came in very hungry and ate too quickly.  All I can say is: it's a good job I love her.
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Post by: Fiz on 27 Jun 2013 07:16AM
eeeewww
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Post by: sherbs on 27 Jun 2013 08:02PM
Blimey Starsmurf what a story.

I for one am very glad you are still here with us,  We are an unusual bunch aren't we    >lol<
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Post by: Fiz on 09 Jul 2013 06:27AM
I am so stressed it's untrue. dd got readmitted to hosp on Sunday, this time my local one. I've been with her all day from early till late. Good news is, nice caring communicative staff, bad news all her results have come back clear so far so they may feel they have discounted anything they do things about and send her home with no diagnosis. I shall be there for Doctors rounds again today at 8am. She is so nauseous she is leaning over a bowl all day even with 3 different types of anti-emetics and she won't eat and is barely drinking. She feels so ill too and is tearful. Yesterday she got so hot as the ward was 30 degrees C and there were no spare fans so she was in a pool of sweat and cried. I'm taking a flannel in today so I can cool her head at least. Hospital visiting is costing me a fortune too generally and I'm worrying about money.
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Post by: Yvette on 09 Jul 2013 08:21AM
starsmurf, what a lucky escape.   >thumbsup<

Fiz  >hugs<
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 09 Jul 2013 10:27PM
Hi Fiz   >hugs<
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Post by: starsmurf on 10 Jul 2013 11:42AM
Fiz  >hugs< >hugs<
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Post by: Hurtyback on 10 Jul 2013 03:01PM
Fiz  >hugs< , I hope that your daughter is soon home.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 10 Jul 2013 06:40PM
Hi Fiz hope all goes well and your daughter will soon be home.

I was in Lloyds Pharmacy picking up  my meds when I noticed this

http://www.lloydspharmacy.com/en/kool-39-n-39-soothe-ice-eeze-pack-2-packs-162319

They may help .
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Post by: Fiz on 10 Jul 2013 11:44PM
Thank you, great suggestion. She's been discharged now and has made real progress over the last 2 days, stepping down a notch in pain relief levels each day. She has changed her catheter bag for a tap to try and regain sensation ready for her TWOC on Monday at the urology clinic however when on the loo has managed to wee normally even though she has a catheter in so we now think she is now able to wee fine. She plans to go to the GP as early as possible tomorrow and hopefully they will agree to removing the catheter for her and we hope she will be fine to carry on without it. She's had retention now for 10 days so there is a chance the GP may not want to in case she stays in retention and needs a new catheter instantly later on but if she is wee-ing now around her catheter we are hoping that symptom has resolved. It's been such a worry, but she has normal colour in her face again and is definitely brighter.
She will have urodynamics and an MRI scan of her spine soon as an outpatient.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 11 Jul 2013 02:15AM
Glad to hear that your daughter is doing better Fiz. Don't forget to look after yourself too.  >bighugs<
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Post by: Yvette on 11 Jul 2013 09:38AM
What a relief your daughter is on the mend.  >hugs<
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Post by: seegee on 11 Jul 2013 04:27PM
Good to hear your daughter is out of hospital & improving, Fiz.  >thumbsup< >hugs<
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Post by: SteveX on 12 Jul 2013 08:43PM
Thats good Fiz :)

>hugs<
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Post by: Fiz on 12 Jul 2013 09:22PM
Quick question, I normally see my sw fortnightly and my appointment last Friday would have been a 3 week gap as the sw had been on A/L the week before. She left a message on my answerphone on the Thurs saying she needed to cancel the next days appointment and that she would phone me at the beginning of the week to make a new appointment time. Another week has gone by and she hasn't phoned so I'm not even sure I will see her next week. I'm 'ok', not in crisis or really low or anything but I have noticed that some of my negative thought patterns are appearing (I'm trying to challenge them) and I am wanting to withdraw from going out or socialising (I've not given in to that desire yet) and am slightly worried I might be on a downward turn. Stupidly I feel unable to even text or email my sw as 1) I have no idea what to say 2) she's very busy and I don't want to bother her and 3) what can she do anyway. No 3) is one of my negative thoughts I get when low that I am trying to challenge because I know that unless I am very low, I do find our meetings helpful. I don't even know what the question is, I guess some ideas as to what to do but then again I feel paralysed about this and can't imagine me taking action anyway  >doh< I feel such a failure.
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Post by: seegee on 13 Jul 2013 09:28AM
Don't know what to say - maybe something like "it's been a few weeks now, please can we make an appointment?"

She's very busy - I don't doubt it, but you are one of the people she's meant to be busy with; no less deserving of her time than the other clients she has.

What can she do?  Help you to check for any other negative thoughts or behaviour patterns you might not have noticed (there might be none of course, but it doesn't hurt to double-check) and challenge the ones you are aware of. 
I don't know if there's anything else, but that's a start.
 >hugs<
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Post by: suessad on 13 Jul 2013 02:21PM
Stay positive Fiz.  >bighugs<
A text Monday morning would be best, that way if she's busy she can reply later.
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Post by: Fiz on 13 Jul 2013 03:54PM
What do I say?
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Post by: Mabelcat on 14 Jul 2013 10:02PM
Something like: could we make an appointment please?  It's been a while and I'm struggling a bit and would like to discuss things with you.

I know it's hard to believe, Fiz, but you are doing really well.  You've just coped with the stress of your daughter's illness and it's not surprising you are having a bit of a blip.  Unfortunately recovery from mental health difficulties is never a smooth journey.
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Post by: starsmurf on 15 Jul 2013 01:58AM
Something like: could we make an appointment please?  It's been a while and I'm struggling a bit and would like to discuss things with you.

I know it's hard to believe, Fiz, but you are doing really well.  You've just coped with the stress of your daughter's illness and it's not surprising you are having a bit of a blip.  Unfortunately recovery from mental health difficulties is never a smooth journey.

That's a good message to send Fiz.

And I second what mabelcat said about you doing really well. >thumbsup< >star< >star< >star<
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Post by: Fiz on 15 Jul 2013 02:21AM
Thanks, I know I am so much better than I have been in the past and I think this bout of 'wellness' that I've had is possibly the longest period of feeling relatively well I have had in years. It is my best time of year I have to say, I tend to notice a downward turn normally in September, I need to sort my garden out so I can get to a shed to search for my SAD lamp which I haven't seen since I moved here. 8ft high weeds prevent that atm which are way beyond me! I am noticing things though recently since dd's hospitalisation and illness and last night I got into bed and felt so low I cried for no other reason than just feeling low and it's ages since that has happened. I think I do need to do something. I've noticed this week has much less in it than previous weeks and I intend to leave it that way and try and slow life down a little and see if that helps.
I know many people are finding it too hot but I am loving the sunshine, though it is making my joints hurt. I still think it is worth the pain! Could do with it being cooler at night though. Ever fussy! Less than 2 weeks now till my ds's wedding and I remember how nervous I was at seeing xh and now it doesn't bother me in the slightest. What happened there then?!
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 15 Jul 2013 09:29AM
Hope you manage to get in touch with your sw today, Fiz.  >bighugs<
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Post by: Fiz on 15 Jul 2013 05:04PM
I managed to send a text this morning (never thought I'd manage it!) just saying I was touching base in case I had missed her call (which I knew I hadn't) and she phoned me back later. She'd forgotton me  >biggergrin<. I'm seeing her later this week. I'm quite pleased as I am rubbish at asking for help so it's a big step for me.
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Post by: starsmurf on 15 Jul 2013 05:50PM
Well done!  >thumbsup< >thumbsup< >bighugs< >bighugs< >chocolate< >chocolate<
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Post by: suessad on 15 Jul 2013 06:55PM
Well done Fiz.   >bighugs<
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Post by: Mabelcat on 15 Jul 2013 06:57PM
Well done!
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Post by: sherbs on 15 Jul 2013 07:20PM
Brilliant Fiz, well done     >thumbsup<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 15 Jul 2013 07:56PM
Nice one!  >thumbsup< >bighugs< >chocolate<
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Post by: seegee on 15 Jul 2013 09:40PM
Good one, Fiz.  >thumbsup< :-)
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Post by: SteveX on 15 Jul 2013 10:00PM
Well done Fiz!
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Post by: Hurtyback on 16 Jul 2013 05:08PM
Well done Fiz, that was a very tactful way of approaching the situation!
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Post by: SteveX on 19 Jul 2013 08:36PM
Arrrggggggghhhhhh!!

This damn heat is crippling me (no offence intended), I got less than 3 hours sleep last night, my bedroom is like an oven and I cannot open the window for fear of bugs coming in.

No idea why but it always seems so much hotter late at night, I can't work that out?

Next week they are saying this area might hit 34-35c, seriously not good.. Autumn can't come soon enough for me, I hate the hot weather. 
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Post by: Fiz on 19 Jul 2013 08:55PM
Oh I'm loving the sunshine and the hot weather (sorry) though I agree, at night it is horrid despite having a fan on. Sorry you are suffering with it though.
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 19 Jul 2013 09:55PM
Hi from another heat-hater...

Quote
No idea why but it always seems so much hotter late at night, I can't work that out?

Might be because that's when the humidity rises - if you look up the BBC Weather for your area, you can hover your cursor over the temperatures in each time-of-day column and it'll show you the percentage; that's how I found out by accident!  That is the trouble with hot weather in this country - it's not a 'clear' heat like you might find in the Mediterranean  >erm<

In fact, a big Arggghhh!  to all the extremes we've had this year, it's always been 'too' something.

Too cold.  Too windy.  Too wet.  Too hot.  It's basically a load of arse!
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 19 Jul 2013 10:06PM
Steve - I feel your pain!

There's no option here but to have the window open, otherwise I'd swiftly be reduced to a tiny heap of salt on the bed. There's a crowd of young fellahs two doors down who have been completely hammered since about 2.00 this afternoon, and playing really, really bad techno music at unpleasantly loud volumes throughout the day. Of course now that darkness is beginning to fall, it's a cue to turn the music up some more.

I'm seriously considering phoning the police to ask if I can borrow a water cannon for the night.
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 19 Jul 2013 10:25PM
How annoying NN!  I hope they shut up soon.

I'm not enjoying this heat at all.  It makes my symptoms so much worse.  In the last 6 days I have had one trip to a&e, one to the out of hours doctors, and one to see my own gp today, all for heat related issues.  I can't wait for it to cool slightly.  Just a few degrees cooler and a bit of a breeze would be most welcome.
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Post by: starsmurf on 19 Jul 2013 10:54PM
Now, now NN, let the police have their fun.

David Cameron and Teresa May told police officers during the 2011 riots that in future they could have water cannon to use in such events.  Of course as soon as Cameron, May and their banker friends' necks were safe, they swiftly decided that they weren't a good idea after all.

May I join in the general arrrggghhh about the heat?  My condition makes me feel as if I'm burning alive and is made worse by heat.  In hot weather I need a fan, especially at night.  My fan broke three weeks ago and I ordered a new one but got excuses when it was supposed to arrive last week.  Of course, it's "out of stock" because they could bump up the price when the heatwave arrived.  Seriously, the price of it doubled and now the only fans I can get are either useless or with one-star ratings that include warnings that the pictures (and the good reviews) are for a different fan to the one the seller actually sends you.

Still, thank goodness for religion.  I can get some comfort imagining those who've left me in this torture so they can make more profit, will one day burn in hell for all eternity.
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Post by: starsmurf on 19 Jul 2013 11:28PM
PS extra aaarrrrgggghhhh for the fact that my only pair of glasses spontaneously broke today.  While I was wearing them. 

The rim, the bit holds the left lens in, snapped just before it joins the bridge for the nose.  My parents are stuck elsewhere (they went to stay at a holiday cottage with my sister and her husband), as my b-i-l has landed in hospital with a cellulitis, on his wedding anniversary.  My parents have stayed on to help my sister with her baby.  As I need my dad to help me get to the optician, I am going to be glasses-less for a few days.

So apologies in advance if I misread something.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 20 Jul 2013 07:10AM
A few of days ago I walked past a hardware shop outside they had a few fans priced at £19.99 I walked past again the next day the price  was then £29.99 and the day after that they were all sold.

And now you can't get one any where at all.
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Post by: Fiz on 20 Jul 2013 09:58AM
Monday is the last hot day, Tuesday it starts raining and will rain for the following week. My son gets married next Saturday  >doh<
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Post by: seegee on 20 Jul 2013 10:13AM
There's actually a breeze today so it's cooler indoors - in the last few days it's been impossible to get air through the place because it's been too still (as well as too hot for me). 
Seems it might be a more bearable 24C/ 75F outdoor max temperature too; just about cool enough >cool< for me to dare getting out there, it'll be uncomfortable but not enough to make me ill.

Fiz, I hope the light rain showers forecast here for next Saturday are all that appears where your son is getting married - and that none of those appear until everyone is indoors for the day after the actual wedding + any outdoor photos.  >biggrin<
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Post by: SteveX on 20 Jul 2013 12:39PM
Steve - I feel your pain!

There's no option here but to have the window open, otherwise I'd swiftly be reduced to a tiny heap of salt on the bed. There's a crowd of young fellahs two doors down who have been completely hammered since about 2.00 this afternoon, and playing really, really bad techno music at unpleasantly loud volumes throughout the day. Of course now that darkness is beginning to fall, it's a cue to turn the music up some more.

I'm seriously considering phoning the police to ask if I can borrow a water cannon for the night.

Oh no!  You have my total sympathy with that one.  Why on earth these people feel the need to have things so LOUD is just crazy, theres no need for it at all.. inconsiderate selfish idiots :(
I have one neighbour that like, they really don't give a damn about anyone but themselves.

If they were playing it late on, I hope you contacted the authorities!
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 20 Jul 2013 01:23PM
Now, now NN, let the police have their fun.

David Cameron and Teresa May told police officers during the 2011 riots that in future they could have water cannon to use in such events.  Of course as soon as Cameron, May and their banker friends' necks were safe, they swiftly decided that they weren't a good idea after all.

From what I remember, the main reason for not introducing water cannon across the water is that they would have been ineffectual against the kind of mobile and widely dispersed rioting that took place in 2011. They're useful here because the kind of riots we get (with depressing regularity) tend to be static - two opposing angry mobs packed into one road or junction, hurling missiles at anything that moves - and to occur at easily identifiable flashpoints. They also tend to happen in circumstances where there's already a massive police presence, such as during contentious marches, or traditionally volatile football matches.

I hope you manage to get some new specs sorted out soon >hugs<

Monday is the last hot day, Tuesday it starts raining and will rain for the following week. My son gets married next Saturday  >doh<

Hopefully, the forecasters will be wrong,and we'll just have lower temperatures, and some light rain during the night. We can all live in hope, can't we, and I trust that preparations for the big day are going well.  >hugs<

Oh no!  You have my total sympathy with that one.  Why on earth these people feel the need to have things so LOUD is just crazy, theres no need for it at all.. inconsiderate selfish idiots :(
I have one neighbour that like, they really don't give a damn about anyone but themselves.

If they were playing it late on, I hope you contacted the authorities!

Thankfully they all seemed to pass out by about 1.30 in the morning. Trust me , that's early by their standards!

By the way, have you thought about getting a screen on your window, so that you can have some ventilation without having to worry about insect intruders?
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 25 Jul 2013 02:02PM
I've just re-read that post, and realise it was thoroughly inappropriate, especially for this part of the forum.

Sorry about that, everyone  >bighugs<.  If anyone found it triggering or upsetting, then please accept a genuine apology. 

I'm still a touch on the wonky side.
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Post by: Hurtyback on 25 Jul 2013 02:13PM
NN  >hugs<  I didn't see the original post, hope you are OK
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Post by: Yvette on 25 Jul 2013 04:51PM
No idea why but it always seems so much hotter late at night, I can't work that out?

Heat rises, so upstairs rooms get hotter as the day wears on.  Also, the sun shines on the roof which makes the loft/attic space really hot - as a roof isn't insulated.

Loft insulation on the floor of the loft prevents the heat from bedrooms escaping (as it is designed to), and the heat in the loft space (from the sun shining on the roof) adds to the warmth of the insulation.  Therefore, in  houses where the bedrooms are upstairs, the heat cannot escape and gets trapped, which makes them extremely hot during the night.

Unless you are in a flat or bungalow, it may be cooler to sleep downstairs in a house with a well insulated loft.

Another tip is to close your bedroom door and shut the windows and draw the curtains to keep the hot air out until a couple of hours before you go to bed.
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 25 Jul 2013 05:57PM
NN, there's no inappropriate post from you that I can see, and nobody has complained about anything you've posted, so you can put that to rest immediately!

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Heat rises, so upstairs rooms get hotter as the day wears on.

Tell me about it  >erm< - in my second floor flat, the south-facing side reached 88F at the height of the heatwave - I was very uncomfortable and extremely grumpy!  Things have at last cooled down now and today my thermometer has been below 80F for the first time in three weeks - hope it's better for others who've been suffering as well  >rainbow2<
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Post by: Yvette on 26 Jul 2013 08:40AM
The heat has made me feel so ill I have had to spend even more time in bed resting.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 26 Jul 2013 01:23PM
NN, there's no inappropriate post from you that I can see, and nobody has complained about anything you've posted, so you can put that to rest immediately!

Thanks for the reassurance. I was a bit concerned that the water cannon post may have upset some people.

As for the heat, it can just take a running jump.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 26 Jul 2013 10:27PM
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The heat has made me feel so ill

I know exactly what you mean I feel really quite unwell. If it goes on much longer I'm going to end up in a crisis, heat not good for MG and breathing is getting harder at the moment.
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Post by: starsmurf on 27 Jul 2013 06:15AM
NN, there's no inappropriate post from you that I can see, and nobody has complained about anything you've posted, so you can put that to rest immediately!

Thanks for the reassurance. I was a bit concerned that the water cannon post may have upset some people.

As for the heat, it can just take a running jump.

I thought that a water cannon was quite restrained actually.  My neighbour had a party until six am last Saturday night and I am dreading that she'll do the same tonight.  I was thinking longly of a water cannon, plus the riot police that would accompany it.  >biggrin<
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Post by: Otter on 27 Jul 2013 08:58AM
nearly 20 years in post with no terms and conditions and I am being told that I am going to be moved on to a contract!... a temporary contract. Writing on the wall anybody? and about protecting them... of course. Obviously I am not a person, just an issue that needs to be swept aside.

Warning! The Otter, about to go ballistic
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 27 Jul 2013 09:54AM
 >bighugs<
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Post by: ATurtle on 27 Jul 2013 03:55PM
Position to be adopted if outside when Otter goes ballistic!

(https://dl.dropboxusercontent.com/u/83957353/D%26C.jpg)
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Post by: Yvette on 27 Jul 2013 05:30PM
What a nerve!!  How can your employer just do that?  Is there a HR department you can ask for advice?

However, if you are put on a contract Otter, does that mean that you will actually have your salary paid on time?  With a contract you should have rights about being paid regularly.
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Post by: Hurtyback on 27 Jul 2013 07:46PM
Otter  >hugs<
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Post by: Otter on 29 Jul 2013 10:07PM
salary does appear this month to be being paid on time, admittedly it will take up to 5 working days to clear, so only a week late. That said it may be one of only a few months. Its only taken 7 years for them to get this right...
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Post by: Fiz on 30 Jul 2013 05:15AM
  >hugs<
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Post by: starsmurf on 30 Jul 2013 04:20PM
 >hugs< >chocolate< >bighugs< >chocolate< >hugs<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 02 Aug 2013 08:55PM
Made an appointment at GP's practice soonest I could get is a bloody fortnight from now and that's to see any of the doctors.  >angry<
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Post by: sherbs on 02 Aug 2013 09:15PM
Dic

Could you see one of the practice nurses first, as that's what we get asked when I ring for a GP appointment.  It's a very good way of getting to see a GP quicker, as if you see a nurse practitioner and she thinks you need to see a GP you will get slotted in on that day
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 02 Aug 2013 09:55PM
That's a good idea I didn't think of that nor was I given the option but may give them a call and see if it's a possibility. Thanks.
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Post by: sherbs on 03 Aug 2013 08:40PM
Great.     >thumbsup<

That's the first thing we get asked when we ring for an appointment, so I usually say yes, unless I really want to discuss anything with my GP, and the nurse practitioners can prescribe at the practice I go to.
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Post by: SteveX on 04 Aug 2013 08:45PM
Arrgghhhh!!

I've lost a filling in my tooth right at the back of my mouth, bottom one and theres a HUGE crater left. its almost peanut sized and now I'm getting some aching and pain from there..  I'm applying sensitive toothpaste to the area to ease it a little and taking painkillers when it gets too distracting but I guess its dentist time again..  how I loathe that place.

First the cost, its about £15 round tip, £15 I can barely afford, then the lady nags and moans at me no matter how I clean my teeth I never seem to do it well enough for her and she lays a guilt trip on me..  *sigh*

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Post by: Fiz on 04 Aug 2013 09:03PM
(((Steve)))
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 04 Aug 2013 09:27PM
Ouch Steve!
 Hopefully you will get it sorted before it becomes too painful.  >hugs<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 05 Aug 2013 02:19PM
Steve >bighugs<

Best of luck. I think all dentists are like that.  :-(
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 05 Aug 2013 05:02PM
'Snap', Steve - I lost a filling in a back tooth last week when, after about three months of abstinence I treated myself to a pack of Brazil nut toffees (I've refrained from toffees since the filling was done in April so it had plenty of chance to settle  >erm<)  The second one I was munching absentmindedly and suddenly I was aware of a rather unpleasant crunching sensation and something hard in my wad of chewed sweet  >doh<  Sorry to hear yours is giving you enough discomfort to have to consider a dental appointment  >thumbsdown<

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..then the lady nags and moans at me no matter how I clean my teeth I never seem to do it well enough for her and she lays a guilt trip on me..  *sigh*
Do you mean your dentist or the hygienist? (I won't book an appointment with the latter as the first time I saw a hygienist she was scathing about my smoking, treating me as if I was dirty or something, and she made my gums bleed  >angry< )  Dentists will constantly recommend patients seeing their hygienist 'to learn how to clean our teeth and gums properly' as it's a nice little extra earner for the practice, so don't take it too personally  ;-)
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Post by: ally on 05 Aug 2013 05:29PM
Sorry about your tooth.  I'm still waiting for an appointment for the Dental Hospital regarding my new impacted baby wisdom tooth.  I did receive a letter  from them saying that they'd send me a letter when they had an opening for an appointment for me!!!  In the meantime,  I've developed another infection, and have been back on antibiotics (fourth lot)  As I don't get free dental care it cost me £38 for a look and writing the prescriptions. Luckily, i have a yearly pre  paid prescription card for all the meds Im on. I have sympathy for anyone having teeth problems.
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Post by: sherbs on 05 Aug 2013 08:25PM
'Snap', Steve - I lost a filling in a back tooth last week when, after about three months of abstinence I treated myself to a pack of Brazil nut toffees (I've refrained from toffees since the filling was done in April so it had plenty of chance to settle  >erm<)  The second one I was munching absentmindedly and suddenly I was aware of a rather unpleasant crunching sensation and something hard in my wad of chewed sweet  >doh<  Sorry to hear yours is giving you enough discomfort to have to consider a dental appointment  >thumbsdown<

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..then the lady nags and moans at me no matter how I clean my teeth I never seem to do it well enough for her and she lays a guilt trip on me..  *sigh*
Do you mean your dentist or the hygienist? (I won't book an appointment with the latter as the first time I saw a hygienist she was scathing about my smoking, treating me as if I was dirty or something, and she made my gums bleed  >angry< )  Dentists will constantly recommend patients seeing their hygienist 'to learn how to clean our teeth and gums properly' as it's a nice little extra earner for the practice, so don't take it too personally  ;-)

Snap and double snap !!

I was eating a healthy small bag of mixed nuts (good for the bowels apparently) when a filing came out, and a huge one at the back.

Not in any pain (touch wood), so will see how it goes, as it hasn't been long since I had the tooth on the other side break and filled.  What is it with teeth,? Must be my age.    >doh<
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Post by: SteveX on 05 Aug 2013 09:09PM
Seems lots of us are suffering huh?  haha  yeah, we're just oldies and our parts are wearing out ;)

Anyway, phoned today and they have an appointment on Wednesday, so I'll be foregoing my weekly 'treat' of a takeaway and spending my saved pennies on taxi fares to the dentist.. oh joy ;)

and Kizzy, I mean my dentist, lovely lady really but seriously no matter how exactly I follow her instructions I've never done a good enough job of cleaning them and her snide remarks make me feel very guilty even though I honestly tried my best.    some people huh?  :)
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Post by: seegee on 05 Aug 2013 09:26PM
Anyone who has a painful tooth; if you can get to a pharmacy or health shop (Boots or Holland & Barrett as examples, most others probably sell it too), clove oil is good for easing the pain. 
Most people don't like the taste but it does lessen dental pain a lot so is probably worth it.
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 05 Aug 2013 09:53PM
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I was eating a healthy small bag of mixed nuts (good for the bowels apparently)

Thanks for sharing that  ;-)

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... yeah, we're just oldies and our parts are wearing out ;)

Speak for yourself  >biggrin<

Seegee, I can vouch for the effectiveness of cloves! I didn't have the actual clove oil to hand when some years ago I was pacing the floors with the pain of a wisdom tooth breaking through, but I had powdered cloves as part of my spices collection - so I made a sort of paste with tepid water and applied that to the tender site.  Helped me resume my broken sleep, did that  >thumbsup<
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Post by: ATurtle on 06 Aug 2013 12:35PM
Thank your lucky stars, I got fitted with a plate (false teeth) some time ago, and the dentist made the lower set so that they didn't meet the top set!  Just had a new lower set made and the pain on the gum is agony!  Got to go back for her to sort that out! 

I feel for you Steve, but, even when you have your last tooth extracted, the trouble doesn't end!
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Post by: Hurtyback on 06 Aug 2013 05:09PM
That's very reassuring, thanks Turtle!  >lol<
 
A few weeks ago I stole a piece of Mr H's toffee. I too experienced the crunching sound and texture... All fixed now, without any real pain  >biggrin<
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 06 Aug 2013 05:58PM
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.. I got fitted with a plate (false teeth) some time ago, and the dentist made the lower set so that they didn't meet the top set! 

 >doh< strewth, what a basic and stupid mistake  >thumbsdown<

Hurtyback, your sins found you out after nicking some of your OH's toffee then  ;-)  Did you admit to the dentist how you lost your filling?  I try and downplay my sweetie consumption as it'll only be 'another stick to beat me with'  >whistle<
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Post by: Hurtyback on 06 Aug 2013 07:50PM
I certainly 'fessed up' to Mr H, can't remember whether I told the dentist or not  >whistle<
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Post by: Mabelcat on 06 Aug 2013 08:33PM
I snapped a tooth on a humbug.  It needed a crown but as even the NHS charge for that was £209 I had to have the remains extracted.  That cost £50.
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 06 Aug 2013 09:53PM
That was one expensive humbug  >yikes<


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Post by: Yvette on 07 Aug 2013 07:11PM
My expensive tooth disasters have been:  a peanut, a toffee, a bar of nougat and pork scratchings.

I no longer eat the last three but still eat nuts.

Years ago a friend came over for supper and I had made a delicous italian rice risotto and served it with a multi-grain baguette. My poor friend actually broke a tooth on one of the grains and was in such agony I had to telephone the emergency dentist and drive her to where he was.

She has never eaten mult-grain bread since.
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Post by: Hurtyback on 07 Aug 2013 07:58PM
Dentists say that multi-grain breads and muesli are common culprits for breaking teeth due to the sudden change of hardness and texture.
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Post by: SteveX on 08 Aug 2013 12:01PM
I snapped a tooth on a humbug.  It needed a crown but as even the NHS charge for that was £209 I had to have the remains extracted.  That cost £50.

Wow, that was expensive!

I went to the dentist yesterday, the guy said as its a wisdom tooth and has a lot of decay theres no point filling it again, it'll have to come out and he said they don't do it.  So I've been referred to the hospital to have it pulled, but he's put a temporary filling in it just to stop the pain while I wait for an appointment.

great.. more expense but at least I only have to pay taxi fares, so could be far worse.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 09 Aug 2013 08:53AM
Well Steve, best of luck and remember that once it's out you'll never have to worry about it again!  >hugs<
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Post by: suessad on 10 Aug 2013 08:28AM
Thank your lucky stars, I got fitted with a plate (false teeth) some time ago, and the dentist made the lower set so that they didn't meet the top set!  Just had a new lower set made and the pain on the gum is agony!  Got to go back for her to sort that out! 

I feel for you Steve, but, even when you have your last tooth extracted, the trouble doesn't end!

I've only got 8 more to go.  >yikes<

Turtle where does it end. ?
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Post by: SteveX on 10 Aug 2013 09:49PM
Just wonderful.. :(

This morning I got a brown envelope, only a small one mind but still I shuddered at the thought and it was labelled 'job centre'

Its yet another WRAG appointment.. aww god no, not again :(


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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 10 Aug 2013 09:58PM
 >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs<

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Post by: starsmurf on 10 Aug 2013 10:29PM
 >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs<

I'm sorry you've had to go through all that. 

I had a tooth repaired and others filled yesterday by my dentist.  He's a wonderful dentist but the problem is it's very difficult to numb my mouth, made worse by the fact that I can't have adrenaline in the injection.  After only three injections he got started and drilled all the teeth out.  Unfortunately, as he started filling the first one, the anaesthetic started to wear off.  He just had to keep going, as my gums were already bludging with the anaesthetic and wouldn't take any more.

I got through it but it wasn't the most pleasant half-hour of my life.  Fortunately, my dentist is a lovely guy and was giving me supportive shoulder pats as often as he could.  He also did a great job, you can't tell where the breaks and fillings are.  And it was all on the NHS.

So move to Scotland and register with my dentist!  >biggrin<
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Post by: suessad on 12 Aug 2013 02:03PM
 >bighugs< Pleased it ended well for you starsmurf
My last dentist use to fill my teeth with no injection at all. Not as bad as it sounds.

Only another 8 to go and I'll find out if dentures really can stay in.  >erm<
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Post by: SteveX on 13 Aug 2013 01:00AM
Sounds like it was tough starsmurf, glad you're ok now.  :)
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Post by: starsmurf on 13 Aug 2013 05:05PM
It was ok Steve.  Nothing compared to what's happening to you.  >bighugs< >bighugs< 

At least my dentist is both kind and very good at what he does (all of the partners in the practice also work as part-time consultants at the local dental hospital).
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 14 Aug 2013 07:16PM
I seem to remember that we had a chat about dentists a few months ago, and I promised that I would go and get my filling replaced.  Confession time.

I missed that appointment - I was late.  And I have not been back.  I have another teeth problem now. 

I must try harder!
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 15 Aug 2013 09:53PM
Naughty auntie - would you like a quick swipe of my Flyswatter to encourage you to make that appointment??
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 15 Aug 2013 10:57PM
I must try harder!  I must try harder!  I must try harder!
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Post by: seegee on 16 Aug 2013 02:53PM
Naughty auntie; new appointment needed...
1. find dentist's number, pick up telephone & agree appointment
2. put post here telling us all when the appointment is
3. get harassed into keeping it  ;-) >lol<
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Post by: suessad on 17 Aug 2013 10:26AM
I seem to remember that we had a chat about dentists a few months ago, and I promised that I would go and get my filling replaced.  Confession time.

I missed that appointment - I was late.  And I have not been back.  I have another teeth problem now. 
I must try harder!

Auntie please make another appointment.
Without the filling infection can set in, a lot worse pain than refilling it. >bighugs<
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 17 Aug 2013 06:50PM
Oh dear, I am being nagged!   >erm<

Anyway, I think it is only half a filling.  And I have had a bad cold and other health problems and I would not want to go to the dentist full of germs now would I? 

(Oh OK, it is all excuses I know. >biggrin< )
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Post by: SteveX on 20 Aug 2013 12:11PM
Had my WRAG appointment, was a nervous wreck.

anyway I had the same man as last time so that was not too bad, at least I didn't get that arrogant nasty one.
He talked, I listened and after about 18 mins it was over but he wants me to do things.

He wants me to write a CV (just for his records he says)
also, this is the strange one..  he wants me to visit my doctor and ask to get something to help my anxiety problem.
I said 'I'm on enough tablets and other medication as it is!' he said 'well, one more tablet won't hurt then and it might help a lot'.

I really don't want to do this tbh, can he force me to take certain treatment??
also has anyone seen their doctor for several anxiety?  if so.. what did you get for it?

Thanks
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Post by: Fiz on 20 Aug 2013 02:32PM
I see a Psychiatrist and a social worker about anxiety and their opinion is, drugs that help are addictive and should only be used in extreme cases. It is better to learn how to manage and reduce anxiety using psychological therapy. Maybe ask your GP for a referal for some psychological therapies? GP's might be happier to dish out drugs, but I think experts in the field would be reticent tbh.
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Post by: Hurtyback on 20 Aug 2013 02:39PM
Steve, the advisor cannot force you to undergo any treatment. However, if you are suffering from severe anxiety that must be making your life very difficult. Visiting your doctor might enable you to get help for this, it doesn't sound as if you have anything to lose!  >hugs<
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 20 Aug 2013 04:59PM
Hi Steve - regarding the CV, this is just one of the 'work-related activities' listed that an advisor can ask you to do;  it was the first thing I tackled and my advisor actually made an appointment with me to see someone from Careers Advice to help me with it.  (As it happens, I quite enjoyed re-writing it and having some 'constructive criticism' to get the best result for my particular 'skill set'.  It emphasised how much I still have to give even if I'm not employable right now.)  Think of it as a sort of formality that WRAG claimants need to go through - you won't be expected to start winging it round all the local employers next time you see your advisor!

The thing about WRAG is, it is what it says on the tin - claimants are expected to take part in various activities related to work (paid employment), but not paid employment itself; otherwise, you'd be on JSA, wouldn't you!  As long as you're trying to do something off the examples list, advisors are generally happy that you're meeting the conditions of WRAG ESA  >thumbsup<

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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 20 Aug 2013 08:18PM
 >bighugs<

I'd agree that your advisor's attitude of 'one more medication won't hurt' was unfortunate to say the least. But, as other have said, there are lots of psychological methods to help reduce anxiety levels, and reduced anxiety does make life a lot easier to cope with. The 'heavy artillery' such as low-dose anti-psychotics tend only to be used very sparingly - for obvious reasons.

The thing to remember is, don't do it because someone at JC+ says so - do it for yourself.  >bighugs<
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Post by: sherbs on 20 Aug 2013 08:25PM
Hi Steve - regarding the CV, this is just one of the 'work-related activities' listed that an advisor can ask you to do;  it was the first thing I tackled and my advisor actually made an appointment with me to see someone from Careers Advice to help me with it.  (As it happens, I quite enjoyed re-writing it and having some 'constructive criticism' to get the best result for my particular 'skill set'.  It emphasised how much I still have to give even if I'm not employable right now.)  Think of it as a sort of formality that WRAG claimants need to go through - you won't be expected to start winging it round all the local employers next time you see your advisor!

The thing about WRAG is, it is what it says on the tin - claimants are expected to take part in various activities related to work (paid employment), but not paid employment itself; otherwise, you'd be on JSA, wouldn't you!  As long as you're trying to do something off the examples list, advisors are generally happy that you're meeting the conditions of WRAG ESA  >thumbsup<

Spot on Kizzy as usual, it's so good that you have been through this process, as you seem to put people at ease with the way you "phrase, "word" things.

I personally,think you would make a fantastic counsellor, or even volunteer at CAB, as you have so much wisdom with certain scenarios.     >thumbsup<
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Post by: SteveX on 20 Aug 2013 09:09PM
I don't mind writing the CV, thats fine.

But I hate going to the Docs at the best of times and only normally go if I have no option.  I just don't like being bullied into this when I don't want to do it, but I'm not sure if I can refuse, I don't want to anger the guy and get my money stopped or something and I don't want to go to the docs either.  Hmm
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 20 Aug 2013 09:11PM
Which of these two options would hurt you the most, Steve?
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 20 Aug 2013 09:54PM
Sherbs - thank you  >biggrin<  I did actually work as a CAB volunteer back in the dark reaches of 1990, but it wasn't really for me as I couldn't get my head round being a 'jack of all trades and master of none' - I like to specialise if I'm advising anybody on anything, and there wasn't a 'vacancy' for a dedicated welfare rights person back then... Coincidentally enough, my JC+ advisor did suggest I might be good in an advocacy role.  Who knows about the future?  Now must stop my head swelling  ;-)

Steve - good question there from auntie, weigh up the pros and cons of each option and see which comes out most in your favour, even if it's only a marginal difference - we have to be able to decide one way or another as soon as, or the continued indecision state in itself leads to even more anxiety  >erm<
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Post by: SteveX on 20 Aug 2013 09:55PM
Which of these two options would hurt you the most, Steve?

Going to the docs.

Making the CV would just take time and effort.

I avoid the docs unless absolutely needed.  :(
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Post by: Hurtyback on 20 Aug 2013 09:57PM
You cannot be forced to undergo any treatment, your benefit cannot be sanctioned if you prefer not to go to the doctor's.
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 20 Aug 2013 10:04PM
Steve, I think auntie meant - the decision to either go to the doctor's or not go to the doctor's, as you seem to be reasonably OK with the CV!
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Post by: SteveX on 20 Aug 2013 10:53PM
Steve, I think auntie meant - the decision to either go to the doctor's or not go to the doctor's, as you seem to be reasonably OK with the CV!

ahh, well not going would be the easiest but I'm not sure if I have that option, The CV is not a problem.
I hope that Hurtyback is right and I cannot be forced, I guess time will tell.
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Post by: Fiz on 21 Aug 2013 09:09AM
Steve, I am exactly the same wrt going to the GP, definitely only go when I have to and get fairly anxious about it then and things have to be totally desperate for me to get there if I happen to be in a bad patch so I can totally relate.

I think what people are saying here is that as long as you do something between appointments that they've suggested then you are doing all you need do, so putting together your CV is doing that. When the advisor asks if you did the CV and went to your GP you can either say "I've managed to create my CV but my anxiety was such that it procluded a visit to my GP" or you could say "I've managed to create my CV but I have taken medical advice and taking medication for anxiety is rarely advised and most medications for anxiety are addictive". Nuff said.

It might be worth though whenever you do next go to your GP for something else, mentioning how your anxiety affects you and maybe you could get a referal for some psychological therapies, as they really do transform and change lives.
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Post by: SteveX on 21 Aug 2013 01:06PM
Thank you Fiz.
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 21 Aug 2013 11:50PM
Sorry if I was not clear Steve.  If you make a start on your CV then the guy will see that you are trying your best, which is all that he wants.  If you do this he cannot be annoyed with you and he will not have the grounds to sanction you either.
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Post by: seegee on 22 Aug 2013 09:52AM
auntie, are you trying your best to make that dental appointment?  ;-) >whistle<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 22 Aug 2013 09:57AM
Steve, please keep us posted as to how you get on at your next appointment.  >bighugs<
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 22 Aug 2013 10:41PM
seegee, did you see Yvettes post on the 'coming off anti-d's ' thread?  It did make me larff.

Nope, I keep forgetting, what with everything else.
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Post by: Otter on 22 Aug 2013 11:59PM
I have a new boss, he met me from an hour last week. It did not go well, he firstly freaked out to more senior colleagues that he had not been told I was disabled and two days later emailed everyone, so yep it was forwarded on to me, stating that he felt that he would find managing me impossible, so could someone else step in and that I was one of those people who heard what I wanted to hear, not what was said- so basically if I state something he stated in our meeting when he has now changed his mind upon, he does not have to admit being indecisive. Please excuse me while I sharpen my claws!
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 23 Aug 2013 12:45AM
Forewarned is forearmed.  I wonder how long he will stay with an attitude like that. 

He does not need to be forewarned that you are disabled.  If he cannot cope it would seem that the people who appointed him chose the wrong person.  It is their problem to sort out.  If you have any problems just go over his head to his managers since they chose him.

 >hugs<
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Post by: Fiz on 23 Aug 2013 06:32AM
That is truly shocking Otter, and worrying.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 23 Aug 2013 09:56AM
 >bighugs<
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Post by: Yvette on 23 Aug 2013 04:42PM
Please let your Union Rep know about this as it needs to be documented.

At further meetings with this manager, you need your Union Rep to be present so your words cannot be twisted.
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Post by: Otter on 24 Aug 2013 12:06AM
thanks, he attempted to remove my structure to those who appointed him only for these people to put it back in again. One of them has given him 3 months, I do not think now he was being wax lyrical. new boss may say I hear what I want to, not what is said, but I wonder if he is able to tell others what they want to hear and not what needs to be told.
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Post by: starsmurf on 24 Aug 2013 09:04PM
I have a new boss, he met me from an hour last week. It did not go well, he firstly freaked out to more senior colleagues that he had not been told I was disabled and two days later emailed everyone, so yep it was forwarded on to me, stating that he felt that he would find managing me impossible, so could someone else step in and that I was one of those people who heard what I wanted to hear, not what was said- so basically if I state something he stated in our meeting when he has now changed his mind upon, he does not have to admit being indecisive. Please excuse me while I sharpen my claws!

Keep a careful copy of this.  Would he expect to be forewarned if a member of staff were Black or female or Muslim?  If he can't cope with managing you, then he can't do his job and should be removed from his post.  You might want to contact your local CAB or a solicitor about this, as that will also help provide records, should there be any trouble in the future.

If he thinks you don't hear what he said, you should record meetings in the future.  >devil<

Disgusting, prejudiced, arrogant  >bleep<
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Post by: ATurtle on 25 Aug 2013 03:20AM
I'm sorry Otter, but I feel your new boss is being discriminatory and should be introduced to the Equality Act of 2010 http://www.legislation.gov.uk/ukpga/2010/15/contents (http://www.legislation.gov.uk/ukpga/2010/15/contents) may help especially Chapter 2 Part 15 Paragraph 1(a).

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Post by: Defying Gravity on 25 Aug 2013 06:00PM
With one of my bosses I used to take 'supervision' notes during our meetings and email them to him straight afterwards. This was supposedly for my records and so I could keep track of what my role involved but was actually to protect myself from his habit of forgetting between meetings what he had asked me to do. He would then express astonishment that I either had or hadn't done something. I doubt he ever actually read the notes., but that would have been his problem not mine! Could you do similar and perhaps ask him for confirmation that they're accurate.?
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Post by: Otter on 31 Aug 2013 09:41AM
DG that sounds so much like another colleague I have and it was that colleague who put round the rumour of opening my post for tender. I have in front of me a fixed term contract for 6 months, most of which seems to be a gagging order once it finishes and if I sign it I am an employee! It is also pro rata a £2,000pa pay cut on a salary frozen for many years, which I am told if I prove myself my pay will increase if the job becomes permanent, not like I have been doing the job successfully for decades and oh yes I have to have a medical. However at termination, or prior if they fire me, I will then have the correct paperwork to access benefits, if limited but something and will have a rest and go into catering - curry anybody?
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Post by: oldtone27 on 31 Aug 2013 01:32PM
I'm up for an otter curry.

Ah! Having just read that back to myself I'm not sure if it might be taken as; a curry made by Otter, a curry made from otters, or a curry ordered by someone who has a pronouniation problem.  >whistle<
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Post by: Mabelcat on 31 Aug 2013 09:48PM
It is well known that Tarka Dhal is actually otter curry.

On a more serious note Otter - how long have you worked for your employer and have you had previous contracts?  Even without a permanent contract you would gain the same rights as permanent staff after five years And they shouldn't be able to just fire you.
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Post by: Otter on 01 Sep 2013 07:47PM
tarka dhal! fantastic

on paper I have all the rights of an employee, just no redundancy allowance or pension - so no change there

and 4 weeks notice, if they terminate contract
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Post by: starsmurf on 03 Sep 2013 08:21PM
I was looking forward to the Leuchars Air Show this Saturday.  I was supposed to be going with my dad.  We went last year with my little sister and had a great time, we even got sunburnt!  It's pretty much the last time I had a day out so I was really excited.

I was under the impression my dad had organised tickets and the disabled parking.  When I asked last night what time we'd be leaving, I found out we're not going.

It's because my eldest sister, who also uses a wheelchair, suddenly expressed a desire to attend, my dad can't push two wheelchairs and I can't self-propel more than 10 metres.  I can't understand why she would want to go as she has no interest in planes or flying.  I can only think that it's because she wants to stop me having a day with just me and our dad.  She has a history of this, when Dad and I were going to the cinema, she'd want to go too, even if she'd already seen the film.

So that's my annual day out cancelled.  As the airbase is being turned into an army barracks, I don't know if there'll ever be another Leuchars Airshow. :-(
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Post by: Hurtyback on 03 Sep 2013 08:24PM
Oh Starry, how very disappointing for you!  >hugs<
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 03 Sep 2013 09:00PM
Sadly one doesn't choose one's family.  Such a shame your Dad was not able to put his foot down about this trip out.  Maybe your sister will change her mind at the last minute.  I suppose you could drop hints about how noisy it is going to be, something like that which might put her off.

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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 03 Sep 2013 11:44PM
The air show may move north to RAF Lossiemouth but it will be sad to see  Leuchars go.
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Post by: suessad on 05 Sep 2013 10:37AM
Hopefully this will not put anyone off going to the dentist.
It's also a warning that any odd occurance should be mentioned.


Having been  to the dentist last month and having 4 teeth extracted, within 24 hours I had a nasty reaction.
Throat tightened, chest tightened, I could hardly breath. Called the GP out.
Alas it took two hours before he arrived.
Luckily, I suffer hay fever and had some antihistamine.
Having seen medical shows and some reactions are treated with antihistamine , I decided to try it.
Yipee it worked. Felt better by the time the GP arrived. He was baffled but, told me to mention it
next time I go to the dentist.
I went today, told the dentist who did a skin check, within 5 minutes my arm was swollen and red.
So no teeth stolen today. He's refering me to the hospital to finish the work.
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 05 Sep 2013 12:43PM
Blimey  >yikes<

Mind you, I think personally that 4 teeth whipped out in one session is rather a lot!  Fingers crossed that the remaining extractions are less...eventful  >clover<
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Post by: WheeledTraveler on 05 Sep 2013 03:00PM
I'm glad they referred you to the hospital! It sounds like you're allergic to something. What did he skin-check?

Not sure if anyone remembers, but there was someone allergic to lidocaine (the anesthetic commonly used in dental work). She had horrible problems getting dentists to listen. EDSers often don't respond well to that entire class of meds, but it's more of them not working than any sort of harmful reaction. I know I need at least a double dose to get numb. I'm lucky that my dentist is willing to work with me to make sure I'm numb. It took a while for him to understand that I really meant that I wasn't getting numb (which is a bit silly of him because he knew I had a high pain tolerance after I once had a filling done without anesthetic because he thought it wasn't deep enough to need them; by the end he was surprised I hadn't asked for anesthetic because he would have needed them).
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Post by: suessad on 05 Sep 2013 03:46PM
Thanks Kizzy. Hopefully the hospital will knock me out and take the remaining 8.

Wheeled traveller. He injected a small amount of  the anesthetic  just under the skin.
Really strange because he said they only use 1 type.
I've had several visits with him and nothing untoward before.
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 05 Sep 2013 08:26PM
What a horrible experience Sue.  Hopefully the other extractions will be less eventful.
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 05 Sep 2013 11:04PM
Ah, but bodies do change. I expect it is not unusual to be OK at one time and then a few years later to have a reaction.  Or maybe he just changed the brand he uses, that could also account for the change in your reaction.
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Post by: suessad on 06 Sep 2013 01:25PM
Thanks D/D and Auntie.
Just hope the waiting list isn't too long and I am able to eat a Christmas lunch.
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Post by: Yvette on 06 Sep 2013 04:20PM
What a worry. 

You need to make sure your allergy is on all your medical notes - hospital and GP.
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Post by: WheeledTraveler on 06 Sep 2013 10:16PM
It is definitely possible to develop an allergy later in life. I agree, though, that you need it in your medical records. Lidocaine is used in so many things that doctors need to be aware.
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Post by: suessad on 07 Sep 2013 11:14AM
You are both so right.   >hugs<
I shall make an appointment next week to see GP.
The dentist is writing to the hospital so they will be aware.
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Post by: Frances on 07 Sep 2013 05:17PM
Just to cheer you up Sue . Ry has been on urgent list since beginning of July. It seems it will be another 6 months before he even gets to see Consultant and then another 6 months before they remove 3 more of his teeth.
The Dentist can't do it as he has no Adrenalin (Cortysol)due to the Pituitary Tumour, so he would go into shock and a coma and it would kill him.
Wales is a mess he has been waiting 10 months to see Heart Consultant . Dr says it could be another year , He stands a chance of actually having a Heart attack before he has the tests. . 
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 07 Sep 2013 05:55PM
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Ry has been on urgent list since beginning of July. It seems it will be another 6 months before he even gets to see Consultant and then another 6 months before they remove 3 more of his teeth.

 >doh< I dread to think how long the non-urgent cases would have to wait..

That's just appalling.  Ever thought about moving to a better-serviced area, Frances?  >erm<
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Post by: Frances on 07 Sep 2013 08:08PM
How I wish we had the money to move Kizzy. But all I have is the Bungalow. Its not worth a lot cos its very small.
My bedroom is also my living room. Rys bedroom is a small box room. So he had the living room.
We had lovely views but now they have built 58 big houses where the old school was and it blocks a lot of our view Grrr.  >steam<
Which has made our property worth a lot less. Just keeping my fingers X'd for a win on the Health lottery. !!!
The NHS in Wales is a dreadful mess.
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Post by: suessad on 08 Sep 2013 10:48AM
Sorry Frances, that doesn't cheer me.   >crying<
I think it disgusting they have such a long waiting list.
I pray that an appointment comes up in the very near future for Ry. >fingerscrossed<

 >bighugs<
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Post by: starsmurf on 08 Sep 2013 01:19PM
Sorry Frances, that doesn't cheer me.   >crying<
I think it disgusting they have such a long waiting list.
I pray that an appointment comes up in the very near future for Ry. >fingerscrossed<

 >bighugs<

It's up to two months in my area Sue, every hospital is different.  You may be enjoying your turkey after all! >x-fingers<
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Post by: suessad on 08 Sep 2013 04:01PM

It's up to two months in my area Sue, every hospital is different.  You may be enjoying your turkey after all! >x-fingers<

 >erm<   Lets see. two month wait for extraction.
One month wait to see dentist for impressions for new teeth.
One month wait for making and delivering. 

Sounds like Christmas dinner will be late.  >crying<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 08 Sep 2013 07:32PM
I hate it when the scar from a previous operation becomes inflamed weep exudate and blead.
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 08 Sep 2013 07:50PM
Oh Dic, that sounds dreadful. Would aloe vera gel help it to heal?

Obviously a very different situation, but I burned myself on the iron a couple of weeks ago.  Nothing serious.  I just moved the iron with my right hand and forgot to move my left hand out of the way.   >biggrin<  Anyway aloe vera gel helped it to heal and the scarring is minor .
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 08 Sep 2013 08:31PM
The scar is quite old it starts at the top of the ear at the back and extends almost to the middle of the throat every now and then it starts to itch then becomes inflamed and weep then it clears up after a few days its just so damn irritating. I have plastered it with Savlon at the moment that does help.
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 08 Sep 2013 08:32PM
Yes, savlon is good, but these days I find aloe vera better.  And it does not smell so!
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 08 Sep 2013 09:00PM
I may get some tomorrow and try it out.
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 08 Sep 2013 09:15PM
 >x-fingers<

You never know.
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Post by: Yvette on 11 Sep 2013 10:57PM
Dic, have you had a try at keeping the scar moisturised?

I have several scars and know that if I don't keep them moisturised they break down.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 12 Sep 2013 01:40PM
I do try but they just flare up at random times. I do use Diprobase prescribed by my GP. I use it also for what he thinks may be psoriasis.
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Post by: Yvette on 12 Sep 2013 05:30PM
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I do try

Trying isn't enough.

You need to moisturise it morning and night - every day without fail.

Also, diprobase has a lot of preservatives in it, which is not good for some skins.

How about trying something like Aveeno cream (without the lavender).  You can buy it in Boots but I get it on prescription and it is brilliant for my skin and scars.  Even for broken down skin.

If it doesn't suit your skin your wife can always use it as hand cream as it is so moisturising.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 13 Sep 2013 10:31AM
I'd second the suggestion of Aveeno - I use it for my patches of psoriasis when Dovonex is unnecessary and all that's required is a general moisturiser. Diprobase stings too much.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 13 Sep 2013 02:00PM
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Diprobase stings too much.

I had noticed.  >lol<

I will give Aveeno a go and see how I get on.

Sometimes it just seems that there is so much to keep track of, I feel I am starting to loose it. The thread that is don't you feel that sometimes you would just like to go to bed and stay there.
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Post by: Hurtyback on 13 Sep 2013 03:51PM
don't you feel that sometimes you would just like to go to bed and stay there.

That is just how I am feeling at the moment!
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 13 Sep 2013 06:38PM
 >bighugs<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 13 Sep 2013 06:58PM
 >bighugs<
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Post by: Yvette on 13 Sep 2013 07:09PM
I'm glad you are going to give Aveeno a go Dic.

Hang on in there.  We are all rooting for you.  >hugs<
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 13 Sep 2013 09:19PM
Oh yes Dic, exactly that.  However, as you are probably aware, that is just a withdrawal symptom.  There is no reason why you cannot have half an hour's lie down in the middle of the day if you feel like it - either that or when you feel like a lie down go for a walk.   >biggrin<

Have you tried brushing your teeth more frequently to give you a different taste in your mouth?  (oops, wrong thread)
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 13 Sep 2013 09:36PM
 >lol< I'll take it as read auntie
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Post by: SteveX on 14 Sep 2013 03:28PM
I'm a nervous person anyway but now it stepped up a level.

My poor neighbour (the nice one) was robbed this morning, it makes my blood boil, he's such a lovely old man and he'd do anything for anyone but some lowlife pond scum broke in and stole money and papers and his passport today. :(

And tonight is the first night I'm going out and leaving Sky alone, I'm going to be a nervous wreck thinking about her. 
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Post by: suessad on 14 Sep 2013 03:47PM
Steve  >bighugs<
Don't let this low life of a thief ruin your night out.
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 14 Sep 2013 05:29PM
Wotcha Steve - I would think it's very unlikely the burglar would return to have a pop at the house next door (ie, yours);  he would surely want to strike more randomly than that to increase his chances of evading detection.  Well, that's what my logic circuits are telling me, anyway!!

Time for another dental related Argggghhh - the tooth where I lost a filling has been playing me up something nasty the last few days with intermittent throbbage.  The Bonjela is never far away... I do have an appointment with the dentist this coming Friday, and I'm actually looking forward to it now just to sort out that sodding molar  >erm<
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Post by: SteveX on 14 Sep 2013 05:32PM
Ohh Kizzy that'll be painful :(

I hope you get it sorted soon.  >hugs<
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Post by: Hurtyback on 14 Sep 2013 05:41PM
 >bighugs<  all round!
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 14 Sep 2013 07:38PM
Steve, in my area the Police have a scheme where you phone them up and ask for a home security check.  They come round and look at the doors and windows etc and give advice as to any burglar-proofing you could have put in.  Have you ever had this done?
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Post by: SteveX on 15 Sep 2013 01:35AM
Steve, in my area the Police have a scheme where you phone them up and ask for a home security check.  They come round and look at the doors and windows etc and give advice as to any burglar-proofing you could have put in.  Have you ever had this done?

I've not, I'll see if we have a similar scheme here.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 15 Sep 2013 09:33AM
 >bighugs< for Steve and Kizzy.
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 16 Sep 2013 09:39AM
 >tah< peeps - I have brought my appointment forward to 11 am this morning as the aching seems to be in the bone now as well as the tooth cavity, don't want an abscess gaining a hold  >angry<  Just want the whole thing out now, it had its chance with a filling and I don't want further aggro from it -  won't miss a back tooth too much anyway!
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Post by: Yvette on 19 Sep 2013 11:26AM
I'm glad for you that it is now out.   >thumbsup<
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 19 Sep 2013 11:46AM
Thanks Yvette - I keep thinking, what state would the tooth (and me!) be in if I'd left things till the original appointment which would have been tomorrow morning.  Doesn't bear too much contemplation  >yikes<

If I may blow my own trumpet, I'm rather chuffed at myself for getting to the dental surgery on my own - Dad has taken me there and back for 'moral support' for the past five years, but on that day I needed the emergency visit, he and mum were away in another county visiting friends for the day.  So I had to do it alone, and it wasn't so bad after all; it's given me a confidence boost, has that  - but for gawd's sake don't tell the DWP, they'll probably interpret it as a sign that I'm 'moving faster towards work readiness'   >doh< >lol<
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Post by: suessad on 19 Sep 2013 04:07PM
Good to hear it's sorted.   >thumbsup<
Well done Kizzy.   >bighugs<
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Post by: Hurtyback on 19 Sep 2013 06:10PM
Good for you Kizzy!  >thumbsup<
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 19 Sep 2013 06:23PM
 >thumbsup< >thumbsup<  >biggrin<
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Post by: Yvette on 20 Sep 2013 10:02AM
Well done.  >thumbsup<
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Post by: Silverstar on 20 Sep 2013 11:58AM
I am arghhhing today. I went for a blood test this morning, I felt really crappy today and really didn't feel like going but forced myself to make the effort. When I booked it on Monday following the consultation with my GP I was told I didn't need to fast. It was not on the screen and the receptionist confirmed no fasting was necessary. Even still I didn't eat breakfast before I went, I only had a coffee this morning. When I went to see the vampire she told me it was a fasting one. I had to see the receptionist and she changed the form to a non-fasting one.

However my GP for reasons unknown had not put the right test on the screen. I was told I needed a test for inflammation markers, as I think it might have arthritis, however I was being tested for glucose, plasma, iron, folic acid and B12.  I am already being treated with medication  and injections for iron, folate and B12 deficiency so really what is the point in testing me for something I know I already have problems with?  No mention of an ESR test.

I went back and saw the receptionist who checked my records and lo and behold my GP hadn't requested that test so I can't have it. I have to phone her on Monday, as she is not in today and ask her to request it, then I have to re-book another blood test. I am really narked off. I just feel it has been a colossal waste of my time and NHS money.  I don't know if it can be bothered in all honesty.
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 20 Sep 2013 05:31PM
What a pile of  >bleep< !  I suppose it just proves that doctors are as fallible as the rest of us, not that that's much consolation when you've been messed about.  The test does sound important though, so do make sure you have it - eventually  >erm<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 20 Sep 2013 07:00PM
Crud isn't it they should get their act together.

They don't do blood tests at my GP's they send us down the road to another GP's practice where you have to phone up for an appointment for a blood test.
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Post by: Silverstar on 20 Sep 2013 09:21PM
Particularly annoying when you are disabled and getting back is challenging, my surgery takes me a good 25 minute walk , I am very slow, but this morning I got the bus part way as I was feeling rough and walking was hurting.

I  hate buses but had no choice as I have no car now and can't drive as I have a real  phobia of driving, it is pathetic lol. Just have to sort  it when I can be bothered.
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Post by: sherbs on 21 Sep 2013 07:29PM
Thanks Yvette - I keep thinking, what state would the tooth (and me!) be in if I'd left things till the original appointment which would have been tomorrow morning.  Doesn't bear too much contemplation  >yikes<

If I may blow my own trumpet, I'm rather chuffed at myself for getting to the dental surgery on my own - Dad has taken me there and back for 'moral support' for the past five years, but on that day I needed the emergency visit, he and mum were away in another county visiting friends for the day.  So I had to do it alone, and it wasn't so bad after all; it's given me a confidence boost, has that  - but for gawd's sake don't tell the DWP, they'll probably interpret it as a sign that I'm 'moving faster towards work readiness'   >doh< >lol<


We'll done Kizzy

I too don't like to go out on my own, obviously I have too, as it's just me here and nearest relative (sis) lives 85 miles away.

I find I force myself to go out, even to work, I just get in the car, get out at work, day at work, get back in the car and that's the day done.

I was more confident when younger, seems as the years go by I am retreating into my shell !,

 :-(.     :-(
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Post by: Mabelcat on 21 Sep 2013 07:40PM
I don't think I would get very far at the moment if I didn't have my car.  When I have the car with me I know I can escape any time and get back home.
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Post by: Hurtyback on 26 Sep 2013 04:03PM
It is my turn for an arghhhhhhh! today.


I have been wanting to bake for ages, something I really used to enjoy, but I don't because of my ED. then I was invited to a McMillan coffee morning, it is being held tomorrow, and it seemed a good idea to offer to bake something to take along.


So today I have baked one measly cake and I am in so much pain, it has reminded me of the other reason I don't do it often  :-( .


I really need to go to my eaters' group this evening, it isn't good for me to miss it. Hey ho!
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 26 Sep 2013 04:12PM
 >thumbsdown< to pain  >angry<  I'm sure the coffee morning people will appreciate that single cake, though.  What sort of 'eaters group' do you attend if you don't mind me asking?

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I find I force myself to go out, even to work, I just get in the car, get out at work, day at work, get back in the car and that's the day done.

Sorry I missed your post earlier, Sherbs - that sounds a bit of a sucky deal you've described there, and one that I recognise myself from some years ago, are you OK?  It sounds like some sort of depression creeping in - better caught early than later..
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Post by: Hurtyback on 26 Sep 2013 06:27PM
Bakewell tart made and ready for tomorrow. Don't yet know whether I will go along and stay or just drop off cake and leave. I suspect it will be the latter, especially as i will do aquagym and Tesco first!


Kizzy, I have been attending Overeaters' Anonymous for a few years. It certainly helps as long as I keep going and keep working at it.
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 26 Sep 2013 07:12PM
I love Bakewell Tart, save me a slice  ;-)

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...It certainly helps as long as I keep going and keep working at it.

 >thumbsup< >thumbsup<
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Post by: Hurtyback on 06 Oct 2013 01:24PM
I was supposed to be on way way to a nice girly get-away today but friend phoned this morning to say that she would have to cancel as she is unwell. I know it's not the end of the world and we have rebooked for later this month but I am really disappointed and don't cope well with last-minute changes of plan.


Friend probably could manage if she had to, but it really wouldn't be much fun for her, and that was the object of the exercise! Oh well, at least I still have it to look forward to later on...
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Post by: bubble on 07 Oct 2013 05:48AM
Arrrgggh no sleep pain all over you know the pains even your fingernails hurt.
I just don't know what to do with myself,
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Post by: ATurtle on 07 Oct 2013 12:43PM
If you have a partner kick them over and over again so they suffer as much as you! Just kidding!

I am fortunate enough to have a GP that understands pain and understands that I know how aware I am of the use of Tramadol "instant hit" 50mg capsules.  I am already on 200mg of Modified release tablets per day, and this allows only four capsules per day in addition as the maximum dosage is 400mg.  Fortunately I have a semi-legal way of obtaining them, and as the GP is aware of it, no reservations about doing it.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 07 Oct 2013 01:22PM
 >bighugs< for all who are in need of them.
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Post by: Hurtyback on 07 Oct 2013 05:24PM
Thank you NN, I hope you took some for yourself too  >hugs<
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Post by: sherbs on 08 Oct 2013 08:18PM
>thumbsdown< to pain  >angry<  I'm sure the coffee morning people will appreciate that single cake, though.  What sort of 'eaters group' do you attend if you don't mind me asking?

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I find I force myself to go out, even to work, I just get in the car, get out at work, day at work, get back in the car and that's the day done.

Sorry I missed your post earlier, Sherbs - that sounds a bit of a sucky deal you've described there, and one that I recognise myself from some years ago, are you OK?  It sounds like some sort of depression creeping in - better caught early than later..

Thanks for caring fiz.   >hugs<

I don't really have much confidence anymore, I think it's the getting stared at syndrome, if out and about I get stared at all the time, due to the way I walk, limp stick, draggy left leg, so I now go out only with sis or my son, I don't think it's a depression thingy, as I am usually upbeat at work and when out for lunch with sis, but it's just the going out on my own I don't like.

I get a bit panicky as I can't walk far, And can't stand crowds I get all disorientated.

I do pop to,the local shops which are a drive away for me, anyone else could walk it,

I think I must  be home bird" if that makes sense.

Sorry not been on here for a while, having a few family problems taking up all my time and energy.

Just catching up on all the posts.

Missed you all, so don't worry if I go AWOL , family stuff to sort out xxx

Oh and don't faint I now have an IPhone. My son dragged me I to town last week when we were both of and forced me to "get with it mother " .  It's not too scary as I have an IPad so very similar, except I have missed a few calls as didn't know how to answer the dam phone     >doh<  Sorted now you have to slide to answer a call, it even tells you what to do.   >doh<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 08 Oct 2013 08:25PM
 >bighugs<
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 08 Oct 2013 09:12PM
And some more  >hugs<
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 08 Oct 2013 10:05PM
Wotcha Sherbs - understandable that you would feel self-conscious about being out alone if you're getting the 'exhibit in a zoo' treatment from rude and ignorant people  >angry< 

 >x-fingers< that those family problems can be resolved as soon as, and you're braver than me with regard to fancy phones - I've been meaning to upgrade my very basic model for the last year  >blush<   Good to see you posting when you can  >thumbsup<
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Post by: starsmurf on 08 Oct 2013 11:31PM
 >bighugs< >bighugs< sherbs
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Post by: Fiz on 09 Oct 2013 12:33AM
 >hugs< good to see you sherbs
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Post by: seegee on 10 Oct 2013 08:41PM
Hope the family problems are resolved soon, sherbs.  >bighugs<
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Post by: sherbs on 13 Oct 2013 08:07PM
Thanks for all the replies, I promise to pop in and read and post as much as I can,

It's so nice that you are all thinking of me, so don't worry if I don't post from one week to another.

Yes Kizzy I know how you feel with the mobile saga, I didn't even have a smart phone!!! My contract could have been upgraded 6 yrs ago, so my phone was soooo old !
Getting on good with the iPhone, but must admit that all I do with it is text and make / receive calls the same as I was doing with the old phone.

I do love my iPad, really fast nod good for internet.

 >hugs< to all of you
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 17 Oct 2013 09:59AM
There's £150 missing from my bank account. Got one of my housemates to double-check my sums and they came up with the same figure I did.

The local branch of the bank has closed down, so I'm going to have to find some way of getting all the way into the city centre to visit the main branch to find out what the hell is going on.

Really, really, really not looking forward to this.  >crying<
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Post by: seegee on 17 Oct 2013 10:22AM
 >yikes< NN >bighugs<  Hope the bank put it back quickly, as they should if it's either their mistake or theft by another person.  >hugs<
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Post by: Yvette on 17 Oct 2013 11:46AM
NN, wishing you success with the bank.   >thumbsup<

Sherbs, I have an ordinary (and old) phone.  It suits me just fine.
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Post by: seegee on 17 Oct 2013 01:32PM
I also have an old basic mobile phone - I don't often use it, but it does work; makes/ receives calls/ texts which is all I want it to do.  No monthly contract, no camera, no colour screen... >lol<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 17 Oct 2013 04:51PM
Seegee and Yvette, thanks >bighugs<

Problem sorted - software glitch at the bank's end. Pardon my lingo, but thank feck for that!

Sherbs - I also have an ancient phone >thumbsup<

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Post by: Fiz on 17 Oct 2013 05:31PM
so pleased that's sorted, what a nightmare  >hugs<
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Post by: seegee on 17 Oct 2013 05:41PM
Glad it's fixed, NN - must be a considerable relief. :-)
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 17 Oct 2013 06:00PM
Thank goodness NN.  You hear such awful things about bank account fraud, so glad it is sorted now.
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Post by: Hurtyback on 17 Oct 2013 11:51PM
I'm very glad that it was sorted so quickly NN, it must have given you quite a shock!  >yikes<




My phone is a couple of years old and very basic. It has basic internet access, no apps, but I don't use it for that anyway. A few texts and the odd call per week is about my limit.
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Post by: seegee on 18 Oct 2013 05:19PM
A phone with internet access or apps doesn't sound basic to me Hurtyback!  >lol<  Mine doesn't even have a colour screen or a keyboard & wouldn't be able to get apps or connect to the net. ;-)
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Post by: Yvette on 19 Oct 2013 08:23AM
My phone does not have internet access. 

It is a basic phone but does have a camera, which I never use.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 19 Oct 2013 11:29AM
Thanks everyone >bighugs<

Apparently, I wasn't the only person affected by the problem. According to the nice woman who served me (and who also found me somewhere quiet to recover when my tolerance for being in a big, noisy city centre suddenly ran out) they'd had a steady stream of people in all week, trying to find out why their balances had gone skew-wiff.

At least I can order my nice new mattress now. And I've also learned that my scooter is more than capable of making the 3.5 mile round trip to the main bank, although I'm certainly not!  >yikes<

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My phone does not have internet access.

It is a basic phone but does have a camera, which I never use.

I'm still using an old Nokia 3310 given to me by a friend 10 years ago, but won't be for much longer as I can no longer source batteries for it. It's a shame, as it's a good, solid, basic phone. I bought a Nokia 100 for the grand total of £18 as a replacement. It's a great phone for the price - and actually has useful features such as a torch and an FM radio instead of frilly stuff like cameras which I've never seen the point of (the 3310 didn't have one either). If you have reasonable eyesight and good dexterity and co-ordination, then it's worth considering. It's very light and plasticky feeling, as you'd expect for a phone of that price, the keypad is a bit small and rubbery, and the default colour scheme features white text on a blue background, which would cut the eyes out of you, but that's easily changed, and overall, the phone meets my undemanding needs admirably.   

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Post by: Hurtyback on 19 Oct 2013 08:21PM
No colour screen here and no qwerty keyboard either.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 19 Oct 2013 09:16PM
No new fangled devices for me a fire, a blanket and a hill top is all you need.  >lol<
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Post by: seegee on 19 Oct 2013 09:36PM
No new fangled devices for me a fire, a blanket and a hill top is all you need.  >lol<
Fire?  Luxury! >lol<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 19 Oct 2013 09:40PM
 >lol<
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Post by: seegee on 19 Oct 2013 09:48PM
Thanks everyone >bighugs<

...the nice woman who served me (and who also found me somewhere quiet to recover when my tolerance for being in a big, noisy city centre suddenly ran out)...
Good to hear of people who notice when something's wrong & ask if they can do anything to help, especially in a day that was probably more busy than usual.  >thumbsup<
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Post by: suessad on 05 Nov 2013 11:40AM
What next..  >steam<
The last couple of months have really been testing. My GP wanted an update of my condition.  So after scans and X-rays
 the results came back via another visit to the hospital.  Doc there said no change.
But, on talking to my GP, I not only have discs empty in the C region ( neck)
and L region ( lower back ) which I knew about but, one has now gone in the T region ( middle ).
Now it's wait for another appointment to see the Spine specialist with all the questions I have to ask.  >angry<
I have been to the hospital to see the consulatant about taking out the remaining teeth.
The dentist sent me because I had a bad reaction on the previous visit. The hospital will do it but, an allergy test has to be done first.
Great but, just received a letter that it is very rare anyone has this allergy.   >confused< Also my local hospital do not do these tests.
Top it all of, a kind neighbour gave hubby the flu. Which he kindly shared. Just as I thought it was going away, I have now gone down with bronchitis and am on a course of antibiotics.  >sick<
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Post by: Fiz on 05 Nov 2013 12:41PM
 >hugs< sorry to hear you are going through all this, hope you recover from this virus soon so everything else feels achievable again
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 05 Nov 2013 01:40PM
suessad >bighugs<
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Post by: Yvette on 05 Nov 2013 04:44PM
 >bighugs<
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 05 Nov 2013 05:20PM
Suessad, that all sounds really, really pants  >thumbsdown<  Wishing you a speedy recovery from the bronchitis, can't be fun on top of having had a bout of flu as well.  Also, got me wondering about this:

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I have been to the hospital to see the consulatant about taking out the remaining teeth.
The dentist sent me because I had a bad reaction on the previous visit. The hospital will do it but, an allergy test has to be done first.]
Great but, just received a letter that it is very rare anyone has this allergy.   >confused< Also my local hospital do not do these tests.

Well, that's just pathetic, and also sounding rather like the hospital practicing the old 'Cover Our Arses In Every Event' if said allergy is so seldom seen... but that still leaves the question: so what happens about those teeth? Surely someone somewhere has to sort them out  >doh<
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 05 Nov 2013 05:57PM
Oh sussad, I do hope that you are on the mend soon.   >hugs<
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Post by: seegee on 05 Nov 2013 06:11PM
Hope the bronchitis leaves quickly, suessad - not a welcome visitor. :-(
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Post by: suessad on 05 Nov 2013 06:33PM
Thanks everyone. Guess I'm feeling a little sorry for myself.  :-(

Well, that's just pathetic, and also sounding rather like the hospital practicing the old 'Cover Our Arses In Every Event' if said allergy is so seldom seen... but that still leaves the question: so what happens about those teeth? Surely someone somewhere has to sort them out  >doh<

You're right Kizzy, someone somewhere.
But where.  >confused<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 06 Nov 2013 10:54AM
Thanks everyone. Guess I'm feeling a little sorry for myself.  :-(
[

With ample justification, suessad! Bronchitis is frightening enough to deal with, without any of the other stressors. The only advice I can give is to concentrate on getting rid of the bronchitis first, then turn your attention to the other issues. >bighugs<
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Post by: Frances on 06 Nov 2013 05:27PM
So sounds like Rys story >doh<. His teeth are falling to bits he has antibiotics every couple of weeks for abbesses .
His Dentist can't remove the teeth as he could go into shock and unconscious and die. So its wait for the hospital to do it.
 He has been waiting nearly 6 months now and Even though his Consultant, Doctor and Dentist have Written and Phoned and said it is urgent to the said Hossy they say have no idea when he will even be seen let alone have his teeth out.  >steam<
Fingers Crossed for both of you.
 >hugs<
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Post by: Yvette on 06 Nov 2013 05:39PM
For Ry  >bighugs<
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Post by: suessad on 06 Nov 2013 06:35PM
Thanks everyone. Guess I'm feeling a little sorry for myself.  :-(
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With ample justification, suessad! Bronchitis is frightening enough to deal with, without any of the other stressors. The only advice I can give is to concentrate on getting rid of the bronchitis first, then turn your attention to the other issues. >bighugs<

Thanks NN. I think that's a great idea.

 >bighugs<  >bighugs< For Ry and you Frances.
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Post by: Otter on 06 Nov 2013 10:58PM
phone sim and number barred when phone wasn't where phone should be this evening. Hoping phone is at work office on the floor somewhere, as if not it has been lifted by a colleague, as only colleagues have access. This is the pits -peoples packed lunches, umbrellas, coats, cycle helmets and I hope not, phones
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 07 Nov 2013 10:18AM
 >x-fingers< >clover< >x-fingers<

Hope you get your phone back asap, Otter.  >hugs<
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Post by: Otter on 07 Nov 2013 09:38PM
phone back, and had been left in a drawer. Either we have a ghost in reverse or the cleaners rock. Chocs left for the living variety, no questions asked re going into drawers or moving heavy equipments re elf and safety. Unfortunately being an autie I focus on my panic, very good in a crisis; anyone else's but not my own. Have never lost phone before. have left thanks in way that bullies (long gone home) won't use against good people
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Post by: Hurtyback on 07 Nov 2013 11:27PM
I'm very glad that you have got your phone back Otter  >thumbsup<  It was very thoughtful of you to leave your thanks in such a way that it cannot be used against the person/people concerned.
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 09 Nov 2013 05:22PM
Otter I think that is a lovely thing to do and pleased you found your phone safe and sound.
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Post by: SteveX on 13 Nov 2013 01:14PM
Arghhhhh!!

I hate my legs. 

In the daytime they ache a lot even if its slightly cold or chilly, so a lot of the time I sit in my sleeping bag to keep them warm, and then when I'm in bed at night they are really really hot and I can't get them comfy.

Why can't they be the other way around and be hot in the day when I need it  :D
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Post by: Mabelcat on 13 Nov 2013 01:27PM
Hi Steve,

I hate my legs too!  Whilst they are still functional in that I can still walk a reasonable distance but they really hurt, especially when I am resting, and at night they twitch uncontrollably.  It's not every night but enough to disrupt my sleep which is already crap.

Floor some reason I get agonising pains in my shins when I am trying to rest.  I guess it's a fibro thing as I have never injured my shins as far as I recall.  Annoying to say the least.

Hugs to you Steve.
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Post by: Fiz on 13 Nov 2013 04:03PM
 >bighugs<  >bighugs<
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Post by: starsmurf on 13 Nov 2013 05:07PM
Steve,

Do your legs get so hot you can't bear the bedclothes on them?  Do they feel as if they're burning and/or tingling?

I just ask because the cold during the day, hot at night can be a sign of a milder version of what I have.

Please feel free to PM me if you would prefer that.

> Edited to add last sentence <
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Post by: Yvette on 13 Nov 2013 05:52PM
Steve, I wonder, as your legs get hot at night - when you are lying down - whether they would be warmer during the day if you put your legs up on the sofa or a footstool?

It is only a guess and may not work, but I do wonder if it is to do with your circulation, which when you are lying down is easier for your body than when you are sitting with your legs down.
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Post by: SteveX on 14 Nov 2013 12:27AM
Steve,

Do your legs get so hot you can't bear the bedclothes on them?  Do they feel as if they're burning and/or tingling?

I just ask because the cold during the day, hot at night can be a sign of a milder version of what I have.

Please feel free to PM me if you would prefer that.

> Edited to add last sentence <

They don't get that bad but they are very red and feel really hot to the touch and yes tingly at times but not always.  tbh I have no idea what it is and I'm not going to google it.. done that before and frightened myself silly.  haha
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Post by: SteveX on 14 Nov 2013 12:28AM
Steve, I wonder, as your legs get hot at night - when you are lying down - whether they would be warmer during the day if you put your legs up on the sofa or a footstool?

It is only a guess and may not work, but I do wonder if it is to do with your circulation, which when you are lying down is easier for your body than when you are sitting with your legs down.

You know thats a very good question!  I will try it tomorrow and see :)
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Post by: Yvette on 14 Nov 2013 11:25AM
I hope it works for you.  >thumbsup<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 14 Nov 2013 11:41AM
 >bighugs< to all with troublesome legs. I have real trouble with Raynaud's in mine at this time of the year. Most unpleasant.
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Post by: suessad on 16 Nov 2013 07:43PM
Hi everyone. I'm feeling much better now.
Thanks for all the hugs. Greatly needed at the time.

Steve, have you asked your GP.?
I suffer the same sort of problem in the feet. one doc said it's chilblains
another said the blood's not getting through.
Just so painful. but why only in the winter. ?

NN I did look up raynauds, very similar but, they say can last a few hours.
Whereas mine lasts all winter.  :-(
Did have to smile at this statement though...In many cases it may be possible to control the symptoms
 of Raynaud’s yourself by avoiding the cold..    >erm<  How.??
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Post by: starsmurf on 16 Nov 2013 09:00PM
Sue,

I have Raynaud's syndrome and the bit where they talk about something lasting "a few hours" means an attack where your bloodflow shuts off then comes back in a burning rush, rather than 'feeling cold' and having your hands look cold all the time.  Most people with Raynaud's feel cold all winter, get chilblains etc.

You may only get cold enough to get these symptoms in the winter, my sisters are the same.

Yes, I know the final statement is the most obvious of the century.  I guess what they mean is to avoid getting cold, if you possibly can.  Such as getting out of bed without putting a dressing gown on and then shivering for ages when you get back in.

I recommend having porridge for breakfast in order to warm up when you first get up.  The Raynaud's Association does do advice on how to keep warm with similar suggestions like wearing lots of thin layers rather than one bulky jumper (buy thermals if you can), at night you can wear more than one pair of pyjamas and use more than one duvet on the bed.  It isn't just about turning the heating up.
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 16 Nov 2013 10:35PM
I used to get really cold tops of my fingers.  They went absolutely white and stayed that way for hours.  So I wore fingerless gloves all the time, even indoors. 
Funnily enough after a few years it stopped.  I have no idea why.
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Post by: suessad on 16 Nov 2013 10:43PM
 Thanks starsmurf. I will look up The Raynaud's Association and pick up some tips.

Auntie great to hear yours stopped. >thumbsup<
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Post by: starsmurf on 16 Nov 2013 10:50PM
I used to get really cold tops of my fingers.  They went absolutely white and stayed that way for hours.  So I wore fingerless gloves all the time, even indoors. 
Funnily enough after a few years it stopped.  I have no idea why.

It sounds like Raynaud's, Auntie.  It can stop for no reason or due to hormonal changes (my mum's Raynaud's stopped after she got pregnant then returned in her sixties).  The main thing is, yours has stopped!
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 16 Nov 2013 11:23PM
How interesting.  I hope that you have both found a way to live with yours.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 17 Nov 2013 11:04AM
Starsmirf - you beat me to it! >thumbsup<

Sue - Raynauds can manifest itself in a number of different ways. I get the 'classic' attacks - feet and legs from calf to ankle freezing cold and white for several hours, then hot and burning as circulation is restored. My Mum, on the other hand, who also suffers, has permanently cold, pale fingers throughout the autumn and winter.

As Starsmurf said, the secret is not avoiding the cold, but avoiding getting cold in the first place.  For instance, if I need to go out, I struggle into my 'base layers' while still in bed - cotton tights, a normal pair of heavyish socks, followed by merino wool 'long janes' and thermal mountaineering socks (both relics of my long distant hill-walking days). I use a tights aid to put all of these on, and while it's 'interesting' trying to wrestle with this under a duvet and umpteen blankets, you get the hang of it with practice.  Once out from beneath the covers I put on a heavy chord ankle-length skirt, as I can't wear trousers owing to the pudendal neuralgia, and knee-length boots. The same layering system applies to the upper half of my body - thermal vest, normal top, thin jumper, thick jumper/cardi, and then I have an ankle length wool coat to go over the lot.

There are lots of different 'heated' clothes available. Mum has a pair of heated gloves. They run on D sized rechargeable batteries and do help to prevent her hands from becoming white and icy, especially when she's driving. You can also get heat packs for feet and hands. Some are just for single use, providing heat from a chemical reaction when activated, others you can heat in the microwave. Mountain/outdoor shops have lots, although they can be pricey. Gelert products are at the cheaper end of the market, but still do the job.

When bed-bound (most of the time) I still 'layer up'. I can't wear pyjama bottoms in bed, but wear an ankle-length flannelette nightie (don't look, fellahs, it'll drive you wild >lol< ) with a second, fleecy one over the top, knee-length bed socks, then ordinary bed socks. If I need to get up I put on a pair of fleece pyjama bottoms, and boot-style slippers. If I'm up for any length of time, then I re-warm the bed with a hot water bottle or microwavable 'hottie' before getting back in.

Auntie, I'm glad that yours has cleared off >hugs<

This is the link for the Raynauds Association

http://www.raynauds.org.uk/

 
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Post by: Mabelcat on 17 Nov 2013 04:36PM
I have Raynaud's too but luckily not too badly.  It's s been better recently, probably because I live in Cornwall now which is a lot warmer than Oxford and my flat is warmer than the house in Oxford.  I do have problems with my hands sometimes when I'm working at home but wear fingerless gloves which help.

I do find that if I get really cold it take  me ages to warm up again and when I do it really hurts.
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Post by: sherbs on 17 Nov 2013 07:50PM
I don't have Raynauds, but I do have problems with left leg and foot circulation.

At the moment, my left foot is bright red, and boiling hot, the left calf is freezing cold to touch and the left knee is bright red and boiling hot.

I have had these symptoms since the tumour was discovered and operated on.

It's all to do with the nerves, spinal cord stuff, so I have been told

Very annoying when it's -3 outside and my left calf is freezing but left foot is hot red and sausage toes !!!    >biggrin<
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Post by: Mabelcat on 17 Nov 2013 08:09PM
Such is the power of suggestion I have horribly cold hands and feet this evening.  I now have a cat on my feet which helps but my hands are now burning since I warmed them on a mu of hot chocolate.
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Post by: sherbs on 17 Nov 2013 08:31PM
Such is the power of suggestion I have horribly cold hands and feet this evening.  I now have a cat on my feet which helps but my hands are now burning since I warmed them on a mu of hot chocolate.

Tee hee Mabelcat, we have to laugh or we would cry!!

My left foot is bright red, and it feels really hot to me,  but no !! Now it is freezing cold when I touch it.

How I despise my muddled up body !!    :-(
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Post by: Mabelcat on 17 Nov 2013 08:33PM
Do you want to borrow a cat?  I can spare William for a wee while - the other two are on warming duty.
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Post by: sherbs on 17 Nov 2013 09:02PM
Oh yes please, all donations gratefully received      >biggrin<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 19 Nov 2013 10:28AM
Really love it when Mum has worrying symptoms and just 'forgets' to mention them!

Apparently, for 5 days last week she had a 'funny pain' in the calf of her leg. A woman with severe atrial fibrillation, who is at elevated risk of stoke. A woman who was hospitalised twice in quick succession due to pulmonary embolism and who is now on Warfarin for life. A strange pain in the calf of her leg for 5 days, and she doesn't call a doctor!!

I get that she hates being in hospital - we all hate being in hospital, but I'd respectfully suggest that it's a tad less unpleasant and inconvenient than a stroke!!

Arrgh!!!
   
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Post by: starsmurf on 19 Nov 2013 03:46PM
NN >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs<

I hope it will turn out to be nothing serious. 

Would it help if you, or your mum's GP, explain that if she mentions symtoms at the start, they can often be dealt with quickly and easily at home, while they might need a hospital stay if she waits?  These things can often sound better coming from a doctor, as it's too easy for her to dismiss what you tell her.

Perhaps you could use what she hates against her, so that she mentions stuff to avoid a hospital visit.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 19 Nov 2013 07:51PM
Thanks Starsmurf >hugs<

According to Mum, the pain has now gone, but she is steadfastly refusing to make an an appointment to discuss that specifically. I've extracted a solemn promise that she will raise the subject when she sees her GP about her INR results next week.

I have repeatedly pointed out that early intervention is the key to avoiding hospital stays, and reminded her that even with something as life threatening as the pulmonary embolisms, her stays were brief, and she was discharged as soon as the consultant was satisfied that the Clexane had done its job. Sadly, no family member is listened to.   

Part of the problem is that, as a retired teacher, Mum is more or less immune to all forms of manipulation and reverse psychology, so any advice will have to come from her GP. Here's hoping they have better luck in getting through!
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 19 Nov 2013 10:55PM
At least she is still talking to you NN.  It is when you hear her say 'I remember when I changed your nappies' that you have to get worried!

My mother tells me very little about her ailments.
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 19 Nov 2013 11:32PM
NN, hope all turns out well.

aunty, you do make me smile!
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 20 Nov 2013 09:29AM
At least she is still talking to you NN.  It is when you hear her say 'I remember when I changed your nappies' that you have to get worried!

My mother tells me very little about her ailments.

It must just be a Mum thing, Auntie!

Thanks DD.

Have just phoned, and Mum sounds back to her usual self. Got the 'Oh for heaven's sake, you don't need to keep ringing every 5 minutes' lecture, so I reckon she's out of danger.  ;-)

I certainly don't expect Mum to mention every little ache or pain, I just wish she would seek medical advice, even if it's just a telephone consultation with a GP, when something worrying happens. She admitted she'd been concerned about the possibility of a clot in her leg, so I hope that  her GP can convince her to be up-front about such issues in the future.
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Post by: starsmurf on 20 Nov 2013 09:33AM
If you're concerned that she won't mention the leg pain at her appointment, you have the right to speak to her GP, they just can't tell you anything about her.  Useful bit of information for many people ;-)
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Post by: Yvette on 20 Nov 2013 11:02AM
My next door neighbour - whom I see as little as possible won't go to the doctor and doesn't like phoning him either.

She moans about being in agony but still won't go to her GP - or up her painkillers as she was told to.  I have lost all sympathy and last time she moaned told her that if she wasn't prepared to see or even telephone her GP there was no point in moaning about being in pain, as she was choosing to suffer it - especially as her GP had told her to increase her painkillers.  She says she keeps forgetting to take them. 

I even bought her a kitchen timer so she could remind herself to take them but she says she forgets to set the timer.  Also she says she forgets to take her night time painkillers before she goes to bed and once upstairs can't be bothered to go back downstairs.

I can't understand why she forgets to take her night time painkillers as she has to have an insulin injection before going to bed.  But she told me a few years ago that she sometimes can't be bothered to take that either.

It was the same with the ingrowing toenails on both big toes.  She is diabetic so she could have seen a podiatrist on the NHS (or even paid for one to visit the house as she is comfortably off) but ignored the pain in her toes until they got so bad they became infected and both nails had to be removed at hospital.

The same with her cataracts.  She kept cancelling appointments with the Consultant and when she did go, her leg ulcers (and ingrowing toenails on both big toes) were infected so her wouldn't operate.  Now she can hardly see and moans about that too because the Consultant won't operate until the ulcers have healed up.

She had three ulcers on one leg for a couple of years - because she wouldn't go to the GP about it - but when they eventually got infected and she was in horrendous pain she had to.  They became so bad that the three small ulcers merged into a huge ulcer.   She then had to have treatment for eighteen months and wear a compression bandage before her leg healed - whereas if she had gone straight away her could have been healed within weeks or perhaps a couple of months.

No sooner than the ulcer healed it came back and another ulcer developed on her other leg too - because she wouldn't wear support tights as advised.

She refuses to walk even though she knows she needs to in order to improve the circulation to her legs.   She has always been the same and has never liked walking and would even take her car to go to the shop at the end of the street instead of walking to it.

She won't put her feet up during the day either, despite having a footstool and a pouffe next to the sofa.     She sits on a two seater sofa so she could even sit sideways and put her legs on the sofa.  But no, she sits all day watching tv with her legs down and refuses to exercise.     

She even pays someone to walk the dog because when she bought him as a puppy two years ago, she promised her cousin and me she would walk the dog.  She said that having a dog would make her walk, but she didn't so I said I would report her to the RSPCA if she didn't get a dog walker as it is cruel to keep a puppy and never walk it, especially as she has just a small patio and no garden for it to run around.

She laughs that she is her own worse enemy because she won't go to the GP, which is true.   I have lost all sympathy for her complaining because:

1. She wouldn't have to go without sleep (being in pain keeps her awake) if she asked for stronger painkillers
2. Or even bothered to take the painkillers she has already been prescribed.
3. Her legs wouldn't be so bad if she walked and kept them elevated. 
4. Her cataracts would have been operated on in 2012 if she had followed the instructions from the nurse to wear compression tights which would have prevented the next lot of ulcers.
5. If she had seen a podiatrist she wouldn't have had an infection in both ingrowing big toenails and wouldn't have had to have her big toe nails removed in hospital.   
6. She would be much better in herself if she controlled her diabetes.
7. If she controlled her diabetes, the damage in her eyes would not be so bad.
8. If she had not kept cancelling the appointment with the Consultant, she would have had surgery last year before the leg ulcers returned and would now be able to see to read and drive.

I have come to the conclusion that she wants to feel ill, be in pain and suffer because she refuses to do anything about her health until she is forced to.
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 22 Nov 2013 07:20PM
This lady sounds as though she needs counselling.  She must be enjoying torturing herself for some reason.  Poor lady.
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Post by: suessad on 23 Nov 2013 11:22AM
Is she elderly Yvette, sadly, a lot of them say they don't like to pester the doctor.
Maybe she just needs someone to go with her for encouragement.
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Post by: Yvette on 23 Nov 2013 12:10PM
She isn't much older than me, Sue. 

Yes Auntie, she probably could do with having some counselling but she would never go.

If she wants to suffer that is her choice but I wish she didn't moan so much.  I rarely go round as her continual moaning gets me down.

I have been having the fences around my back garden renewed (the fence between her garden and mine is being done as I type) and I have had the fence put in six foot high to stop her moaning to me over the fence!!!

The fence is on the left, so although she has her own fence (as she is responsible for the fence on her right and my left), I have had my own fence put in on my side and it is much higher than hers, so should give me some privacy next summer.

When I am sitting out in the garden, she used to come out and talk at me over the fence, but she won't be able to do that now, as she won't be able to see me, unless she goes upstairs and leans out of one of her bedroom windows.
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 23 Nov 2013 09:45PM
Needs must Yvette. 

I had my fences raised with trellis on both sides and have trained plants up them.  One side to stop the children looking at me and to stop their balls coming in all the time, and on the other side to try to stop the loud shouting etc that I get from that neighbour.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 23 Nov 2013 10:24PM
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and have trained plants up them

How do you train your plants are they like killer guard Triffids?
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 24 Nov 2013 12:11AM
Oh I wish!  They are very tough plants.
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Post by: SteveX on 25 Nov 2013 12:10PM
How are you guys coping with this cold?

I'm freezing here, I have a temperature display on my clock in my living room and its saying 8.9c right now.. brrrr!!

I'm sat in my sleeping bag with my calor gas heater as close as I dare have it, with it on 1 as I can't afford to use setting 2.

f.f.f.freezing :)  Thankfully my hands are warm as I'm either wearing my fingerless gloves or I'm stroking Sky.

it's a bit crazy when you have to sit in your cold weather clothes inside because you can't afford to turn the heating up.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 25 Nov 2013 01:52PM
I have special dispensation from the housemates to have the heat on for an hour during the day if required, as I'm down with bronchitis again. When the house cools down again, I have the bed swathed in blankets and duvets, and am using 2 hot water bottles, plus the mobile black and white one called George.


It's at times like this I'm glad we live mid-terrace. How those with an additional exterior wall manage to keep warm, I don't know. 
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Post by: SteveX on 25 Nov 2013 02:15PM
Oh.. Get well soon!
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 25 Nov 2013 03:40PM
Cheers, Steve >hugs<

I've just started a course of antibiotics, so hopefully those will knock it on the head. 

About the only good thing about oil-fired heating is that it's easy to budget for, and once you've shelled out to fill the tank, you've got the oil, and there are no nasty surprises waiting around the corner. Even with the cost split 3 ways, it's expensive, and I usually have to start saving for the winter heating bills in March. The 900 litre tank is filled at the start of October, and that has to do us. If the winter is unusually severe we do sometimes have to top up, but with careful rationing the tankful will usually take us through until the spring. The heat being available for anyone who becomes sick during the winter is a house rule, although I generally only take advantage of when bronchitis strikes - cold conditions and a chest infection is not a good combination!

The post office does a budget card which some people find useful. A mate of mine, who has bi-polar and finds managing money difficult, uses it to pay her gas bill. She loads the card during the summer months, while her heating is not in use, then has a bit of a cushion against the winter bills.

http://www.postoffice.co.uk/savings-accounts/budget-card
 

>Edit: Typos
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Post by: Mabelcat on 25 Nov 2013 06:26PM
I have storage heaters on economy seven.  They aren't cheap to run and tend to have cooled down come evening when I really need the heat so I hae a calor fire as well.   The advantage is it's instant heat and you pay upfront for the gas but the price seems to have gone up each time I buy a new refill.  Something I do to help spread the cost is to put some money in a money box each time I put the heater on even if it's just a few pence.  Last time I had a refill I had saved £8 towards the pprice.

Of course you still ahve to find the money but I ahve found it useful.  I do find having three cats really helps as well - they generate a lot of heat.
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Post by: Fiz on 25 Nov 2013 07:00PM
Having vowed to not use the heating this winter to keep costs down I was frozen and couldn't sleep due to constant runny nose due to it so I have turned the heating on to twice a day but set the thermostat at 10 degrees so in reality it comes on in the morning for a while. I am still cold but no longer frozen and am sleeping better. I do have an electric overblanket which I used in the lounge that is cheap to use, my cats love it too! I am feeling the cold more this winter than any other but that is probably down to keep the thermostat down and eating less.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 28 Nov 2013 10:06AM
I do have an electric overblanket which I used in the lounge that is cheap to use, my cats love it too!

Where did you get your overblanket from, Fiz?

Just a wee update on the Mum situation. She has now seen her GP, and has told them about the leg pain. Her INR continues to be a worry, so she's back on weekly blood tests again, which she hates. But there's been no repetition of the pain, so good news there.

One thing she did mention to me, is that her diagnosis of pulmonary embolism isn't mentioned in her consultant's notes! The diagnosis was made at her local hospital, which provides A&E cover during the day, while her consultant is based at the main cardiac centre for NI. Apparently the consultant disagrees with the diagnosis, which rather begs the question, why does she keep Mum on the Warfarin? Mum is due to see the GP again soon, so I hope she will raise this during  the consultation. The GP will have a copy of the A&E doctor's report, so I hope it will be sent to the consultant along with a strongly worded recommendation that it be included in Mum's notes!

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Post by: Fiz on 28 Nov 2013 05:03PM
Yes that definitely needs clarification NN!

This is the blanket I bought though mine only cost £34.99 http://www.amazon.co.uk/Relaxwell-Dreamland-16082-Intelliheat-Chocolate/dp/B00DS5AWMK/ref=sr_1_fkmr1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1385658072&sr=8-1-fkmr1&keywords=heated+dreamland+overblanket (http://www.amazon.co.uk/Relaxwell-Dreamland-16082-Intelliheat-Chocolate/dp/B00DS5AWMK/ref=sr_1_fkmr1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1385658072&sr=8-1-fkmr1&keywords=heated+dreamland+overblanket) It costs 1 pence to run per 3 hour session. Not sure why that one is dearer maybe it is a bigger size than mine. I put it over my body and the cats pile on top and they pur for hours! Must be like lying next to their warm mum I guess.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 28 Nov 2013 08:40PM
Thanks, Fiz!

I'm hoping to get one for Mum as a Christmas prezzie, so it's good to know a make/model that someone else has found to be good.
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Post by: Fiz on 03 Dec 2013 08:50PM
I'm feeling frustrated today. I went to the orthopaedic hip clinic to discuss my trochanteric bursitis which my GP was sure I had in August but it has taken this long to get an ultrasound appointment to confirm, back to GP with results and then referral to this hip clinic. The pain in my hip has been there for about 18 months and is now so painful it hurts to walk at all and what little sleep I get is disturbed as turning on to it wakes me. I didn't like today's Doctor at all, his attitude was arrogant totally. He said there are 3 treatments none is better than any other. One is to leave it as it will recover on its own, given the time I have had this and the pain I am in I am not keen on this option but it was clear by his attitude this was his preferred option. Second is physiotherapy, my personal trainer at the gym is the orthopaedic specialist who has worked in physio departments before and he gives me exercises already, ones that I see demonstrated on the osteo artthritis website too and he knows about bursitis and was explaining helpful things to me but the Doctor said that he holds no bar with such trainers and he wouldn't have a clue. I said I would prefer the third option, the steroid injection and he said how painful it would be and it was no better than leaving it. He asked if I had come alone as he could do it then and there. I said I would like IV diazepam as I have anxiety and had driven there myself and he said his clinic doesn't cater for such sedation and he doesn't know a Doctor or clinic that does. I said I was aware that other trusts do routinely offer sedation. I then said I would go back to my GP and request it and then he said he could write to the main hospital and ask them if they could offer me the procedure under sedation. He was so arrogant and anti the injection I wasn't going to let him near my hip just in case he would try to make a point about how painful it is. I'm not great with men anyway post abuse but ones with this attitude are a definite no for me. Anyway he said that the main hospital has a very long waiting list and so my wait would be ages. I expect his letter there will sit at the bottom of his out tray for a while then. I'm just so disappointed that it seems my pain relief is a while off, I had hoped to have been in less pain at Christmas but it seems not. So a big arrrgghhhhhhh from me  >crying<
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Post by: Mabelcat on 03 Dec 2013 09:06PM
I'm sorry to hear about your experience today and that it will be a while before things can be sorted.  Something I would say is that you may find you get better pain relief from medication if you take it regularly instead of just when you are desperate.  If you do the latter then you are constantly playing catch up and the pain runs away with you.b depending on what you are on you may need to take a stomach protector as well like omeprazole.

I used to do what you do with the meds but do now take them regularly and whilst the pain hasn't gone the edge is taken off.  Many medications come in an extended release versions which can help as well and you don't have to take so many pills.

 >bighugs<
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Post by: Fiz on 04 Dec 2013 02:39AM
yes I may have to take more. Trouble is the only one that is effective is tramadol so far
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Post by: Yvette on 04 Dec 2013 11:19AM
I agree with Mabelcat.  The Pain Clinic Consultant and several GP have all told me that it is better to take painkillers regularly.

What is the problem with taking Tramadol? 

I was on Tramadol for years and it was brilliant.  But I had to come off it last year as it has serious side-effects when you are on SSRI anti-depressants.

I find Oxycontin Modified Release is very good.  I also take Oxynorm as a top-up when necessary.
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Post by: ally on 04 Dec 2013 05:29PM
That's exactly what I take OxyContin m/r release and oxynorm  liquid immediate release for breakthrough pain.  However, the OxyContin m/r release doesn't last 12 hours for me, so, with the GP consent its every 8 hours.  I also take diclofenac amitryptyline and omeprazole.  I agree with mablecat and Yvette its best take pain killers regularly.  If you don't it can cause pain spikes.  I too was on tramadol.  However, I developed constant itchiness, and had to come off it.
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Post by: Fiz on 04 Dec 2013 05:39PM
Tramadol is good and effective and works, the only analgesic I have been given that works but it knocks me out and I definitely can't drive so is quite disabling.
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Post by: Mabelcat on 04 Dec 2013 07:18PM
That's frustrating though some people do find that side effects settle down after a while as your tolerance builds up, especially if you take it regularly.  Could you see if your doctor could prescribe a half dose to be taken regularly to give it a go.  You could then build up the dose gradually.
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Post by: sherbs on 04 Dec 2013 07:35PM
That's exactly what I take OxyContin m/r release and oxynorm  liquid immediate release for breakthrough pain.  However, the OxyContin m/r release doesn't last 12 hours for me, so, with the GP consent its every 8 hours.  I also take diclofenac amitryptyline and omeprazole.  I agree with mablecat and Yvette its best take pain killers regularly.  If you don't it can cause pain spikes.  I too was on tramadol.  However, I developed constant itchiness, and had to come off it.

Ally
Tramadol has the same effects on me, not just itching but it kept me awake too, I just couldn't seem to sit down and relax on Tramadol I was either itching or wide awake !!

Now on  Transtec Patch new Patch every 3 days, before that I was on Butrans Patch, and a few other meds thrown into the pot to keep me going.!!
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Post by: ally on 05 Dec 2013 09:54AM
Sherbs I hope your meds work well for you. I've thought about using patches, but, not sure.  Im fed up with pill popping, but  concerned in case the patches don't work out.  I've been on oxy for a few years now.  I did hope I'd be able to reduce my meds due to the SCS.  However, due to the nature of the SCS its impossible.  If I sneeze or cough it zaps me.  Therefore, if I caught flu or a cold I'd need to switch off.  If I enter or leave a store I activate all the shops anti theft devices.  I've never been stopped once, therefore, if I were that way inclined I could have a great shop lifting spree for Christmas!!! I also wipe barclay connect cards etc.  in fact anything with a magnetic strip.  We've already gone through two cards!!  So, as you see, I have to switch off on lots of occasions, and the pain comes right back.
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Post by: Fiz on 05 Dec 2013 04:53PM
another arrghhh moment. Having hummed and harred for ages about getting a landline fitted, I thought I might push myself to connect with people more. I decided I could afford BT basic landline rental which they do for people on means tested benefits and phoned BT. But despite there being a phoneline here used previously they say it is no longer connected at the exchange and so they need £130 connection fee. So that's not going to happen. I'm not good at dealing with disappointments! Took me ages to take the plunge with this too  >doh<
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Post by: Hurtyback on 05 Dec 2013 04:55PM
Sherbs I hope your meds work well for you. I've thought about using patches, but, not sure.  Im fed up with pill popping, but  concerned in case the patches don't work out.  I've been on oxy for a few years now.  I did hope I'd be able to reduce my meds due to the SCS.  However, due to the nature of the SCS its impossible.  If I sneeze or cough it zaps me.  Therefore, if I caught flu or a cold I'd need to switch off.  If I enter or leave a store I activate all the shops anti theft devices.  I've never been stopped once, therefore, if I were that way inclined I could have a great shop lifting spree for Christmas!!! I also wipe barclay connect cards etc.  in fact anything with a magnetic strip.  We've already gone through two cards!!  So, as you see, I have to switch off on lots of occasions, and the pain comes right back.


That's interesting Ally, I guess I have some of these things to come! I hope that the adaptive stim might be a bit more predictable though.


Fiz  >hugs<  How terribly disappointing!
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Post by: Mabelcat on 05 Dec 2013 08:33PM
another arrghhh moment. Having hummed and harred for ages about getting a landline fitted, I thought I might push myself to connect with people more. I decided I could afford BT basic landline rental which they do for people on means tested benefits and phoned BT. But despite there being a phoneline here used previously they say it is no longer connected at the exchange and so they need £130 connection fee. So that's not going to happen. I'm not good at dealing with disappointments! Took me ages to take the plunge with this too  >doh<

Fiz, it would be worth your while to check out some of the Internet service providers as you may get a free phone connection if you sign up for a broadband deal.  The monthly payments may not be much more or even any more expensive than BT rental prices.  Some of the price comparison sites can help, eg money supermarket.com.
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Post by: starsmurf on 05 Dec 2013 11:13PM
Fiz >hugs< >hugs< >hugs<


Today I had my lidocaine infusion, which I get roughly every three weeks.  While it doesn't do wonders for the pain, I am too scared to stop it in case it is helping the nerve pain and stopping would cause a terrible escalation in the pain.  Today was also important as the small effect it would have on the pain would allow me to take part in my choir concert (if my choirmistress decides that I can use my wheelchair - another story).

Today, due to the high winds, we could not safely set off at our normal time of 8am.  We decided to wait until about 10am.  Then a lorry driver decided to take his lorry across a very exposed bridge on the M90, a major Scottish motorway, which is sited so that the westerly wind would be blowing straight into the side...

You won't be surprised to hear that it flipped over, with the goods part hanging off the edge of the bridge.  I hope the guy is ok but I can't understand why you'd take a lorry onto that bridge in that weather when we wouldn't attempt it in a car.  You can take a route through Perth and rejoin the motorway, adding maybe 15 minutes onto your journey but sparing everyone else hours of traffic jams.

It took me and my dad two-and-a-half hours to go 30 miles to hospital, with the last 23 miles or so being in normal traffic.

So I'm now four hours late for my drip.  No problems, the nurses get the stuff flowing before I've been there five minutes.  The drip should take five hours, they can't get permission to run the stuff any faster.  Then my dad tells the nurse that we'll have to leave at 4pm, in three hours.  I ask why and get told it's because my eldest sister has decided she wants to go to a concert at Perth Concert Hall that night, which means my mum and dad have to go too.  I'm puzzled, as it starts at 7.30, so why does he need to be home before 5pm?

Because they're going out for dinner beforehand, at 5.30.

I see the same people each time I have the infusion and when I said I had to stop before 4pm, they asked why.  I explained and this lovely lady Doreen looks disgusted and says, "so that's more important than your treatment?".

I have to answer yes.

What hurts the most, what's eating me up inside tonight, is that I know were my eldest sister and my positions reversed, the whole evening, not just the meal, would be cancelled.  I'd be upset at the weather but I wouldn't begrudge my sister her treatment.  I'd understand that my dad would be exhausted after a day's driving and getting up at 7am (he's 70).

Instead, I'm just sitting here, crossing my fingers that the pain won't go out of control over the next few weeks.  I get my next one two days before Christmas, but it wouldn't have time to take effect before Christmas.  In fact, it could take three drips before I got back to where I am at the moment, which is being in unbearable pain most of the time.  Even if it doesn't, all my hard work with the choir is totally wasted.  I won't get to sing those songs that make my soul soar to heaven.

Nice to know how important I am to my family.
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Post by: Fiz on 05 Dec 2013 11:48PM
starsmurf  >hugs<

trouble with the phone line thing is bt basic is less than a fiver a month and I;d decided i could afford that
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Post by: Hurtyback on 06 Dec 2013 11:15AM
Starsmurf  >hugs< >hugs<  I'm so sorry, I know there is nothing I can say that will take away this hurt - which is probably worse than the physical pain that you experience all the time.
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Post by: seegee on 06 Dec 2013 11:49AM
 >bighugs< starsmurf >bighugs<

Fiz, hope you can get your phone line sorted before too long. >hugs<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 06 Dec 2013 03:28PM
 >bighugs< That's a terrible thing for your sister to do to you, starsmurf >bighugs<

I hope you can get your phone sorted soon, fiz >bighugs<
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 06 Dec 2013 03:55PM
extra   >bighugs< to all that need them at the moment
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Post by: Mabelcat on 06 Dec 2013 06:44PM
Starsmurf - that must be so hurtful for you.  I hope the three hour infusion will prove sufficient to keep you going.
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 06 Dec 2013 07:30PM
Dear starsmurf,

I have had a similar thing happen to me, so I know how betrayed you must be feeling.  Your parents are torn between the two of you. 

I do not think there is anything that you can do about this except maybe write to your sister and tell her how you feel.  There could have been a compromise whereby they missed the meal but went to the concert.  You could emphasise that you are happy to talk over any compromises that are needed as long as it is done at least a few days before anything similar happens.  Maybe always have alternative plans for the days when you need to get to the hospital.

 >hugs< >hugs< >hugs<
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Post by: starsmurf on 06 Dec 2013 07:58PM
Dear starsmurf,

I have had a similar thing happen to me, so I know how betrayed you must be feeling.  Your parents are torn between the two of you. 

I do not think there is anything that you can do about this except maybe write to your sister and tell her how you feel.  There could have been a compromise whereby they missed the meal but went to the concert.  You could emphasise that you are happy to talk over any compromises that are needed as long as it is done at least a few days before anything similar happens.  Maybe always have alternative plans for the days when you need to get to the hospital.

 >hugs< >hugs< >hugs<

Thanks Auntie >hugs< and everyone else  >hugs< >hugs< >hugs< >hugs< >hugs< >hugs<

It wasn't that my sister demanded that my parents still go out for the meal, so they were caught between the two of us, there was no discussion to my knowledge.  It was simply that my parents didn't even think of cancelling the meal part, it just didn't occur to them that my treatment should be prioritised over a meal.  They could easily have made the concert and I could still have had the full infusion.

If it were a one-off, long-anticipated meal at a fancy restaurant with a long waiting list, I could understand.  It wasn't, it's a simple restaurant, the kind that has fake memorabilia on the walls and serves pizzas and various Italian foods.  I've not been in a long time but I think it's a good restaurant.  They go there a lot as they often go to the concert hall and the restaurant is just across the street and has wheelchair access.

As I said, had it been the other way around, there would've been no question of me and my parents going out.  They would've cancelled the whole thing.  My mum would've called and said that my sister's infusion wouldn't finish until ten to six and that when he got home, my dad would be exhausted.

It's the fact that the difference in the way my parents treat the two of us even affects my healthcare.  I wasn't asking for them to cancel the concert, just the meal part.  I will try to talk to my parents about it this weekend but I doubt they'll apologise and say they were wrong.  They'll justify it and make me out to be selfish for expecting them to give up their meal out.
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Post by: sherbs on 06 Dec 2013 09:40PM
Dear starsmurf,

I have had a similar thing happen to me, so I know how betrayed you must be feeling.  Your parents are torn between the two of you. 

I do not think there is anything that you can do about this except maybe write to your sister and tell her how you feel.  There could have been a compromise whereby they missed the meal but went to the concert.  You could emphasise that you are happy to talk over any compromises that are needed as long as it is done at least a few days before anything similar happens.  Maybe always have alternative plans for the days when you need to get to the hospital.

 >hugs< >hugs< >hugs<

Thanks Auntie >hugs< and everyone else  >hugs< >hugs< >hugs< >hugs< >hugs< >hugs<

It wasn't that my sister demanded that my parents still go out for the meal, so they were caught between the two of us, there was no discussion to my knowledge.  It was simply that my parents didn't even think of cancelling the meal part, it just didn't occur to them that my treatment should be prioritised over a meal.  They could easily have made the concert and I could still have had the full infusion.

If it were a one-off, long-anticipated meal at a fancy restaurant with a long waiting list, I could understand.  It wasn't, it's a simple restaurant, the kind that has fake memorabilia on the walls and serves pizzas and various Italian foods.  I've not been in a long time but I think it's a good restaurant.  They go there a lot as they often go to the concert hall and the restaurant is just across the street and has wheelchair access.

As I said, had it been the other way around, there would've been no question of me and my parents going out.  They would've cancelled the whole thing.  My mum would've called and said that my sister's infusion wouldn't finish until ten to six and that when he got home, my dad would be exhausted.

It's the fact that the difference in the way my parents treat the two of us even affects my healthcare.  I wasn't asking for them to cancel the concert, just the meal part.  I will try to talk to my parents about it this weekend but I doubt they'll apologise and say they were wrong.  They'll justify it and make me out to be selfish for expecting them to give up their meal out.

Unbelievable !! Your sister is the selfish one not you Starsmurf, Honestly family, it just does my head in

I am again expected to drag myself to Ireland for Christmas, do all the cooking, shopping, cleaning and all that extra that Christmas entails, albeit I will be with my sister, but my parents have no incline as to how I struggle with just getting to Ireland yet alone being a skivvy

I feel so guilty saying what I just said, and would never say this to my sister, as she is so good to my parents always over there helping them, but with me they think I can cope fine with it all, just because I look "fine",

My sister says well it could be their last Christmas, which she has been saying for the past 6 Christmas'.  See now I feel  guilty again, I can't do right for doing wrong can I  !!.
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Post by: Yvette on 07 Dec 2013 09:44AM
starsmurf, you sister needs a  >uprightchristmastree<   up her backside.

Instead of asking your Dad to take you for your infusions, how about asking for hospital transport?  It is free to people on benefits.
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Post by: Yvette on 07 Dec 2013 09:45AM
Sherbs, can you write to your sister and parents and tell them how exhausted and ill you are?

Can you explain in advance that you can't manage what you used to do?
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 07 Dec 2013 02:12PM
Starsmurf, it may be that your parents just aren't aware of the full extent of the terrible pain you're having to live with, and your fears about what might happen if the infusion doesn't have its full effect.  I know that my Mum wasn't aware of how bad things could get for me until I collapsed at her house one day, and had to be carted off to the hospital for morphine. It may be that on this occasion you have to metaphorically put your foot down and say that it's just not acceptable that your treatment is disrupted.

I would agree with Yvette's suggestions, both about trying to arrange some hospital transport so that you never need risk having this happen to you again, and regarding the correct positioning of a Christmas tree, vis a vis certain familial backsides.  >bighugs<

 >bighugs< for you as well, Sherbs.

I've managed to cause some distress to my own family today. It's Mum's birthday, and I hobbled forth from bed to discover her card sitting, stamped, addressed and ready to go on the bedside table! Poor Mum - as her birthday is so close to Christmas, she has had to put up with no end of people forgetting to post her a card in time. When I phoned to give the shame-faced confession, she was not a happy bunny, and rightly so! There wasn't much I could do but offer a sincere apology, and face the music. Once she'd simmered down, I was able to explain that, by way of compensation, a nice Interflora bouquet is winging it's way to her front door, which did seem to cheer her up a bit. We have arranged to go out tomorrow, health permitting - I think giving Mum the dreaded lurgie might just add insult to injury!

Talk about feeling a complete heel!
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Post by: Mabelcat on 07 Dec 2013 04:53PM
Why is it when you run out of medication it's the one you can't do without.  It's clonidine which I take for hot flushes.  It's not harmful to miss it and doesn't cause withdrawal symptoms but missing it means terrible flushes for the next few days.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 07 Dec 2013 05:10PM
 >bighugs< >bighugs<I hope that it won't be as bad as you fear, Mabecat.
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Post by: Fiz on 07 Dec 2013 05:11PM
(((NN))) sounds like by making amends and contact about it no heel was made at all  >hugs<

I'm a terrible tablet hoarder mabel so I've never run out of any medication ever. Hope you manage to get some more on Monday  >hugs<
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 07 Dec 2013 05:35PM
Oh Mabelcat, I have some spare clonidine.  Hang on I'll just throw some over the garden wall to you.   >dove<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 07 Dec 2013 06:19PM
Thanks, Fiz. >hugs<  Mum's flowers arrived with her very quickly and she's chuffed with them.  I'm glad. It would have been awful for her to have to spend her birthday feeling forgotten.

Mabelcat, have my fingers crossed that you can get your medication sorted out quickly on Monday.  >x-fingers<
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Post by: Mabelcat on 07 Dec 2013 06:26PM
I should be ok.  At least hot flushes aren't so bad in winter.  I may be lucky - it all depends on various unknowable factors which are probably out of my control anyway.
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Post by: Fiz on 08 Dec 2013 04:31PM
Hip absolutely excruciating today, can hardly move it. Took tramadol and am completely away with the fairies, so dizzy I can hardly stand but unfortunately hasn't knocked me out sleepwise or even touched the pain at all. What a waste! I don't know what to do with myself with this pain.

In better news I have managed to phone sky and have negotiated a really good package deal. I currently have Virgin for internet only here and with sky for £9 a month more I will get the unlimited internet, TV entertainment package with sky+, phone line rental with no reconnection fee and unlimited phone calls so I'm happy. It will be so nice to be able to talk to dd whenever. I struggle with phones but am going to challenge myself and use it socially, I guess like my recurrent depression it will get more use when I'm well than when I'm not. Connection just before Christmas.
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 08 Dec 2013 04:41PM
Excellent  >thumbsup<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 08 Dec 2013 05:10PM
If you struggle with phones don't forget skype is always an option.
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Post by: sherbs on 09 Dec 2013 09:50PM
Hip absolutely excruciating today, can hardly move it. Took tramadol and am completely away with the fairies, so dizzy I can hardly stand but unfortunately hasn't knocked me out sleepwise or even touched the pain at all. What a waste! I don't know what to do with myself with this pain.

In better news I have managed to phone sky and have negotiated a really good package deal. I currently have Virgin for internet only here and with sky for £9 a month more I will get the unlimited internet, TV entertainment package with sky+, phone line rental with no reconnection fee and unlimited phone calls so I'm happy. It will be so nice to be able to talk to dd whenever. I struggle with phones but am going to challenge myself and use it socially, I guess like my recurrent depression it will get more use when I'm well than when I'm not. Connection just before Christmas.

Brilliant fizz.

I opted for a Sky Package and I saved money, rather than having everything separate, ie, I had BT phone, Virgin Broadband and Sky free sat, I got the basic 3 services package and pay slightly more than what Virgin Broadband were charging just for Broadband alone !!
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 20 Dec 2013 02:00AM
Ugh - it's back.

I've got a sliced up arm, a head covered in lumps and bruises, and have probably alienated just about everyone by being shouty, sweary and generally unpleasant.

Is there any formal application process I can use to ask that the Fear Demon be taken outside and shot?

Sorry. Just needed a bit of a rant.

>Edit: Adding warning triangle.
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Post by: starsmurf on 20 Dec 2013 03:41AM
NN >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 20 Dec 2013 11:05AM
Thanks Starsmurf.  >bighugs< >bighugs<

I'm so disappointed that this has happened - it's the first time in ages. I can't even identify what the trigger was, so I'm now also worried about going to Mum's house over the holidays. 

The first indication that things might be spiralling out of control was on Wednesday evening. I was in the kitchen, my housemates were in the living room. Out of nowhere I  began to feel incredibly stressed and angry. Every little noise seemed unbearable, and I had to fight the urge to shout at them to turn the television down. I managed to ride it out, but the same feeling returned yesterday evening, and I wasn't able to prevent the eruption. I'm still feeling very on edge, jumping at the slightest sound, and am not really sure what to do for the best. Doubt if I can get an appointment with my CPN so close to Christmas.  :-( 

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Post by: Hurtyback on 20 Dec 2013 03:57PM
NN  >hugs<


My aaarrrrgggghhhh is related to Mr H's cab, which seems to be off the road more than on at the moment  >angry<
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 20 Dec 2013 04:22PM
Oh dear NN.  Still, better out than trying to hold it all in, and building up to an even bigger explosion.  I hope that you can find it within yourself to apologise to anyone who may have been upset.  I'm sure that they will forgive you.

As for over Christmas.  Well, you seem to have an inkling that something is about to happen, so maybe you can just exclude yourself from the rest of the family for a short while.  Go to your room, go out for a walk, climb the nearest tree!!!
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Post by: Fiz on 20 Dec 2013 04:26PM
 >hugs< >chocolate<
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Post by: suessad on 20 Dec 2013 04:53PM
NN.  >bighugs<
I think Auntie is right.
A lot of stress is caused by Christmas. Hope you can relax a little and enjoy your mums lovely cooking.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 20 Dec 2013 05:00PM
Thanks for the hugs, Hurty, and have several yourself.  >hugs< >hugs< >hugs< >hugs<

If I find a way of kicking the Fear Demon where it hurts, I'll send it on a mission to kick whatever is causing Mr Hurty's cab to be unreliable. The idea of losing so much potential income must be very stressful for both of you. >bighugs<

Had a long and very productive chat with a woman at the crisis response helpline earlier today. I've posted the number for it in the 'Where to Find Help' thread.

She helped to untangle my mind a bit, and identify some stressors that can be addressed fairly easily, so that anxiety levels can be reduced.  I've decided on a cover story for the bandaged arm and have sketched out what to say when apologising to my housemates for shouting at them - I want to be honest about how I was feeling, but without overburdening them, if that makes sense. I'm very tearful today, but as tears are part of the body's normal mechanism for dealing with intense emotions, that's a positive thing. Better that it comes out as a few good, stormy cries than hurting yourself and shouting at some of your best mates.

Auntie, Fiz and Sue, thanks.  >hugs< >hugs< >hugs<
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 20 Dec 2013 06:10PM
NN, pleased to hear that you are feeling a bit better today.

Hurty you have my sympathy.  I'm waiting for hubby to get home on the back of an AA truck as the engine has died on his van today.  It's a right off. Just what we need at his busiest time of the year.   >doh<
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Post by: Mabelcat on 20 Dec 2013 06:44PM
Oh Sh*t.  I clipped someone's wing mirror this afternoon, it was completely my fault, I had just overtaken a cyclist when the visibility wasn't good.  The chap was furious, which is understandable, but hard to deal with.  We are not going through insurance, thankfully.

I actually spoke to him just now and he was fine.  It's going to be £70 which I can manage and fortunately I can pay the garage directly so I don't have to see him again. 

I just feel so stupid and I can't stop crying.  I guess it doesnt help that I had a very near miss yesterday when someone pulled out in front of me and missed me by inches.  He was on his phone.
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Post by: Mabelcat on 20 Dec 2013 06:45PM
 >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs<

To NN and Hurty.
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 20 Dec 2013 07:30PM
These things happen when one is not feeling too brilliant.  It goes with the territory I'm afraid.  At least noone was hurt and your shock will go away by the morning, I promise.

 >hugs< >hugs<
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Post by: Mabelcat on 20 Dec 2013 07:48PM
I'm going to go down to the garage to pay up and then I hope to forget thhe whole thing.
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 20 Dec 2013 07:50PM
These things happen mabelcat.  Don't beat yourself up over it  >hugs<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 20 Dec 2013 10:18PM
Wing mirrors are always getting clipped thats why they are hinged its no big deal so once you've sorted the payment forget it don't beat you're self up about it.  >bighugs<
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Post by: Mabelcat on 20 Dec 2013 10:29PM
What's really annoying is that there is just a small scratch on mine.  A good thing is he uses the same garage as me and I do trust them not to rip me off.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 20 Dec 2013 10:49PM
My car has loads of scratches and dings and one really bad dent from people who have clipped my car when it has  been parked up on various car parks not one of them has left their details or stopped he is lucky you are not one of those and are paying up glad that you can trust the garage not to over charge you.
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Post by: Mabelcat on 20 Dec 2013 11:24PM
I would have stopped anyway but as my car is a very vivid bright green and the only one of it's kind locally I wouldn't really have been able to get away with it.

In common with many others locally I have a small dent in my car as a souvenir of my lovely next door neighbour who died last week.  Her driving was legendary in the village and surroundings and potentially lethal.  She finally stopped at 87 when I shopped her to the DVLA - oops nearly wrote DLA.  She was a real sweetie and very kind but had a wicked sense of humour.  At 90 she had done pretty well and will be sorely missed.

It is her funeral on Monday with a do afterwards and we are aiming to celebrate her life.  RIP Mary.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 21 Dec 2013 03:34AM
Mabelcat   >hugs< >hugs<

I know it's been said before, but you've nothing to beat yourself up about. It was an accident, and you have done everything in your power to make amends for what happened, which is a lot more than some others would have done. There's no off street parking in this area, so folk are forever getting their wing mirrors clipped - half the time no-one has the decency to say they were responsible.

Hopefully you're beginning to feel a bit less shocked by now.  >mug-tea<

Had a bit of amends-making to do tonight myself. I apologised to my housemates once they'd arrived home and eaten. They were both lovely about it, and it's a relief to know that we're all still friends. I'm lucky to know such nice people.
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Post by: Mabelcat on 21 Dec 2013 11:11AM
I'm feeling a bit better about it this morning as I've been to the garage this morning and paid up.  I wouldn't normally pay upfront but it's my garage and I've used them for years so I know I can trust them.
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Post by: Mabelcat on 21 Dec 2013 11:13AM
NN - meant to add that I'm glad you have sorted things out with your housemates.  The first time I was really unwell I was in a shared house and I remember how hard it was sometimes.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 21 Dec 2013 12:41PM
I'm really glad you're starting to feel better, Mabelcat  >hugs< >hugs<

Ditchdellers, I hope that your hubby's van is on the mend!  >hugs< >hugs<
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Post by: Becca7 on 21 Dec 2013 01:13PM
ARGH. Definitely ARGH.

Struggling a lot keeping my emotions in check and keep crying or snapping at people. Not good.

And why can't people just do their jobs properly?!!! Instead of not and then blaming me for it!!!
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 21 Dec 2013 03:27PM
 >bighugs< >bighugs<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 21 Dec 2013 06:02PM
Nearly three hours in city center shopping having people who would rather walk through you than around you pushing you aside and banging into you. The having to stand on the tram back home while two ignorant twenty somethings kiss and ca-noodle while sitting in the priority seats I think that qualifies as an ARGH.



But I'm not sure.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 21 Dec 2013 06:37PM
I reckon so, Dic.  >hugs< >chocolate< >hugs< >chocolate<
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 21 Dec 2013 06:44PM
Me too.  I hope you managed to get the things that you needed through the crowds.   >chocolate<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 21 Dec 2013 07:11PM
Yes got just about everything not going back there for a long time I hate city centres  at the best of times.
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 21 Dec 2013 07:13PM
Hi Dic, Have you mastered the art of getting people to give up their seat to you yet?  I find it much better to ask them if they are disabled than stand in agony getting more bitter about it as the journey proceeds.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 21 Dec 2013 09:50PM
Not quite auntie but I got so fed up I was about to ask when the tram stopped and they got off so I was able to sit for the last couple of stops good job really because I was on my last legs by then.
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Post by: Mabelcat on 21 Dec 2013 10:06PM
I was on a train some years ago and there were a lot of us standing - this wasn't a problem for me at that stage.  There was a young woman with a babe in arms and she also had a bag and a folded buggy to contend with.  I actually went into the carriage and ask if someone would give their seat up for her.  Amazingly three young men stood up.

Looking back I am quite impressed with myself.  I'm not sure I would have the nerve, on my own behalf or someone else's.
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Post by: sherbs on 21 Dec 2013 10:08PM
Awww Dic, sorry you had a horrid day, put it all behind you know.    >hugs<

Oh the glory of on-line shopping, I got all my Pressies cards gift wrap etc. on line.

If I were here for Christmas all the food would have been via online too.

I gave up City Centres years ago !!
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Post by: Fiz on 21 Dec 2013 10:37PM
hats off to you dic you were very brave
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Post by: SteveX on 24 Dec 2013 01:35PM
Aargh!!!

Many thanks to the DWP scumbags for ruining my Xmas this year.   Xmas eve and I get a brown envelope telling me I have a WRAG appointment for the first week in Jan with the nasty piece of work guy that made me very very Ill before and well.. I'll say no more about that.

But I'm now looking at the clock and counting the days, rather than enjoying Xmas..  You really couldn't let me enjoy it once huh?   Bastards.   >crying<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 24 Dec 2013 08:15PM
What can I say Steve but  >bighugs<

And try not to let it spoil your holiday too much.
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Post by: Fiz on 24 Dec 2013 08:25PM
sorry to hear that steve  >hugs<
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Post by: Hurtyback on 25 Dec 2013 09:40PM
 >bighugs<  to Steve, Dic, DD, NN and Mabelcat
 
and thank you for yours. Mr Hurty's cab is mended and on the road again, he has put in a full day today.
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Post by: SteveX on 26 Dec 2013 04:58PM
Thanks for the hugs, love you all!
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 26 Dec 2013 09:32PM
Nil Illegitimi Carborundum, Steve  ;-)
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Post by: starsmurf on 27 Dec 2013 04:54PM
I think you mean Illegitimi Nil Carborundum Kizzy  ;-) 

Latin changes meaning depending on where the words are in the sentence.  The best I could understand your sentence, my Latin is somewhat rusty, was "no b******s underground" which would give a rather different kind of encouragement...
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 27 Dec 2013 05:52PM
Steve  >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs<

It's not even the end of December yet, so please try not to worry.


I think you mean Illegitimi Nil Carborundum Kizzy  ;-) 

Ahem - inflection tends to negate syntax in most cases, but it's wrong anyway. The 'nil' should be 'non' but as it's only a mock-latin phrase, it's makes feck all sense no matter which way it's written.  ;-)

Now don't make me get out Caesar's works on Latin grammar. Please.  ;-) (That's not a wink, it's a nervous tic)
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Post by: starsmurf on 27 Dec 2013 05:59PM
Sorry NN, you're right >doh<

I had corrected the nil to non originally and when I had to redo the post (cat sleeping on keyboard) forgot to do it again.

My own nervous tic is starting again...
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Post by: ally on 28 Dec 2013 07:17AM
Hope everyone's had a decent Christmas, or, as best as it possibly can be.  I'm in Dubai at the moment.  However, my stupid new impacted wisdom tooth blew up a few days ago.  I tried to ignore it.  However,, my face swelled along with my glands and I had a temperature which gave me migraine.  Not good.  As I'm here for another 10 days it was obvious I couldn't remain the way I was.  Yesterday I went to a walk in centre expecting to pay a fortune.  I came away with omoxicillin for just over £5!!! No charge for the chat. I couldn't believe it.  I pay monthly for my meds, and the prescription charges are now £7.85 per one item. I think somehow we are being short changed somewhere!!  Of course had it been an operation it would've been costly.  However, I was greatly surprised by the above.
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 28 Dec 2013 08:27AM
Oh Ally, anything to do with toothache is so miserable  >thumbsdown<  >angry< - hope you can enjoy the rest of your holiday now you have antibiotics  >x-fingers<
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Post by: Yvette on 28 Dec 2013 10:03AM
Ally  >hugs<
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 28 Dec 2013 11:20AM
Toothache is just horrible.   Hope it doesn't interfere with the holiday too much. 
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Post by: Hurtyback on 28 Dec 2013 12:26PM
Ally  >hugs< I hope that anitb's do the trick and you are soon feeling much better.
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Post by: ally on 28 Dec 2013 01:34PM
Thanks for the support.  I was so concerned in case it turned out to be costly.  Fortunately, as said, it turned out ok.  I'm just waiting for the swelling going down now.  I've been living off soup and ice cream.  Our son took us out for an expensive Christmas meal.  Luckily, it was buffet style, so I could chose soft food such as sea food.  Nothing chewy for me for a while I'm afraid.  At least the ice cream is lush here, and only half the calories.  Hopefully, I'll have an appointment for the dental hospital on return.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 28 Dec 2013 02:19PM
Ally  >bighugs< >bighugs<

I had something similar happen abut 20 odd years ago, and can still remember how painful it was. Hopefully the amoxycillin will get the swelling reduced quickly. My dentist advised me to wash the gum with a solution of hot, very salty water several times a day. It tasted foul, but did seem to help.

I hope you're feeling much better soon.  >hugs<



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Post by: ally on 28 Dec 2013 03:10PM
NN thanks I couldn't bring my usual mouth wash corsodyl with me.  They don't sell  it here as it contains alcohol!!  I've bought a similar one out here, but,  obviously wasn't as good as the one at home.  I wouldn't care corsodyl tastes foul.  Anyone wanting to down a bottle of that good luck to them!!
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Post by: Sunshine Meadows on 28 Dec 2013 04:36PM
 >bighugs< I hope your wisdom tooth calms down soon.

Kizzy,

I dont know Latin but suspect what you said was Dont let the bastards grind you down. It is good advice.

Steve,

I wonder if it would be worth saying something to the Jobcentre bloke about how the way the work related interviews have been so stressful they are knocking your confidence when it comes to doing any work related activity. The sub text being the bloke is making the interviews harder than going to work would be.

I am not sure I explained that very well.
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Post by: starsmurf on 28 Dec 2013 04:53PM
NN thanks I couldn't bring my usual mouth wash corsodyl with me.  They don't sell  it here as it contains alcohol!!  I've bought a similar one out here, but,  obviously wasn't as good as the one at home.  I wouldn't care corsodyl tastes foul.  Anyone wanting to down a bottle of that good luck to them!!

Try the salt water rinse as it will kill the germs.  It tastes horrible but it is what you should use when you can't use the Cordosyl.  It's helped me when I've had problems.  If you do it several times a day it should help clear the problem up.

After you've made it, allow the water to cool until you can comfortably rinse it round your mouth.  There is no point in making it if you can't rinse with it for several seconds. 
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 17 Jan 2014 01:06AM
*deep breath*

Right. This is a trivial issue to raise here, but ...

Later this morning, I might have to tell someone I've been mates with for years that they've now succeeded in hurting me so badly, I don't really want to see them any more.

I've put up with their endless comments, digs and snide remarks for years, blaming myself and making excuses for the other person after my initial hurt and anger had died down.

I've been frank with the other person about the impact their remarks have had. I've told them how worthless they've made me feel, and that it's extremely difficult to be good humoured and jovial while a person who is meant to be your friend makes a fool out of you in public. You don't even get an apology. You're just told that you're being 'over-sensitive', or worse, you're asked if you've taken your medication. That sort of comment always helps, because, as a Mentally Ill Person, all my negative emotions can be attributed to a lack of pharmaceutical intervention.

Now the person is taking the piss out of my wheelchair.  And yes, I have told them that I'm finding it more than a bit hurtful. Apparently my wheelchair is massive, huge and unwieldy. Really? I wonder why that could be? Could it be that I'm six feet long, my pelvis has to tilt at a funny angle when I'm sitting down,  and the chair has been constructed accordingly? Oh and I especially loved the little comment made over the phone yesterday, about my looking as though I should be flogging Belfast Telegraphs at a junction somewhere. Well done that person - you can be casually fekking racist, as well as being a prat.

   
The words 'Dear Hurtful Person, may I ask you in the nicest possible way to feck away off, because I'd rather not hear from you again.' spring to mind.






******* Sweary words below*******

Oh, bollocks. I can already hear my inner 'excuse machine' revving up.  This is quite bad, because it means that I'm probably not going to confront the person today. I'll probably just mumble a load of honk about how it's all my fault and I just to toughen up and grow a sense of humour.

But I'll still be think about telling them where to stick their comments.


Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: ditchdwellers on 17 Jan 2014 04:39AM
That's a horrible situation to be in  >hugs<
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Fiz on 17 Jan 2014 09:50AM
Oh gosh NN I feel for you. I have removed a few people from my life in the past, one of them was my sister. All I can say is I have never ever regretted the decision to do so. Each decision was measured, took a while coming, and wasn't impuslive. I am so much better off without such negative down putting people in my life. I am hoping that like me the decision wrangle is the struggle and once you have acted on your decision you will feel at peace and know you have done the right thing  >hugs<  >dove< >chocolate<
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 17 Jan 2014 11:35AM
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I am so much better off without such negative down putting people in my life.

Ditto, I've shed a few along the way as well - you know the old saying 'With friends like these, who needs enemies'  >erm<   And most definitely this is not 'a trivial issue to raise here' (in fact, nothing is 'trivial' if it's causing distress in any way, as far as I'm concerned).  This person will, if allowed, continue to hold you back in your own efforts to deal with the trials that various impairments are throwing at you.  Get rid as soon as  >thumbsup<
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: seegee on 17 Jan 2014 11:47AM
  With mates like that...
         Seriously, is the person any kind of friend at all, or someone you put up with because they are around? 
    If you can persuade them not to be around, that may be better for you (and they'll find someone else to feel superior to, as they probably need that to bolster their fragile self-worth - it does not have to be you); you don't have to put up with stupid hurtful remarks disguised as jokes from anyone, least of all from so-called friends.  >bighugs< >bighugs<
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 17 Jan 2014 02:43PM
Thanks, everyone.  >bighugs<

I've decided to set my feelings out in a letter to the person - that way I can avoid backing away from the issue, or allowing myself to be talked out of what I'm trying to say.

The letter leaves the ball firmly in the other person's court. If they're honestly sorry for what they've done, and want to get in touch to apologise, then that's fine and I'll certainly accept the apology if it's sincere. But I've made it clear, politely but firmly, that I won't take any more cruel, one-sided jokes about my impairments.

I don't mind a bit of affectionate 'sleggin'  - now and again my houemates refer to me as 'Two Soups', after the character played by Julie Walters in the Victoria Wood sketch. The big difference is that it's a joke I started myself, they both know where to draw the line with it and they'd never dream of making it away from home, or when I'm obviously struggling or really upset.   
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Hurtyback on 17 Jan 2014 03:15PM
NN  >hugs<  I can't think of any definition under which this person would count as a 'friend'! This is someone who needs to put other people down in order to feel adequate. I doubt that you will ever be able to change that behaviour. What you can change is your own part in this dynamic - tell him/her to go away and find someone else to be the but of the 'humour'.
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: auntieCtheM on 17 Jan 2014 07:54PM
They may think that they are being funny, that is the problem.  Some people can be so very lacking in imagination. 

It is about time you did something about this person.  Is it worth putting up with their behaviour because what you get out of the friendship is so valuable.  Or is their friendship just a habit?  Do you think they are likely to change how they behave towards you; if so it is worth trying. 

But if they do not change you must seriously ask yourself if it is worth having them in your life.  Good luck and remember we are all behind you.   >hugs<
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: AndMac on 17 Jan 2014 08:33PM
I'm really glad you have decided to write a letter setting things out, NN.
I echo what Auntie said and especially what Hurtyback said.

I have come across a couple of people like your friend.
 I hope I don't upset you with this, but I can't let it go past.
They were really nasty pieces of work, frankly.
 They got their kicks by treating some others as badly as they could, because it amused them to see how those persons always came back for more, because well, they were 'friends', weren't they?

 They loved playing mind games, they are probably re-surfacing as internet trolls these days.
 A surprising number of people can only make themselves feel good by putting something really miserable into the lives of others. 

Equally, the kindness, love and support that I've seen on Ouch Too is something to restore faith in human nature. :)
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Yvette on 17 Jan 2014 09:17PM
NN, you don't need someone like her in your life.  It can be hard to let go of friends, or family members, but for our own well being we have to.

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The letter leaves the ball firmly in the other person's court. If they're honestly sorry for what they've done, and want to get in touch to apologise, then that's fine and I'll certainly accept the apology if it's sincere.


NN, I would be very surprised if this person apologised because if they were half-way decent they would never have been so unpleasant to you in the first place - especially as they have been making endless comments, digs and snide remarks for years.

It sounds as if being nasty is ingrained into their being. 

It can be very disconcerting cutting yourself off from someone who has been in your life for years and you may feel a bit lonely - but giving yourself the freedom to be yourself without anyone criticising you (because of the deficiencies in their own personality) will give you the opportunity to do some nice things for yourself and maybe meet a nice friend too.

Sometimes we have to close the door on one part of our life before a new opportunity presents itself.   May you be happy and able to value yourself. >hugs<


Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 17 Jan 2014 10:53PM
Thanks, all of you  >bighugs<

The person phoned earlier. Thankfully no-one else was in, so I was able to ignore the call.

I've now completed the letter and made a fair copy to post. My handwriting is atrocious, especially when I'm upset, but I hate to type letters about anything deeply personal or emotional into a word-processing document, then print them out to send. Doing that feels a bit inauthentic, as though the words don't really belong to me (if that makes sense).

Update: It's in the post. 
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: WheeledTraveler on 17 Jan 2014 11:12PM
I'm glad that you've written and sent the letter. I wouldn't give the person any benefit of the doubt about being hurtful considering you've told them the jokes were hurtful in the past.

Can you let your housemates know that there are some issues with this person right now and you'd really prefer not to speak to them if they ring? I don't know if that would cause any issues, but it's a way to limit their ability to reach you outside of e-mail.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 18 Jan 2014 01:38PM
Thanks Wheeled traveller.  >bighugs<

Don't worry, as soon as I dealt with the letter I let my housemates know to ignore calls from that person's number.  >thumbsup<

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Post by: auntieCtheM on 18 Jan 2014 04:23PM
 >hugs<
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Post by: seegee on 19 Jan 2014 09:23PM
 >bighugs<
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Post by: Hurtyback on 19 Jan 2014 09:32PM
That was very brave of you NN  >hugs<
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Post by: Fiz on 19 Jan 2014 09:55PM
NN  >hugs<
How are you feeling now that the letter has been posted?
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: bubble on 19 Jan 2014 11:41PM
Aww NN Im sorry to hear all this youve been going through,  >hugs< you dont have to put up with this behaviour, and no they cant be a friend to treat you like it.

I dont think I could be so brave as you I would just shy away, youve done the right thing.
 >hugs< Hugs x
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 20 Jan 2014 01:06AM
Thanks everyone. >bighugs<

Fiz - I'm feeling more relieved than anything else. This is something I've stopped short of doing several times before, and if the person was any sort of a friend they'd have changed their behaviour years ago.
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Fiz on 20 Jan 2014 08:25AM
That demonstrates you are totally happy with your decision and you've done the right thing and that you are a strong woman too.
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: starsmurf on 20 Jan 2014 01:54PM
Well done NN >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs<  You're so much better off without that person.  I hope you won't accept any apology from them, as they won't change.

My arrrgggghhh! is because my benefits are being paid in late, I won't get them until Wednesday >crying<.  I've £4 in my bank account and I need to pay for two items on ebay!  :-(

This means I'll have to ask my parents if I can give them the money for the ebay stuff in cash and use their card to pay my paypal account.  Which will be hell on earth as my dad isn't very tech savvy.  He once thought is password was "case sensitive" >doh<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 20 Jan 2014 02:35PM
 >bighugs< >bighugs<

Would it be possible for your parents to make a deposit into your account to cover the cost of the ebay items, rather than you having to use your Dad's card? A deposit made directly into someone's account clears straight away.

More importantly, I hope that you have enough food and money on your power card to see you through until Wednesday. Have you been given an explanation for the delayed payments? 
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 20 Jan 2014 05:57PM
Or you could contact the people on Ebay and explain that the payment will be delayed for a couple of days, and hope that they do not mind.  I'm sure that it will be OK because you will have kept them informed, which makes you a good buyer.
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Post by: Yvette on 20 Jan 2014 07:56PM
Good idea, Auntie.

Whenever I've sold anything I've never minded payment being a bit late if I've been sent a message to explain why.
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: starsmurf on 21 Jan 2014 08:39AM
Thanks Ouchers!

The ebayers are both ok with me paying on Wednesday.  Phew!

I have enough food and power to get me through until I can get more, thankfully.

I've had no explanation of what happened, so I'll be calling about that when I get the money.  I can't phone today because...

To make my week complete, I now have a raging dental abcess.  It's on a tooth that the dentist warned it might abcess.  I now look like a hamster and am eating small amounts of custard and porridge. :-(

I expect I'll get hit by an asteroid tomorrow, the way my week has gone so far :-)
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 21 Jan 2014 08:41AM
Oh, Starsmurf, you really are having a week of it  >doh<  Abscesses are the pits - I assume you'll be making an emergency dental appointment...
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 21 Jan 2014 11:32AM
You really aren't having a good week of it, are you?  >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs<

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Post by: Fiz on 21 Jan 2014 01:09PM
sorry to hear about that stars  >hugs< is chocolate soft enough to offer you  >chocolate<
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Post by: starsmurf on 21 Jan 2014 04:37PM
Thank you >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs<

The chocolate is lovely and soft Fiz >biggrin<

I have an appointment for tomorrow morning but I persuaded them to give me antibiotics today, as my medical conditions are made much worse by any infection.  So that should stop it getting any worse.  Unfotunately, antibiotics make me nauseous and dizzy. >feeling-sick<

So provided that asteroid doesn't turn up tomorrow, it's the dentist for me...
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 21 Jan 2014 04:42PM
We've spotted a couple of fireballs over Belfast during the last couple of weeks - don't think any of them made it as far as Scotland.  ;-)

Hope the antibiotics do the job, and good luck for tomorrow.  >bighugs<
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Post by: starsmurf on 21 Jan 2014 05:08PM
Well, I'll make the record books as the first person known to have been killed by one, there's always a silver lining. >lol<

You're always getting fireballs in Northern Ireland, it's not fair!  Why couldn't it've happened when I lived there? :-(
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Post by: Hurtyback on 21 Jan 2014 05:19PM
Starry  >hugs<  I do hope that abscess is sorted out PDQ!
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Post by: Yvette on 21 Jan 2014 05:38PM
I hope the antibiotics work quickly.   >yikes<
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Post by: seegee on 21 Jan 2014 07:03PM
Hope the pain soon lessens starsmurf. >bighugs<
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Post by: Richard_D on 21 Jan 2014 07:44PM
Natural Holistic Remedies for Abscess Tooth.

Clove Essential Oil – This will help to kill the infection and also relieve any pain that you are feeling. Brush your teeth gently with clove oil, rub it onto your gums, and put it on a tooth pick and stick it into your tooth if there is a hole from a cavity, etc.

Peppermint Essential Oil – When I didn’t have clove, I used peppermint to help with the pain and it worked like a charm!
Oil of Oregano – This is a powerful immune booster, anti-fungal, anti-viral, anti-bacterial, and anti-oxidant. It will help to kill the infection fast and boost your immune system so it can heal up. It is known to be very effective in curing tooth ailments.

Oil Pulling – An ancient Ayurvedic healing tradition, oil pulling has been used for many years to remove toxins from the body. I use organic coconut oil to do my oil pulling because it has anti-bacterial and immune boosting properties. Take 1 tablespoon of coconut oil and swish it around your mouth, through your teeth and gums for 10-30 minutes. Do not swallow it! After at least 10 minutes spit it out and rinse your mouth out.

Apple Cider Vinegar – Use real organic ACV like Bragg’s or something homemade if you have access to it. Swish it around your mouth for a few minutes and spit it out. It will help to disinfect and bring down the swelling.

Drain the abscess – If you are going to do this, you must be VERY cautious. First, make sure to completely sterilize your needle and tools with alcohol. Prick a little hole or two in your gum where the boil is. Then release the toxic pus with a Q-tip by pushing on the abscess. Make sure you don’t swallow any of the pus because it does contain toxic infectious bacteria.

Raw Garlic – I took a clove of garlic and mashed it a little so the juice would come out and I stuck it right between my gum and lip. This helps to kill the infection and also eases the pain and boosts the immune system.

http://regrowroots.wordpress.com/2013/04/18/natural-holistic-remedies-for-abscess-tooth/

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I hope there is something there that can be of use to you.  >hugs<
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: auntieCtheM on 21 Jan 2014 09:10PM
Dissolve salt in lukewarm water and wash mouth out at intervals.  It makes your mouth feel cleansed.   >hugs<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 21 Jan 2014 09:47PM
Paracetamol + Ibuprofen = synergy,  hope the pain goes soon  >hugs<
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 23 Jan 2014 10:23AM
How did your appointment go, Starsmurf? >hugs<
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Post by: Fiz on 23 Jan 2014 03:02PM
argghhh I've pulled my achilles tendon, GP says 4-6 weeks with no impact exercise - 2 weeks resting it as much as possible. Not sure how I am going to cope! Annoyingly it is the opposite leg to my bad hip so I can't even limp to ease pain.
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Post by: starsmurf on 23 Jan 2014 06:41PM
Thanks guys, apologies for not posting but the antibiotic is making me feel rather unwell (nausea and dizziness mainly.

It was just a short appointment yesterday but the upshot is that once the infection is settled, the wretched tooth is coming out.

D_D  Thanks for all the remedies.  I can't use most of them - due to my stupid disease that means I can't tolerate anything spicy or warming - but I really appreciate the thought and effort you must've put into typing that >hugs<

My dad (a doctor) scared us all so much with his horror stories that I daren't even think about lancing an abcess, so your cautions are well founded >thumbsup< .  Apparently, it doesn't work most of the time and simply causes more pain >yikes<


argghhh I've pulled my achilles tendon, GP says 4-6 weeks with no impact exercise - 2 weeks resting it as much as possible. Not sure how I am going to cope! Annoyingly it is the opposite leg to my bad hip so I can't even limp to ease pain.

Fiz  >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs<
I hope you're able to take something to help the pain.  Can they give you crutches so that you don't put too much weight on either side?  It's amazing how often something like that gets forgotten.

Please rest as much as you can >hugs< >hugs< >hugs<
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Post by: Mabelcat on 23 Jan 2014 06:46PM
Huge sympathy, I've done that several times and it really hurts.  At risk of being patronising do give it time to heal - or heel! - I was stupid and both my Achilles tendons are shot basically.  It wasn't too bad until I moved somewhere hilly.  Walking uphill can be really sore.

Is there a pool at your gym?  If so you should be able to swim once the initial rest period is over.   I find gel insoles really help as well.
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 23 Jan 2014 06:57PM
I've had operations on both my Achilles tendons so do appreciate the problem.  Also apart from resting, see if wearing low heels on your shoes eases the pain.  Flatties will put more strain on the tendons.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 23 Jan 2014 09:12PM
 >bighugs< >bighugs< for Fiz and Starsmurf.
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 23 Jan 2014 10:05PM
 For all that are in pain  >bighugs< >chocolate<
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Post by: Fiz on 23 Jan 2014 11:20PM
stars  >hugs< if the anti-b's are having such strong side effects I guess they must be strong ones, hope they work asap and you feel better soon

Thanks for the hugs everyone. The GP suggested swimming after the 2 weeks major rest and she also said cycling would be ok, can't do that though as it kills my back but swimming I can do. I am feeling fairly resigned to my enforced rest now having had my little mental paddy. I suspect I will find it harder when the pain eases and I will be tempted to return to exercise sooner than I know is best for me.
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Post by: seegee on 24 Jan 2014 10:12AM
... I will be tempted to return to exercise sooner than I know is best for me.
That would be inviting the pain back in & putting things back to the beginning, as you know; try to keep it in mind when the pain has more-or-less gone. >bighugs<
starsmurf, hope the infection is gone very soon so you can get rid of the tooth. >bighugs<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 24 Jan 2014 10:29AM
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I suspect I will find it harder when the pain eases and I will be tempted to return to exercise sooner than I know is best for me.

 >bighugs< >bighugs< That's very understandable, Fiz, but aggravating a tendon injury is never worth it. It just leads to further pain, and long-term barriers to exercise.
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Post by: Fiz on 26 Jan 2014 06:27AM
I have some meat defrosted in the fridge and some stir fry veg ready for dinner but have woken to find I have a power cut so unless the electricity company sort it soon all I have to eat is one sugar free jelly I have made up in the fridge! I have no money to eat out or for petrol or buy food until Friday. Just hoping the electricity supply is sort soon. Hope this makes sense it is difficult to read and write on the phone.
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Post by: Fiz on 26 Jan 2014 06:52AM
I'm now in a state. I found the report a power cut number and reported it but then remembered there is an additional power switch in the meter cupboard and looked there and that one is off and won't turn on so the problem isn't the supply to the house. I'm now worried about being charged and need to call back but I'm panicking too much. Do I phone the council even though it's a Sunday? Or is this my responsibility? None of the fuse switches are off in the fuse box. I hate being so alone and useless.
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Post by: Fiz on 26 Jan 2014 07:36AM
Apologies for that this morning. It's all sorted. I managed to call southern electric back to cancel the call out and the lovely lady went off for ages (thought she'd gone for breakfast!) then came back and said her colleagues had told her that the power switch in the meter cupboard is the RCD (?) switch and if I go to the fuse box and turn the power and the fuse switches all to off then go back to the RCD and turn it on, then go back to the fuse box and turn everything to on all my electricity should come on. She wouldn't let me hang up until I had gone and done that and the electricity was back on. She was so nice! When people are kind and helpful it always overwhelms me. I guess actually I am just overwhelmed and quite fragile atm though.

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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 26 Jan 2014 09:14AM
If it makes you feel any better, I've had a few panic moments myself over a couple of incidents with my water supply the past fortnight - we rely on our utilities and when something appears to go wrong, it can be extremely anxiety-inducing!

RCD means residual current device, it's a safety feature: http://www.esc.org.uk/public/home-electrics/rcds-explained/
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 26 Jan 2014 01:54PM
 >bighugs< >bighugs<

No need to apologise, Fiz. As Kizzy said, disruptions to our essential utilities are always anxiety-provoking. I'm just so glad that you were able to get to the bottom of the difficulty, and sort it out, and that you got such good customer service from your supplier.

Now you also know how to do it should it ever happen to you again, and have the instructions set out here. Perhaps you could bookmark this thread in case you need to access it again in future.

Enjoy your stir-fry. >thumbsup<


>Edit:Typo.
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Post by: Mabelcat on 26 Jan 2014 02:11PM
Glad it's sorted for you.  The RCD may have been activated by a power surge to protect your electrical equipment from damage.
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Post by: oldtone27 on 26 Jan 2014 02:33PM
NN's idea is one solution, but as it will quite likely be some time before you need use the instructions again, I find it easy to forget where I leave reminders. It might be easier for you the next time if you now write the instructions on a piece of card and place it where your switches are. Then they will be in front of you next time you might need them.
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Post by: Fiz on 26 Jan 2014 02:56PM
Yes I might stick a notice on the outside of the meter cupboard to remind me. Mind, in the pitch black with no electricity light is limited to the light given off by my mobile phone but it's definitely better than nothing! No idea what tripped it all, but it was early evening after I went to bed because The Voice didn't record. Fairly sure freezer stuff is all ok overnight though if not opened.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 26 Jan 2014 03:01PM
We keep a battery-powered lamp in our electricity cupboard, and installed a little hook to hang it on. It wasn't a big job. The lamp gives better all-round light than a torch, plus you don't have to hold it while you're fiddling around with switches.
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 26 Jan 2014 07:21PM
There are now headlamps on sale.  It is a torch on a rubber headband, a mini version of what miners use.  Great for hands-free checking your meters.
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Post by: suessad on 18 Feb 2014 12:02PM
I have been to the hospital to see the consulatant about taking out the remaining teeth.
The dentist sent me because I had a bad reaction on the previous visit. The hospital will do it but, an allergy test has to be done first.
Great but, just received a letter that it is very rare anyone has this allergy.   >confused< Also my local hospital do not do these tests.

Hooray.. that long awaited appointment for the allergy test has arrived.
But, think I'll need an early morning alarm call. I have to be there for 9am and a travel down the motorway in rush hour is not
my idea of fun.
 
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Post by: Fiz on 18 Feb 2014 05:23PM
oh gosh, not what you need sue  >hugs< glad the appointment has turned up though
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 18 Feb 2014 05:49PM
Glad you've finally got an appointment sue, and I hope that the journey won't be as bad as you fear.  >bighugs< >bighugs<
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 18 Feb 2014 07:59PM
Is there any chance that you can go there the night before and stay in a B&B overnight?
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Post by: Mabelcat on 18 Feb 2014 11:46PM
I have an appointment in the ME/CFS clinic on Thursday.  I'm somehat in two minds about it because there's so little they can do but my real objection is that it's my birthday and whilst I didn't have any particular plans I would rather not be spending over three hours in the car and hanging round in Outpatients.  At least the consultant is pleasant and listens to what I say unlike my psychiatrist who probably deserves a whole aargh posting to herself.

For now I will just say she takes a purely biological view of depression on the one hand and wants me to take vast amounts of medication which I won't and on the other hand likes to tell me what I 'really feel' about things.  Fortunately I won't be seeing her for a while because the last time I saw I what I 'really felt' was fury.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 19 Feb 2014 03:28AM
 >bighugs<
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Post by: suessad on 19 Feb 2014 08:39AM
Thanks for the hugs.
Auntie, we did look into that but, due to it being a tourist area the B&Bs are quite expensive.

Mabelcat.  >bighugs<  It's a bit late to change the appointment but, hopefully it will be a nice day for you.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 19 Feb 2014 09:03AM
I have an appointment in the ME/CFS clinic on Thursday.  I'm somehat in two minds about it because there's so little they can do but my real objection is that it's my birthday and whilst I didn't have any particular plans I would rather not be spending over three hours in the car and hanging round in Outpatients.  At least the consultant is pleasant and listens to what I say unlike my psychiatrist who probably deserves a whole aargh posting to herself.

For now I will just say she takes a purely biological view of depression on the one hand and wants me to take vast amounts of medication which I won't and on the other hand likes to tell me what I 'really feel' about things.  Fortunately I won't be seeing her for a while because the last time I saw I what I 'really felt' was fury.

Happy birthday for Thursday, Mabel, and I hope that you're not kept loitering at the hospital for longer than is absolutely necessary.  >bighugs<

As for your psychiatrist, I know how you feel. I got stuck with one of those biology-only, medication-cures-everything types for a few years, and ended up having to beg for a transfer to another hospital just to get access to clinical psychology services.  >steam<
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Post by: Fiz on 19 Feb 2014 09:38AM
I'm so blessed with my Psych, she has pushed for therapy ever since meeting me. She also prescribed me an unlicensed drug when I asked for it although unfortunately the side effects were too strong for me but shows she listens to my wants and considers them. Not many like her around I realise, not enough.
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Post by: Sunshine Meadows on 19 Feb 2014 12:48PM
I dont have any Agrrrrhs but I want to leave  >bighugs< for those who have.

Also Agrrrhs can be like Tigers all scary, loud and hard to tame but not impossible  >attachment<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 19 Feb 2014 03:01PM
I am glad to see they removed the tranquilizer Dart before they took the photo. Though how he can still smile like that after being sedated I don't know.
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Post by: Sunshine Meadows on 24 Feb 2014 02:03PM
We moved my desk yesterday and when the computer was put back on it no longer worked. Very stressful because I have not backed it up recently. Mr Sunshine ended up taking the new graphics card out and yay it is now working enough for me to back it up on the external drive that got delivered today.

All good except we both have some kind of dreaded lurgy, banging headache, stuff wanting to come out both ends, but not actually being sick. About 4am I was contemplating how to cope if it lasted a few days and feeling very  >crying-<. It took until about an hour ago to ease a bit but I am going back to bed asap.

The thing is I am rarely actually sick with a germ or actually it might just be the germs I usually get are masked by other symptoms I have day to day.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 24 Feb 2014 02:07PM
Wow never heard of anyone catching a virus from their computer before any way hope you both soon shake it off and return to normal.  >hugs<
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Post by: Fiz on 24 Feb 2014 03:22PM
 >hugs< you have my sympathy sunshine, I have had the lousiest cold and chesty cough for the last week. I keep spiking temperatures even now and feel dreadful. I cancelled my sw and therapy session today. But at least I don't have any computer worries. Hope you feel better soon.  >dove<
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 25 Feb 2014 12:37PM
Just got home after a night spent in hospital. I have had an adverse reaction to some antibiotics,  and my husband called for an ambulance after finding me collapsed on the floor. Side effects of muscle weakness and dizziness,  combined with being a wobbly person don't mix!  I have never felt so ill before.   But a night on a drip and extra large doses of oramorph have helped and now I just need to wait for the drugs to get out of my system.

I'm going to try to get some sleep this afternoon as I haven't slept since Friday.   
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 25 Feb 2014 06:41PM
 >hugs<
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Post by: Fiz on 25 Feb 2014 06:55PM
 >bighugs<
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Post by: seegee on 25 Feb 2014 07:11PM
 >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs< to all who need them.
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Otter on 25 Feb 2014 07:41PM
I have been offered a perm contract and wage increase. Sounds ok. Just the contract is one year, the job spec has tripled and I will be on constant threat of dismissal and that pay increase is 10% against the 35% cut they made 6 months ago. So I'm still down a quarter on earlier earnings which were frozen for several years and previous to that cut by 40%. And when I said I needed to read and digest before signing, as this has been sprung on me, yesterday they were talking of terminating my contract, I was told I bl**dy better sign it. I haven't yet. I have spent the afternoon, with contract and dicaphone - yep he's on tape in the union office. Bottom line this is an insult and I need now to consider my health. Will keep you posted
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Post by: Fiz on 25 Feb 2014 08:17PM
 >bighugs<
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 25 Feb 2014 08:52PM
It depends upon how much they want you to sign.  Can you tell if they are open to negotiation?
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 26 Feb 2014 05:04AM
Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!! just Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!! can't arghticulate it any better than that don't know why just its 5 AM and i've been awake since 3 AM.
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Post by: Fiz on 26 Feb 2014 07:43AM
 >bighugs<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 26 Feb 2014 07:51AM
Thanks Fiz
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Post by: Mabelcat on 26 Feb 2014 04:48PM
Mine is work related.  I've been back at work since early January and whilst it's going ok on the whole with an increase in the severity if my fatigue symptoms and continuing mental health stuff going on I am finding it pretty exhausting.  Today I drove into the office specially for a meeting with the boss man to find he had had to cancel.

It's not his fault, he is incredibly busy, and I was able to speak to him on the phone but it's a sixty mile round trip I could have avoided and would have been glad to avoid.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 26 Feb 2014 06:45PM
 >hugs<

It's a pity he couldn't of let you know before you made the trip.
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Post by: Mabelcat on 26 Feb 2014 07:29PM
I think he had a last minute summons from the big boss man who must be obeyed.

Another aarrgh for when I got home.  My first hot cross bun got stuck in the toaster and burned, the second fell on the carpet - butter side down.
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Post by: Fiz on 26 Feb 2014 07:51PM
 >bighugs< >bighugs<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 26 Feb 2014 08:28PM
Dammit they always land butter side down.  :-(  >hugs<
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Post by: Mabelcat on 26 Feb 2014 09:23PM
Butter side down on a carpet liberally coated in cat hair.  Extra fibre.
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Post by: Hurtyback on 26 Feb 2014 09:48PM
Oh dear, it sounds as if there is a general need for some  >bighugs<


Otter, do you have a union rep? What they are doing sounds to me as if you might have a case to leave and claim 'constructive dismissal', the problem being that it is notorious for low payouts.
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 26 Feb 2014 09:49PM
 >chocolate< have some of chocolate instead!
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: seegee on 27 Feb 2014 12:35PM
 >bighugs< >rose< >bighugs< to everyone & >cake< to replace the hot-cross bun (very hot & cross). >bighugs<

I had a big nosebleed yesterday, dripped on the boots I was cleaning when it started, the newspaper the boots were on, both hands, on the carpet as I went for some tissue to plug the offending nose, then in the washbasin for a half-hour after I gave up on the boots.  Had to hang on to my nose for another half-hour to make it stop bleeding.  Haven't had a continuous-drip bleed like that in the daytime since I was at primary school.  I think I managed not to get it on the clothes I was wearing.  The boots eventually got cleaned this morning.
I think I'm going to stop taking aspirin for at least a few days.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 27 Feb 2014 01:11PM
My sympathies I must admit I had never had a nose bleed my entire life until the other day when I had to blow my nose on waking and ended up with a very bloody piece of tissue in my hand but it only lasted a few minutes.

 >bighugs<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 27 Feb 2014 01:42PM
 >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs< for all those in need of them.
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Post by: seegee on 27 Feb 2014 01:56PM
It's just a bloody >whistle< inconvenience & often happens during the night (since I started to take aspirin) so I wake up with blood in my mouth & bloody mucus in my throat - but if it's going to start in the daytime I'm afraid I'm ditching the aspirin.  Ironically, I'd just come back from an appointment at the GP surgery (to see a HCA about a referral to sports centre) where my BP was taken - so I know that isn't a problem at 120/70.
People don't lose much blood during a nosebleed, it just looks spectacular & re-starts easily. 
As it wasn't showing any sign of stopping, I moved to the bathroom washbasin to drip... then realised I had a camera on my belt & filmed it for a while; perhaps I'll show it to any medic who wants to know why I made a unilateral decision to stop taking daily aspirin when everyone advises me to take it.  I got bored with that after a few more minutes & decided to stuff it with tissue while I looked for advice about stopping it - compressing your nose for half an hour is uncomfortable, but it did work. :-)

I want to know why all advice says not to tip your head back or lie down "as you may swallow blood" - I know I swallow it, happens most nights, but I don't know why swallowing my own blood is such a big deal. 
Does anyone know why it's considered bad to do that?  Surely it beats getting up during the night & dripping everywhere?
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Post by: Hurtyback on 27 Feb 2014 02:13PM
Swallowing blood can lead to vomiting and there is always the danger that some of the blood will drip the wrong side of the epiglottis and be inhaled rather than swallowed.
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Post by: seegee on 27 Feb 2014 03:31PM
Yes, I may inhale a bit at times (obviously usually not enough to wake me up though) - but I can definitely say it doesn't make me sick if swallowed.  Other people deliberately eat very rare steaks without difficulty; that's just eating some other animal's blood uncooked. ;-)
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Post by: Fiz on 27 Feb 2014 04:32PM
 >bighugs<
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Post by: Sunshine Meadows on 01 Mar 2014 09:14AM
Wow never heard of anyone catching a virus from their computer before any way hope you both soon shake it off and return to normal.  >hugs<

Maybe I should not have mentioned dreaded lurgy because it turned out to likely have been the winter vomiting virus. We did not go to or see a GP but did use NHS Direct. It was awful, actually I best not describe it too much, but I did think I might be dying whilst at the same time knew I wasn't. Mr Sunshine was a star especially given he has never seen me ill in that way before.

I did not start feeling properly better until yesterday.

 >bighugs<

At least this argggh of mine was temporary.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 01 Mar 2014 09:20AM
Glad you are feeling better now these bugs have a tendency towards tenacity and can last for some time I know.  >bighugs<
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Post by: Fiz on 01 Mar 2014 09:37AM
Glad you are feeling better. I admire your strength to keep away from others to prevent the spread too, wish more people did then it wouldn't spread so far and wide. I've never had it myself but know how painful it can be and totally delibilitating. Don't be surprised for it to be a few weeks before you feel your strength is back to normal.  >hugs<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 01 Mar 2014 05:06PM
 I hope the worst is over for you now, Sunshine.  >hugs<
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Post by: Hurtyback on 01 Mar 2014 08:47PM
(((Sunshine))) WVB is a nasty little brute, I'm glad you are starting to feel better but agree that it could be a while before you feel back to your usual self.


edited to correct typo
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 01 Mar 2014 08:51PM
 >hugs<  remember to keep drinking as much as possible to keep hydrated
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Post by: seegee on 02 Mar 2014 11:36AM
Wow never heard of anyone catching a virus from their computer before any way hope you both soon shake it off and return to normal.  >hugs<

Maybe I should not have mentioned dreaded lurgy because it turned out to likely have been the winter vomiting virus. We did not go to or see a GP but did use NHS Direct. It was awful, actually I best not describe it too much, but I did think I might be dying whilst at the same time knew I wasn't. Mr Sunshine was a star especially given he has never seen me ill in that way before.

I did not start feeling properly better until yesterday.

 >bighugs<

At least this argggh of mine was temporary.

 >bighugs< Our GP surgery has notices on the front door asking people to stay away if they have this, as they might pass the infection to others.  Advice is to drink plenty of water & phone NHS Direct for more information if worried.
Hope you are soon back to usual energy, etc. :-)
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 02 Mar 2014 04:05PM
...and try not to overdo it while you wait for that energy to return!  *waggles the  >flyswatter<, but very gently*
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Post by: Otter on 04 Mar 2014 10:01PM
thanks Fiz

looks like I am going to have to sign the thing and have another year of hell, as having been offered the contract if I refuse, no hope of benefits for 6 months, so homeless me and Dad in one month. This is will my department recon that I am no longer able to work, i.e. no longer fit to work. I have also been told that I am prohibited from showing any interest or engaging in any other employment or business activities during my employment, cheers, its poorly paid, not full time and hardly an incentive

The only other income I am allowed is stock and shares - ok, which fat cat has written this
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 04 Mar 2014 10:04PM
Hi Otter, I am sorry but I do not remember if you are in a trades union and whether you have contacted them about all of this.
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Post by: Otter on 04 Mar 2014 10:16PM
I have, they say it is a very tightly written contract and think that they are doing so as they think  if they employ me in the end for 2 years if I am made redundant and have to report to the benefit system they my employers are safe. Union says not a hope in hell, considering their employment practices for the last 2 decades have been somewhat wanting. So 7 months in, seems I have another 17 months to go.
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 04 Mar 2014 10:58PM
"prohibited from showing any interest or engaging in any other employment or business activities during my employment"

I was once offered a full-time contract that had this clause in it.  I and a number of other people refused to sign.  Those on the new contract got a large pay rise.  But I would not sell my soul to an employer.  What I do outside of my contracted hours and responsibilities is my own business.  If I write a book or make something and sell it that is my own affair and nothing to do with my employer.
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Post by: Sunshine Meadows on 06 Mar 2014 09:57AM
 >bighugs< sorry about not getting back to this thread sooner. Thank you all about the advice to take it easy and drink plenty. I have been fairly 'good' eg I did not go out and start gardening when it was sunny yesterday.

Having Google to look up advice really made a difference and I am especially happy at the bit I read that said once you have had the inter vomiting virus you usually dont get it again for another 4-8 years.

I did get a bit obsessed about hand washing and the toilet being clean for a few days but less so now after I reminded myself that the last time I had anything like the vomiting virus I was about 13.

Otter,

Some people who are put in the ESA Support Group because the Decisions Maker accepts that both work and the work related activity would be detrimental to the health of the claimant. I realise leaving a job usually means a huge drop in income but if staying is going to make you ill the powers that be cant sanction your benefits.

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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 06 Mar 2014 09:27PM
My grandson pointed, this on my arm, out to me this morning I had no idea it was there and do not know how I did it or when weird.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 06 Mar 2014 09:38PM
Otter >hugs<

Wow, Dic - that's impressive. Hope it's not too painful!

I have a nice collection of mystery bruises at the moment - there's an absolute beauty on my left knee, and I have no idea how the heck it got there.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 06 Mar 2014 09:45PM
Crazy isn't it they just appear out of no where.
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Post by: Sunshine Meadows on 07 Mar 2014 06:11PM
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Crazy isn't it they just appear out of no where.

It looks quite angry too so it is a surprise it did not itch.  >confusedgif< vitamin C aids healing so maybe a bag of oranges would be better than a hug.

NN,

The only thing worse than a mystery bruise is a getting a bad knock of an Ouchie and no bruise appearing.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 07 Mar 2014 06:21PM
NN,

The only thing worse than a mystery bruise is a getting a bad knock of an Ouchie and no bruise appearing.

Ooooh yes, Sunshine. The magnificent tumble which leaves you feeling tender and sore for weeks, without one blasted contusion to show for it, is most annoying.

The human body can be a strange thing at times.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 07 Mar 2014 08:22PM
Yes getting the pain and discomfort but no badge of honour annoying to say the least.
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Post by: AndMac on 13 Mar 2014 01:08AM
I discovered a massive bruise on my, er,  bust this week following my spectacular sideways sprawl into a trolley outside Tesco's the other week.
I wasn't in any real pain afterwards, so it took a while to work out how on earth I did the bruise when I spotted it, then I remembered.
I am not a small person in this area, so the bruise was hidden despite the size  -  and it was not that tender, thankfully, so hadn't advertised its presence.

It looks as if it was some wonderful shades of black and purple, it's hit the fading yellow stage now.

 No, I am not posting a photograph....  :-) >whistle<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 13 Mar 2014 02:25PM
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No, I am not posting a photograph

Neither would I if it had been anywhere other than on my arm. I was just amazed that I could do anything like that and not notice it till it was pointed out to me.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 17 Mar 2014 03:15PM
Went to the pharmacists today to collect repeat script to be told they can no longer get any Valsartan and could I drop in to the doctors to advise them of the situation, was asked to wait while they sorted it then after some while was told that they could not decide on a suitable alternative and can I come back on Wednesday please.

It's enough to give you high blood pressure Arghhhhhhhhh !!!!
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Post by: Sunshine Meadows on 17 Mar 2014 05:23PM
AndMac,
Ouch!!
Years ago I was bitten on the boob by a horse and given how bruised it turned out to be I was for once glad I have bigger boobs or what I call northern boobs, because her in the Midlands women tend not to have the same body shape as me.

Dic,

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then after some while was told that they could not decide on a suitable alternative and can I come back on Wednesday please.

I do hate it when I am not forewarned about a change in the availability of a medication I take argggh. You would think now their are computer datatbases holding the records of patients that the clerical staff could send and announcement to every patient who is going to be affected.

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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 17 Mar 2014 08:10PM
To find out when you virtually run out of capsules is a bit much the pharmacist has my phone number and is right next door to the doctor's  practice surely they could have worked something out before today.

As for the big boobs question there are a few ladies in this part of the midlands of such proportions that they could have knocked the horse out with one blow.  >biggrin<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 27 Mar 2014 06:37PM
Dear residents of this part of town,

Dropped kerbs exist for a reason. They are not a convenient place for you to park while you drop off your dry cleaning, or just 'pop into the shop for 5 minutes'. Thank you all for turning what should have been a 15 minute wheel to and from the chemist, into a 45 minute long ordeal, during which I ended up having to wheel on my own through a network of entries in a downright dangerous part of the neighbourhood. Thanks a fekkin' bunch the lot of you!

 >steam<
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 27 Mar 2014 06:40PM
This frustrates me too  >hugs<  I have realised that people have forgotten what the purpose of dropped kerbs is.  Idiots and thoughtlessness.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 27 Mar 2014 06:47PM
The problem is people just don't seem to care unless they are made to some hefty fines would be in order.

NN  >bighugs< >chocolate<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 29 Mar 2014 10:22AM
Thanks DD and Dic. >hugs<

It's a shame that we can't get these lads at the dropped kerb abusers.

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-northern-ireland-23582311
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 29 Mar 2014 05:44PM
 >yikes< and sorry you had to put up with that unnecessary inconvenience, NN  >thumbsdown<

My massive 'Aaaarghhh!' for the past few days has been - cat fleas  >steam<  Cindy didn't get on with a collar, the sodding things seemed resistant to 'Frontline' - so I visited the nearest vet last Thursday and got a product called 'Advantage' (spot-on).  This seemed to work pretty well on Cindy so far  >x-fingers<, but then had to tackle the fleas 'in the environment' - over the past couple of days, this has entailed moving lots of furniture around, vacuuming and spraying with insecticide, to say the least.  Then the 'after-clean' - extra laundry, moving everything back again, cleaning the hoover itself etc etc etc.  Am absolutely knackered still - and this will maybe bring a smile;  I just had a freshen-up wash and a flea jumped out of my bra!

Including that pervy intruder, have found 3 live ones today, so the war ain't over yet.  I don't know what I'll do if I get another re-infestation in a short time, maybe I'd better pay someone from the Council to come out and do whatever the pest control people do...This is all such an affrontery to me because I am a very houseproud clean person  >steam<  Anyway, taking it a bit easier today ..
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 29 Mar 2014 05:52PM
Kizzy hope you find this site useful.

 http://www.richsoil.com/flea-control.jsp
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Post by: Sunshine Meadows on 29 Mar 2014 06:27PM
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Dropped kerbs exist for a reason.

NN,

Exactly  >bighugs<

Kizzy,

Erm I wonder if there were dormant eggs  in the carpet in your home and the warmer weather - Springtime has caused them to hatch.

A flea in your bra  >yikes< good thing you were not bitten.

Susie got fleas last year and you posting has reminded me to get some spot on treatment on each cat.

Dic,

Good link but I have some Advocate left from last year.

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Post by: Mabelcat on 29 Mar 2014 06:49PM
I'm using advantage on my lot at the moment and it seems pretty good.  If you buy it online it's pretty cheap.  I went to vetuk.co.uk and it was half the price I paid at Pets at Home.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 29 Mar 2014 07:01PM
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Including that pervy intruder, have found 3 live ones today, so the war ain't over yet.  I don't know what I'll do if I get another re-infestation in a short time, maybe I'd better pay someone from the Council to come out and do whatever the pest control people do...This is all such an affrontery to me because I am a very houseproud clean person  >steam<  Anyway, taking it a bit easier today ..

 >bighugs<

Sadly fleas have no respect for anyone's hygiene standards. The good news is, though, that cat fleas can only breed on the cat, so provided the treatment on Cindy works, then you can get the remaining little suckers mopped up over the next few days. If you have a vacuum cleaner with a bag, giving the inside of it a generous spray with whatever industrial-grade flea spray is on offer from your vet can help a good bit.

I hope that you'll be flea-free soon.  >hugs< 
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 29 Mar 2014 08:06PM
We bought one of theses last year and you can hear the little perishers zap no toxins and they the fleas don't become resistant.

http://www.amazon.co.uk/STV-International-Stv023-STV023-KILLER/dp/B004NLZUHU/ref=sr_1_6?ie=UTF8&qid=1396123357&sr=8-6&keywords=gotcha+flea+killer

Sorry is best with link.
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Post by: Hurtyback on 29 Mar 2014 08:41PM
Kizzy  >hugs<  as has been said, fleas are no respector of persons and are no reflection on your cleanliness.
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 30 Mar 2014 01:18PM
Thanks for all the replies, lovely peeps - and fellow pet-owning sympathisers!  Very interesting links, Dic, which will deserve a more thorough read  >tah< - on first glance, I quite like the idea of the second product, effectively a flea-swatter...

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Erm I wonder if there were dormant eggs  in the carpet in your home and the warmer weather - Springtime has caused them to hatch.

I think with centrally-heated homes, the bloody things are active pretty much all year round now, but there could well have been clusters of 'sleeping' parasites in the soft furnishings, so I treated just about everything as well as the carpets (cushions, curtains, mattress, soft toys even!)  Now I just have to avoid getting too paranoid at the sight of every single dark speck  >erm<

NN, my hoover has a cylinder rather than a bag, but I still sprayed the inside of it after emptying, and cleaned all the filters, so nothing much can be lurking there now  >biggrin< 
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 30 Mar 2014 07:44PM
Doing this job is such hard work, I know.   >hugs<
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 30 Mar 2014 09:46PM
Thanks, auntie - I feel more hopeful now as I've not spotted a single critter today, dead or alive!!  >x-fingers<
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 30 Mar 2014 10:11PM
Spread some newspaper over a carpet and listen for the sound of hopping!
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Post by: Fiz on 30 Mar 2014 10:46PM
Good vets who are honest have been telling clients that fleas have been resistant to frontline for several years now. Unfortunately there are some vets who are at best ignorant, or at worst liking the profits the sales give them and say nothing. Collars are marjonally better but not much. The best treatment is the programme injection which is done every 6 months. I used get that done at the same time as the annual jabs and then use advocate spot on for the remaining 6 months. Advocate worms as well as fleas, advantage is the most effective at treating fleas.

Once in the carpet they are buggers. If you programme inject your cats this makes the fleas sterile once they have bitten the cat so they don't reproduce so they can live out their natural lives on the cat and in the carpet and would due of old age without reporoducing. A flea lives 30-90 days.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 30 Mar 2014 11:59PM
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A flea lives 30-90 days.

Not if I have anything to do with it they don't.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 31 Mar 2014 12:22PM
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A flea lives 30-90 days.

Not if I have anything to do with it they don't.

 >biggrin<
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 31 Mar 2014 12:33PM
The only good flea is a dead one ..

Fiz, thanks for the extra info  >thumbsup<   

Spread some newspaper over a carpet and listen for the sound of hopping!

Yeuuchhh - I can feel myself starting to itch again  >lol<
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Post by: Hurtyback on 31 Mar 2014 04:06PM
Many years ago Mr H and I went and stayed at my boss's house to look after the 3 cats, hamster and rabbit while the humans were on holiday. The nausea of early pregnancy was not helped by the bad flea invasion that occured while we were there  >feeling-sick< . The cause was eventually found to be the hedgehog that had, somehow, got in and trapped behind the fridge!
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Post by: Mabelcat on 31 Mar 2014 04:25PM
We had the first tick of the season last week.  I don't know why but I find them really creepy and the cat was unimpressed with how hard I had to pull to remove it.  I guess it's a small price to pay for living in the country but they are horrible.
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Post by: Hurtyback on 31 Mar 2014 04:38PM
Yuk, I loathe ticks! I have a small hook to use for removal,it is supposed to get them out without leaving the mouthparts behind - a common problem when you just try and pull them out.
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 31 Mar 2014 06:50PM
Hurtyback, was the hedgehog alive or dead  >yikes<

Mabelcat, I am fortunate enough never to have experienced a tick - they sound even worse than fleas  >angry<
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Post by: Frances on 31 Mar 2014 06:59PM
A drop or two of Brandy or the like on the tic makes it let go and so much easier to remove with a pair of tweezers. I have removed a good few this way having been brought up on a farm.
Less pain for the animal your removing it from as well.
 NO I do not mean pour the Brandy down said Animals Neck  >yikes<
Your own maybe to help with the nerves  >whistle<
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 31 Mar 2014 07:11PM
 >lol<
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Post by: Hurtyback on 31 Mar 2014 08:03PM
Hurtyback, was the hedgehog alive or dead  >yikes<




Hedgy was alive when finally found (by my boss after we had all returned to our respective homes).
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 31 Mar 2014 08:45PM
A drop or two of Brandy or the like on the tic makes it let go and so much easier to remove with a pair of tweezers. I have removed a good few this way having been brought up on a farm.
Less pain for the animal your removing it from as well.
 NO I do not mean pour the Brandy down said Animals Neck  >yikes<
Your own maybe to help with the nerves  >whistle<

Cracking tip, Frances. Thanks!

The other advice I've had  is to empty a whole pipette of Frontline (which treats ticks as well as fleas), on to the little bugger to kill it off, making it easier to remove.
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Post by: Mabelcat on 31 Mar 2014 08:54PM
First catch your cat ....

The problem I find is that ideally I need two hands for the cat and then another two to manipulate the removal tool.  I live on my own.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 01 Apr 2014 04:47PM
Now I just have to avoid getting too paranoid at the sight of every single dark speck  >erm<

The easy way to tell if the speck is something flea-related, is to put it on a piece of kitchen roll with a few drops of water. If it's flea dirt, it will produce a reddish-brown stain.

Dic - that looks like a very interesting gizmo. I'm just wondering how many digits I'd lose if I were to try one out on George! 


>Typo
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 01 Apr 2014 06:28PM
We have used it on the dog but not a cat as yet, the dog loves it.
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 01 Apr 2014 09:30PM
First catch your cat ....

The problem I find is that ideally I need two hands for the cat and then another two to manipulate the removal tool.  I live on my own.

I just about manage one hand for the cat if I grasp her firmly by the scruff, but I could still do with being equipped like an octopus at these times...

The easy way to tell if the speck is something flea-related, is to put it on a piece of kitchen roll with a few drops of water. If it's flea dirt, it will produce a reddish-brown stain.

Good one, NN - in fact, the giveaway flea dirts were what let me know what wasn't working, as Cindy spends a fair amount of time on the living room windowsill.  In the week before I got the 'Advantage', I was having to clean the sill at least once daily - that's when I knew stern measures were called for!

Another thing I've noticed is that Cindy is more.. well, fragrant since the unwelcome guests were exterminated - the poor thing was rather scabby in places and I suspect she had an allergy to the flea bites;  she was smelling sort of 'meaty', with dried blood and flea dirts, I suppose.  She is certainly a much happier puss this week and her coat looks much more fluffy now she's not constantly licking!  Wish I'd known about 'Frontline' immunity much sooner  >erm<

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Post by: Hurtyback on 02 Apr 2014 04:40PM
Glad to hear that Cindy is generally a happier cat and nicer to know now  :-)
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 02 Apr 2014 05:30PM
 >biggrin< >thumbsup<

Still finding the odd 'residual' flea, but not on either of us... as Fiz said earlier, they can live for 30 to 90 days.  The main thing is that the stragglers can't breed, and once they're gone... Well, I won't say my home will then be a flea-free zone, I don't want to tempt fate  >whistle<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 02 Apr 2014 06:24PM
One problem we had a few years ago was that we lived next door to someone who had around thirty animals in his one bedroomed bungalow including cats, dogs and rabbits it didn't matter what we did fleas would always find their way in.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 02 Apr 2014 07:44PM
I'm glad things are settling down for you and Cindy, Kizzy  >hugs<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 14 Apr 2014 09:50PM
Not exactly an Arghhhhhh !!!! but nearly a fortnight ago during a blood pressure "MOT" at my doctors the nurse attempted to draw blood for a test after about 4 or 5 goes on each  arm she was unable draw any blood so she enlisted the help of a colleague which was successful but I was left with a huge bruise on one arm that took a week or more to  fade.

the following Monday I received a letter from my doctor requesting that I get a blood test at the local hospital as I had raised Potassium levels and could I do it that week. The next day I received a letter from my doctor requesting that I get a blood test at the local hospital as I had raised Potassium levels and could I do it that week.

So I did so last Thursday the phlebotomist laughed when I told about the last blood test and said there would be no problem this time great says I. She was right and had no problem obtaining a sample.

I now have a huge painful bruise on the other arm which still shows no sign of fading as yet  >erm<
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Post by: Fiz on 15 Apr 2014 06:51AM
oh dear - hoping that your last blood test for a while now dic  >hugs<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 15 Apr 2014 08:18AM
Thanks Fiz so do I but I have a funny feeling that its not.
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Post by: Sunshine Meadows on 15 Apr 2014 09:05AM
 >hugs< it sounds like at least one bruise will need to fade before they can see to take more blood.

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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 15 Apr 2014 10:34AM
Dic >hugs<
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 15 Apr 2014 06:53PM
Hope you're less sore today, Dic!
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 15 Apr 2014 11:07PM
Thanks all the first ones almost gone the seconds starting to fade now. You get used to blood tests but this time was a bit much.
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 16 Apr 2014 09:10PM
You are right -  I used to do a big jump out of the chair when they were extracting blood from me.  I do not know whether I have just got used to it, or that I am on some effective painkillers now, or the blood test people are more experienced than they used to be.  But I too have got used to having it done.  No anxiety at all - except that I always crave chocolate afterwards!

My last lot of blood tests came up with extremely high cholesterol.  Do I want to know though?
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 16 Apr 2014 09:51PM
I've been taking Simvastatin for a few years now chocolate, well dark chocolate anyway; is healthy or so I've heard.
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Post by: oldtone27 on 16 Apr 2014 11:07PM
I must ask for some chocolate simvastatins for my next prescription. Sound just the thing.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 17 Apr 2014 08:04AM
Never thought of that excellent idea oldtone  >thumbsup<  >lol<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 18 Apr 2014 02:50PM
Real Arrrgghh stuff for me today. Over the last few weeks, I've been in the process of moving from tobacco over to e-cigarettes. Traditional nicotine replacement has never worked for me, and even with the super-high-chain-smoker-plus e-liquid I've been using, I'm getting nasty MH symptoms (massive anxiety, suicidal ideation, SH urges, binge urges etc, etc, etc). This, combined with my fear of uncontrollable weight-gain triggering the anorexia again, is what has kept me smoking for 25 years. But I've been doing my best to cope, and have got down to half a ciggy per day.

The problem is that the replacement e-liquid I've ordered hasn't arrived in time for the bank holiday. I've contacted every e-cigarette vendor in Belfast, and none of them stock the super-strength liquid, so I'm now faced with the prospect of undoing weeks of effort, then having to go through the whole bloody process again.

Feck, feck, feckity feckking feck!!!! 

As you can tell, I'm not happy. And before any sanctimonious ex or non-smokers tell me that this is a wonderful opportunity to relinquish nicotine altogether, I'm afraid it's not. Cigarettes my well kill me in the long-term, but suicidal thoughts could finish me off within the next few days, so really, all it represents is a choice between dying now or dying later.  :-(

(I don't mean to imply that all ex or non-smokers are sanctimonious, but I have, unfortunately, come up against more than a few of that type over the years, so I was just pointing out that the MH symptoms are potentially life-threatening, so please don't dismiss them or lump them in with 'average' withdrawal, that's all. )

Sorry that this post has come across as so grumpy and unpleasant. It's just that I've been feeling lousy for weeks now, and this seems like the final straw.

 >bighugs<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 18 Apr 2014 03:57PM
NN if you are going to have to return to tobacco for the short term I would advise against tailor made as I have always had a sneaking suspicion that there is something addictive about them that goes beyond the tobacco in them. I would if I where you  purchase rolling tobacco and filters as it may be easier then to switch back. Best of luck.

 >bighugs< >bighugs<
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 18 Apr 2014 04:10PM
NN, you have my hugest empathy as a fellow smoker since 1983 (and I understand exactly about the weight gain issue, being ex-anorexic as well - and also feeling like I've not so much 'margin for error' since the anti-psychotics increased my 'normal' weight by about 10 lbs).  And respect to you for trying to wean yourself off tobacco with the e-cigs, it's more than I've dared to attempt! 

Smokers are so maligned in society now that it's difficult not to feel defensive, so don't worry too much about being 'grumpy'.  I get annoyed at the sanctimonious element as well - now that puffing tobacco has been banned in public places so no-one has to suffer the second-hand smoke to a health-risking degree, it's not really anyone else's business, is it?  Yet some still moan about smokers being outside  >doh<  I don't care for walking past people with strong B.O. either, but there you go, the world contains smells we don't always like  >erm<

You did all you absolutely humanly could to get hold of that e-liquid, so whatever happens next, put your mental health first over the weekend.  If that entails a short period of smoking tobacco again, so be it - many smokers take more than one attempt to stop anyway!

PS - Dic posted while I was typing this:  very good advice, Dic  >thumbsup< and I suspect you may be right about the tailor-mades!
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Post by: huhn on 18 Apr 2014 04:13PM
something funny we had  a wile ago, my son had a blood test and his potassium level was extreme high.  The answer was very clear, he had eaten 2 kilos  of bananas.
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Post by: Defying Gravity on 18 Apr 2014 04:14PM
Hi NN, I'm not a smoker so please ignore this suggestion if it's daft. Could you use a less strong nicotine solution but smoke it twice as often over the weekend? Either way, good luck!
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 18 Apr 2014 04:18PM
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The answer was very clear, he had eaten 2 kilos  of bananas.

That will do it alright.

My prob is I don't often eat bananas
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Post by: Sunshine Meadows on 18 Apr 2014 07:53PM
NN,

 >bighugs< when Mr Sunshine was in the mental health unit and ran out of tobacco he wanted me to bring some in with me but there was no way for me to get to the shops that day on my own. The journey from home to visit him at the unit was about 40 mins so I was chatting to the taxi driver about the tobacco. The driver offered to help and we stopped at a petrol station so he could get Mr Sunshine some Old Holburn and another lighter. The driver was a smoker too.

I know what you mean about some people being sanctimonious they so easily forget tobacco is a drug. It is an over simplification but if one of those people broke their leg I doubt they would say no to painkillers.

Start again once you have a good supply of the e cigarette cartridges.
 >hugs<

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Post by: auntieCtheM on 18 Apr 2014 08:29PM
All you have to do NN is come and visit me and I will take you to the doorways of some local office blocks.  You can sit in my car at the kerb and inhale all that second-hand smoke from there.  I promise you it will be as strong as you need it to be.  And it is free smoke too.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 18 Apr 2014 09:37PM
Thanks, everyone.  >bighugs<

I'll just have to be sensible and recognise that if I need the odd rollie over the next day or two to keep me safe, then so be it. I'm going to pick up some of the lower-strength liquid tomorrow. If it helps to reduce the overall number of cigs I smoke until my order arrives, then that's fair enough. 

Dic - I've been rolling my own since my first spell in hospital as they're significantly cheaper than tailor-mades. There are now 'additive-free' (supposedly) hand-rolling tobaccos on the market, which is a fair indication that the tobacco companies have been playing dirty with all varieties of smoking for years.

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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 18 Apr 2014 09:44PM
I once read an article written by a doctor who was invited into a factory that made cigarette papers for tailor-made cigs, for a look around when he got home he found his clothing had a fine dusting of white powder so he had it analyzed and found it contained traces of an opiate not sure of the veracity of his story but it would not surprise me if true.
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 22 Apr 2014 12:07AM
I have spent all day and evening trying to get my bank reconciliation to balance for work.  It was 60p out and I finally traced it to a bank error.  >doh<
Now I'm buzzing and can't switch my brain off.
I think I'll watch something light on iplayer and try to get to bed if I feel sleepy.   The annoying thing is that I know I'll be shattered tomorrow and not able to do a thing.
Hey ho!
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 22 Apr 2014 12:18AM
 >bighugs<
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Post by: Hurtyback on 22 Apr 2014 05:28PM
DD  >hugs<  I hope that today has not been as bad as you feared.
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Post by: Defying Gravity on 29 Apr 2014 07:28PM
Today I've had my second job interview in a month and didn't get it. Urgh. I suspect this one has also gone to a familyman. Traditional churches are rather keener on male vicars with children and stay at home wives than they are on female vicars with a wife and cats. They want to make changes, but not that many. Today I was told in the interview that they were worried if they had a female vicar that everyone would think they'd had to settle for second best because a man wasn't available. Sigh. Churches are exempt from equalities legislation, and vicars aren't technically employed so this is all legal but not exactly good practice!

 Actually I agree with their feedback that these weren't quite the right posts for me, but the right posts aren't coming up and I need a job. Argh.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 29 Apr 2014 07:39PM
 >bighugs<
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Post by: Hurtyback on 29 Apr 2014 07:57PM
Today I was told in the interview that they were worried if they had a female vicar that everyone would think they'd had to settle for second best because a man wasn't available. Sigh.


 :-(    >hugs<
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Post by: Fiz on 29 Apr 2014 08:05PM
 >hugs<
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 29 Apr 2014 08:17PM
 >bighugs<  >chocolate<  >bighugs<
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 29 Apr 2014 08:22PM
Would an urban area be more flexible in their views?
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Post by: Defying Gravity on 29 Apr 2014 10:45PM
Thanks everyone. I've eaten some easter chocolate!

Auntie, generally yes, but both these were urban areas. I don't drive so can only work in cities really.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 05 May 2014 09:09AM
Three points on my license and £140 fine all because I got distracted and went past a traffic camera at 35mph and the worst of it is the camera is about 200 yards from where I live and I have passed it several times a day for the last two or three years.
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Post by: Sunshine Meadows on 05 May 2014 09:58AM
That is harsh  >hugs<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 05 May 2014 10:09AM
You just have to view it as an extra tax on motorists. But I do think as you say Sunshine a bit harsh.
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Post by: oldtone27 on 05 May 2014 10:38AM
It doesn't end there because your car insurance will be loaded also.

I don't know your circumstances Dic, but I got caught similarly and what particularly irked was it was late being evening in a well lit, dry street with no other traffic or pedestrians about so no safety issue. Its high time we had 'intelligent' speed limits which varied according to traffic and weather conditions.

I also have serious doubts about these urban 20mph limits covering all residential streets. Around where I live most are deserted most of the time so 30mph is perfectly safe.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 05 May 2014 10:55AM
I think that these speed traps are driving down safety as people tend to drive slowly where there are cameras and fast where they know there aren't any knowing the chances are they will not get caught .
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Post by: Sunshine Meadows on 05 May 2014 11:04AM
Dic,

I am assuming the speed limit was 30. 3 points and £140 is a lot given that were a traffic cop to have stopped you he could have given you a warning.

Oldtone,

I seem to remember that an road safety advert which showed the difference in damage done to a pedestrian at 20 then at 30 miles per hour. Apparently the amount of injury or deaths at 30 is greatly increased.

Road safety is not just about how people drive though pedestrians need to bear some responsibility to cross safely. One of my pet hates is people crossing at traffic lights when the light is green for the traffic and red for them. Arggggggghhh
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Post by: oldtone27 on 05 May 2014 11:49AM
I don't disagree with the logic of 20mph limits where appropriate but blanket application will be counter productive in my opinion.

Near schools, particularly during school arrival and departure times they are fine. In most cases it would be stupid to drive even at 20. Also around shopping streets where pedestrians are milling, but on a quite residential street, particularly one with wide verges between pavement and carriageway it seems daft.

A bad law becomes an ignored law. I think that is why speed limits are so widely ignored as they are applied at all times to cover situations that apply only at certain times, and conditions. Breeds non thinking drivers, and there are too many of those.

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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 05 May 2014 12:09PM
I'm suspicious of the whole speed camera business, along with some of the applications of the 20 and 30 limits - I think it's yet another way to milk the motorist for cash that won't even go towards road maintenance  >angry<  Sorry you got stung, Dic  >thumbsdown<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 05 May 2014 01:18PM
Thing is you seldom see "Traffic Cops" these days in fact the last one I saw went past me at about 80pmh on a 60mph road no blue lights or siren it does not take much for people to come to the conclusion that speed limits only apply where there are cameras every where else is fair game though you may come up against an unmarked police car once in a while, it's not my attitude I hasten to add just an observation from what I see happening. People slow down for the camera then once passed speed up again.
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 05 May 2014 02:20PM
I think your observation is pretty spot on from what I have seen too. 
Bad luck on getting caught though.  How bloody annoying.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 05 May 2014 04:57PM
Ow! That's a lot of money, Dic >hugs<

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In most cases it would be stupid to drive even at 20. Also around shopping streets where pedestrians are milling, but on a quite residential street, particularly one with wide verges between pavement and carriageway it seems daft.

I suppose it depends on where you live. 20mph makes perfect sense in a densely populated urban area like this one. Narrow streets of terraces with no off-street parking, and no gardens, meaning that children have nowhere else to play in the evenings, weekends or during the holidays. The streets are permanently parked up. When residents leave in the mornings, people who work in the area use it as a free car park. One of the streets is used as a cut through between two busy arterial routes into the town. Trying to get a wheelchair across the street is a hair-raising business, as no matter how much hi-viz gear you're wearing, drivers just cannot see you emerging from between the cars.

Sadly we don't have any speed cameras round here, although it would be more than sensible to have that enforcement measure in place. We just have speed bumps, which only slow people down temporarily before they put the boot down again. 
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 05 May 2014 05:05PM
About two in the morning all you can hear here is the sound of engines roaring and dump valves operating just up the road are speed bumps they hardly slow down for them.
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 05 May 2014 07:42PM
You must be feeling very bitter at the moment Dic.  I know how I felt when I got a ticket because I was parked slightly crookedly in a parking bay with my blue badge on show correctly.  grrrr.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 05 May 2014 08:11PM
This is interesting and worth knowing.

Best put the link in.  >doh<

http://www.standard.co.uk/news/drivers-can-avoid-speeding-ticketsby-changing-lanes-7190770.html

And yes I am quite bitter about it.

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Motoring groups say police are putting too much reliance on cash-raising speed cameras which can fine a driver a few miles above the speed limit - but are unable to spot a dangerous, drunk, uninsured, or untaxed driver in an unroadworthy or stolen vehicle who is driving under the speed limit.

Last year more than 2 million motorists were caught speeding on camera, raising £120m a year in revenue for so-called 'Safety Camera Partnerships' comprising police, magistrates councils and road safety groups.
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 06 May 2014 03:55AM
Another sleepless night.    Aaaargh!  >angry<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 06 May 2014 07:02AM
Hope you got some rest eventually dd  >hugs<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 07 May 2014 12:36PM
DD >bighugs<

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Post by: Hurtyback on 07 May 2014 04:41PM
Dic and Dd  >bighugs<
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Post by: seegee on 09 May 2014 09:30PM
Got a copy of a letter to my GP from gastroenterology today; now I know why the surgery phoned me a few days ago asking if I still take methotrexate - the clinic has written that I'm taking 30mg of some other drug once a day rather than 30mg of methotrexate once a week. >doh<  Somebody half-listened to what I told them then wrote the thing that seemed most likely to them instead. :-(  >confused<

They want to do another colonoscopy, more blood tests & are still seeking Crohn's disease for some reason that's a complete mystery to me as I don't seem to have symptoms of anything like Crohn's... >erm<
I don't mind the tests, just don't really understand the reasoning behind keeping me on gastro's books. >confusedgif<
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 09 May 2014 09:50PM
I suppose that you could always phone them up and ask them.  I've had a chat with that department myself and when you eventually get hold of the right person they can be very helpful.
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Post by: seegee on 09 May 2014 10:27PM
I spoke to a secretary (I think) earlier to get the drug error fixed & she said she'd give a note to the doctor today, so they should now know which drug I really am taking. 
They have been finding inflammatory markers & Crohn's being a common cause, they are seeking Crohn's (because they are gastroenterologists? >lol<). 

The methotrexate is prescribed by a dermatology clinic for psoriasis, I am taking gabapentin + co-codamol for joint pain (I'm hypermobile) & definitely had a gastric ulcer last year, probably due to anti-inflammatory drugs (now stopped of course) - and psoriasis means I often have one or two patches of broken skin. 
Inflammatory markers in my blood?  Doesn't seem unlikely to me & may have nothing at all to do with my bowel, which is displaying no current symptoms of any problem.  Still, another colonoscopy is harmless enough & much less unpleasant than the gastroscope. 
The letter said "currently asymptomatic", which many clinics would see as reason enough for discharge. >erm<  >confusedgif<
Oddly, I got referred to the hospital because I had a haemorrhoid, which seemed over-zealous at the time.  They did find the gastric ulcer before it caused any trouble but still seem convinced there is something else... oh, and the haemorrhoid has healed itself in the meantime!
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Post by: Fiz on 10 May 2014 07:02AM
How annoying seegee! I'd probably refuse as I avoid Doctors and only go when the pain is very bad but I suppose it's better to get the all clear on something?!
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Post by: seegee on 10 May 2014 12:16PM
It is annoying that they got the drug I'm taking wrong - I know I didn't tell them what they wrote, it's something I have never taken & don't know. 

I've had previous colonoscopies & they don't bother me, I'm just puzzled why the g-ent docs think I have Crohn's with no apparent reactions to certain foods, no diarrhoea, no cramps, no urgency - weirdest case of Crohn's on record? >confusedgif< 
I did have a haemorrhoid, which is pretty common & not usually a sign of other bowel problems.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 10 May 2014 02:12PM
Seegee, how annoying!   >hugs<

I hope that you can persuade them not to repeat the test, and that you don't have to suffer the dreaded Klean Prep.

 >bighugs<

                       
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Post by: seegee on 10 May 2014 04:16PM
I really honestly don't mind having a colonoscopy (or even the uncomfortable Moviprep beforehand), but I do mind someone writing to my GP telling them I'm taking a certain drug when I'm not - that kind of carelessness can lead to real problems.  Could have made trouble for me if the GP's surgery hadn't thought to phone me & check or if the drug I really do take wasn't being prescribed by a clinic in a different trust.

Wouldn't make any difference to whether they wish to do the test though & I have no reason to refuse it. ;-) 

My guess is that they believe a disease-modifying drug that damps the symptoms of psoriasis would similarly affect the symptoms of Crohn's, therefore I remain asymptomatic. 
I have no idea if that's accurate, but if it is I see no gain for either me or the GI docs in knowing if I have it; if the treatment is the same & it's working, why are they bothering to push for a diagnosis?  Are they really desperate for patients, are they trying to give me added ammunition for any future DWP claims or are they scientifically curious with ample time on their hands? >confused<
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 10 May 2014 05:29PM
Quote
..I do mind someone writing to my GP telling them I'm taking a certain drug when I'm not - that kind of carelessness can lead to real problems.

That's pretty shocking that they got a fundamental fact so wrong  >doh<
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Post by: seegee on 10 May 2014 07:12PM
Quote
..I do mind someone writing to my GP telling them I'm taking a certain drug when I'm not - that kind of carelessness can lead to real problems.

That's pretty shocking that they got a fundamental fact so wrong  >doh<

I have a suspicion that he heard the dosage & thought "nobody gets that much of drug A for a skin condition, she must mean/ have said drug B" (or maybe forgot that I'd definitely said A before he wrote it down)  but I do get that much drug A for a skin condition as I have a reasonable sensible dermatology team who are willing to give higher doses if it works without intolerable side-effects (and they treat me as an adult who'd have the sense to report any nasty side-effects).  I think the dose I take is about 120% the "ordinary" max in dermatology, but it seems I'm not "ordinary" in having a high tolerance and it helps a lot. 

I'm beginning to wonder if I have any organs at all that are ordinary/ normal, as the more bits of me get looked at the clearer it becomes that - this - and that - and that too - ooh, and this - are not as expected. >lol< 
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 10 May 2014 07:51PM
Sorry I got hold of the wrong end of the stick, seegee.  >bighugs<
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Post by: Mabelcat on 10 May 2014 08:13PM
I miss my brain.  In the last two days I have twice switched on an electric ring that had a plastic box on it.  I got in the car today to find the battery flat so after a jump start had to go for a long drive rather than a quick trip to the next village to buy cat food.

I foolishly decided to drive to Waitrose where I of course spent far more money than I intended.  My choice of course but annoying nonetheless.  I also forgot the PIN for the card I wanted to use which has now been disabled.  Mercifully it's not my main card.

I'm also monumentally peed off with work but that's another story.
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Post by: seegee on 10 May 2014 09:27PM
Oh, yuk, smell of burning plastic.  Hope you get a replacement card easily for the one you put out of use. 
Flat battery seems to happen to most drivers sometime but it is a pest. 
Hope you got some enjoyable food from Waitrose, Kate.  >hugs< >chocolate<

NN, no problem at all, I'm just passing on a bit of my confusion & sharing it out; sure you didn't need a bit of added confusion but you got some anyway. ;-) >biggrin<
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Post by: Mabelcat on 10 May 2014 10:19PM
I have managed to get my PIN reset.  The day has improved with the addition of homemade quiche followed by apple crumble and a cat cuddle or two.
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Post by: oldtone27 on 11 May 2014 11:13AM
I reckon apple crumble is the ultimate comfort food. Cat cuddles are pretty good too.
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 11 May 2014 11:26AM
Quote
I also forgot the PIN for the card I wanted to use which has now been disabled.  Mercifully it's not my main card.

That happened to me too - in 2007, when I was trying to make a major purchase (new oven).  Highly frustrating and embarrassing!  But could have been worse;  like you, I had another card to fall back on..

I'll bet the homemade quiche was a joy to the taste buds - and was the crumble served with custard and cream?  *salivating just thinking of it all*
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Post by: Mabelcat on 11 May 2014 12:13PM
Custard!  The quiche was pretty good, though I say so myself.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 11 May 2014 06:15PM
Argh - that all sounds very frustrating, Mabelcat.  >hugs<

Add me to the list of apple crumble fans. It's gorgeous in the autumn with some blackberries added into the mix.  >thumbsup<

I'm just recovering from my own arrgh on Friday. Had to get to a hospital appointment when half the town was closed due to the Giro d'Italia, so had to endure a 5 hour round trip only to be told that they were making a referral I thought had been made 8 months ago.   >erm<

I suppose on the up-side I did get to see some folk wihzzing past of bicycles at quite an impressive speed. 
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 11 May 2014 07:51PM
5 hours' travelling in vain  >yikes<  hope you've recovered from that, the thought of it makes me shudder!
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 11 May 2014 08:26PM
How frustrating NN  >hugs<
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Post by: seegee on 11 May 2014 09:03PM
NN, do you think it's sensible to continue calling a cycle race Giro d'Italia or Tour de France if parts of them are happening in the UK?  I don't get it (and I know it wasn't you who decided that a circuit of Italy should include places such a long way from, er, Italy)...  >erm< >confused<

 :-( about your extra-long trip. >bighugs<
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Post by: Hurtyback on 11 May 2014 10:18PM
Boo to unnecessary car journeys!


I'm going to Cambridge on Tuesday with a friend for a girly few days. Unfortunately her grandfather died recently and the funeral is on Tuesday too. In Maidstone. Which is no-where on the route from Bournemouth to Cambridge. So we will have to leave home at 5.30 am to drive to Maidstone first, then continue on to Cambridge afterwards.


I am not looking forward to the journey even though I will put the front seat down and doze as much as possible.  :-(
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Post by: Mabelcat on 11 May 2014 10:57PM
I will be driving well over three hundred .lies for work this week.  I'm going to be so tired.
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Post by: Hurtyback on 11 May 2014 10:59PM
Mabelcat  >hugs<  that is a lot of driving!
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 12 May 2014 01:29AM
Thanks, everyone.  >bighugs< I'm more or less recovered now, but am still a bit sore from all the prolonged sitting. 

Seegee - it beats me! It's not just the UK either. Yesterday's stage was from Armagh to Dublin. I suppose it's just because the names of the races are world famous that they don't get changed even though parts of them are being held nowhere near the country of origin.

It was pretty cool to have part if such a well-known event staged here, but I could have lived without the road closures.  Wouldn't have minded so much, but it usually only takes about 30 or so minutes to get to that hospital!

Mabelcat and Hurty  >hugs< I hope your respective journeys go well.
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Post by: Fiz on 12 May 2014 03:53PM
 >bighugs<
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Post by: Mabelcat on 12 May 2014 06:58PM
Due to an undeliverable email I did not get the message that today's meeting had been moved to a different venue.   This was a little vexing as I had driven 60 miles to get there.  I think it was a technical glitch on the email system so I can't even shout at anyone about it.
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Post by: Mabelcat on 12 May 2014 07:01PM
I meant to add that once I got to the office I discovered that a colleague had brought in his pet lamb, Shaun.  Shaun apparently spent the day on the rehabilitation ward in the hospital being fussed over by the patients.
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Post by: Hurtyback on 12 May 2014 07:42PM
Bah! to the moved meeting Mabelcat, and how lovely to have a real baa to fuss over  >biggrin<


NN, a friend of mine lives on the Isle of Man. The islanders are pretty much prisoners in their homes while the TT races are on!
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Post by: Becca7 on 03 Jun 2014 03:09PM
Just adding my argh for the day : people who don't listen. And say one thing and do another.  >angry< >angry<

And people who go on a thread to argh and interrupt conversation flow....  >doh<
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 03 Jun 2014 04:15PM
I don't think you're 'interrupting' anything, the last post was over 3 weeks ago  ;-)

Anyway, this thread is a 'feel free to chip in at any point there is an aaarggghhh in your life' sort of thing, for everyone here!
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 03 Jun 2014 05:57PM
Just adding my argh for the day : people who don't listen. And say one thing and do another.  >angry< >angry<

That is just sooo annoying when that happens.  I feel angry for you just thinking about it!
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Post by: Becca7 on 03 Jun 2014 06:15PM
Thanks Kizzy. Was in bit of a state and hadn't noticed date of the posts!

Still  >angry< intending to go out for some fresh air in a bit. Maybe calm down!
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 03 Jun 2014 09:02PM
 >bighugs<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 07 Aug 2014 12:20PM
So I'm on Prednisolone and Azathioprine and I think I have developed Oral Thrush and phone my GP's this morning my doctor has no appointments till middle of September OK then I ask for an appointment with any practice doctor soonest is two weeks from now Arghhhhhhh !!!!
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 07 Aug 2014 12:23PM
That's outrageous.  How can they possibly expect you to wait that long before getting treatment?
I really hope you manage to get seen before then. It sounds very uncomfortable  >hugs<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 07 Aug 2014 12:41PM
Dic, how miserable, and how ludicrous that you can't get an appointment sooner!  >hugs<

Chlorhexidine mouthwash can sometimes help to relieve oral inflammation, so it might be useful to you in the meantime:

http://www.nhs.uk/medicine-guides/pages/MedicineOverview.aspx?medicine=Corsodyl%20mouthwash

Corsodyl can be bought OTC but is quite pricey. I don't know if you have Numark chemists 'across the water'. but they do a generic version which is significantly cheaper.

If you can't get a cancellation at the surgery, then call back and insist on an emergency appointment.   
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Post by: Frances on 07 Aug 2014 12:58PM
Before Nystatin and the Antifungles. My Mum used GENTIAN VIOLET SOL 1% . You can get it on Amazon.
Ryan gets lots of thrush and the prescribed stuff no longer works So after a chat with the Doc ,
 He agrees its worth trying GENTIAN VIOLET SOL 1% , Amazon sell it so its ordered.
 Also Coconut oil has good reports . You slosh it around your mouth for several Mins or as long as you can. Several times a day and then spit it out. Don't eat or drink for a good 30 mins.
Hope this helps. At least coconut oil can be got easily so no long wait.
 Hope this helps. Frances.  :-)
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Post by: SteveX on 07 Aug 2014 02:22PM
Arggghhh.

Just biting into my dinner (a corned beef butty with brown sauce on)
and I felt something hard..   After some examination of the object and my mouth I found out it's a filling that's come out. (The temporary filling I was given over a year ago)

I can't be bothered getting it fixed now, it'll wait a week or two ;)

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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 07 Aug 2014 02:30PM
That's annoying, Steve. I hope it's not too painful. >hugs<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 07 Aug 2014 02:36PM
Yes I'm going to have to give corsodyl a try and maybe Gentian Violet and will try to get an emergency appointment being on Immunosuppressants  can make some thing like this a bit tricky to deal with. So I don't think I can leave it too long.

Steve I hope it's not too painful too.
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Post by: SteveX on 07 Aug 2014 02:49PM
That's annoying, Steve. I hope it's not too painful. >hugs<

It's not painful at all, so it can wait. :)
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 07 Aug 2014 04:44PM
So I'm on Prednisolone and Azathioprine and I think I have developed Oral Thrush and phone my GP's this morning my doctor has no appointments till middle of September OK then I ask for an appointment with any practice doctor soonest is two weeks from now Arghhhhhhh !!!!

That is just unacceptable.  I know with my surgery they keep a few emergency appointment slots that can be used on the actual day, ie you have to ring first thing in the morning to get them on the same day - I thought all GP surgeries had to offer this option.  After all, they're supposed to be reducing the pressure on A & E departments where people who can't be seen might well turn up instead...

Arggghhh.

Just biting into my dinner (a corned beef butty with brown sauce on)
and I felt something hard..   After some examination of the object and my mouth I found out it's a filling that's come out. (The temporary filling I was given over a year ago)

I can't be bothered getting it fixed now, it'll wait a week or two ;)

Don't blame you if it's not playing you up, you've probably had enough excitement to go on with  ;-) I lost my bridge last year while biting into a huge hot dog that I bought at the town carnival - I wonder if someone found it in the morning while scouting around for thrown pennies that the collectors missed >lol<

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Post by: ATurtle on 07 Aug 2014 05:46PM
The last time I needed to see my GP in a hurry, I phoned up at 0830 and was the first to be answered, and they said "how desperate are you, I've got an appointment in two weeks?"

So, I said "Well, on top of having an immunity problem as I haven't got a spleen, I think I have Acute Nasopharyngitis!"

"Oh, right, I can squeeze you in at 10:30!"

I got in to see the GP at 10:45 and the first thing he said to me was "How's the cold?" (Acute Nasopharyngitis is the medical name for the common cold)

I just said "Fine, it disappeared as soon as I hung up"
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Post by: Hurtyback on 07 Aug 2014 06:27PM
Dic, failing getting an emergency appointment, you have another couple of options -1) If there is a Nurse Practitioner in the practice they can see you and probably prescribe. Otherwise a Practice Nurse could see you and ask the GP to sign a script. 2) You could ask for a telephone consultation with a GP, they might prescribe without seeing you or miraculously 'find' an appointment for you.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 07 Aug 2014 07:04PM
Yes I will phone again in the morning early and see if any of those options are viable else wise it may be a trip to the AE over the weekend.
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Post by: seegee on 07 Aug 2014 07:32PM
If you can't get to see a doctor or nurse, it's often worth asking a pharmacist for advice before going to A&E/ walk-in centre, where you may have to wait for a long time. 
Pharmacists usually know more about even the prescription drugs than most doctors - of course they can't supply prescription-only medicines without a script from a doctor or nurse (yes, some nurses can prescribe) but they can offer expert advice & might be able to sell you something that will help. 
If a pharmacist reckons you really do need a prescription, you may have to put up with the wait at the walk-in centre. :-(

Hope you get effective treatment soon.  >x-fingers<
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Post by: Fiz on 07 Aug 2014 07:56PM
I thought everyone had a right to an appointment on the day? I've always been able to get an appointment with the duty Doctor on the same day, and even my own GP keeps 3 appointments free each day which get released at 8am when the surgery opens so if you are quick you can even see your own GP. Maybe I am just blessed with my GP practice?
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Post by: seegee on 07 Aug 2014 09:46PM
Sounds as if you have a practice that's not as over-subscribed as some others Fiz. 
At my GPs some appointments are kept free for on-the-day things such as a young child who's been up all night with a sore throat, but most adults rarely get a same-day appointment; I last got one when I had a TIA, phoned at lunchtime & was slotted in about 5pm...
The "next-day" appointments are released at 6pm for our surgery but the line can be continuously engaged for 15-20 minutes - by which time all the next day's appointments have gone so patients are advised to phone at 6pm tomorrow... 
Trying to phone at 8am seems fruitless, as there are hardly any same-day slots & they are gone before 8:05am.
It is relatively easy now to book a non-emergency appointment for a week or two ahead though. 

There's also a walk-in centre 3 miles away & another 5 miles away, both with frequent buses all day, so if you do really need something a local pharmacist can't handle you don't have to wait for a GP appt.
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 07 Aug 2014 10:46PM
My GP surgery sounds much like the one Fiz goes to. It's when I hear about other people's experience that I realise how fortunate I am.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 07 Aug 2014 11:02PM
The nearest walk in centre to us is about 7 and a half miles from here over an hour by public transport 20 minutes by car if there is no traffic. The average wait for an appointment at our GP's is two to three weeks. Getting an emergency appointment is very difficult I will be lucky if I manage it tomorrow and the surgery is closed on a Saturday.
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Post by: SteveX on 07 Aug 2014 11:08PM
Good luck, I hope you get one for tomorrow!
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Post by: seegee on 07 Aug 2014 11:12PM
Good luck, I hope you get one for tomorrow!


 >x-fingers< >clover<
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Post by: Mabelcat on 07 Aug 2014 11:36PM
I share e the earth on getting GP appointments but have another for tonight.

Restless f+++ing legs.  I am exhausted from a busy week with lots of travelling and desperate for a good night's sleep but can't stop twitching.  Coupled with the worst hay fever I've ever had it ain't looking good for tonight.

My youngest cat Annie also has hay fever and is not only scared of my sneezes but also of her own poor little sausage.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 08 Aug 2014 12:02AM
Hay fever is horrible hope it eases up and the Restless legs settle down and you get a good nights rest.  >hugs<
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Post by: Mabelcat on 08 Aug 2014 12:32AM
I've taken some extra strong antihistamine I found and have just about stopped sneezing and the legs are settling down a bit.  I'm not at work tomorrow so a bad night won't be too disastrous.however annoying it may be.

I am usually a bit sneezy in summer but nothing like this and the cat has never been afflicted before.  It seems to be a really bad year for some reason.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 08 Aug 2014 12:37AM
For me it's usually in the mornings I sneeze for about the the first hour or so.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 08 Aug 2014 01:01AM
I've taken some extra strong antihistamine I found and have just about stopped sneezing and the legs are settling down a bit.

Glad that the symptoms are beginning to settle, Mabelcat  >hugs< . I can empathise to an extent with the twitching. I'm due to fly to England on Sunday for a medical appointment on Monday, and the increased anxiety and physical demands of getting prepared are causing nasty little spasms, electric tingles and  pins and needles everywhere. My pelvic muscles are jumping around like circus acrobats, and it's bloody painful.

The nearest walk in centre to us is about 7 and a half miles from here over an hour by public transport 20 minutes by car if there is no traffic. The average wait for an appointment at our GP's is two to three weeks. Getting an emergency appointment is very difficult I will be lucky if I manage it tomorrow and the surgery is closed on a Saturday.

Good luck for tomorrow, Dic.  >x-fingers<
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Post by: neurochick on 08 Aug 2014 03:08AM
There was some discussion of gentian violet earlier on the thread.  I just thought it was worth pointing out that gentian violet is carcinogenic so perhaps best avoided.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 08 Aug 2014 07:16AM
Oh yes I see what you mean.

Quote
Gentian Violet is a mild carcinogen (cancer causing agent) Studies at
the National Center for Toxicological Research (and similar studies
listed in the bibliography) have shown Gentian Violet to be a thyroid
and liver carcinogen for laboratory animals like rats, mice and
rabbits. Another reason is that Gentian Violet is toxic to the
sensitive cilia cells of the inner ear.

If some of the solution happens to seep through a perforated eardrum
it can cause a debilitating and permanent dizziness or deafness. A
third consideration is its reported effects on the fetus. Pregnant
animals in the Gentian Violet studies showed fetal abnormalities
including those to the musculoskeletal and urogenital systems.

Gentian violet also affected fertility and was deemed the cause of a
high rate of post-implantation mortality (either death or
reabsorption of the fetus). These factors make the product too big a
potential liability for a commercial production. The FDA has banned
its use as a food preservative and discourages its use in human
medical and veterinary preparations designed for chronic use (like
ear cleaners) although the agency seems to have no problem with
occasional use.


And http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/4065463
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Post by: Sunshine Meadows on 08 Aug 2014 08:50AM
 >bighugs<

Dic,

I hope you get an appointment  >x-fingers<
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Post by: seegee on 08 Aug 2014 10:45AM
Quinine sometimes helps with restless legs or leg cramps - so a glass of tonic water/ bitter lemon (they contain quinine) in the evening could possibly help, though there are cautions with some medicines & conditions, so not everyone should start drinking lots of tonic water regularly.  Can be a few weeks to take effect apparently, so it's unlikely to work if used occasionally.
It's available in tablet form, probably a more effective dose, from a GP if you get cramps that regularly disrupt sleep & stretching/ massaging the legs hasn't really helped (or you can't massage your legs & don't have someone to hand to do it for you; I realise not everyone can reach their own calves easily to do a leg massage). 
http://www.mhra.gov.uk/Safetyinformation/DrugSafetyUpdate/CON085085

Did you manage to get through to the GP surgery this morning, Dic?
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 08 Aug 2014 12:15PM
Yes but by the time I got through all emergency slots had been taken advised to try again on Monday morning  can't even get in to see practice nurse. Mind you took some earlier advice and bought Corsodyl and it has improved things somewhat. So will try again Monday and hope for the best.
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Post by: seegee on 08 Aug 2014 12:45PM
Can you consult a pharmacist before Monday?  Worth considering if the Corsodyl isn't as useful as hoped after a day or so but you don't think it's bad enough to wait hours in walk-in or A&E, as they may be able to suggest something else. 
Most pharmacies will be open all of today & tomorrow, while those in big supermarkets will be open all weekend. 

They could sell you chlorhexedine mouthwash at a much cheaper price than the branded Corsodyl too - same medicine, probably less than half the price. 
That's true of many over-the-counter medicines & a fair number of prescribed ones (if prescriber writes Corsodyl, the pharmacist has to give you that, so most prescribers write the name of the active ingredient & pharmacy issues the cheapest they have, which is just as effective) - don't be fooled by the labels, Disprin is just expensive soluble aspirin.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 08 Aug 2014 01:06PM
Dic >hugs<

Would it be possible to arrange to speak to any GP in the practice today?

The only other route I can think of, given that this is a mouth-related problem, would be to contact your dentist, who might be able to prescribe some anti-fungals. I do appreciate that it's the longest of long shots.

 
They could sell you chlorhexedine mouthwash at a much cheaper price than the branded Corsodyl too - same medicine, probably less than half the price. 
That's true of many over-the-counter medicines & a fair number of prescribed ones (if prescriber writes Corsodyl, the pharmacist has to give you that, so most prescribers write the name of the active ingredient & pharmacy issues the cheapest they have, which is just as effective) - don't be fooled by the labels, Disprin is just expensive soluble aspirin.

That's good advice, Seegee. The pharmacy I use does a very good trade in 'own brand' generics.

 
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 08 Aug 2014 01:22PM
In home bargains Corsodyl is over £2 cheaper than in Tesco or the Co-op so I have some now and will give it a chance to work over the week end.
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Post by: Hurtyback on 08 Aug 2014 03:10PM
Dic, I'm sorry that you were not able to be seen, it reminds me of the benefit of someone 'triaging' requests for same day appointments - so that the people who needed them were given appointments rather than those who shouted the loudest. I used to do that job and it was very rewarding. However, sometimes I would deal with more than 60 calls a day while the on-call doctor filed their nails, so the system had to be changed!
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Post by: oldtone27 on 08 Aug 2014 03:45PM
A friend of mine who has serious health problems has great difficulty seeing his GP, or any, at his practice, and I am not sure he believed me when I said I have little difficulty at mine.

He visited me recently and was very concerned when found he'd forgotten to bring some essential tablets. I took him along to my practice. The receptionist she'd find a slot with probably a 20min wait. In less time than that he had seen a doctor and left with a prescription. He was most impressed.
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Post by: Mabelcat on 08 Aug 2014 08:56PM
I want to see my own GP and am having to wait until September 19th.  It's partly because of holidays but it still seems ridiculous.  Granted I'm not acutely ill but I am really struggling with my long term conditions and six weeks is a long time to wait.

One of my cats is poorly and we only had to wait half a day for him to be seen.  Mind you I've paid for the privilege - nearly £50 for the consultation and eye drops.  The poor chap has conjunctivitis which is an argh for both of us.  He is miserable which is horrid and of course it comes in a month when I'm already strapped for cash.
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Post by: ally on 09 Aug 2014 09:30AM
You can't get to see our GP on the same day at all.  Sometimes you can't  get an appointment until the week after.  I can only lip read and understand two GPs at my practice  so, can only request them.  Its a waste of time me seeing anyone else as the others have no Knowledge of my SCS etc. Quite often if we need a prescription for antibiotics etc we go to a NHS walk in which is brilliant for seeing patients straight away.  Its pointless sitting around for a week if you're sick.  However, I've noticed the amount of patients not turning up for appointments has increased due to a notice stating this on the wall.  When I enquired I was told it was due to booking appointments on line.  Apparently, some are booking two or three appointments when they only need one.  Therefore, they can chose which one to turn up for   Hard luck for the rest of us.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 15 Aug 2014 02:20PM
Dic, how are things now? Did you manage to get an appointment?
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 15 Aug 2014 03:32PM
No unfortunately but the Corsodyl has helped a lot and the appointment I originally was able to make is now just a few days away so am going to hold on till then talked to the pharmacist but the only effective remedy Canesten oral that he had was £12 and they did not stock the alternative Fluconazole (Generic Canesten) that costs just £3. So will wait and get it on prescription if unable to get it else where.
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 15 Aug 2014 05:59PM
Do make sure you let your GP know all the problems you've been having to actually get seen by anyone at the surgery! 
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 15 Aug 2014 06:07PM
I will don't worry.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 15 Aug 2014 06:38PM
Good. At least fluconazole doesn't have too many side effects. Like many ladies, I've had to resort to it once or twice due to the dreaded Yeastie Beastie, and it does the job without making you feel too rough.  >hugs< 
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 15 Aug 2014 07:25PM
Slight error the generic  Fluconazole for £2.99 was on line at pharmacy first in the pharmacy at the local Tescos it is £6.00. Mind you I think I better wait and see my GP.

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If antibiotics or corticosteroids are thought to be causing your oral thrush, the medicine, or the way it is delivered, may need to be changed or the dosage reduced

From here http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Oral-thrush---adults/Pages/Treatment.aspx
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Post by: SteveX on 16 Aug 2014 01:10PM
Arrgghhhhh!  my damn neighbours are driving me up the wall.

They are doing something to their drains or whatever and have had a generator running about 2 foot away from my window for the past 5 days and just as I think I'll get a peaceful weekend, they are at it again..  it was 8 hours straight yesterday..

Very annoying and why they need to shove it against my wall to run it, I'll never know.. selfish sods. 

btw cotton wool in the ears doesn't work hahaha, I tried it :D
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 16 Aug 2014 02:18PM
Noise like that can really get you down.  Hope they finish the work soon and you can get some peace and quiet.   >hugs<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 16 Aug 2014 04:31PM
You could try stuffing the cotton wool up your neighbour's nose.  ;-)  >bighugs<
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 16 Aug 2014 04:38PM
I have a better place, but too polite to say so..

Cotton wool is useless for sound muffling, you really need proper ear-plugs (Superdrug, Boots, even some of the pound shops have packs of them - I'm never without because I use them during my afternoon sleep!)

Though the level of noise that a generator is going to produce is probably beyond the scope of ordinary domestic-use earplugs (but they will 'take the sharp edge off');  you could try asking the neighbour to move it away from your wall?  Sometimes people just don't think first, and are quite apologetic and happy to correct their mistake when it's pointed out in a polite and reasonable manner!

>edit to add
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 17 Aug 2014 07:02PM
Yes, a direct approach might be the best thing here.  You could start the conversation by asking them when the work is likely to be finished.  After all drains do have to be sorted and it is in your interests not to have drain smells coming in through the window.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 18 Aug 2014 07:23PM
Went for the long awaited doctors appointment today only to find they had mixed it up told us one day but booked another on the system. Managed to fit me in got a prescription for Nystan for the oral thrush thingy.

But have had a few bruises appear since starting on Azathioprine so she wants a blood test done soonest told me to arrange it withreceptionist no available slots for that tomorrow so I said you better talk to the doctor and sort something out OK will do that and call you before we close at 6:30 no phone call happened.
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Post by: Yvette on 19 Aug 2014 02:39PM
 >doh<
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Post by: Hurtyback on 19 Aug 2014 03:13PM
Dic  >hugs<  grrrrrr.


I contacted the car dealers today, due to collect my first motability car on 1st Sept, have arranged for a garage to buy my current car on 31st Aug. The guy at the dealership blithely told me that my new car isn't even due to be built until Sept 3rd! When were they planning to tell me if I hadn't phoned (for another reason)?!  >angry<


Seriously considering pulling out but don't know whether I am contractually bound to continue.
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 19 Aug 2014 03:28PM
I had a similar problem Hurty. About a month before I was due to pick my car up, I phoned the garage. The chap I spoke to suddenly went very quiet.  He had forgotten to order my car! They were very good about it and sourced a suitable car from another dealer that ended up as an upgrade from my original order. As it was their cock up, I didn't have to pay the extra for the upgrade and they arranged all the changes with motability. In the end, it worked out in my favour,  the only thing I had no control over was the colour!
Under the circumstances I would give motability a ring and see what can be done.  It is totally unacceptable the way you are being treated.  You were promised a car by a set date. They have failed to uphold their end of the contract and I'm sure motability will want to be informed of dealers breaching contracts.
Good luck and I hope it works out for you.
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Post by: Hurtyback on 19 Aug 2014 03:33PM
Thanks Dd, the dealership is going to try and source another car and will contact me on Thursday. If they don't, or the call is not satisfactory, I will contact Motability. We put in the order more than 2 months ago and the only reason it wasn't earlier is because the dealership told us there was no need!


TBH, I'm getting cold feet  :-(  Really worried that I might lose my benefit if the forthcoming SCS proves helpful, then I would have to lose the motability car and buy something myself... Don't know how likely that is, which is what is making me nervous.
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 19 Aug 2014 03:58PM
I know what you mean.  My contract ends in 11months time and I'm really unsure what to do next. I'm worried that when I'm reassessed for PIP that I'll lose my mobility component and I don't want to order another car until I know what's happening.  But I don't know when I'll be reassessed so I don't know what to do.  Catch 22  >erm<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 19 Aug 2014 08:09PM
Dic, Hurty and DD  >bighugs<
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 19 Aug 2014 08:36PM
I've got moths infesting one room and little oval bugs in the kitchen.  Help!
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Post by: oldtone27 on 19 Aug 2014 08:47PM
I thought there are a lot of moths about, but I've not found any oval bugs yet.
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 19 Aug 2014 08:50PM
Auntie, are they clothes moths?  You can buy pheromone traps for certain moths if you have an infestation.  They can be awful.  Not sure what to do with oval bugs though!
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 19 Aug 2014 09:04PM
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To take care of the immediate problem of moths in your closet, trap them with pheromone moth traps, which attract and kill them with a sticky substance that they can't escape once they touch.
You can make your own moth traps with flypaper and fish oil, which attracts moths. Dab a bit on some fly paper and hang it in your closet.
Traps designed to catch mice are also effective for catching moths.

Also not sure of little oval bugs but you could try generic insecticide  or hair spray which might turn little oval bugs into little oval statues, I used to use it on flies and it would almost stop them in mid flight.

On further thought and after a quick search They could be carpet beetles  https://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20100622114917AAwQ7gy
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 19 Aug 2014 11:00PM
Thank you Dic.  I had no idea what to look for on google.

The kitchen ones are probably not carpet beetles.  They are about as small as a few mm in length and are crunchy if you squash one.  They seem to be originating around a small plate glass window that does not open that is over a kitchen counter.  Mostly they have rolled over on their backs with their little feet up in the air, quite dead.  A few are scuttling about.

I've got the sticky moth traps already in the other room and one in the doorway to deter them from venturing out but they keep on coming.  My Rumanian cleaner says that back home they have wonderful things to cure clothes moths and her cousin is going on hol back there shortly and will bring some back for me.  She says they are very cheap.  We shall see.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 20 Aug 2014 10:34AM
You could try sending a photo of the little blighters to the pest control officer at your local council. Those folk generally know their insects, and could tell you if they are anything to worry about and what to do to deter them from your house.  >hugs<
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Post by: Richard_D on 20 Aug 2014 11:41AM
Thank you Dic.  I had no idea what to look for on google.

The kitchen ones are probably not carpet beetles.  They are about as small as a few mm in length and are crunchy if you squash one.  They seem to be originating around a small plate glass window that does not open that is over a kitchen counter.  Mostly they have rolled over on their backs with their little feet up in the air, quite dead.  A few are scuttling about.

I've got the sticky moth traps already in the other room and one in the doorway to deter them from venturing out but they keep on coming.  My Rumanian cleaner says that back home they have wonderful things to cure clothes moths and her cousin is going on hol back there shortly and will bring some back for me.  She says they are very cheap.  We shall see.

Do you have a birds living close to your place?
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 20 Aug 2014 09:35PM
Not that I am aware of, but a good idea.

I have just realised that the kitchen one's can fly, well, those that are not dead do fly a little bit.
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Post by: Richard_D on 21 Aug 2014 09:12PM
Could be some sort of mite like avian mites or something like that.  >confused<
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 21 Aug 2014 09:18PM
I looked up avian mite but it said "They are generally opaque/whitish but will be darker after a blood meal."  Mine are all the same colour black whether alive or dead, and are probably slightly larger too, according to the website I was looking at.
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Post by: Richard_D on 28 Aug 2014 12:17AM
Could they be mould mites feeding from hidden mould in the building?
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Post by: SteveX on 28 Aug 2014 01:51PM
Arrghhhh!

I just had a fall.  I got up from my chair to go to the bathroom, went dizzy for a moment and fell down.

Don't worry, I'm okay, I didn't hit my head, just grazed my leg on the cat basket of all things.  hah

Edit: ..and it seems Sky is on heat, she's being ultra cuddly and yowling a lot with her rear end stuck up.   She's not been 'done' as I simply didn't have the money to do it, I'll have to get her done soon.  Poor little love.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 28 Aug 2014 02:56PM
Steve and Sky  >bighugs<

Lots of vets will do neutering and basic vaccination free for anyone on a low income or benefits.

PDSA will also do it.
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Post by: Hurtyback on 28 Aug 2014 03:11PM
Steve  >hugs<  glad that you were not hurt. I agree that PDSA is the way to go.
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Post by: SteveX on 28 Aug 2014 03:21PM
Thanks.

My mum phoned the local PDSA, they quoted £33.  Not cheap but I guess it could be worse :)
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 28 Aug 2014 03:38PM
This is the information for the Cats Protection financial assistance scheme:

http://www.cats.org.uk/what-we-do/neutering/financial-assistance

I hope that you're able to get Sky neutered soon, and that your leg heals quickly.  >hugs<
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Post by: Fiz on 28 Aug 2014 05:34PM
I paid the PDSA £23 to have my female cat neutered a couple of years ago. They charge cost price so do them on a no profit basis. Sorry to hear about your fall.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 29 Aug 2014 02:47PM
So have been prescribed Azathioprine by Neurologist at the hospital as am running out asked at GP's if they could prescribe it as my copy of letter to GP says continue prescription, answer no we don't prescribe that you have to get it from the hospital its Friday and I now have to contact the hospital and arrange a prescription if possible and collect it. arghhhhhh! to the power of 10.

Oh and my repeat prescription due for collection today had not been done so by tomorrow will have no Prednisolone either unless they sort it by the morning. >angry<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 29 Aug 2014 07:15PM
Typical that such a foul-up has to happen on a Friday.  >bighugs<
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Post by: Yvette on 29 Aug 2014 07:44PM
Dic, I despair I really do.   >doh<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 29 Aug 2014 08:16PM
Well  luckily I have now got my Azathioprine neurologist not at all happy with GP's surgery the lady from neurology had to search the hospital to find him then he did the script that was then rushed down to the hospital pharmacy so I could pick it up later. He had expected that my GP would have added it to my repeat prescription as he had sent out a letter weeks ago. If they had not received the letter all they had to do was phone the hospital and they would have faxed it to them. If I had had to wait till my follow up appointment we would have had to start the process all over again including weekly blood test for a month and all.

Oh and there's more Emily GS's girl friend and her sister phone us while I'm sorting that lot out in a panic,  their aunt had taken them to their fathers home to pick up his things then taken the huff with them over something driven off telling them to walk home leaving them stranded thirty miles from home with no way of getting back, so that meant a sixty mile round trip to pick them up. I am positively shattered.
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Post by: seegee on 29 Aug 2014 10:00PM
Hope you have a peaceful weekend, Dic - certainly sounds like you need some rest after this week. >bighugs< >chocolate< >bighugs< >dove<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 29 Aug 2014 10:19PM
Thanks seegee I do  all in all a traumatic and busy day TA for the chocolate and hugs and the bird of peace.
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 29 Aug 2014 10:20PM
Steve, yes it could be worse - you could have my vets bill after the  tests, xrays, opening Alice up and closing her again etc etc.  Believe me it is more than a little more than yours.  I was dumbfounded when we went in for the post-op check-up this afternoon.

Pets!!

Dic I know the panic one feels when one has run out of pills.  I go through it every month with the receptionists at my Drs.  There is always a problem.  And they will not let you get the monthly prescriptions early as a just-in-case either.  >hugs<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 29 Aug 2014 10:33PM
Ta auntie I just hope my repeat is ready in the morning as running out of preds can be a painful experience.

Veterinary bills can be traumatic and ridiculously high. The PDSA here requires proof of low income and will only accept a housing benefit letter as that proof.
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Post by: seegee on 30 Aug 2014 10:35AM
That's crazy, Dic - so someone who lives in a home they have paid the mortgage for in full but is now on a low income can't get any sort of reduction from PDSA?  Things change, thirty years to pay off a mortgage then made redundant at 57 for example; thirty years not having much to spend, thinking how much better off they'll be once the house is paid for... would now still have all home maintenance costs, pet care & general daily living to pay from JSA/IS but PDSA don't think that's a low income.  >doh<
 
How are RSPCA treatment centres for people on low incomes?
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Post by: Yvette on 30 Aug 2014 10:52AM
their aunt had taken them to their fathers home to pick up his things then taken the huff with them over something driven off telling them to walk home leaving them stranded thirty miles from home with no way of getting back,

That is appalling.  To do that to two girls who have just lost their father is unforgivable.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 30 Aug 2014 11:06AM
That's what I thought also no matter what, you don't do that.
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Post by: Fiz on 30 Aug 2014 12:19PM
Pdsa also accept council tax reduction recipients
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 30 Aug 2014 07:10PM
That's good.
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 30 Aug 2014 09:12PM
Aaargh. I have an enormous abscess on my bum and it is really painful. Hopefully it will start draining tonight.  This is the fourth one in a week, and just after my last dermatology appointment where it was noted how much better it was looking. Bloody typical timing!
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 30 Aug 2014 10:21PM
Not good,  things like that hurt like hell hope it eases up soon.

 >bighugs<  >chocolate<
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 30 Aug 2014 10:36PM
Sod's Law!

Poor you, you must be feeling miserable.   >hugs<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 31 Aug 2014 12:41AM
Dic and DD  >bighugs< >bighugs<
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Post by: Fiz on 31 Aug 2014 03:00AM
 >bighugs<
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Post by: Yvette on 31 Aug 2014 11:07AM
DD, as a fellow abscess sufferer, I have the utmost sympathy for your plight.  >hugs<  >hugs<  >hugs<  >hugs<  >hugs<  >hugs<  >hugs<

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Post by: ditchdwellers on 31 Aug 2014 11:27AM
Thanks for all your kind words and choc and hugs!  Well the damn thing didn't drain last night,  so  >x-fingers< that it goes today.  Another long soak in the bath might just do it.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 31 Aug 2014 12:22PM
DD have you tried a poultice old fashioned remedy I know but they do often work?

http://www.healing-from-home-remedies.com/make-a-poultice.html
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Post by: Yvette on 31 Aug 2014 03:27PM
When I was about seven or eight years old and had a large boil on my leg, my Mom made a soap and sugar poultice.

She grated some coal tar soap, mixed it with ordinary granulated sugar, dampened it to make a mush and scraped it onto a (clean) rag and bandaged it onto my leg.  It did help. 
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Post by: Hurtyback on 31 Aug 2014 04:32PM
Dic and Dd  >bighugs<
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 31 Aug 2014 09:38PM
How is the affliction now, DD?  I have been wincing on your behalf...
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 31 Aug 2014 10:10PM
I'm still afflicted!  I tried a poultice as suggested and it's still stubbornly there getting bigger. It currently measures 8cm in diameter and protrudes greatly. I reckon I'll go down a dress size when it eventually goes! I may have to phone my dermatologist if it hasn't gone of its own accord in a day or two.
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Post by: Fiz on 31 Aug 2014 11:54PM
Ouch  >dove< the dove is bringing a soothing poultice rather than chocolate
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 01 Sep 2014 01:12AM
Gentle  >hugs< DD
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Post by: SteveX on 01 Sep 2014 11:30AM
That sounds painful DD.  Hope it's better soon.
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 01 Sep 2014 08:52PM
It must be fascinating watching it grow like that.  ;-)
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 01 Sep 2014 10:20PM
Yes, particularly as it changes colour as it grows  >lol<  Still waiting for it to erupt.  Off for another bath shortly, so  >x-fingers<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 01 Sep 2014 10:27PM
When it does erupt I hope it won't be a hazard to air travel. >whistle<
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Post by: oldtone27 on 02 Sep 2014 09:42AM
We are now eagerly awaiting who's going to erupt first? Ditchdwellers or Iceland?  >whistle<
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Post by: Hurtyback on 02 Sep 2014 04:02PM
We are now eagerly awaiting who's going to erupt first? Ditchdwellers or Iceland?  >whistle<


 >lol<
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Post by: Yvette on 03 Sep 2014 12:06PM
Let's hope it will be Ditchdwellers so she gets some relief in her nether regions.   >hugs<
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Post by: SteveX on 06 Sep 2014 12:40AM
12:38am.  Just got woken up by yelling.
It seems someone in one of the flats here has just come home drunk ..or worse.  and a lot of loud talking and yelling going on which is making me feel very very nervous.  I've moved out of my bedroom and into my living room, its a little further away.  I know most would just shrug this off as nothing, but it unnerves me greatly.  I'm also a little scared. 
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Post by: Fiz on 06 Sep 2014 07:21AM
 >hugs<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 06 Sep 2014 09:51AM
Steve  >hugs<
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Post by: Richard_D on 06 Sep 2014 01:17PM
12:38am.  Just got woken up by yelling.
It seems someone in one of the flats here has just come home drunk ..or worse.  and a lot of loud talking and yelling going on which is making me feel very very nervous.  I've moved out of my bedroom and into my living room, its a little further away.  I know most would just shrug this off as nothing, but it unnerves me greatly.  I'm also a little scared.

Would you feel comfortable reporting the issue to the landlord or council?

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Post by: SteveX on 06 Sep 2014 07:09PM
Apologies for not posting earlier..  didn't get much sleep and I forgotten that I'd posted this.

I'm okay, no problems.   I hope it was just a one-off thing.

Thanks for caring :)
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Post by: Yvette on 06 Sep 2014 08:23PM
I'm glad you are feeling better.   >biggrin<
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 08 Sep 2014 02:55PM
Abcsess update: I'm still waiting for it to erupt! I spoke to my dermatologist's secretary this morning and she will have to speak to the doctor to see if he can book me in. She will call me back on Thursday. So in the meantime I'm stuck with a very painful egg sized lump on my bum  :-(
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Post by: Sunshine Meadows on 08 Sep 2014 03:27PM
DD,

That sounds horrible so very gentle  >hugs<

I dont know anything about the human care of such things but with dogs the advice is to hold a very hold wash cloth against the abcess to see if it will burst. Hard to sort out when it is on your own bum though.
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Post by: Fiz on 08 Sep 2014 03:37PM
Oh dd that sounds horrid. I think you've been amazingly patient with it  >hugs<
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Post by: Hurtyback on 08 Sep 2014 03:38PM
Dd  >hugs<


Sunshine, I know that Dd has been having hot baths for the same reason. Here's hoping they will soon do the trick.
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 08 Sep 2014 04:01PM
Yes,I've been having three baths a day to try to get the damn thing to burst but no luck. I get a lot of them so sort of feel I should be used to it by now. The antibiotics don't seem to be doing anything even though I've been on them for the last month.   >steam<
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Post by: Yvette on 08 Sep 2014 05:08PM
Try putting a couple of handfuls of  Epsom salts in your bath each time -  it is used by the NHS to draw boils and abscesses under the name of Magnesium Sulfate.

You can buy a huge tub from the Chemist for a very reasonable price.
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Post by: huhn on 10 Sep 2014 05:24AM
That was a very bad start in the day. 6.10 stands die Police  by my door and complaints , that  we are to noisy to get out of bed. It was noisy , first my  small children have no noise control, so when they talk its always noisy, its one of the side effect from their handy cap. Second my big boy was home, and he is extreme hyper, but has no more medis, he did not found a good doctor since he is over 18. and the other thing is, the school just started and my little ones are headless chicken, they have to find their  routine first to settle down. and between i have a big building site in my house what makes things more difficult.It was the last thing what I needed. I never complain when the  adult children  from next door come drunk home 2o clock. The police said in my face,  everyone has more problems, to look after 3 handy capped people on my own is easy, I am not working like all the others. I have to take more care not to disturbe  them, but they can stare at me and the children and cross them selves when  they see me. >crying< >crying< >crying<so the police is reporting today to the welfare department that I am not able to look after my children. That can give only more problems. I ask before  for help for the household or hourly for a carer to give me a little bit of free space, but all what i got was, you receive the money and that is all for you, shut up and go. I  struggle to deal with my big girl, she has schizophrenia , and her mood  swings and way of  seeing  the world makes my scared. but the worst thing is, i stand here alone to deal with it and  all what people say to me is shut up and deal on your own , we have bigger problems and so i am on my own all day and look after the house and food and children . next door has even built a  2 meter high fence, so i  can see only a 4 meter wide piece of road. I do not like now more to sit in my front garden to knit and stich, all what i see is a  big fence, no sun no busy road. So i am now away to start with my daily work in the house.
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Post by: Fiz on 10 Sep 2014 05:35AM
 >bighugs<
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Post by: Yvette on 10 Sep 2014 07:59AM
Perhaps the Welfare will now have to give you some help - I do hope so.   >hugs<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 10 Sep 2014 09:36AM
 >bighugs<
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Post by: SteveX on 10 Sep 2014 11:59AM
>bighugs<
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Post by: Richard_D on 10 Sep 2014 01:10PM
huhn,
Would it be a good idea to talk to someone at some point at your local newspaper?

If you aren't getting the help and support you need to cope maybe something could be done to try and encourage local services to support you instead of leaving you to do it all by yourself.

If you get a visit from Social Services try and record all  the conversations you have with them and explain that you need help.

Not really sure what else to say, maybe another member on here might have a few helpful suggestions or advice to give you.

I hope things get better, Good Luck.  >hugs<
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Post by: ally on 10 Sep 2014 01:35PM
I'm sorry for everyone having an agghhh day.  Mine started eleven days ago.  I had a fall resulting in a fractured hip and cracked arm.  The pain was horrendous, and made worse by some uncaring health workers working for the NHS.  The indifference and attitude of some of the staff there was amazing.  My room pulled together and got PALS involved as it was so bad.  We were all left to sit for 12 hours on a chair.  Anyone with spinal problems  will know how difficult it is to try and remain seated even a few hours.  The main reason was because they'd have to make the bed earlier, or, even Re make it.  After breaking down crying my furious husband complained, and I was allowed back to bed when needed.  Not all staff were awful.  The elderly night nurse who comforted me after a bed roll left me in agony, and a young one who made sure I was up to date with everything  and took time to talk to me have my respect. I came home last night, And I'm now taking one day at a time.  So glad to be home
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Post by: Hurtyback on 10 Sep 2014 03:44PM
Oh Ally, poor you!  >hugs<  I am sorry to hear about your injuries and to know that the nursing care you received was so poor. Situations like this make me feel ashamed to have belonged to the same profession  :-(  I do hope that your pain is now under control and you are healing well  >chocolate<   >rosez<
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Post by: Sunshine Meadows on 10 Sep 2014 03:53PM
Huhn,

 >hugs< if I lived near you I would buy you a climbing plant to grow up the fence and cover it flowers  >rose< >rose< >rose<

I hope you get the help you need and if not then I hope at least people eg the police stop making life feel worse.

Ally,

 >hugs< I am glad there was some good staff who did help and comfort you.
Get well soon   >mug-tea<
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Post by: Fiz on 10 Sep 2014 03:59PM
Sorry to hear that ally,  I hope you heal quickly now and I'm pleased you are home. 
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Post by: Yvette on 10 Sep 2014 04:21PM
Ally, what a dreadful experience. 

I truly do not know what is the matter with some health staff today. 

I appreciate is not easy working in the NHS in this day and age but there is no need for rudeness or unkindness or being uncaring.
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 10 Sep 2014 07:06PM
Life can be just so exciting sometimes!   ;-)

Hugs to all those that need a few at the moment.  >hugs<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 10 Sep 2014 11:20PM
I have news for the car manufacturers who no longer supply spare wheels when you hit an obstruction and the tyre is displaced from the wheel no amount of sealant and pumping makes the slightest difference.

And Motability should make it clear to KwikFit mobile response,  that leave the car where it is and we will be there tomorrow morning is just not good enough.

I am home my car is four miles away and I have to get back to it tomorrow somehow and hope its not been vandalised. AAArrrrggghhhhhh.
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Post by: Fiz on 11 Sep 2014 07:34AM
Oh gosh! That's not good. Poor you  >hugs<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 11 Sep 2014 07:55AM
No not very good and the wife is not best pleased as I normally take her to work and getting there by bus is not easy and she has training on the new computer system at the hospital this morning and wanted an early start. She is getting training on the system ahead of every one else as she is going to be a trouble shooter for the rest of the department when it comes on line. And it's my fault if she's late it seems.
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Post by: seegee on 11 Sep 2014 09:47AM
Well of course it's your fault, as you decided to place something in the road then run over it - and you designed the wheel that can't cope with being bumped - and you decided that putting spare wheels in cars was a silly idea - and you got to her employers, ensuring that today would be the day she needs to start early - and you decided that Kwik-Fit's mobile service would be immobile in the evenings... >whistle<

Hope it gets fixed without further difficulties today.  >x-fingers< >chocolate< >bighugs<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 11 Sep 2014 10:49AM
LoL, they phoned me this morning to tell me they are busy and wont be there till about one o'clock this afternoon.  Gives me a bit of time to get there I suppose.  :-)
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Post by: ally on 11 Sep 2014 11:12AM
Thanks everyone for your kind words, much appreciated as I've never felt in so much pain and low in my life.  Hurty, don't be ashamed for being a nurse.  Its a good profession which I admire, I couldn't be one. I have no doubt those in caring profession on this forum have been professionals.  As said, it was basically a two tiered system.  Those who were caring and good at their job obviously had to carry those who weren't.  My husband has compiled an email full of what went wrong while there.  I'm unsure whether to send it or not.  However, I feel it needs sorted for the next patient in the same situation as I was.  The worst thing was that the nurses who were lazy shall I say would put the alarm button out of reach so you couldn't ring for help.  I'm staying in contact with another patient who became a friend we are supporting each other as we had identical injuries.  I'll see what she is doing about everything.  Again, so glad to be home.
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Post by: oldtone27 on 11 Sep 2014 11:22AM
Dic, this is a Motability car, presumably for your mobility. There seems to be a slight clue in the name. If the car is immobile beside the road what are you supposed to do?

I think the fault lies with Motability having an inadequate contract with KwikFit which is not fit for purpose. They should be able to get out to you and restore mobility for such a mundane problem with an hour or two, at any time.

I don't know what the terms of your hire agreement are but I would make a formal complaint to Motability that their response is unacceptable. Who they use as their agents is their business. If that agent fails to provide an adequate service it is Motability's responsibility to deal with it.
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 11 Sep 2014 12:09PM
I would certainly complain to motability as that is not the sort of service we have been led to expect from them. I do hope it gets sorted soon.
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Post by: seegee on 11 Sep 2014 12:20PM
Ally, if you had problems with care while in hospital, you should send that e-mail both to PALS and to the hospital management (so that each can see the other has received it).  If people don't report problems, no-one can put them right. 
Leaving call buttons out of reach isn't acceptable.

I hope your recovery is quick & uneventful now that you are home. >bighugs<  >rose<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 11 Sep 2014 04:55PM
 >bighugs< and  >chocolate< for all on this thread who have been having a rough time. 
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Post by: Hurtyback on 11 Sep 2014 05:08PM
Ally, I am in full agreement with Seegee, things will never change if people don't speak up when things are wrong. I know its hard when you are in pain and just getting through the day takes so much effort  >hugs<


Dic, I also agree with oldtone. Your contract is with Motability and the 'service' you have received is well below par. Complain to Motability and it is up to them to fix things with their agents. I hate to think what might have happened if you had been unable to get yourself home  >angry<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 11 Sep 2014 06:31PM
Made my way back to the car for one o'clock KwikFit arrived about two thirty and I was on my way at three o'clock roughly 24 hours since making first call to them.

Yes oldtone and Hurty I am definitely going to complain to Motability as am not very impressed to say the least.

There is one advantage to being stranded in a pub car park though  food and drink is available.  :-)

ally you must complain they can't be allowed to treat patients so badly.  >hugs<
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Post by: Yvette on 11 Sep 2014 09:03PM
1.  Yesterday afternoon, I found out that one of my neighbours is having to have chemo again, as her breast cancer has spread to her spine and liver.  She is so lovely and has a young child.  It is so unfair.  And yes, I know life is unfair, but it is.

2. Yesterday evening, when sorting out stuff to put in the rucksack which I use with my large scooter (which I use to go to town on) I discovered the scooter wasn't working.  The red light kept flashing so I will have to contact the shop tomorrow as I didn't have time today. So that is more money to have to pay out.

3. Today, I had to drive into town (which is a pain as parking is so expensive - disabled parking is only for a couple of hours which just wasn't long enough for today) but fortunately, I also have a little scooter which I was able to use. I was meeting up with a friend to spend the day together and have morning coffee, lunch and afternoon coffee. We were having a super time catching up as we hadn't seen each other for a few months, although we keep in touch via the phone or email.

A couple of times we split up because we each wanted to go to different shops but then meet up again.  I was really enjoying myself until I realised when we met up again for afternoon coffee that the rucksack on the back of my scooter had been stolen.  >steam<

There was no way it could have fallen off so someone must have stolen it.  It happened during the last time the two of us were in different shops/streets because I still had the rucksack before we split up - and if we had been together, my friend being by my side would have prevented someone taking it.   

Fortunately, I keep my purse in my bag in the front basket - tied to the scooter so no-one can run off with it. But I am still upset about losing the rucksack as it was fairly new and had a really pretty, feminine pattern and I can't buy another the same as it was from one of those shops that sells ends of lines.

Plus I had shopping in it and an expensive rain poncho.  Plus some morphine based pain meds in case I needed them while I was out.

Next time I use a rucksack on the back of my scooter I will tie the shoulder straps together so no-one can slip it off the back.

It is ironic really because recently I went to London to visit friends and a week or so after returning home I went to the Midlands to visit friends and my aunties - and although I had the rucksack on the back of my scooter no-one took it - despite London and Birmingham being much busier than Bristol.

4. Tomorrow is my Aunt's funeral. 
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 11 Sep 2014 09:28PM
That's rotten luck, Yvette >hugs<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 11 Sep 2014 09:34PM
Oh dear Yvette what a litany of woes.  >hugs<

Did you report the loss to the police especially as it had morphine based meds in it.
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Post by: Hurtyback on 11 Sep 2014 09:39PM
Yvette  >hugs<  That is a rotten set of circumstances! I hope that you will be able to say a quiet 'goodbye' to your aunt tomorrow.
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 11 Sep 2014 10:16PM
 >hugs<
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Post by: Mabelcat on 11 Sep 2014 10:59PM
Minor self inflicted argh.  I have eaten too many jelly babies and feel faintly sick.
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 11 Sep 2014 11:11PM
I admit to comfort eating.  Have not had a good last few weeks and I feel sick and bloated, again.
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Post by: Fiz on 12 Sep 2014 03:39AM
Me too

(((Yvette)))
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Post by: Yvette on 12 Sep 2014 10:22AM
Yes, I did report the meds to the Police as it was a whole packet.

I would be so distressed if someone took them and ended up dead.
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Post by: Yvette on 12 Sep 2014 10:24AM
Hugs to Auntie and Mabelcat  >hugs<

But no ( >chocolate<) for either of you!!  >whistle<
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Post by: huhn on 12 Sep 2014 11:10AM
so i have a little bit of good news.  the welfare department is not  giving out appointments. but today , in the afternoon  have i  an appointment with the self help group for mental health and the  day care center from my daughter sends  their psychologist next  week to see  our problems. they agreed it is not acceptable that my big daughter has not her own place and we can not arrange it, 2 small bedrooms and 3 children. and also they want to see how i can get a little help  to get my life less full of stress.
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Post by: Fiz on 12 Sep 2014 11:41AM
That is good news huhn  >thumbsup<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 12 Sep 2014 12:02PM
Huhn,  >x-fingers< that you get a good result today.  >hugs<

Auntie and Mabelcat  >hugs<
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Post by: Hurtyback on 12 Sep 2014 03:44PM
That sounds hopeful huhn  >x-fingers<


Auntie, Mabelcat and Fiz  >bighugs<
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 12 Sep 2014 03:48PM
 >hugs< to all that have posted
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Post by: Mabelcat on 12 Sep 2014 05:44PM
Thanks for the hugs though I didn't really deserve them.  I'm on leave now for ten days which is a relief as I am super tired and my back and hips are on fire.
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Post by: Sunshine Meadows on 12 Sep 2014 06:01PM
 >bighugs<

With an extra  >hugs< for Huhn for good luck and in hopes you will get the help you need after such a long time struggling.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 14 Sep 2014 10:59PM
 >bighugs<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 14 Sep 2014 11:10PM
 >bighugs< And try and relax now there is nothing you can do about the car for now, so it's time to chill and get some rest if you can.  >bighugs<
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 15 Sep 2014 12:47AM
Oh Fiz, what an awful day. I hate that 'too wound up to sleep' state  >hugs< for both you and your daughter
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Post by: Yvette on 15 Sep 2014 07:40AM
I hope you both have a better day today and that the car doesn't cost too much to fix.  >hugs<
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Post by: Yvette on 17 Sep 2014 10:04AM
Good news!   >rainbow2<

1. My rucksack wasn't stolen - it fell off the back of the scooter and the shop nearby took it in.  They said they were frightened at first to open it in case it was a bomb (quite understandable) but did eventually open it and found the packet of tablets - which had the sticker on with my name and the details of the chemist on it.  They rang the chemist, who rang me and I will be picking it up later this week.  I am so delighted and will give the shop a big thank-you card.

In future I shall fasten a belt around the two straps to ensure it can't come off again.

2. I saw the Practice Sister yesterday who looked up my blood results and told me I do not have Pernicious Anaemia (thank goodness).  She checked my mouth and said that she thinks it is thrush.  And despite two different thrush treatments  previously, she has prescribed a third because she says that there are different types of thrush and some do not respond to particular treatments.

Also, she thinks that the reason my radio therapy burns keep breaking down is due to thrush and she had taken swabs to identify the particular type to get me the correct treatment.

Recently, I have seen five different GPs in my last five appointments and am sick and tired of not having any continuity.   Which is probably why my conditions have not been picked up - whereas I see the Practice Sister on a regular basis, and as a result, she has a far better understanding of how I am.

3.  The man who came out from the shop where I bought my scooter checked it out and couldn't find anything wrong with - it worked first time!  I felt like a twit but better that and the scooter works than it didn't and would cost a lot of money to put right!
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Post by: Fiz on 17 Sep 2014 11:20AM
That all sounds like good news Yvette! 
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Post by: SteveX on 17 Sep 2014 11:47AM
Fiz, what an awful day.. I'm not sure how you coped with all that, but well done!  >hugs<

Yvette, thats good news  >thumbsup<
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Post by: huhn on 17 Sep 2014 02:10PM
so I had an exiting day. First finally the plumber came and took the bath out and changed to a shower, so monday the guy for the tiles will come. and then later in the week the plumber will come back and fit the loo and basin. Also the ladies from the psychiatric department came and saw my daughter and complained that we have not enough place and everything is upside down, The said tome my daughter has to helpme, but when she washes up , i have to do it again and when she sweeps, the corners are more dirty then before. but they agreed it is to much for me but no solution was mentioned. so must see what comes out.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 17 Sep 2014 03:24PM
I'm sorry that the people from the psychiatric department were so unhelpful, Huhn.

Hopefully the work on your bathroom will be completed soon, which will at least give you one less thing to have to worry about.  >hugs<
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Post by: ATurtle on 18 Sep 2014 06:15PM
Why do doctors and nurses say "Slight scratch coming". before sticking you with a six inch nail attached to a syringe that although they say it's only 10ml, it feels like a litre of steroids they pump into you!

 >crying<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 18 Sep 2014 07:04PM
 >hugs<
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Post by: Yvette on 18 Sep 2014 07:14PM
Did you have your 'flu jab too Turtle?

I had mine on Tuesday afternoon and although I usually have a little red bump this is the size of a plum and is so hot you could fry an egg on it!   >yikes<
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Post by: Yvette on 18 Sep 2014 07:39PM
To add to the above - both of my scooters are U/S.

I had new batteries for the smaller one a few months ago and despite looking after them  exactly as I was told  they just don't last.  I went back to the shop and was told that I should have had stronger batteries - but that is why I went to that shop in the first place as I had explained that the previous batteries weren't lasting long enough and wanted some stronger. 

But I was told yesterday that the stronger ones would have cost more - I felt like banging my head on a brick wall!  I said very clearly that I was quite happy to pay extra for stronger batteries because paying £70 each time for batteries which only last a few months is a complete waste of money!

The red light on my other scooter, which is larger, started flashing  recently. When I too the key out and then re-inserted it, it would stop. So I thought I would keep an eye on it.  Last week I went to start it and it wouldn't go - the red light kept flashing even after I had taken the key out and re-inserted it.

I phoned the shop and asked someone to come out to look at it. 

They came out on Monday and when they put the key in, it worked perfectly.  The man took it for a drive and took the key out and put it back in and it still worked.

But when I went out to use it this morning it wouldn't work.  I put the key in and out and in and out.  I took the battery off and put it back on.  I put it into Freewheel and pushed it back and forth - but no.  It wouldn't go.

The man is coming back on Monday again.  If he starts it straight away I. Shall. Scream. Loudly.

But I shall insist he takes it away to check it over as I think there is a loose connection.

It is so annoying not to have a working scooter.  And I am annoyed because I was sold the wrong batteries despite my asking for stronger one.  And that the repair man didn't take my scooter back to the shop to check it over.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 18 Sep 2014 08:18PM
 >bighugs<
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Post by: Sunshine on 18 Sep 2014 11:47PM
 >bighugs<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 20 Sep 2014 11:26AM
 >bighugs<

Would anyone mind if I added an Arrrrrgh of my own? I've been struck down by some kind of gastric horror virus. On Wednesday night I fell while hobbling back from the toilet for the ninetieth time, and knackered both my wrists. All in all, it's not been a fun week.  :-(

I suppose I should be thankful that I didn't fall on my way to the toilet ...   

 
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 20 Sep 2014 11:46AM
 >bighugs< hope it's effects don't last too long NN.
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 20 Sep 2014 12:09PM
That's a double-whammy sort of 'aargghhh' -  >x-fingers< for you to be at least a bug-free zone in the imminent future!
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Post by: Fiz on 20 Sep 2014 01:05PM
Hope you are better asap NN  >hugs<
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 20 Sep 2014 10:26PM
I had something similar last weekend NN.  Sorry if I passed it on to you and hope that you re now recovering.  But your poor wrists!
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Post by: Mabelcat on 20 Sep 2014 10:48PM
My current major argh: the menopause.
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Post by: huhn on 21 Sep 2014 07:06AM
oh it is going around.
  had friday a night out with the girls. we had fantastic pizza. but the following night was the horror. something did not agree wit me and i had a allergic reaction to the food and i blocked the loo for the hole night.
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 21 Sep 2014 09:31AM
My current major argh: the menopause.

You have my sympathy.  I would offer you a  >hugs< but I don't want to trigger a hot flush!
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 21 Sep 2014 10:02AM
My commiserations too, Mabelcat, as I suspect I am approaching that time as well - we will have to start comparing notes  ;-)
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Post by: oldtone27 on 21 Sep 2014 10:29AM
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we will have to start comparing notes

As a mere male, could you do that on a separate thread with a suitable warning.  >whistle<
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 21 Sep 2014 12:18PM
 >lol< >raspberry<

..though it's a good idea in principle, we could have separate 'Ladies' Issues' and 'Gentlemen's Issues' threads.  You 'mere males' could discuss prostates and stuff on yours  >biggrin<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 21 Sep 2014 01:00PM
There is a forum I sometimes visit that has Men's Health and Women's health topics in separate sub forum sections. Seems to work quite well. Though with some quite frank and graphic discussions that might not suit every one.
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Post by: Yvette on 21 Sep 2014 07:59PM
As a mere male, could you do that on a separate thread with a suitable warning.  >whistle<

 Love it!  >lol<   >lol<
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Post by: Yvette on 21 Sep 2014 08:07PM
To add to everyone else's woes, I have more to add myself.   :-( 

(As my Auntie would say, the lot of us aren't worth tuppence!) And that is meant in a nice way. So please do not be offended.

I have no left hip joint and the femur on that leg is broken in three pieces.  One piece is attached to my knee and the other two pieces float about on their own. So that leg is four inches (10cms) shorter than the other which means I have to wear a built up boot.

Every so often, if I transfer from my wheelchair when out and sit on a hard chair or knock myself or something, the loose bones dig into the muscles (which are all bunched up as the leg is so much shorter) and causes a huge amount of pain. 

Last week and the week before I had to borrow a shopmobility scooter and I think that the seat was too hard for me because I remember being uncomfortable.   This last few days I have hardly been able to get about the house.  Usually I can 'furniture walk' by lurching from one piece of furniture to another but for the last few days I have had to use both crutches and up the pain killers which has sent me to bed as they knock me out.

This year has been a real horror as I have had one thing after another without any gap in between and it gets hard when you get no respite for months on end.  I am so fed up.  :-(
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Post by: Sunshine on 21 Sep 2014 08:21PM
~gentle hugs~ to those with gastric upsets. There are times when we all get to feel okay and even normal doing ordinary things but having to get to the loo quickly without for example falling really does bring our disabilities and limitations into harsh light.

Yvette,

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This year has been a real horror as I have had one thing after another without any gap in between and it gets hard when you get no respite for months on end.  I am so fed up.  :-(

The fact your femur is floating sounds shocking I dont think I would be able to cope. Life be so unfair in the way things pile up and we can feel like we are getting squished but to be a bit cliched here 'what does not break us makes us'

 >bighugs<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 21 Sep 2014 09:43PM
OMG Yvette if I had all my teeth they would be clenched and grinding just at the thought of that.

I do know how things can come one after the other to way you down but all we can do is hope for better and lend each other support and the odd shoulder to cry on.

 >bighugs< >bighugs<
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 21 Sep 2014 10:15PM
Thank goodness we all have pets to cuddle.   >hugs< What would life be like without them.

(Oh, Alice has generously shared her fleas with me!)
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 21 Sep 2014 11:35PM
Yvette, you really have been up against it this year, and I hope things start to improve  >bighugs<
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Post by: Fiz on 22 Sep 2014 10:08AM
 >hugs< Yvette, that sounds so awful, poor you. I wish there was something they could do to make your leg more stable and less painful.
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Post by: Yvette on 22 Sep 2014 04:18PM
Thank you all so much for your kind words and support.

I am taking the painkillers and keep telling myself,' this too shall pass'.  But I wish it would get a move on!
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 22 Sep 2014 08:26PM
 >hugs<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 23 Sep 2014 06:56AM
 >bighugs<
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 23 Sep 2014 07:16AM
Hang in there, Yvette, surely it can only get better now  >x-fingers<
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Post by: Yvette on 23 Sep 2014 10:18AM
I am waiting for a home visit from my GP today - I was told it should be around lunchtime.
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 23 Sep 2014 11:12AM
I hope he is able to suggest something that will make you more comfortable.  >hugs<
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Post by: Yvette on 23 Sep 2014 05:23PM
GP has been and taken some bloods as they need to see what my CRP is before taking further action.

Said they would drop a script into the chemist for more painkillers. And if the pain got worse or my thigh got redder or hotter to phone back or phone Out of Hours.

I have had a doze because I have had to take really strong painkillers to ease the pain and they do dope me up but better that than the pain.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 23 Sep 2014 06:39PM
All I have to offer is hugs, Yvette, but you can have as many as you need.  >hugs< >hugs< >hugs< >hugs<
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Post by: SteveX on 23 Sep 2014 08:09PM
Yvette  >hugs<>hugs<
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Post by: Yvette on 23 Sep 2014 09:19PM
Thank you both so much.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 23 Sep 2014 09:25PM
Hugs are better than meds as they have no known adverse side effects or interactions with drugs they can be taken as required as often and as many as you like and you can't overdose.


 >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs<
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Post by: ally on 26 Sep 2014 01:22PM
Hope the pain settles soon.  What you've described sounds awful.  Maybe the pain killers will help.  Sometimes being doped is better than the pain.  Just wish you didn't have to through it all.  >hugs<
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Post by: Yvette on 27 Sep 2014 10:25AM
The pain is just as bad.  Next week, I am going to ask if I can have an x-ray. 
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Post by: seegee on 27 Sep 2014 11:45AM
Time I went back to bed, where I was nearly all day yesterday - thanks to a fever making me sleep very little the night before. :-(  Still have a headache & maybe low fever as well as sore throat & chest hurts if I take a deep breath.  Been sitting for an hour or so, now need to lie down, getting dizzy. >zzz<

Postponed my flu jab which was due on Monday, as I don't want to go anywhere near the surgery if I'm not well - it's full of other people who are vulnerable to infections. ;-)

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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 27 Sep 2014 11:48AM
The pain is just as bad.  Next week, I am going to ask if I can have an x-ray.

Yes, don't just put up with it, no-one should have to live with pain like that  >thumbsdown<

Seegee, may you feel better soon - sounds like a rather nasty virus you've got there - and a very sensible decision to defer the flu jab!
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Post by: Yvette on 27 Sep 2014 11:50AM
Thanks everyone.  Being in pain is absolutely dreadful.  And it is stopping me from doing so many things I want/need to do.

I have some sewing I want to get finished. 

And I want to get on and do my pickled onions.  Everyone loves my pickled onions at Christmas and I need to get on with them so they are ready in time.
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Post by: seegee on 27 Sep 2014 11:53AM
Hope you get relief from the pain soon Yvette.  >x-fingers< >bighugs<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 27 Sep 2014 01:16PM
Yvette and Seegee  >bighugs< >bighugs<

I need to make an appointment next week as well - hands and wrists are still very painful after my fall, so a medical examination is needed, just to be on the safe side. 
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Post by: huhn on 27 Sep 2014 03:11PM
the appointment  with the welfare and mental health department about my daughter and our  situation  is  changed to tuesday , must see what comes out. the appointment was cancelled , the have a emergency.


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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 27 Sep 2014 06:40PM
Good luck huhn - hope it goes well >hugs<
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Post by: Yvette on 27 Sep 2014 06:43PM
Good luck from me too.   >thumbsup<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 04 Oct 2014 09:14AM
Saw doctor yesterday, followed by x-rays. 3rd metacarpal cracked on LH, 4th on RH. Splints for 4-6 weeks, then physio. Could be a lot worse.  :-)
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Post by: Yvette on 04 Oct 2014 10:14AM
Oh dear, NN.   You are in a pickle. >wheelchair<
 
Get well soonest. >cheerup<
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Post by: Yvette on 04 Oct 2014 10:15AM
Huhn, how is it going?  Have you been given another appointment yet? I hope it goes well.  >hugs<
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Post by: huhn on 04 Oct 2014 10:50AM
so little bit time between all the work
 the ladies from the psychiatric department came , but not my welfare officer, she had again a  emergency and mist the meeting. so we will see when  she is  coming. The ladies agreed, the best for my daughter is sheltered housing. Monday we must the the psychiatrist.by a 2 bed room house is no space for my daughter to have her own room and shared is to noisy for her. also they want to see that i get a little  help for the  household, that i get back on  two feet, i am totally over tired, 10 month  caring for 3 handy caped ones  was to much.
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 04 Oct 2014 12:09PM
Very pleased to read that you will be getting some outside help at last, Huhn, you've struggled alone for far too long! 

Saw doctor yesterday, followed by x-rays. 3rd metacarpal cracked on LH, 4th on RH. Splints for 4-6 weeks, then physio. Could be a lot worse.  :-)

Blimey, how did that happen?
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 04 Oct 2014 01:04PM
Thanks, Yvette!

Blimey, how did that happen?

When I fell 2 weeks ago. Hands and wrists have been very painful since, and now we know why!



Huhn -  >thumbsup< that you are finally getting some help >hugs<
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Post by: Yvette on 04 Oct 2014 01:37PM
Huhn, I am delighted for you that you are at long last going to get some help.  >hugs<
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Post by: huhn on 07 Oct 2014 11:09AM
so some more news, so the welfare officer is not  visiting us, so my daughter has to stay with us. i  also do not get help. the only change is, that my daughter can go in the afternoon to the old people home to have it more quite there.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 07 Oct 2014 12:51PM
so some more news, so the welfare officer is not  visiting us, so my daughter has to stay with us. i  also do not get help. the only change is, that my daughter can go in the afternoon to the old people home to have it more quite there.

I'm so sorry to hear that, huhn  >bighugs<
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 07 Oct 2014 05:55PM
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.. so the welfare officer is not  visiting us, so my daughter has to stay with us. i  also do not get help.

 >angry<

Huhn, obviously I am not 'up' on how things work in Cyprus, but is this something you could take further, like go to the person in the next management level in the welfare department and really,really be insistent that you are worn out and cannot continue indefinitely the way things are at the moment?  I don't see why they should sit on their hands and wait until you become ill yourself before they offer household assistance to you and/or separate accommodation for your daughter.  A fuss needs to be made... have you got a good family doctor who could write a letter of support to the welfare department?

>edit to add
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Post by: SteveX on 07 Oct 2014 10:30PM
Moan of the week..  BT.

I've been trying to get a BT engineer to come for the past 2 weeks, finally after my mum phoning a dozen times I have an appointment for one now but get this crap.  They say if the engineer can't get in the house or can't do his job because of H&S (ie items in his way) I will have to pay a £90 fee for the callout. 

Seriously what!!   So if I'm on the loo when this joker knocks, I'll have to pay £90?? 

its beyond ridiculous.   I'm willing to bet that I wouldn't get £90 if they cancelled the appointment either!
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Post by: Mabelcat on 07 Oct 2014 10:49PM
Four words: cat vomit, bare feet.
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Post by: Fiz on 08 Oct 2014 04:13AM
Ewww

Steve I'm in a similar situation. My landline is as dead as a dodo and has been for months but I'm tied to the contract till Christmas so am still paying for it. If I call sky and they come to fix it and find the fault is inside the house I would be charged and I don't have spare money so can't risk it so no phone line here.
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Post by: SteveX on 08 Oct 2014 12:27PM
Four words: cat vomit, bare feet.

oh my word..  >lol<
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Post by: SteveX on 08 Oct 2014 12:28PM
Ewww

Steve I'm in a similar situation. My landline is as dead as a dodo and has been for months but I'm tied to the contract till Christmas so am still paying for it. If I call sky and they come to fix it and find the fault is inside the house I would be charged and I don't have spare money so can't risk it so no phone line here.

Thats terrible Fiz :(
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Post by: SteveX on 21 Oct 2014 11:29PM
I have another Arrrrgghhhhhhhhhh here.

I'll have to be very very careful wording this without swearing, as I don't want our lovely mods giving me a talking too :D

okay.  I had this unwanted expensive item, I didn't want it collecting dust so I made an ebay account to sell it, I put a £100 price on it even though its worth more, because I wanted a quick sale.  it sold in 2 days.  great.

The buyer paid with paypal, so I had to make an account to get it, fair enough.  I make the account and I'm told the money is there but they will hold onto it for 21 days before I can have it.  What?!!!  I wanted to keep the item at this point until I had the money but I figured it was unfair so I sent it off and mailed the tracking code to the buyer.   we passed a few emails back and forth and he seems like a nice guy.

According to the tracking the item was delivered and signed for at just past 9am on monday.  I wait and see if I get nice feedback.. no email all day, ok maybe he's working.  Tuesday comes, I get an email off paypal confirming they have the money and they are charging me £5 for the transaction...although I can't have my money for 21 days.   uhh?

Tuesday comes, no feedback off the buyer, I send a polite email saying I hope he liked it and could he login to ebay and post feedback that it arrived and he was happy with it.   no reply..  Then ebay email me and say they are charging me £12.99 for the sale..  what?!!  13 quid for selling one item? 

So right now I don't have my payment, I don't have the item and I'm paying ebay/paypal £18 for the pleasure of it.    and I'm beginning to think I've been scammed.. just expecting him to chargeback paypal and get his £100 back.   maybe I'm over-reacting but I'm seriously cheesed off and thats a massive understatement.   wow, can't believe I said all that without swearing :D

Needless to say, I'll never be using ebay or paypal again.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 22 Oct 2014 10:57AM
 >bighugs< >bighugs<

I don't think you've been scammed, Steve. I found this from ebay UK:

http://sellerupdate.ebay.co.uk/autumn2013/changes-payment-holds

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From today, access to your buyers’ payments in PayPal may be delayed by up to 21 days. This applies to you if you’re a new seller and you’ve been selling on eBay.co.uk for less than 90 days, you’ve made fewer than 25 transactions in total or you’ve generated less than £165 in total sales.

Your buyers’ payments in PayPal may also be held if you’ve fallen below standard or if your account has been reinstated in the past 90 days.

You can access your PayPal funds earlier by uploading tracking information and indicating when your item has been dispatched.

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Post by: SteveX on 22 Oct 2014 11:43AM
Thanks for that, its a pain in the backside to wait so long but so be it.   :)
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Post by: Yvette on 24 Oct 2014 09:51AM
I am feeling really ill and wiped out so am going back to bed after this.  :-(
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Post by: seegee on 24 Oct 2014 10:44AM
 >bighugs< >mug-tea<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 24 Oct 2014 10:56AM
 >bighugs< >chocolate<
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Post by: Fiz on 24 Oct 2014 01:30PM
 >chocolate<  >hugs<
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Post by: ATurtle on 24 Oct 2014 03:30PM
Good idea, bed that is.  I just did a silly thing and moved a bag that was too heavy too far!

 >chocolate< >hugs< >x-fingers< >cheerup< >thumb-up<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 24 Oct 2014 06:00PM
I just did a silly thing and moved a bag that was too heavy too far!

Have some  >hugs< and  >chocolate< as well.
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 24 Oct 2014 08:24PM
I think that extra doses of lying in bed, whatever the time of day, are a Good Thing.
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Post by: huhn on 25 Oct 2014 07:34AM
so i have a update to my situation. the welfare officer came and said,  the best wer e to take the small ones in a home till i have finished the repairs in my house, i said no way, i ask for  help more for my big girl, but there is nothing what  she can do. But now a friend mentioned that the  special daycare center started a sheltered housing and on monday i can ask them, is a place for my daughter there. the   welfare offers me always  things what i can not accept and says then that i am  not cooperating. that has  really system. first they sayu we have to move house , while ours is to small and they offer us a smaller one then ours and say then we do not take help, now i ask for sheltered or housing with  help for my daughter who is 21 and they offer me a homeplace for the two small ones. I think that is not acceptable and then  saying we do not take any help.
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Post by: Fiz on 25 Oct 2014 08:05AM
I hope you get positive news on Monday  >x-fingers<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 25 Oct 2014 08:41AM
 >bighugs< >x-fingers<
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Post by: Yvette on 25 Oct 2014 11:47AM
I really feel for you huhn.   >bighugs<
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Post by: SteveX on 29 Oct 2014 10:27PM
>bighugs<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 30 Oct 2014 08:22AM
How did it go for you on Monday, huhn?
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Post by: huhn on 03 Nov 2014 01:18PM
All ok. So my daughter is on the waiting list for sheltered housing, september we see further.
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Post by: Yvette on 03 Nov 2014 05:17PM
September?  That is a long way away.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 03 Nov 2014 09:00PM
All ok. So my daughter is on the waiting list for sheltered housing, september we see further.

 >hugs<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 08 Nov 2014 03:05PM
ESA50 dropped through the door this morning.

Ah well. Here we go again.
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Post by: seegee on 08 Nov 2014 03:50PM
 >bighugs< NN  >chocolate< >mug-tea< >bighugs<
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 08 Nov 2014 04:43PM
 >bighugs< and some more  >chocolate<
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 08 Nov 2014 04:53PM
Take heart, NN, at least it won't be ATOS doing it this time  >doh< (and a  >apple< in case you get chocced out  ;-))
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 08 Nov 2014 05:43PM
Thanks for the hugs and chocolate, folks. Much appreciated  >bighugs<

I'm afraid we're still stuck with Atos over here, Kizzy. I suppose the up side is that at least it's the devil we know.

What does it say for the situation as a whole when that's the up side?  >erm<
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Post by: Fiz on 08 Nov 2014 06:26PM
 >chocolate< oh no, poor you  >hugs<

It's still atos here too, they have the contract till March 2015 here (ending 5 months early) which is when Maximus pick up the batton. 

Take it one page at a time NN  >hot-coffee<
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 09 Nov 2014 12:39AM
Oh NN!  When did you have to do your previous set of forms?   >hugs<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 09 Nov 2014 02:26AM
Last December. At least I get 12 month or thereabouts between re-assessments. Can't imagine how stressful it is for people getting them every 6 months, or every 3 months.
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 09 Nov 2014 02:45AM
So you can probably just copy your last set and put that in with little change.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 09 Nov 2014 11:33AM
There are a few things needing added since I saw the consultant in August, but pretty much, yes.


>Edit: Typo
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Post by: Hurtyback on 09 Nov 2014 10:21PM
Oh boo! NN  >hugs<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 10 Nov 2014 08:08PM
Just a little Arghhhhhh!! had a phone call from son seems he can't come up at Christmas to see his Mum and Dad as he has used all his leave up already on other things. I think it would not of been too difficult to plan things so that he could if he wanted to.  :-(
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Post by: Hurtyback on 10 Nov 2014 08:11PM
Dic  >hugs<  I agree, it's not as if Christmas is unexpected.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 10 Nov 2014 08:20PM
Dic >hugs<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 10 Nov 2014 08:49PM
It's upset me but more that it has hurt his Mum's feelings. I'm not going to fall out with him over it but it is annoying.
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Post by: Fiz on 11 Nov 2014 09:44AM
 >hugs<
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Post by: seegee on 11 Nov 2014 12:09PM
Is it possible for him to come for the weekend before or afterwards?  You'll still miss him on the day but at least get to spend a bit of time together as a family. >hugs<
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Post by: Yvette on 11 Nov 2014 12:30PM
KHALIL GIBRAN

And a woman who held a babe against her bosom said, "Speak to us of Children."

And he said:

Your children are not your children.

They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.

They come through you but not from you,

And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.

You may give them your love but not your thoughts.

For they have their own thoughts.

You may house their bodies but not their souls,

For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.

You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.

For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.

The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,

and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.

Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;

For even as he loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 11 Nov 2014 02:14PM
Easy for him to say not having been married nor having had any children.

Still I do like his writings.

I supported my son when he became an atheist, then when he converted to Islam then changed his mind and moved towards Buddhism and now back to Christianity the least he could do is as a Christian  remember Commandment V Honour thy Mother and thy Father. This time next year in all probability he will be joining the Order of Franciscan Capuchin Friars not a closed order I know but who knows when we may see him again after that.

And he says he can't come up prior to Christmas Either but maybe in the new year maybe

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Post by: Yvette on 11 Nov 2014 02:40PM
It's upset me but more that it has hurt his Mum's feelings. I'm not going to fall out with him over it but it is annoying.

Why is it annoying? 

I know it is lovely for families to spend Christmas together. I always enjoyed Christmases with my (then) husband's family - but sometimes people just want to do other things (because Christmas doesn't have the same meaning for them) and would rather visit their family at another time.

Throughout the years I have known lots of people who do not want to go to their family for Christmas and although they love their parents dearly, they would rather go skiing with friends or have a quiet Christmas on their own etc. etc.
 
But their parents have played the guilt card and several of my friends have dutifully spent Christmas with their parents and hated it. 

One friend in particular finds it very difficult to visit her parents at Christmas as she has several cats.  It is too expensive to book them into a cattery (and her parents have never offered to help towards the cost - despite heavy hints from my friend).  They refuse to go to my friend's for Christmas (despite being fit and well enough to travel), which would make it much easier for her, so she has to ask around her neighbours, which embarrasses her greatly as she is a very reserved person, to find someone to feed and care for her cats.  She is too dutiful to refuse to go to her parents but she frets about it for months beforehand.  :-(

So, I think it is good that your son has been able to tell you he isn't visiting for Christmas - because in years to come, if/when he does visit for Christmas, you will know that it is because he really wants to - not because he feels guilty if he upsets you (as he had done).

I'm so glad you aren't going to fall out over it though.   >hugs<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 11 Nov 2014 02:58PM
Well I think we posted at exactly the same moment.

It is annoying because he prioritizes every thing ahead of his family we if we are lucky see him once a year at Christmas. that did not happen last year and he promised then that this year would be different he said he would come up for his mother's Birthday he didn't he said he would visit us on our fortieth wedding anniversary he didn't. though he went to his ex girlfriend's wedding. Spent a week in North wales Four days in Oxford. He can find time to do the things he want's to do and that is good I am happy for him I just wish one of the things he would like to do is spend a little of that time with us his sister and his only nephew.
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Post by: Yvette on 11 Nov 2014 03:38PM
I feel the same about my son. He has refused to speak to me for seven years or more.   

I have written to him so many times, sent him a message via Facebook (he blocked me) and even phoned the Army welfare last December to ask if they would ask my son if he would please, please get back into contact with me.   Just an occasional phone call or email would be wonderful

But he was adamant he wanted nothing to do with me.

It is so hurtful - but he is an alcoholic (by his own admission) and when drink is in the equation; love and caring and common sense are absent.  (Not that I am implying your son is an alcoholic - I am only explaining my own situation).

It feels as if a knife pierces my heart.
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 11 Nov 2014 06:45PM
My brother has not been in contact with our mother for over 40 years. and he appears to have forgotten that he has a sister. That is just the way some people behave.  I accepted this a long time ago, but I think my mother is still very upset about it.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 11 Nov 2014 07:14PM
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It feels as if a knife pierces my heart.

 >bighugs< >bighugs<


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My brother has not been in contact with our mother for over 40 years. and he appears to have forgotten that he has a siste

 >bighugs< >bighugs<

I suppose I aught to feel grateful that he does at least phone. :-)
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Post by: SteveX on 11 Nov 2014 08:12PM
>bighugs<>bighugs<
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Post by: Fiz on 12 Nov 2014 01:01AM
 >bighugs<

I don't have Christmas with my children. I live alone and I don't think depression makes me fun to be with. This year I have volunteered to serve the homeless Christmas dinner, sing carols and play games with them on Christmas day and I'm hoping dd will be around on boxing day.
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Post by: Yvette on 12 Nov 2014 02:22PM
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I think my mother is still very upset about it.

She will be. 

You can't carry a child for nine months, give birth to them, love them, care for them, feed them, read stories to them and bring them up for several years to not feel hurt and abandoned when rejected.
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Post by: Yvette on 12 Nov 2014 02:24PM
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This year I have volunteered to serve the homeless Christmas dinner, sing carols and play games with them on Christmas day 

Fix, that is so kind of you and I'm sure you will get as much out of the day as the people you are helping.   >star<
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Post by: huhn on 18 Nov 2014 01:09PM
 >yikes< >steam< >yikes< >steam< >yikes< >steam< >yikes< >steam< >yikes<
So end of this month the new payment system for handicapped are in place. and  since 2 weeks i get ask for additional papers, but nobody else was ask for. First , they wanted to know  which school are my children, since when is this a  sign for a disability? Then they came for the request of the income of my  independent living children and they had to open there  bank accounts. They did it. Now came the question, , are they living single or with a partner. The Income from my boys is not much, so they can not support us( one has even under the minimum wage and the other one got 50 Euros per month over the welfare payments) , and moving back home is from the work way not clever and I was happy that they moved out of  my 2 bedroom house. I feel completely bullied.
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Post by: Yvette on 18 Nov 2014 07:11PM
Oh huhn.  You are really up against it.   >hugs<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 19 Nov 2014 11:12AM
 >bighugs<
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Post by: ally on 19 Nov 2014 11:25AM
After reading some of these posts although I have constant pain issues I'm happy with my life in general.  I have a wonderful husband, and a lovely son.  Although he lives in Dubai he emails me frequently, and rings his dad. I do have lots to be thankful for.  >bighugs< For everyone that needs it.
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Post by: Sunshine on 21 Nov 2014 10:50AM
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I feel completely bullied.

Huhn,

 >bighugs< is there a form you can fill in to get all those questions or do you have to deal with people going on at you about your living circumstances.

You have a lot to deal with day to day and I can see how questions about where you children go to school can seem nagging. The system in Greece sounds more like how things used to be in the 1970s in the UK

More  >bighugs<

Ally,

 >thumbsup<
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Post by: huhn on 21 Nov 2014 06:19PM
We had a form, all medical, all financial questions  were in. also all Income and bank statements from a year were required . They said only children up to 26 when living at home needed to be in. There were no questions about schooling or the children  living out . That  was all additional things , what was not in the form. and we  informed them that two are out and independent, so that is more or less wasting my time. Also all this information is in the  already existing file with the welfare department. But they say,  all things are starting new. the form was  like a book with 20 pages.
Also we had to see them 3 Times before they accepted our papers. Then for nearly 4 month was all quiet and now  few days before the payment deadline they come with all this additional stuff. and not in one go, they find  every few days new questions. First they wanted a statement that we have children  who left home
 Then  a week later they wanted their  working contracts and their  bank statements from a  full year. and  this week was that they wanted  knowing are they living alone or with partner or what not else. So it is not much time, i have now given every thing, and wait to see what happens. here you get no information, only the payment end of the month. A lot of people give up with all that running around.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 21 Nov 2014 06:30PM
I'm glad that you have managed to give them all the information, huhn. That must have been quite an ordeal.  >bighugs<
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 21 Nov 2014 07:30PM
Oh Huhn, what a terrible time! I really hope they find in your favour and you get the support you need.
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 21 Nov 2014 08:32PM
 >hugs<
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Post by: Fiz on 21 Nov 2014 10:37PM
I hope the result will be worth all the effort huhn  >hugs<
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Post by: Yvette on 22 Nov 2014 09:42AM
It is appalling.  >angry<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 23 Nov 2014 05:59PM
quick update on previous arghhhhhhhh son has reconsidered and is now coming up for a couple of days over Christmas  :-)
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Post by: Yvette on 23 Nov 2014 07:09PM
I'm so glad for you and your wife.  >biggrin<
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Post by: Hurtyback on 23 Nov 2014 11:20PM
I'm very glad to hear that Dic!  >biggrin<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 23 Nov 2014 11:51PM
quick update on previous arghhhhhhhh son has reconsidered and is now coming up for a couple of days over Christmas  :-)

Fantastic, Dic! I'm delighted for you all  >magic< >bighugs<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 24 Nov 2014 06:46AM
Thanks we are looking forward to seeing him. Now all we have to do is persuade him to get some razors and shave the huge beard he has grown since we last saw him at the moment he would put zz top to shame.  >lol<
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Post by: Fiz on 24 Nov 2014 07:49AM
That's very fashionable at the moment  >biggergrin<

I need a big arrggghhhh the clutch has gone on my car and it will take me months to save for to fix it, which as buses are so painful for me is leaving me isolated and I'm struggling with understandable low mood due to that. I've cancelled the 3 mental health recovery courses I was going to this coming week, plus the 2 support groups and the voluntary work I do and haven't spoken to a soul in days. Also talking of Christmas, I was going to help at the homeless project but can't get there now, I don't know any of the other Christmas day volunteers and they don't live anywhere near me so I now face Christmas day on my own. I wouldn't cope with a lift from a stranger anyway. I am trying hard to be Pollyanna though and count my blessings and aim to buy a luxury easy meal from M&S for Christmas as a treat and drink my Baileys but I am struggling with the impact of the loss of the car.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 24 Nov 2014 08:41AM
A new clutch can be very expensive these days  >bighugs<
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Post by: Fiz on 24 Nov 2014 09:22AM
Yeah £330 including getting the car to the garage, not easy to come by
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 24 Nov 2014 11:32AM
Oh Fiz, that's quite a blow  >bighugs<
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Post by: Yvette on 24 Nov 2014 03:11PM
You could buy an old banger for £330!!
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Post by: Hurtyback on 24 Nov 2014 04:07PM
Oh dear Fiz, as if you don't have enough on your plate!  >hugs<
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 24 Nov 2014 06:18PM
Come on Fiz.  You are making a lot of assumptions here.  I am sure that there is someone who would come to pick you up to do the volunteering between now and Christmas and on Christmas Day; that is all part of being a volunteer. 

I know that you have been pushed deep into the dumps by this, but maybe you are being a little bit drastic until the shock wears off?
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Post by: Fiz on 24 Nov 2014 07:14PM
I don't think I'd be able to accept a lift from a total stranger,  but I can understand people thinking that sort of social anxiety is drastic.
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 24 Nov 2014 07:48PM
They are only a stranger until they become a friend.  We all need friends and acquaintances.
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Post by: Defying Gravity on 24 Nov 2014 08:16PM
Sorry if this is an odd suggestion, but is there anyone likely to be buying you a Christmas present who could be asked to chip in towards a taxi fare instead? There's a company round here that doesn't charge any extra at Christmas, I guess the same might apply in other cities too.
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Post by: SteveX on 24 Nov 2014 09:19PM
Fiz >bighugs<
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Post by: Fiz on 24 Nov 2014 11:59PM
Dg, that is a thought. I normally only get one present, from dd. I could ask her but I suspect she wouldn't be happy me having nothing to unwrap so would want to do both and she doesn't have the income. Most of the time I'm fine about the change of plan and okay about being on my own, it's just every now and then it gets to me. Apologies for moaning, there are people far worse off than me and I am thankful for my many blessings.

Auntie, the main reason I don't have real life friends is extreme social anxiety and I know it's my fault. I am trying to challenge myself and make myself go places but it is all a process and a journey. It's not something that would be easy to understand if you haven't experienced it I am sure.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 25 Nov 2014 05:50AM
Fiz this is the Arghhhh !!! thread so it's meant for moaning so moan away to your hearts content.
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Post by: Fiz on 25 Nov 2014 08:15AM
It's just people were thinking I was being a bit drastic which I get so I shall try and refrain in future.
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Post by: Defying Gravity on 25 Nov 2014 09:35AM
It also occurred to me that there might be volunteering opportunities closer to home, e.g. at a church lunch for older people. However, I appreciate that might not be the case, or that t might cause too much anxiety.
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Post by: seegee on 25 Nov 2014 01:55PM
>bighugs< Fiz >bighugs<

Seems it may not be mainly about Christmas day, which I'm sure you can cope with as a quiet day, but about not being able to get to other things before then. 

Mental health recovery courses, support groups and other voluntary work are things you are already doing aren't they?  Is there anyone from there who could help you to get to them, whether it's a fellow volunteer or the organisers?  That wouldn't be a stranger but someone you have already met more than once.

Is there a ring-and-ride service you could use to get to any of them?  At least you'd be sure their drivers have been checked by DBS and are safe, if that would help you at all. 

Have you spoken to your social worker about not being able to get to those and how it leaves you alone - does she have any suggestions?  If she thought you were getting on with your recovery course and other things, it's probably a good idea to let her know that you can't actually get there at the moment. 

 >bighugs< >bighugs<


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Post by: Fiz on 25 Nov 2014 03:25PM
I've not yet been to any recovery college courses, my first one was going to be Friday last week and then two more with them this week but I've cancelled. The recovery college is staffed and funded by the NHS/Southern Health none of whom I've met. It's in the city but not central so quite a trek from the train station. Maybe 2 miles at a guess.

Other courses at Mind are also ones I've yet to go to, the courses I want to do start after Christmas but I have met my key worker there and she knows I can't attend at present due to lack of transport. She suggested I mention to the CMHT support worker that I can't get to the women's support group on Friday but I didn't bother when I saw her today because she mentioned taking Friday off to prepare for an evening function so I know she can't help.

My social worker is finding out whether an access to care fund might be possible. It's a fund specifically to help people access care so she's going to see whether it would cover a car repair. I'm not getting my hopes up.

I went to a signposting group today run by the CMHT support worker and it was a mistake going. Everyone else was raucous with laughter and I am so low and was struggling to stop myself crying and everything they were signposting to were in other towns and inaccessible.

The depression support group in my town is about 3 miles away so walkable on a good day is one I have gone to for years though apart from social contact, it isn't good for me so I only go when desperately lonely. It's basically a windge-fest where one by one we say how our week has been and if you weren't feeling suicidal when you went in there you are by the time you leave. My social worker has suggested it is better if I don't go! I need social contact but I need some positivity and encouragement if that makes sense.

The homeless project is in the city, in the summer I could get the train in and walk there but wouldn't want to be doing that in winter when it's dark wet and cold.

The community transport in my town says on its website it is for older people but I know it sounds stupid but I think I'd struggle with lifts from strangers. I'm also funny with men. I can have complete panic attacks if I am near one, usually if they behave like my xh or are over confident or whatever but less than two weeks ago there was one just like xh and he dropped his crutch behind me and it made me jump so much I cried all the way home. I don't know why, it's not as if a total stranger would hit me from behind but I am easily triggered. My social worker says I do really well helping at the homeless café given my issues but there are a lot of people there and if people do get angry and aggressive it's with other service users not the helpers and other helpers split them up and take them out of the building so I've never felt at risk.

I know I will get through this, it's just a matter of time before I can get the car repaired as I will save for it but I can't believe how isolated I feel without it and how that has affected my mood. It's been important to me to feel I have an escape route if panic overwhelms me and I have to leave somewhere, another reason getting lifts with people would be difficult and would escalate anxiety.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 25 Nov 2014 05:55PM
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I know I will get through this, it's just a matter of time before I can get the car repaired as I will save for it but I can't believe how isolated I feel without it and how that has affected my mood. It's been important to me to feel I have an escape route if panic overwhelms me and I have to leave somewhere, another reason getting lifts with people would be difficult and would escalate anxiety.

 >bighugs<

This might be a long shot, but you can do a postcode search for charitable grants through Turn2Us:

http://www.turn2us.org.uk/grants_search.aspx

I did a search using my own postcode, and several UK-wide organisations came up. A number of them, such as Elizabeth Finn Care, award grants for help with transport.

http://www.elizabethfinncare.org.uk/get_support/elizabeth-finn-grants/

I can well imagine why anyone would be reluctant to apply for a charitable grant, but it may be worth exploring in the interests of getting the lifeline of your car back.  >hugs<
   
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Post by: huhn on 25 Nov 2014 08:50PM
Sorry, I just  been again in a mess. Now my big girl, who has shizophrenia is now planing again  to buy a ticket and fly of to somewhere. Last time  they got her on the way and put her in a hospital in Athens. But now it is only 20 min to the airport here and  from her therapy center is it only 15 min, so i can not  control her , that she runs off.She goes alone to the therapy and  comes back again with the bus. I have also no overview over her money, so she can buy anything she likes.so she can fly out and i find it out only 5 or 6 hours later. I want to inform her center and her doctor, but what is when it is false alarm? also over  the next few weeks  i am more often out with the little ones , so   i have not at all a control.Also i am scared that i am again have to pay , to get her home and a stay in the hospital and a large hotel bill for me like last time.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 25 Nov 2014 09:22PM
Huhn  >bighugs<

I hope it is a false alarm, but I think you should tell her doctor and centre that she is planning to fly off somewhere.
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 25 Nov 2014 10:52PM
I think so too huhn.  Better tell everyone and find it is a false alarm than for your daughter to go missing on her own.   >hugs<
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Post by: Yvette on 26 Nov 2014 10:28AM
Can you get hold of her passport and destroy it?
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Post by: huhn on 26 Nov 2014 05:48PM
I was lucky today. The  nurses from the psychiatric department came. Tomorrow i have to bring her to the doctor, her therapy center  can not do  anything about it. i try to find her ID card first. But I was also informed that  normally the welfare department had already to house her in sheltered living, but nothing happen. they ask me also to come and  see the doctor on my own , I have signs of burn out. So we will see tomorrow. 
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 26 Nov 2014 10:45PM
 >bighugs<
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Post by: Yvette on 27 Nov 2014 09:29AM
Oh dear, Huhn.  I feel so much for your struggles.  >hugs<
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 27 Nov 2014 09:05PM
Sending you positive vibes.   >rose<
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Post by: Fiz on 30 Nov 2014 05:20PM
I am going completely stir crazy by being housebound. Days go by where I don't see or speak to anybody and being car-less has brought home to me how friendless I am in real life here. I am struggling with low mood and just want each day to end. What is the point of this kind of life?
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Post by: Hurtyback on 30 Nov 2014 05:23PM
Fiz  >hugs<  I'm so sorry, I wish there was something I could do to help.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 30 Nov 2014 06:10PM
 >bighugs< Do keep sight of the fact that you're taking steps to get your car repaired.
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Post by: Yvette on 30 Nov 2014 09:18PM
Sometimes counting one's blessings helps.

You have a daughter to whom you are very close.  Having a child you are close to is a great blessing - a blessing which some of us do not have.

Although you are carless - you can go out for a walk.  The weather is good at the moment, so try to get out if you can.  Sunshine is good for upping one's Vitamin D levels as well as lifting one's mood.

Can you pick up the phone to have a chat with someone?  Even if they don't live close to you, having a chat with someone can help. The Samaritans are good.

Sending big hugs.  >bighugs<

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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 30 Nov 2014 10:13PM
I know where you are coming from when you say you feel friendless in real life Fiz.

We here may be on computers many miles from you but we are never the less real and we are your friends so don't loose sight of that.

 >hugs<

Things will improve soon I'm sure.  >chocolate<
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 30 Nov 2014 10:41PM
You may be feeling down at the moment, but remember you have to think about your daughter.  What is the next thing you need to do to support her?
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 30 Nov 2014 11:00PM
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We here may be on computers many miles from you but we are never the less real and we are your friends so don't loose sight of that.

Well said.
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Post by: Fiz on 01 Dec 2014 04:01AM
Thank you everyone. Yvette, counting my blessings is my normal tactic but is failing me right now. Walking is painful as my bursitis has flared up again,, partly my fault because I could do some of the physio exercises at home, but I had integrated all of them into a routine at the gym. Walking often escalates bursitis though so even walking to the shop is sore and the pain isn't helping my mood any either but I have to take part of the responsibility and motivate myself to strengthen the surrounding muscles to ease the joints.

Dd still hasn't been given an appeal date. She's back home atm caring for the family's disabled child while the Mum has hospital treatment today.
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Post by: seegee on 01 Dec 2014 09:08AM
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We here may be on computers many miles from you but we are never the less real and we are your friends so don't loose sight of that.

Well said.

 >thumbsup<

Fiz, could you set aside 20 minutes twice a day to do those exercises you can do at home & continue to do that after you have a usable car again? 
If you can't walk far at the moment, is it possible to move a chair to a doorway so you can sit outside for half an hour a day to get some fresh air & daylight?  Even sitting just outside the back door wrapped up warm will get some vitD and daylight can help mood too.  >bighugs< >bighugs<
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Post by: Fiz on 01 Dec 2014 07:19PM
Yes I really must and will put it in my diary to do each day, I'm sure it will reduce the pain.

I had a traumatic morning. I took my old mobile that no longer has a sim card in to the store cupboard to note down the meter readings on it but pulled the door to behind me to stop the cats getting in as they squeeze between stuff and I can never get them out. But the door closed behind me and as none of my door handles are screwed in as a previous decorator did a runner with all the screws, this left me effectively locked in my cupboard as the handle wouldn't turn at all. Cue panic. But although the simless phone can't make calls it is connected to my wifi so I facebook messaged the one friend who has a key to my house to see if she can let me out. Various problems with that plan, she has severe MH issues and rarely leaves her house, only ever rarely and only with her son and has no car. She doesn't sleep well at night so tends to sleep in the day so I thought it likely I could be in the cupboard for hours. I messaged dd to ask her to phone the church and ask someone to go to the friends address and get the key, worried friend wouldn't open door due to social anxiety but needed to try. Church phone which is normally manned went to answerphone for over 2 hours, do they not realise they are the 4th emergency service?! But though friend normally wakes around 3am actually woke at 11am and saw my message and her son was home and they came straight over and let me out so I was only in there 2.5 hours. My back was painful but there was enough space to stand, move a little and I sat on Henry and he didn't seem to mind.

Very grateful for Facebook, for my friend who pushed through her social anxiety to rescue me and for her waking early. It could have been a lot worse. I really ought to get these door handles fixed. Just another day in the adventure of life ...

Now I am out, everyone has permission to laugh. My kids and their mates all have! Even I am finding it funny

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Post by: Yvette on 01 Dec 2014 07:37PM
I don't think what happened to you was funny. It must have been a dreadful experience.  >hugs<

It reminds me of many years ago when my, then, next-door neighbours were redecorating.  They didn't have the handles on all the doors either and when my neighbour went into her toddler son's room to put some ironing away, he followed her and pushed the door shut.

I was out and although she shouted out of the window - it was the summer so she thought someone would be around - there was no-one.  Her little boy was hungry and thirsty and she couldn't help him, although he was able to have a sleep in his cot.  She had to sit on the bedroom floor until her husband came back from work.

Despite discovering his wife and little boy had been locked in the bedroom for several hours, he demanded to know when his dinner would be ready!!!
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Post by: seegee on 01 Dec 2014 08:04PM
Thank goodness for Henry, Fiz!  A more comfortable seat than anything in my cupboard would be, I think I'd have to use the toolbox. >yikes< 
I hope being in a restricted space hasn't increased your pain at all. >bighugs<

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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 01 Dec 2014 08:09PM
Strewth, Fiz, just reading that made me feel slightly panicky and queasy - 'only' in there two and a half hours?  I think with my 'triggering' at being trapped in any way, I would have kicked the bloody door down after about thirty minutes  >erm<  You handled that very well  >thumbsup<
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Post by: Yvette on 01 Dec 2014 09:02PM
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You handled that very well  >thumbsup< 

I agree completely.  >thumbsup<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 01 Dec 2014 10:37PM
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You handled that very well

Agreed.

Fiz, I'm glad that you're out,and safe.  >hugs<

Would anyone at the church be willing to help you fix the door handles?
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Post by: Fiz on 02 Dec 2014 01:40AM
I'm really rubbish at asking for help but today's adventure has made me realise I really need to. There's a charity too that does odd jobs for £12 an hour which isn't too bad either but I'm trying to save to get the car fixed so might think about the church. I am just so glad I had the old dud phone on me and could access Facebook, had I not then I may have been in there days. Lots to be thankful for.
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Post by: Hurtyback on 02 Dec 2014 07:25PM
I also think that you did really well! The thought of being trapped somewhere for several hours brings me out in a cold sweat, how terrible to think that you could have been there for days  :-( , keeping calm and clear headed in those circumstances takes some doing  >thumbsup<
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 02 Dec 2014 08:59PM
I'm impressed with how you handled it Fiz. I think I would have panicked!  I hope you are going to get those door handles fixed soon so that you don't have a repeat performance.
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Post by: Fiz on 02 Dec 2014 09:53PM
Dd has told me that she phoned 101 for advice and the police said they could break the front front door down but would have to have 'good reason' so dd said I do experience panic attacks so the police said in that case they'd have to have an ambulance here as well so dd said hold off let's see if we can find the key holder. Amazes me that the police couldn't break in when someone is locked inside a cupboard without a (n) additional good reason, is not being locked in a cupboard enough? However I'm glad they didn't because that would have terrified/embarrassed me and I wouldn't have been able to afford the repair bill.

Better day today, I have become a Nana and dd has arrived and will take me to visit my new granddaughter tomorrow  >dove<
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Post by: Yvette on 02 Dec 2014 10:25PM
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I have become a Nana and dd has arrived and will take me to visit my new granddaughter tomorrow  >dove<

Fabulous.  I am delighted for you all.   >bubbly< >magicfairy<

Welcome to your new family member. >welcome<
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 02 Dec 2014 10:53PM
Congratulations!  Something joyful to celebrate after a few ups and downs.  Best wishes to mother, baby, and of course,  her grandmother  >bliss<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 02 Dec 2014 11:16PM
Better day today, I have become a Nana and dd has arrived and will take me to visit my new granddaughter tomorrow  >dove<

Congrats Fiz!  >bubbly<
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Post by: huhn on 03 Dec 2014 09:55AM
Nice Fiz.
And I have still no news what happens to my daughter, had a talk with her doc, and still waiting  for the social services.
Between got my husband again out of control, no communication not even with the children. Only problem is transport, with my eyesight can i not drive, so i must take the 3.30 bus to bring my boy for 6 to the  therapy and  have then 8 a bus have way back and must see that i can call a taxi what takes us the last 15 km.
 Since Monday the Doc gave me psycho tablets. See how they will help , but it is no solution to the problems.
and see what happens now.
.
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Post by: Otter on 03 Dec 2014 08:05PM
moving is very stressful, I am getting out of the flats, but the process just seems to be jumping through hoop after hoop
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 03 Dec 2014 08:35PM
Huhn and Otter  >bighugs< >bighugs<
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Post by: Yvette on 04 Dec 2014 05:45PM
Big hugs from me too.   >bighugs<
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 04 Dec 2014 08:38PM
 >hugs< to all that need them.
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Post by: SteveX on 06 Dec 2014 01:05PM
>bighugs<
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Post by: SteveX on 06 Dec 2014 01:07PM
I don't know about all you but my god its cold here today.  I'm frozen to the bone, I've got my gas bottle heater on and I'm sitting in my sleeping bag with my fingerless gloves on and wooly hat and I'm still frozen.. Brrrrrrrr

according to my clock, my living room inside temp is 10.6c   wow!!
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 07 Dec 2014 11:57AM
It's been very cold here too, Steve. My housemates keep badgering me to put the heat on for myself during the day, but I feel very guilty about heating up the whole house when I'm here on my own.

Lots of thin layers will keep you better insulated than a couple of thick ones. If you have any hot water bottles, get them into the sleeping bag with you, and don't forget the warming power of a cat on your knee.  >hugs<

And  >bighugs< for everyone who is struggling to stay warm at the moment.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 07 Dec 2014 12:11PM
Your housemates probably don't want to come home and find a NN Popsicle. If you're cold put the heating on please. 
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 07 Dec 2014 12:19PM
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My housemates keep badgering me to put the heat on for myself during the day, but I feel very guilty about heating up the whole house when I'm here on my own.

'During the day'.. so they come home in the evening then?  You will be warming up the place for everybody to enjoy if you whack on the rads in the daytime, try and think of it that way!

Also, once the 'fabric' of a building gets cold it takes extra heat (and expense) to bring temperatures back to comfortable again, so very much a false economy to keep the CH off for too long during a chilly snap. 

Steve, if I remember right, you don't have central heating? (I know what it's like to be in a house without it, ie my late gran's place - bedroom windows frosting up on the inside and all that).   You could still get the Warm Home discount from your energy supplier if you are receiving certain benefits, though  - the discount comes off the electricity bill, but you can use the money saved to get more gas bottles..
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Post by: Yvette on 07 Dec 2014 12:27PM
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Also, once the 'fabric' of a building gets cold it takes extra heat (and expense) to bring temperatures back to comfortable again, so very much a false economy to keep the CH off for too long during a chilly snap. 
 

Absolutely correct.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 08 Dec 2014 02:57PM
Damn you all and your ineluctable logic  ;-)

There is snow lying on top of the mountain today, so I have decided to stop being siily and put the heat on.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 08 Dec 2014 03:01PM
Thank goodness.  >biggrin<
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Post by: Hurtyback on 08 Dec 2014 04:28PM
Good for you NN!  >thumbsup<
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 10 Dec 2014 06:38PM
My annoying moment happened this morning when I went to hospital for a check up.  The urine specimen I had taken with me emptied itself in my handbag.  Stupidly I hadn't put the top on properly  >doh< . The nurse gave me some wipes to try and clean up a bit.  Fortunately I tend to have a lot of stuff in my bag (mostly rubbish) which absorbed a large proportion of the offending specimen.  My purse survived but my diary is a little damp. Good job we're at the end of the year and I hadn't started carrying around the new one!
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 10 Dec 2014 07:57PM
Grandsons GF did something similar the other day but with a can of coke and a brand new handbag.
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Post by: Mabelcat on 10 Dec 2014 09:12PM
Harriet, my eldest cat, was sick into my briefcase recently.
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 10 Dec 2014 09:46PM
Ewww, Ditchdwellers! Not a good discovery  >yikes<

Harriet, my eldest cat, was sick into my briefcase recently.

Now this is one thing I can't get to grips with about cats.  They are so meticulous (under normal conditions) about depositing their wee and poo into a designated area (litter tray, garden etc).  But when they want to barf - it seems anywhere goes, usually on soft furnishings/carpet and wherever it's hardest to clean  >doh<

Is the briefcase fit for further use? >feeling-sick<
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Post by: Hurtyback on 10 Dec 2014 10:00PM
Oh dear Dd, I suppose it could have been worse!  >feeling-sick<


Well done Harriet, you picked your spot well  >lol<
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Post by: Mabelcat on 10 Dec 2014 11:13PM
Briefcase is back in use.  Annie, my youngest cat, brought a mouse in this evening and promptly lost it in the sitting room.  Amazingly I managed to catch it and put it outside where it ran off.

It's a good job I love my cats.
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Post by: Hurtyback on 11 Dec 2014 12:57PM

It's a good job I love my cats.


Indeed!
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 11 Dec 2014 03:48PM
 >bighugs< and a clean bag to all who need them.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 13 Dec 2014 09:24PM
I had an appointment for ultrasound scan to check the progress of my AAA at city hospital Friday afternoon I turn up no one there  no notice of cancellation by phone email or snail mail what a waste of time.
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 13 Dec 2014 11:08PM
Join the club. ( See thread about Gp and I.)
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Post by: AndMac on 14 Dec 2014 03:17AM
This is a hee-hee Arggh!
 I got offered 96 pairs of feminine hygiene underwear for my Oops! moments,  >whistle<  free to review, from Amazon.   >thumbsup<
The tracker at the delivery company showed that it had been delivered to the courier but not signed for .
After a delay of some days and no progress, I was told to assume that the parcel had been stolen.  :-(
(Fortunately I was able to request the knicks again). They arrived in a MASSIVE box.

Can you imagine the expression of the person stealing the first box, when they looked inside perhaps expecting something exciting and electrical to discover 96 pairs of padded paper pants??!!  >lol< >lol< >lol< >biggrin<
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Post by: seegee on 14 Dec 2014 09:40AM
If the original parcel has just been temporarily mislaid you might get another delivery - I hope you have plenty storage space as 192 pairs of padded panties don't sound tiny! >lol<
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Post by: Yvette on 14 Dec 2014 10:28AM
In the last year, three items I have posted have been lost by Royal Mail. 

I always send things 'signed for' so at least I have been able to claim compensation - but it is so inconvenient.
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Post by: SteveX on 14 Dec 2014 08:41PM
In the last year, three items I have posted have been lost by Royal Mail. 

I always send things 'signed for' so at least I have been able to claim compensation - but it is so inconvenient.

My mums friend is forever not getting items my mum sends her, for the last three chrismas's in a row she's not got her present.  first was money in a card.. 3 years ago, never arrived, then last year she send a cheque and she never got it, had to cancel the cheque and again this year, she send a cheque inside another card and that didn't arrive!!  really weird and its only to this one person, all her other friends got their cards fine.   We both suspect that her friends postie or their local sorting office is 'dodgy' but her friend insists not.

and on another boring and pointless arrggghhh theme, I'm feeling very ill today, I have had crippling back and stomach pain since this morning and now my legs have gotten in on the pain act and also I'm getting shooting pains in my left fingers and wrist joints.  carpal tunnel maybe?  who knows.. but its annoying and I feel very ache'y today. 
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 14 Dec 2014 08:47PM
Can you take a long warm bath?  That often helps with overall pains.
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Post by: Yvette on 15 Dec 2014 05:18PM
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My mums friend is forever not getting items my mum sends her, for the last three chrismas's in a row she's not got her present. 

Can you suggest to your mum that she sends her presents 'signed for on receipt'?  That way, she can claim compensation if they don't arrive.
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Post by: Defying Gravity on 15 Dec 2014 07:10PM
Speaking from personal experience, there are some dodgy post people. One of my family members was o e of them. Your mum must make sure to officially report any losses to the post office so that they can start to see a pattern, if there is one.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 19 Dec 2014 08:10PM
Further to my previous post about the scan of my AAA and no one being there I was in fact a week early.  >doh<

I had the scan today.

I told the lady who did the scan about the fact that I am having extreme difficulty and pain walking oh dear she said sympathetically.

About a minute later she asked how are you getting on with your walking you should exercise more .  >doh<

I did try and explain that apart from the damaged Achilles tendons and subsequent pain that telling someone with MG to exercise more is like telling a diabetic to eat more sugar but she didn't quite get it.

I seem to be between a rock and a hard place.

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Post by: ditchdwellers on 19 Dec 2014 08:30PM
That really seems like someone who has very little understanding and insight into disability in general and your condition specifically.  How frustrating for you  >hugs<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 19 Dec 2014 10:06PM
I can understand that her concern is the AAA and that many people even medical professionals have at times little understanding of MG as it is rare. It is one of those occasions that many of us experience at times,  when the best thing to do for one condition is absolutely one of the worst things you can do for the other condition.
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 19 Dec 2014 10:34PM
It is one of those occasions that many of us experience at times,  when the best thing to do for one condition is absolutely one of the worst things you can do for the other condition.

Hmmm, I have similar issues with treatments and medications.  I expect it's one of those situations where you know more about your conditions and what is best for you, than the people treating you.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 19 Dec 2014 11:17PM
Dic and dd, I know how you feel. Have had some useless advice regarding my own (rare and poorly understood) condition as well.  >hugs< >hugs<
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 19 Dec 2014 11:52PM
When you have more than one condition I think that people cannot get their heads around it.

A once-off therapist today told me I should volunteer and gave me the details of an organisation on-line where you can look volunteering opportunities up (do it all).  I went and had a cake (gluten-free) with a cup of tea, bought a christmas decoration in a charity shop and came home and slept for 6 hours.  Oh yes, I am certainly ready to do volunteering work!
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Post by: Yvette on 20 Dec 2014 10:01AM
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I seem to be between a rock and a hard place.

I think many of us with multiple disabilities are in between a rock and a hard place with you, Dic. 

Auntie, the advice you were given beggars belief.

But it happens - and is offered by very stupid, thoughtless people who should know better but are too stupid, unthinking and uncaring to make the effort to understand the situation others are in.
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Post by: ally on 20 Dec 2014 05:57PM
Regarding volunteering.  Before my accident I enquired about volunteering for what was formally the RNID informing them I was profoundly deaf beforehand. I was met by a coordinator in a cafe.  She wasn't deaf, nor could she sign.  I spent an uncomfortable hour or so trying to understand what she was saying while she merrily chuntered on.  I asked about the other volunteers she wanted me to work with   None could sign either. Nor were they deaf.  My suggestion of visiting deaf in hospital was met with disdain, they didn't do that.  The Job she decided I was suitable for was collecting cans at various venues.  As I'm in a chair most of the time I have no idea how I'd do that.  Incidentally, the hospital visiting idea was something I could've dearly done with while laid up in hospital after my accident.  As it is I'm unlikely to be volunteering to do anything anytime soon. 
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 20 Dec 2014 07:21PM
Now I think about it Yvette, the woman was only spouting what her organisation told everyone to say.  You know the mantra - work is the answer to all ills.
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Post by: SteveX on 24 Dec 2014 11:52AM
I know its not that important and there are things going on in the world that are infinitely more important but this really really annoyed me today.

Amazon lost the present I'd ordered for my mum, so yesterday I ordered a replacement gift (even though I've not got my money from the first one yet) and paid £8 extra for guaranteed next day delivery as it was very important to me.

I got up at 7am today to wait for the door as I didn't want to miss it, come 9:33 I hobbled to the door and low and behold theres a royal mail card there saying the parcel needed a signature!!!!!!!!!!!

I was in, I was sitting there waiting for it, the guy/woman didn't even ring the sodding doorbell!!  what the heck!!  is it too much effort to ring the damn doorbell??!!

I phoned them and they can't redeliver until monday now, which makes the whole thing pointless as its a christmas gift.  I'm old fashioned, I won't give gifts after the date, so.. for a third time I need to find a present for my mum.

I'm going to have to take a horrible trip into town to hopefully buy a present.  This is utterly ridiculous and I'm so annoyed and mad that if I typed what I really thought, the mods would ban me for swearing. grrrrr  >angry< >angry< >angry<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 24 Dec 2014 01:20PM
Cripes thats so annoying.  >hugs<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 24 Dec 2014 01:59PM
Steve, that's terrible >hugs<
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Post by: Fiz on 24 Dec 2014 02:31PM
I've had that happen to me in the past Steve, twice. Once I was stood looking at the door saw the postman walk up the path through the bubbled glass and post the missed you card without even knocking. Both times its happened to me it's been just before Christmas, I wonder if they have so much to deliver, can't carry or cope with it and try this cheeky tactic! So frustrating for you just before Christmas  >hugs<
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Post by: Yvette on 24 Dec 2014 02:46PM
How annoying. 

I really do hope that town isn't too bad Steve, and that you get a nice present for your Mum.
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Post by: Hurtyback on 24 Dec 2014 03:23PM
Steve  >hugs<  how bliddy annoying!  >angry<
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 24 Dec 2014 06:04PM
Yes, the postman wants to get home early.  But really bad news for you.

Your Mum is very lucky that she has a son who will go to this much trouble for her.

I hope that your aches and pains have now lessened Steve.
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Post by: SteveX on 24 Dec 2014 07:34PM
Your Mum is very lucky that she has a son who will go to this much trouble for her.

Thank you but its nothing compared to what she does for me ;)

Thanks everyone, I managed to get something nice, I'm broke now but it doesn't matter.  :-)
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 24 Dec 2014 09:39PM
Really pleased to hear that you found a suitable gift Steve.  You can always return the other items to Amazon and get a refund or hang on to it and give it to her at another event.  I hope you and your mum have a lovely day tomorrow.   >hugs<
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Post by: Yvette on 25 Dec 2014 09:45AM
The same from me too.  >thumbsup<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 27 Dec 2014 07:15PM
Glad you managed to find a substitute present, Steve. I hope you both had a lovely day.  >hugs<
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Post by: SteveX on 14 Jan 2015 08:30PM
Incoming moan ;)

Sky is driving me up the wall.  She's taken to sitting on her tower, looking at me and meowing/yowling loud.  She does it a lot and I have no idea what she wants.  I make sure her litter is clean and she has fresh water and food but that doesn't seem to matter.  I've tried showing her more attention when she does that, but if I approach her she backs away and goes and hides under something.

I was even worried something might be wrong with her, so my mum and I took her to the PDSA today and after a 20 min checkup they said she looks well and fit and they could find no problems.

So I'm home again and again she's yowling at me and I feel so very frustrated because I don't know what she wants.

also I have to admit that getting her done was a bad idea, if I had my time again I wouldn't do it, its almost like she's a changed cat since that was done a few months ago, she was all cuddly and friendly but now she seems to hate any closeness from me and cuddles on my knees have gone from 3-4 a day down to zero a day.  it's almost like she's a different cat now and she's constantly crying to come into the bedroom when I'm in bed but if I hobble up and let her in, within 20 seconds she's crying to get out and then back in and out and over and over.

I love her and always will, that'll never change but I really don't know whats happened to her recently.  :(
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Post by: Mabelcat on 14 Jan 2015 09:37PM
Cats are naturally contrary in my experience.  Mine are all pretty cuddly but the eldest will only sit on me when she wants it, not if I call her to me.  If you hadn't had your cat done she would be impossible to live with.  She would be escaping regularly to find mates and calling for them, very loudly!

She may not like the weather - mine are not happy with the wet and cold.
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 14 Jan 2015 09:45PM
If I want to cuddle my cat, then it gets cuddled.  You are in charge in your household so make sure that your cat knows it.  Even if she protests give her a cuddle.  She will just have to get used to this.
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Post by: SteveX on 14 Jan 2015 11:36PM
If I want to cuddle my cat, then it gets cuddled.  You are in charge in your household so make sure that your cat knows it.  Even if she protests give her a cuddle.  She will just have to get used to this.

Her claws are like razors, I don't think I will.   >lol<
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 14 Jan 2015 11:43PM
Who buys the cat food?
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Post by: Fiz on 15 Jan 2015 08:22AM
Does she have any siamese or burmese in her? They are very vocal breeds who have a lot to say for themselves. They also tend to be less cuddly and more independent.
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Post by: Yvette on 15 Jan 2015 11:19AM
It must be very distressing for you, Steve.  >hugs<
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Post by: Sunshine on 15 Jan 2015 11:29AM
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She's taken to sitting on her tower, looking at me and meowing/yowling loud

We have three cats and they yowl and meow to call each other especially when they want to play. Sky might be lonely for cat company but I dont think getting another cat will necessarily resolve the issues. Each of our cats has their own  own personality eg Zuzu loves going out, doesn't like being picked up and only wants cuddles if she comes for one, Milo likes cuddles and Tigga loves to be brushed.

I don't think spaying has made Sky worse, it is more like spaying coincides with her getting older.

Have you lived with a cat before?




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Post by: SteveX on 15 Jan 2015 11:50AM
Yes, Sunshine.

My last cat, lived with me for almost 17 years before I sadly lost her to kidney problems.  She simply adored the ground I walked on, was forever snuggling up and we cuddled as often as I had free time :D

I wouldn't expect Sky to be like that, all cats are different and have their own personality.  Its just Sky seems so different in the last few months, perhaps you are right and she's just grown up and maybe now she's an adult she doesn't want to be close to me or even doesn't like me.  Whatever, that really doesn't matter tbh, she's stuck with me and I'll love her and take care of her as long as I'm around ;)

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Post by: Sunshine on 15 Jan 2015 12:16PM
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Whatever, that really doesn't matter tbh, she's stuck with me and I'll love her and take care of her as long as I'm around ;)

 :-)

Does Sky have places to hide, cats love cardboard boxes?
Being home all day can mean our cats and dogs don't have time to miss us so could making the bedroom a no go area once it is dark outside make a difference.
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Post by: Hurtyback on 15 Jan 2015 12:21PM
Are you able to play with Sky? It could be that she is bored, especially as the weather is so bad (I don't know whether she goes outside?). The one time that Alfs really whinges is when he wants to play.
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Post by: SteveX on 15 Jan 2015 12:26PM
She has this huge tower I bought her for xmas, when I say huge, I mean its like 2 foot off the ceiling haha.
its similar to this one in the image, its high up and has a box for her to sleep/hide in and even though its all fur lined, I've put a little blanket in for her to sleep on. 

(http://s2.postimg.org/xbiud5hzd/cattower.jpg)
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Post by: SteveX on 15 Jan 2015 12:29PM
Are you able to play with Sky? It could be that she is bored, especially as the weather is so bad (I don't know whether she goes outside?). The one time that Alfs really whinges is when he wants to play.

I try to play when I have the energy, okay thats not a lot but I do try but even when I don't have the energy to play, she is obsessed with cable ties (no really) and she often fetches me one so I'll roll it up around my finger and throw it.  She runs after it, puts one part in her mouth, a paw on the other end and stretches it straight.   ..then fetches it back for me to wind up again.  haha

I've spent a fortune on a load of toys for her but the only thing she comes back to time and time again are cable ties.  :D
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Post by: Hurtyback on 15 Jan 2015 12:33PM
I do understand how hard it is Steve, Alfie isn't great at playing on his own and he always seems to want me to go downstairs to play with him, which I'm often unable to do. Will Sky chase the 'red dot' (laser pointer), you could use that from a sitting position?
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 15 Jan 2015 01:40PM
I've spent a fortune on a load of toys for her but the only thing she comes back to time and time again are cable ties.  :D

It's always the way  >biggergrin< My own cat has a similar fixation with ping-pong balls.

I do understand how hard it is Steve, Alfie isn't great at playing on his own and he always seems to want me to go downstairs to play with him, which I'm often unable to do. Will Sky chase the 'red dot' (laser pointer), you could use that from a sitting position?

Good suggestion, Hurty.  >thumbsup<
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Post by: Yvette on 15 Jan 2015 02:26PM
Can you afford to buy a couple of Feliway plug-ins?  They are supposed to help calm a cat but aren't cheap:


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  http://www.feliway.com/uk/

Perhaps if you have a look through the website when you get time you can if Feliway would help you and Sky?

Perhaps other cat servants on the board can post if they have used Feliway and how their cat (s) got on with it? 

Apparently some Vets recommend it but I'm sure other Vets don't.
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Post by: SteveX on 15 Jan 2015 08:05PM
Can you afford to buy a couple of Feliway plug-ins?  They are supposed to help calm a cat but aren't cheap:


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  http://www.feliway.com/uk/

Perhaps if you have a look through the website when you get time you can if Feliway would help you and Sky?

Perhaps other cat servants on the board can post if they have used Feliway and how their cat (s) got on with it? 

Apparently some Vets recommend it but I'm sure other Vets don't.

Thanks, I've never heard of those, I'll look into it.
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Post by: Defying Gravity on 15 Jan 2015 09:07PM
I used feliway for my cats when I introduced them to the dog. Unfortunately because it was a new situation I can't really say whether it helped or not. However my sister has a quite aggressive and erratic cat and she says he noticeably calms down when it's plugged in. I do find it to be quite an unpleasant smell and the initial outlay isn't cheap - they're like a plug-in air freshener, you have to buy the plug bit and the smell bit. But after that you just buy refills so it's a bit cheaper.
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Post by: Hurtyback on 15 Jan 2015 09:29PM
There is an alternative product called 'Pet Remedy' which is supposed to be 'natural'. It is cheaper than Feliway and some people find it very helpful. I believe that some people also find that it makes them feel calm/sleepy as well as the cat!
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 16 Jan 2015 12:11AM
This is a cartoon commenting upon differences in attitude towards the NHS:

http://www.thepoke.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2015/01/B6-wLkiCQAAl09O.jpg
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Post by: Yvette on 16 Jan 2015 10:30AM
There is an alternative product called 'Pet Remedy' which is supposed to be 'natural'. It is cheaper than Feliway and some people find it very helpful. I believe that some people also find that it makes them feel calm/sleepy as well as the cat!

I  shall give it a go - for me!!
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Post by: Fiz on 16 Jan 2015 04:30PM
Glass of wine might be cheaper! 

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Post by: Yvette on 17 Jan 2015 09:57AM
 >lol<  >thumbsup<
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Post by: SteveX on 28 Jan 2015 12:26PM
>bighugs<
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Post by: SteveX on 29 Jan 2015 11:53AM
Crikey its cold today.

My living room inside temp is currently 9.3c !! (for some reason my clock has a temp reading on it)

I'm sat in my sleeping bag with my fingerless gloves and a wooly hat on and believe it or not, I do have the calor gas fire on and its only 5-6 inches away from me.  so cold today brrrr!!
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 30 Jan 2015 07:14PM
Steve, are your windows double-glazed?
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 30 Jan 2015 07:37PM
Try a heated throw.  Mine is an absolute life saver.
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 30 Jan 2015 08:27PM
And they only use as much money as one electric light bulb - so the blurb on the side of the box says.
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 31 Jan 2015 11:57AM
Blasted antibiotics have left me with thrush.  :-(
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 31 Jan 2015 02:23PM
 >bighugs<
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Post by: Hurtyback on 31 Jan 2015 03:09PM
Blasted antibiotics have left me with thrush.  :-(


Oh boo!  :-(  Do you take gut-friendly bacteria when you are on antib's?
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 31 Jan 2015 04:22PM
Unfortunately,  they tend to make my gastroparesis worse so I just have to put up with it. I went to the pharmacy this morning and picked up some treatment so hopefully I'll be feeling a bit more comfortable in a couple of days.
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Post by: Hurtyback on 31 Jan 2015 05:04PM
I do hope so dd  >x-fingers<
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 31 Jan 2015 07:45PM
Thrush is a horrid thing to pick up.  You want and need to go, yet when you do it is 'ouch'.

Poor you Ditchdwellers.   >hugs<
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Post by: Hurtyback on 31 Jan 2015 08:37PM
Thrush is a horrid thing to pick up.  You want and need to go, yet when you do it is 'ouch'.

Poor you Ditchdwellers.   >hugs<


Depends where the thrush is...
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Post by: Yvette on 01 Feb 2015 10:54AM
I get thrush frequently as I am on two very strong antibiotics permanently.   

I do have pre-probiotics etc., but sometimes forget or can't be bothered to take them, which is silly.
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 01 Feb 2015 09:31PM
Like you yvette, I'm on antibiotics most of the time and have to put up with recurrent thrush. I think this latest bout is subsiding as I feel more comfortable since I started treatment.  I'm pleased it's improving as I'm off on holiday tomorrow and I didn't want this to spoil it.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 01 Feb 2015 09:41PM
I have had four bouts of oral thrush in the last few months and my doctor has just put me on another course of antibiotics at double the normal strength.
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 01 Feb 2015 10:23PM
Oh, Dic, that sounds horrible.   >hugs<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 02 Feb 2015 07:08AM
Not much fun I must admit my white cell count has been raised for months now. So he's referred me to the haematology clinic at the local hospital as well.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 02 Feb 2015 07:44AM
 >bighugs<
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Post by: Yvette on 02 Feb 2015 10:30AM
I had oral thrush for a few months last year when my asthma was really bad.  It makes your mouth so sore and eating and drinking is painful.

Because of the asthma being so bad, the GP had had changed my inhaler from a 'press' inhaler to a 'suck' inhaler and although I always rinsed out my mouth afterwards, the new inhaler caused thrush, which was the devil to get rid of.  I had to have four courses of the stuff you have to swish around your mouth several times a day. 

Fortunately, the Asthma Nurse changed the inhaler to a 'press' one (different from my original 'press' inhaler - stronger) and the thrush eventually went away, thank goodness.
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Post by: Fiz on 02 Feb 2015 10:04PM
A friend just told me that her xh tried to end his life on Friday on receiving his letter saying they've assessed him as being fit for work. She's trying to persuade him to appeal but it's a struggle as he's so mentally unwell. He gets hrm and mrc for his physical difficulties plus he has severe MH problems but apparently he can work. Where I wonder.
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 02 Feb 2015 10:09PM
Just  >steam<
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Post by: Yvette on 03 Feb 2015 10:48AM
It beggars belief.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 03 Feb 2015 04:29PM
 :-( >bighugs<
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 03 Feb 2015 09:02PM
Which would be the best national newspaper or news programme on the telly to tell?
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Post by: Fiz on 03 Feb 2015 09:46PM
He'd never cope with it. I'm just thankful that my friend is able and willing to support him despite the fact that he is her xh. It's her first experience of the appeal system, I've tried to encourage her with info on the success rates of tribunals.
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Post by: Mabelcat on 09 Feb 2015 07:27PM
I have just rubbed garlic into my eye.  I wouldn't recommend you try this though it might be a new treatment for dry eyes as my eye is watering beautifully.
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Post by: Fiz on 09 Feb 2015 07:52PM
 >hugs< I've not tried that trick myself
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 09 Feb 2015 08:12PM
Ouch, that sounds nasty. I hope your poor eyes recover shortly  >crying<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 09 Feb 2015 08:22PM
Yeow!  >hugs<
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Post by: SteveX on 09 Feb 2015 08:23PM
ouch.. >hugs<
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Post by: Mabelcat on 09 Feb 2015 08:49PM
It's fine now.  I did it once with chilli, that was much worse.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 09 Feb 2015 09:02PM
I wanted to say Yeow! but couldn't remember how to spell it.  >hugs< Thanks NN.
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Post by: Otter on 17 Feb 2015 03:20PM
on my pharmacists advice he has not been charging me prescription charges while on ESA
I went into the jobcentre this morning to see if I could get reduced entry to the local swimming bathes as I am on benefit and was told I could not get anything
so went back to pharmacist and paid for 2 last prescriptions and got number for NHS Business Centre in Newcastle to ask if I can pay now for the previous month's worth... there is no mechanism that allows you to pay for prescriptions which you should have paid for if you request to do so. Usually they contact you with request, fine and court threat, therefore they have waivered the 8 prescription costs which I owe them  >doh<

The phone operator nearly fell off his seat, he has never had anyone ask how they pay and apologise for the mistake before. After a wait listening to music while there was a discussion to how to sort, there appears to be a short database of genuine errors.
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 17 Feb 2015 03:34PM
Would it be worth purchasing a prescription prepayment card? I pay for mine by direct debit which costs £10.40 a month for ten months and it gives me a huge savings on costs. Your pharmacist should be able to provide you with a form or you can apply online http://www.nhsbsa.nhs.uk/1127.aspx
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Post by: Yvette on 17 Feb 2015 05:41PM
Good idea, DD.  >thumbsup<
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Post by: Otter on 17 Feb 2015 07:38PM
I have just signed up for a PPC, thanks for the advice
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Post by: seegee on 17 Feb 2015 11:28PM

Otter, it might well be worth getting hold of a form HC1, which people who are on low incomes can use to apply for help with health costs.  If your only income is ESA and you don't have many thousands of pounds in savings, you might well get a certificate for full help. 
Might be too late for now, if you've already paid for a PPC, but could save you buying a replacement when the current PPC runs out. 
Certificates for help with health costs usually last a year (then you reapply if still on a low income) and a certificate for full help can cover dental treatment, travel to hospital appointments, opticians, prescription charges...  Some dentists or opticians might keep copies of the form or you can send for one:- http://www.nhsbsa.nhs.uk/HealthCosts/1128.aspx


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Post by: Fiz on 18 Feb 2015 12:07AM
Otter I think it might be an idea to visit your local cab to see what you are entitled to. You may be entitled to more than you think.
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Post by: huhn on 18 Feb 2015 08:22AM
 >crying< >crying< >crying< >crying< >crying< >crying< >crying<
 Is nobody understanding me that I am, on my end with all the problems.
Just got a call from school, that the clothes from the children are not clean . Yes they always  spill food over it and sometimes it goes not out, the other problem is  my eye sight is poor and i can not see it. And I am overtired and just tired  to do all on my own. And when I said I just did this not, I gave it to my  big girl and she did it not ok. They said all mothers do it, and mothers must look after all  children and not ask a Girl off 21 with  mental health issues to help. But I am alone with 3  difficult children and my health is suffering and I am  also falling asleep by the dentist when he drills in my teeth. In the moment I suffer from my allergy and have eye infection and must wait 2 more weeks to see the doc to get medis.
Sorry i am fed up with all things around me and like to sleep for the next 5 weeks.
All relevant  departments say, I do not need help, I am a housewife and so  time to look after my 3 problems and other people have much more problems. Am I a useless mother or are other people not seeing the problem or do not want to see the problem?
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 18 Feb 2015 10:37AM
huhn, you are not a useless mother!  >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs<
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Post by: Yvette on 18 Feb 2015 04:45PM
I agree with NN.

Not only are you ill, you have been under stress for many years. 

Lots of people could not manage to do everything that you do, so please don't get upset with yourself.  >hugs<
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 18 Feb 2015 05:23PM
 >bighugs<
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Post by: Yvette on 18 Feb 2015 08:30PM
How are you today, huhn?  I hope you are feeling better.  >thumbsup<
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Post by: Sunshine Meadows on 19 Feb 2015 10:50AM
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How are you today, DD?  I hope you are on the mend. 

Did you mean to say Huhn and not DD?

Huhn,

I don't see anything wrong with asking you older daughter to help with the laundry if you think she can give it try.

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Am I a useless mother or are other people not seeing the problem or do not want to see the problem?

I think the powers that be are awful for blaming you and comparing you to other mothers and their families. They should be helping you not bringing you down.
 >bighugs<
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Post by: seegee on 19 Feb 2015 02:21PM
There's no reason why your daughter shouldn't help with laundry - when she gets older she is still likely to have laundry to do & learning how to do things like that is a very useful life-skill for anyone (unless they are completely incapable). 
She isn't a "girl" now, she is a woman of 21 - just because she is still living in your household, it doesn't follow that you have to do absolutely everything.  You are two adult women; if she's in full-time work/ full-time study then maybe she can't be expected to do as much housework as you do (as she's not at home all the time the younger children are at school) but she can still do some. 
She has health problems, yes - but so do you.  How can it be that her illness is judged to make her always incapable but your visual impairment and health problems have no effect on your ability to look after the housework plus your children's special needs according to "all relevant departments"?  >bighugs<

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Post by: huhn on 19 Feb 2015 06:36PM
I am better today, we had snow, so my hay fewer was less. I had also my first tooth today done ready to wear a crown. Happily the root infection is gone and with this also this terrible pain in the joints. I have every time by infection not the pain where it is infected , it always affects the knee and  finger joints. So its difficult to find where the problem  is. So when the tonsils are infected  I can not walk. The doctors are then always puzzeled and think  I am making jokes. So this time I was not able to cut  anything, while I had a root infection from 5 teeth, and my teeth where feeling totally ok. So now I am getting 5 crowns. My girl  is today having a good day. She goes every day for therapy in the morning.
 and I found also something  funny today. I am baking daily bread, gluten free for my boys and one normal one. So today I went shopping for a evening dress, found a nice one but it fits my left arm and my  right one is much thicker from the baking and knitting. >biggergrin< >biggergrin< >biggergrin<, so I am sewing  one next week for me.
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 19 Feb 2015 07:20PM
Very pleased that you're having a better day, Huhn - last thing you needed was that mouth infection that affected so much of the rest of you!  No wonder you felt so dreadful.  Agree with the others about your oldest helping more with household chores - she will thank you for it when she eventually gets a place of her own or whatever  >thumbsup<
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Post by: SteveX on 19 Feb 2015 08:18PM
>hugs<>hugs<
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Post by: Yvette on 19 Feb 2015 08:23PM
Huhn, I am so glad your tooth infection is better. 

Roll on, your appointment to see the GP to get drops for your eyes.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 27 Feb 2015 08:43PM
 >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs<
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Post by: Defying Gravity on 01 Mar 2015 11:36AM
I just wanted to aaargggh about anxiety. This whole weekend has been wiped out by being on the verge of a panic attack, the anxiety is about a specific work situation in which I have made a mistake, and I can't speak to anyone until Monday morning to see if it can be sorted out. On top of my normal manageable anxiety this has been terrible- even though I know I can't do anything until tomorrow I can't stop the adrenaline and endless thoughts... No-one has been hurt, it was just an administrative (but potentially expensive) mistake in booking accommodation for the wrong date, but these kinds of situations where I'm dependent on someone else being merciful about something I've done wrong really push all my buttons. So far today I've managed to feed the pets and have a shower, I didn't go to church (which I know is normal for most people but is a bit of a problem for a priest, even though I'm not contracted/required/paid to be there), I will have to do the domestic stuff like cooking and a bit of cleaning or it's not fair on my partner who's working hard all day, but I just feel like I'm waiting for the axe to fall. Which is ridiculous....
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Post by: Yvette on 01 Mar 2015 02:08PM
We all make mistakes, but is worse when you can't stop beating yourself up. 

Missing church is understandable - you can't go to church when you are ill - which you are - ill with anxiety.

Hopefully the cleaning and cooking will help the time pass - keeping occupied can help sometimes.  It might not stop the thoughts but might stop you from feeling even worse if you don't do the domestic chores.

I will say a prayer that tomorrow will go well and that you will be able to rectify the mistake (without any extra cost). 

I don't know what else to say, but I'm sure someone else will add a post which will be more helpful.   >hugs<

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Post by: Fiz on 01 Mar 2015 02:43PM
Sorry to hear that dg. You have my total sympathy, I've had to take a 2nd diazepam as one wasn't enough to bring me down from panic level. I'm ruminating about the ruddy social worker and my weight. Both are out of my control at present.

Hugs, hope tomorrow brings you resolution and peace  >dove<
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 01 Mar 2015 03:17PM
DG  >bighugs< I hope you find some way of relaxing this evening, and I hope you are able to sort out your problem tomorrow. 
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Post by: Defying Gravity on 01 Mar 2015 04:09PM
Thanks folks. It will all be fine if they let us change the booking. If they don't... Well... Let's just say it's that outcome that's the focus of my fretting!

Fiz, I'm sorry you're having an anxious day too. The only anxiety meds I have are beta blockers,  which are great for the social/performance anxiety symptoms I normally get but aren't designed for this kind of panic.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 01 Mar 2015 04:10PM
DG >bighugs<  Hope everything goes well tomorrow. I'll be thinking of you.
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Post by: Hurtyback on 01 Mar 2015 04:52PM
DG  >hugs<  I do understand how you are feeling. I remember times that I had made a, potentially serious, mistake and couldn't do anything to sort it out straight away  :-(  In fact, I would often wake up in a cold sweat in the middle of the night, frightened that I had made a mistake that would kill someone. Believe me, it's one part of my job that I don't miss at all!
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Post by: Defying Gravity on 01 Mar 2015 06:01PM
That sounds horrible Hurty. I'm glad that at least my job doesn't involve the potential for physically harming anyone, although plenty of potential for accidental emotional harm.
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Post by: Hurtyback on 01 Mar 2015 08:31PM
DG, we all know just how damaging emotional harm can be  >hugs<
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Post by: SteveX on 01 Mar 2015 08:33PM
DG >hugs<>hugs<
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 01 Mar 2015 08:40PM
DG try to remember that you are also a human being.  And human beings do occasionally make mistakes, just one of those things we have to put up with in life.  What is the worst thing that can happen to you personally - very little I expect.
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Post by: Defying Gravity on 01 Mar 2015 11:03PM
You're right that we all make mistakes Aunty, and I'm not actually a perfectionist generally. I just find it hard to cope when the consequences involve other people or could be serious.  As to the worst that could happen, well I guess I could end up liable for the cost of the accommodation booked in error and not used, which is about £800. But I'm hoping it wont come to that and they will allow us to transfer the booking to the correct date.
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Post by: Fiz on 02 Mar 2015 04:44AM
If the right date is available I'd be really surprised if they don't just switch the booking even if they ask for a small administration fee. They want to keep customers generally. Here's hoping today brings good results.
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Post by: Defying Gravity on 02 Mar 2015 09:24AM
Thanks all, it went fine and is sorted out now. They admitted that they should have checked the booking form, even though the original mistake was mine. So now I can stop shaking...!
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 02 Mar 2015 02:52PM
Phew! Are you going to do something nice for yourself to compensate for all that stress and worry?  >hugs<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 02 Mar 2015 03:32PM
Yes why don't you book your self in for a weekend break some where nice.  :-)
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Post by: Fiz on 02 Mar 2015 06:54PM
 >thumbsup<  >bubbly<
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Post by: Defying Gravity on 02 Mar 2015 07:02PM
:-) thanks. Unfortunately my partner had to rush our dog to the vet this afternoon for a severe digestive upset so I'm on my way home from work now but will probably be clearing up after the dog all evening...!
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Post by: Fiz on 02 Mar 2015 07:27PM
Eeewwwww then you are definitely in the right thread dg  >hugs<
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Post by: seegee on 02 Mar 2015 07:34PM
 >bighugs< D G
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 02 Mar 2015 07:44PM
Oh dear DG  >hugs<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 02 Mar 2015 07:45PM
Hope the dog's illness is short-lived, and less messy than you fear.  >hugs<
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Post by: Defying Gravity on 02 Mar 2015 07:50PM
Thanks, the vet has given him an anti-emetic and some more for us to give him tomorrow. He can't see any reason for him being this poorly, there aren't any signs of having eaten something poisonous. We're confining him to the kitchen for the time being... As even the vet's receptionist said "I don't know why you don't just give your wages straight to us and make it simpler" we're hoping this does the trick and we don't have to take him back. The sodding cat still has conjunctivitis as well!
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Post by: Mabelcat on 02 Mar 2015 09:35PM
One of my cats had conjunctivitis a while ago.  He was really good about the eye drops for the first few days and then he crapped in my bed as a protest.  Good luck.
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Post by: Defying Gravity on 02 Mar 2015 09:49PM
Thanks! We're coming to the end of the second course of eye drops and it still isn't better. Of course it doesn't help that only one eye drop in three actually goes in his eye...
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 02 Mar 2015 10:25PM
How are you doing it?  With cats I kneel behind them with the cat between my knees and tilt their head back with a finger under the chin.  This usually (!!) immobilises the cat for long enough to pop the eye drops in.  Then they shake their head and it all comes out again!!
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Post by: Mabelcat on 02 Mar 2015 10:58PM
I'm lucky that William is pretty placid and laidback.  I tended to wait until he was asleep and sneak up on him. It was fine for the first couple of days as he was quite poorly but got harder as he started to feel better.  This reminds me I must flea treat everyone.
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Post by: Defying Gravity on 03 Mar 2015 10:40AM
Auntie, yes that's the type of technique I use, I just find it very hard to have enough hands to hold his eye open as well - he's had quite a lot of drops applied to his closed eyelids!

Doggy has stopped throwing up and has eaten a teaspoon of rice this morning, but it's safe to say his digestion isn't exactly back to normal...

Good luck with the flea treatment Mabelcat  >biggergrin<
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Post by: Yvette on 03 Mar 2015 11:20AM
How are you doing it?  With cats I kneel behind them with the cat between my knees and tilt their head back with a finger under the chin.  This usually (!!) immobilises the cat for long enough to pop the eye drops in.  Then they shake their head and it all comes out again!!

What a brilliant method.  Thanks Auntie.  >tah<
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 04 Mar 2015 10:53PM
Yea, it does work.  But it is also a good way, if you want to, of getting your clothing scattered with cat eye drops.  Luverly!
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Post by: Mabelcat on 10 Mar 2015 08:02PM
This is a bit of a silly one but could have been awkward.  I was in a rush the other morning and dropped what i thought was my last pair of clean pants into the cat's water bowl.  Mercifully a search revealed another pair in the drawer but it could have been difficult.
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 10 Mar 2015 08:04PM
It is easily done!
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Post by: huhn on 13 Mar 2015 04:44PM
Today is Friday the 13th. Just got a letter from the welfare department that my son with 15 years old has to go to the ENT for hearing checks. What for a waste of time and money. He  has a neurological problem what makes him very  limited to speak, he can not form sentences. Also  the muscles around the mouth are spastic. So are this are not enough  grounds for not speaking? Also has the MRI shown that the speach centre is totally underdeveloped. Are they thinking I have  spare time for unnecessary  staff?  >steam< >steam< >steam< >steam< >steam< >steam< >steam<So Monday  I have to travel 50 km to the hospital to make an appointment and  see when we  see the doctor and waste a day with waiting and waiting to get a known result.
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Post by: Fiz on 13 Mar 2015 05:57PM
Huhn, is it possible that once they discern the exact extent of hearing loss they can better work out what speech and language therapy or other methods of communication might be helpful to him?
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Post by: huhn on 13 Mar 2015 06:20PM
The boy is now 15, has no hearing loss at all, , he also has problem to express with colouring or music. Also he has  big problem with his movement, he walks like a robot and has poor  coordination of Eye , hand and foot. he never used any signs or pecs. When he was 1  and did not  develop any  words or noises we checked his hearing. Then they  pointed out, it must be the problem of moving  country, big family , use of  many languages. but I did not believe it. He was just different, he wanted only to be carried around or hold my hand, he was not unsecure but did not liked to be without a person around him. He used us as a communication tool. Also today he is not at all able to go alone shopping or playing outside. he needs a person as a communication tool. He can copy all books without problems but he can not spell or write 1 word unaided. He learns very fast and remembers everything , but  every question must be answerd by him with single words. And when he  talks more , he is talking always in the 3. person.And he has  problems  with choosing things and everything has to be planned and in a routine.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 13 Mar 2015 08:18PM
 >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs<
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Post by: Yvette on 14 Mar 2015 09:22AM
Huhn, I do so wish you had more support.  It must be so hard for you.  >hugs<
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Post by: SteveX on 22 Mar 2015 01:18AM
 >hugs<


I'm not feeling very good atm, had a lot of aches all over my body today, I've taken some paracetamol every few hours but they don't seem to help and I keep getting an sharp pain in my arm between my wrist and elbow, very intense but only for 2-3 seconds then it totally goes for a while.

Currently 1:17am and I can't get to sleep, I feel ropey.  Sky isn't too impressed as I'm keeping her awake haha.  aaand just as I'm typing this I get a stabbing pain in my right knee.   It's not a good day for me.  I'm going to have a cup of tea and try to sleep again.

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Post by: Fiz on 22 Mar 2015 09:34AM
 >hugs< sorry to hear that Steve, I hope that you did get to sleep in the end
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Post by: Yvette on 22 Mar 2015 07:14PM
I hope you have a better night tonight.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 22 Mar 2015 08:05PM
Yes hope you have a better night tonight. but if not check on line as I was up at two this morning my self.
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Post by: seegee on 22 Mar 2015 08:28PM
 Hope you sleep well tonight SteveX  >zzz<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 23 Mar 2015 02:19AM
Must be asleep as not posted here yet tonight good sleep tight Steve don't let the bed bugs bite.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 23 Mar 2015 01:13PM
I hope you had less pain and more sleep last night, Steve  >hugs<
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Post by: SteveX on 27 Mar 2015 08:14PM
Sorry for not posting here for a bit, my memory sucks and I forgot, my apologies.

Thankfully the last few nights have been better and I'm getting a reasonable few hours.   Thanks for caring.  >bighugs<

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Post by: Fiz on 27 Mar 2015 09:37PM
That's good to hear Steve  >thumbsup<
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Post by: Hurtyback on 27 Mar 2015 09:46PM
I am glad that you have been able to get some sleep Steve  :-)


May I say a little 'arghhhh' on my own behalf? I had to stop taking my NSAIDs a week or so ago following a gastroscopy examination. I never realised just how much they helped! I'm taking extra DHC and oromorph but I'm still not a happy bunny  :-(
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 27 Mar 2015 10:11PM
 >hugs<

Did they put the tube going down or going up?  Horrid either way.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 27 Mar 2015 10:40PM
A couple of  little aaarghhhh's number one the Lorry that ran into my car from behind this morning  at traffic lights so not too much damage and not heard from housing association yet oh yes and another bout of oral thrush this time accompanied by skin peeling from inside of mouth and myasthenia being a right bastard at moment.

Sorry but with MG sometimes all you can do is swear at it that's if you can speak that is.
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Post by: Hurtyback on 27 Mar 2015 11:05PM
Dic  >hugs<


Auntie, the tube went down, I was sedated so don't remember anything about it. I'm holding off from having a colonoscopy as I can't 'assume the position' required for it. If my symptoms settle and my iron levels hold we will forget about it.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 27 Mar 2015 11:49PM
 >bighugs<
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Post by: SteveX on 28 Mar 2015 12:18AM
Dic  >hugs<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 28 Mar 2015 04:35AM
 Ta and Hurty  >hugs<  >cheerup<

And >bighugs< to all
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Post by: Fiz on 28 Mar 2015 04:50AM
 >bighugs<
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Post by: Yvette on 28 Mar 2015 09:44AM
Oh dear, Dic.  What a nightmare.   >hugs<
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Post by: seegee on 28 Mar 2015 05:27PM
 >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs< >apple< >chocolate< >rose< >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs<
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Post by: Hurtyback on 28 Mar 2015 09:33PM
How are you Dic?
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 28 Mar 2015 10:11PM
Lucky you Hurty.  When they tried to do that on me I could not stand the tube and I felt that I was wide awake.  They had to stop and I felt awful for days afterwards.

Dear Dic, oh yes, all part of life's little game that it has with us.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 29 Mar 2015 04:12PM
Hi Hurty I'm still here still breathing just,  though bad bad night last night feel better now though.
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Post by: Yvette on 29 Mar 2015 06:56PM
Lucky you Hurty.  When they tried to do that on me I could not stand the tube and I felt that I was wide awake.  They had to stop and I felt awful for days afterwards.

Dear Dic, oh yes, all part of life's little game that it has with us.

My neighbour has to have a gastroscopy soon and I have told her to 'insist' on having sedation and if they won't provide it, to refuse the procedure.  Her GP won't be amused with her not being given sedation as she will have to be booked in again.
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Post by: Yvette on 29 Mar 2015 06:56PM
Hi Hurty I'm still here still breathing just,  though bad bad night last night feel better now though.

 >hugs<

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Post by: Hurtyback on 29 Mar 2015 08:24PM
Glad that you are feeling a bit better Dic  >hugs<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 29 Mar 2015 10:14PM
Thanks Hurty and Yvette I have been left to rest and recuperate most of today so that's helped.  :-)
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 29 Mar 2015 10:52PM
Yvette, your neighbour must take someone with her if she is going for the sedation option.  My hospital does not do it without.
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Post by: Yvette on 30 Mar 2015 12:02PM
She will, thanks Auntie.  >tah<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 05 Apr 2015 07:01PM
Fiz  >bighugs< >bighugs<

I have found you can be alone in a house full of people at times
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 05 Apr 2015 09:12PM
Fiz  >bighugs<
I know that it's not quite the same,  but your friends here are with you In spirit if not in person.
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Post by: Yvette on 06 Apr 2015 01:12PM
Wwhere is dd when you need some company? 

Or is it better not to see her at the moment?
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 06 Apr 2015 01:26PM
 >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 06 Apr 2015 08:09PM
Fiz and huhn  >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 08 Apr 2015 11:10AM
 >bighugs<
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 08 Apr 2015 12:30PM
Huhn, l do hope that the situation starts to improve for you.  >bighugs<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 18 May 2015 06:29PM
Had an appointment with consultant Neurologist today did not see usual doctor as he is on emergency leave. when I went in to consulting room daughter as my carer went in with me first thing out of his mouth was directed to my daughter asking how old I am I replied I am 65. He then asked my daughter what medication I'm on aaaarrrrgh.   >angry<
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 18 May 2015 06:58PM
You would think that a consultant would know better than that.  It's downright rude to behave like that.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 18 May 2015 07:56PM
 >bighugs< >hugs< >bighugs< >hugs< >bighugs<
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Post by: SteveX on 18 May 2015 08:18PM
Wow that is rude indeed.

Sadly I've also met my share of bad consultants, some treat you like a side of meat, not a living, thinking human being.
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Post by: Yvette on 18 May 2015 08:19PM
Had an appointment with consultant Neurologist today did not see usual doctor as he is on emergency leave. when I went in to consulting room daughter as my carer went in with me first thing out of his mouth was directed to my daughter asking how old I am I replied I am 65. He then asked my daughter what medication I'm on aaaarrrrgh.   >angry<

 >devil<  >doh<  >angry< >taz< >doh<  >devil<  >doh<  >taz<>angry<  >doh< >taz< >devil<  >doh<  >taz<>angry<   >devil<  >doh<  >angry< >taz< >doh<  >devil<
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 18 May 2015 08:33PM
Dic I hope that your daughter then turned to you and said 'Dad, what medication are you on?'
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 18 May 2015 10:30PM
Yes she did. To give him his due after that and when I managed to engage him in conversation his attitude did change some what. But I was very annoyed for a while. Though I did have a little laugh at his expense later when I had arrived for my appointment he was running late one of the reasons being he was unable to switch on and log into his computer I said to him well I have a degree in computer science maybe you should of asked me to help, also  I believe he may have got a bit confused as I was his second patient of the day and the first patient was some one with the exact same name as me could be the other patient  had Alzheimer's or something.  :-)

I should mention I did warm to him a little, later on as he has started me stepping down my prednisone dosage but as I now have Prednisone induced Diabetes a may be a bit late.
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Post by: Sunshine on 19 May 2015 11:31AM
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Dic I hope that your daughter then turned to you and said 'Dad, what medication are you on?'

 >thumbsup< >star<


 >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs< to all
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Post by: Hurtyback on 19 May 2015 01:20PM
Oh dear, not a good start but it sounds as if the consultant did redeem himself slightly afterwards!
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Post by: Yvette on 19 May 2015 02:53PM
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I believe he may have got a bit confused as I was his second patient of the day and the first patient was some one with the exact same name as me could be the other patient  had Alzheimer's or something.

The patient before you having the same name is a co-incidence.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 19 May 2015 07:05PM
Yes one heck of a coincidence at that.  >biggrin<
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Post by: Fiz on 19 May 2015 08:12PM
There's someone at my GP surgery with the same first and family name as me. Cheek of it. I have on occasion been booked in by the receptionist as the other and the Doctor looked suitably surprised when I walked in, and hastily found my records rather than theirs for my consult. I'm sure the other one doesn't want my MH history!
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 19 May 2015 08:45PM
I have the same first and last name as someone who lives not far from me and goes to the same opticians.
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 19 May 2015 09:28PM
Talking of opticians, can't help thinking now that Dic's mixed-up consultant 'shoulda gone to Specsavers'....

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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 19 May 2015 09:33PM
Yup I think you are right Kizzy. >biggrin<
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 30 May 2015 10:25PM
I've had a tricky time with work this week which has had me incandescent with rage with one particular person.  I'm not expecting things to get any easier soon.  However,  my manager is aware of the problems with this person as he has them too, and we are trying to find a way forward.  It's one of those situations that is going to get worse before it gets better. So a big aaaaargh from me!
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 30 May 2015 10:40PM
 >bighugs<
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Post by: Yvette on 31 May 2015 10:44AM
DD, you don't need the hassle.  I do so hope it gets sorted soon.  >hugs<
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 01 Jun 2015 10:09PM
With work problems i have found it useful to talk it all over with someone who has no connection with the organisation.   >hugs<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 02 Jun 2015 01:36PM
I've had a tricky time with work this week which has had me incandescent with rage with one particular person.  I'm not expecting things to get any easier soon.  However,  my manager is aware of the problems with this person as he has them too, and we are trying to find a way forward.  It's one of those situations that is going to get worse before it gets better. So a big aaaaargh from me!

 >bighugs<
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Post by: Hurtyback on 02 Jun 2015 04:53PM
dd  >hugs<
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 02 Jun 2015 08:00PM
Thanks everyone.  Things are calming down slightly.  I work mainly from home so I only have to deal with this person face to face once a month. His emails have the ability to make me very angry though!
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 02 Jun 2015 09:56PM
He sounds like an arse - when you next get one of his e-mails, blow a huge raspberry at the screen!
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Post by: SteveX on 03 Jun 2015 08:17PM
Forgive me, but I need to rant.

I found out something this morning that ruin my entire day, I live in a private flat, there's several in this building and a couple of years ago a guy moved in, looked very shifty from the off and he blew the electric out twice trying to diddle the electric meter.  anyway he went and 3-4 months later came back, and this happened 4-5 times in the space of 2 years.  even when he wasn't trying to rig the meter there was always an uneasy feeling around the building, one night he had a woman there and she was trying to leave and yelling for anyone to call the police (what for, I don't know), other times he would come in at 2-3am, alone or with someone and loudy slam all the doors and be effing and blinding at the top of his voice.

This always unsettled me, I'm a nervous person anyway but his presence make me feel uneasy in my own home.  always breathed a huge sigh of relief when he left.  anyway I find out today that he's AGAIN coming back.  this'll be about the 5th-6th time he's moved back in.

The landlord said he's coming back next week and already I'm utterly dreading it and anticipating a lot of worry and lack of sleep. 

My rant? - The landlord HOW STUPID IS THIS GUY!!!!!! this lowlife has done over the meters twice, blow the electric of the entire place and upset everyone that lives here.   I'm utterly beyond believe why the fool allows him to return again and again.

I'm very very depressed about this. 
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Post by: Fiz on 03 Jun 2015 10:51PM
 >hugs<
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 03 Jun 2015 11:09PM
Is this chap going to be on the same floor as you?  What I mean is are you likely to see him as he comes and goes?
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Post by: SteveX on 04 Jun 2015 10:36AM
Is this chap going to be on the same floor as you?  What I mean is are you likely to see him as he comes and goes?
Nope, below me but the chance of meeting on the stairs is high.  Yeah I know I'm probably blowing this out of all proportion and infinitely worse things happen to people but I'm just amazed why the stupid landlord lets this person keep coming back time and time again after what he's done.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 04 Jun 2015 11:31AM
 >bighugs<
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Post by: Yvette on 04 Jun 2015 09:57PM
Very odd that the landlord allows him to keep returning.   

Although I can think of certain circumstances why - cynical circumstances.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 11 Jul 2015 11:19PM
Talking of neighbours ours are having a wild drunken party in their back yard belting out all the latest hits like Brian Adams's summer of 69,  Abba's dancing queen the monkies I'm a believer. and shouting and screaming still if it makes them happy  I think I know what to get them for Christmas a new  Eight Track tape.

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Post by: Hurtyback on 12 Jul 2015 03:43PM
Dic >hugs< I hope the party settled down soon after you had posted and you managed to get some sleep.
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 12 Jul 2015 04:49PM
Dic, I hope this doesn't become a regular occurrence over the summer months.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 12 Jul 2015 06:32PM
Yes they quietened down about Midnight I don't mind people having fun at the weekend and I think it was some ones birthday but it was a bit rowdy and the music a bit dated but got to sleep eventually. 
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 12 Jul 2015 09:45PM
May you have a peaceful night tonight and catch up on your  >zzz<!

PS - would it have been more bearable if they were belting out more modern hits?  ;-)
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 12 Jul 2015 10:10PM
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PS - would it have been more bearable if they were belting out more modern hits?

May be but it certainly would have been more entertaining I think.

All quiet to night.
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Post by: Fiz on 18 Jul 2015 03:20PM
Was due to meet someone for a drink at 2pm today. I waited till 2.30pm and gave up as she obviously wasn't coming. Fortunately it is lovely and sunny so I sat in the back garden in the sunshine where I felt far less lemon like and alone than had I been inside the pub. I was a bit arrrrgghhhhh at the time and still a bit so now but mostly I am concerned and hope she is okay.
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 18 Jul 2015 04:45PM
The weather has been lovely today so I'm pleased you were able to get sun, even though it must have been frustrating waiting for your friend. I hope she is ok.
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Post by: Yvette on 19 Jul 2015 08:05AM
I really don't like it when someone doesn't let me know they are not going to turn up.  >angry<
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Post by: Fiz on 19 Jul 2015 05:47PM
I've still not heard from her. I'm quite worried about her.
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Post by: Yvette on 19 Jul 2015 05:54PM
Yes, when a particular friend is reliable usually, it is most strange that you haven't heard from her.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 05 Aug 2015 10:51PM
An odd letter arrived at the house earlier today. It was from HMRC, and contained tax codes for a completely unknown person. The address for this house was used by some utter charmer pulling a catalogue scam two years ago, so any unusual post has the effect of sending my paranoia levels sky-rocketing (never mind the fact it was a Brown Envelope).  A fun, jittery afternoon was spent on the phone to HMRC sorting it all out. Just an error by the employer, nothing to worry about, letter destroyed as per instructions.

Still feel like I've been plugged into the bloody wall :-(
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Post by: Fiz on 06 Aug 2015 05:33AM
 >hugs< that's grim. And extremely poor of the hmrc to send someone's confidential ID to the wrong address.  I think you deserve a treat of something relaxing  >dove<
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Post by: Yvette on 06 Aug 2015 05:50PM
I quite agree.  >chocolate<
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 06 Aug 2015 06:39PM
Well done on sorting it out. I agree with the others - have a treat  >rose<
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Post by: Hurtyback on 06 Aug 2015 10:40PM
Well done for getting this sorted so promptly NN  >hugs<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 07 Aug 2015 08:18PM
Thanks everyone. >bighugs<

Managed to get a bit of sleep last night, which helped.

I wish I knew who designed that call handling system at HMRC, so that I could send them a suitably irate email. 
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 09 Aug 2015 09:00PM
Well here we go. Last Monday I got up at 6 AM took GS to work, picked him up at 6:30 PM got home about 7 PM when he decided to take his newly acquired dirt bike for a spin in local field.

Against my advice and wishes.

At about 8 PM we where at the A&E,  until about 5AM when he was admitted cat scan showing fracture of C7 vertebrae damage to right orbit and fractured left arm above wrist. Did not get any sleep until midnight Tuesday.

Am now paying for pushing myself beyond my limits  as it takes days to recover, and together with the heat am feeling extremely ill.

My main arghhhhh is that he wasn't wearing helmet or protective gear as I had told him to do, they never listen.

Doctors say he is lucky if his neck injury had been slightly different he could have been paralysed.



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Post by: auntieCtheM on 09 Aug 2015 09:25PM
 >hugs<  family!
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 09 Aug 2015 10:18PM
Yes auntie can't live with them can't live without them.

He came home from hospital on Thursday first thing he did was buy a helmet. I'd of preferred he sold the damn bike.
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 09 Aug 2015 11:14PM
Silly boy.  I used to ride a motorbike.  For years I put it on the train and took it on holiday with me.  I commuted every day on it.  I had a few minor incidents, nothing spectacular.  However the day when an overtaking car in a traffic queue did not look over his shoulder before queue jumping and knocked me off the bike and I landed in the side of a parked car was the day I stopped.  I felt it was a warning.

Your GS appears to have taken this as a warning to get protective clothing.  sigh.
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Post by: SteveX on 10 Aug 2015 12:42AM
Really don't feel well at the moment, my head is fuzzy and its like my brain is in a thick fog, I ache in various places and I have a throbbing ache in my arm which is putting the wind up me and I'm struggling to sleep, been trying since 10:30 and its now almost 1am, just got up to make a cup of tea..  was a struggle though, feel groggy. (no I've not been drinking haha)
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 10 Aug 2015 12:55AM
Hang on in there Steve.  Sounds like you are getting a summer cold.  Best thing to do is to write your symptoms down and give it another 24 hours to mature before getting in touch with a Dr.

All the best.
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 10 Aug 2015 04:07AM
Dic, what a terrible scare for you all. Let's hope that your GS treats motorbikes with the respect and caution they deserve in future.  Not that it will stop you worrying about him.  >hugs<

Steve, I hope you managed to get to sleep in the end  >hugs<
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Post by: Fiz on 10 Aug 2015 06:51AM
(((Dic))) what a scare, so thankful he's okay though. I take it has has to rest until the fracture heals though?

((Steve))

I need to scream somewhere though am not good at it, I tend to bottle it in which isn't good for the soul. Photos on Facebook posted by my niece show a whole family together, and seeing photos of my children and especially my baby granddaughter who it's doubtful I will ever see again has been heartbreaking. Life is too painful.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 10 Aug 2015 09:36AM
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I take it has has to rest until the fracture heals though?

You would think so wouldn't you but he persuaded the doctor into giving him sick note for just one week (with conditions amended hours and duties) and went to work this morning. Though he has two hospital appointments this week for further X-Rays and investigation.

Though by all rights I don't think he should even think of going to work for at least four weeks but as I said he just doesn't listen.

Fiz if you need to scream just let it out. I had a friend who when he felt like that just used to go to a local field stand in the middle and shout and scream till he felt better.

Steve it could be a summer cold or could be anxiety attack either way give it a while then talk to your Doctor
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Post by: Yvette on 10 Aug 2015 12:55PM
Dic, teenagers believe they are invincible.  :-(

Thank goodness he has you there to look after him - *after* he has ignored your sage advice/wishes.  >doh<  >doh<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 10 Aug 2015 03:00PM
Well GS as I said went into work boss said something on the lines of don't be daft go home and don't come back till you are properly fit to do so. He is now wandering around town with a broken neck and his arm in plaster. Expletive expletive expletive.  >doh< >steam< >angry<


Oh and Arghhhhhhhh !!!
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 10 Aug 2015 03:03PM
Yvette  >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs<
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Post by: Hurtyback on 10 Aug 2015 04:34PM
Dic and grandson  >hugs<  What a terrible scare for you all! It's good that GS wants to work but there are times when sense should prevail. I'm glad that the boss did the decent thing and sent him home. Dic, it's much cooler here, how about where you are? I do hope you are feeling better.


Steve  >hugs<  hope whatever you have is soon gone.


Yvette and Fiz  >hugs<  such a distressing situation to be in  :-(
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 10 Aug 2015 08:29PM
It's a bit cooler since it rained about 21 c, I won't mention here the extremes I went to, to cool down earlier but stripped down and cooler fan at max are involved. I hasten to add I was home alone all day which is in it's self a bad idea for a Myasthenic.
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Post by: Yvette on 10 Aug 2015 08:39PM
Well GS as I said went into work boss said something on the lines of don't be daft go home and don't come back till you are properly fit to do so. He is now wandering around town with a broken neck and his arm in plaster. Expletive expletive expletive.  >doh< >steam< >angry<


Oh and Arghhhhhhhh !!!

Your GS beggars belief!  >doh<   >doh<

Thank goodness his boss had the sense to tell him not to return until he is better.

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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 10 Aug 2015 11:58PM
 >bighugs< for Dic, Steve, Yvette and Fiz
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Post by: Yvette on 11 Aug 2015 09:23AM
Thank you.  >thankyou<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 11 Aug 2015 09:58AM
Yes thank you NN  >tah<
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Post by: Hurtyback on 14 Aug 2015 01:21AM
I don't want to be awake!


 Several months ago I added hydroxyzine to my meds to help stop the itch caused by my pain meds. The best thing was that it also made me drowsy so helped my sleep. It seems that I am becoming more tolerant to the drug now and I am not sleeping well again  >cs<
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Post by: Fiz on 14 Aug 2015 01:46AM
 >hugs<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 14 Aug 2015 09:42AM
 >bighugs<
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 14 Aug 2015 09:49AM
Not sleeping is horrible  >hugs<
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Post by: Yvette on 14 Aug 2015 10:46AM
Is it possible to change the anti-histamine to another brand to see if a change will help?

Sometimes people have to rotate their meds regularly to prevent the body getting used to them.
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Post by: Hurtyback on 14 Aug 2015 03:48PM
It may be that this is just a spell of sleeplessness that will settle on its own, it does that sometimes. Otherwise switching to another antihistamine could be a good idea. I need an old fashioned one as the newer ones don't stop the itch or make me drowsy!
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Post by: huhn on 14 Aug 2015 04:49PM
Yes, I have the same, the new ones do nothing to me, and by the old ones , I can take more then 1 till I  am better or  sleepy enough.
As a child I was a test person  for Kenalog and Kenacord but I can not find them more here.
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Post by: Mabelcat on 21 Aug 2015 08:08PM
I think my car may have died.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 21 Aug 2015 08:41PM
 >hugs<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 21 Aug 2015 10:46PM
where cars are concerned resurrection is always a possibility in most cases hope this holds true for you.

  >hugs<
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Post by: Mabelcat on 21 Aug 2015 11:17PM
I fear the end is nigh.  It's really old and even before today's breakdown was almost certainly going to fail its MOT next month.  I think the starter motor has gone.
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Post by: Fiz on 22 Aug 2015 06:41AM
 >hugs<

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Post by: auntieCtheM on 22 Aug 2015 09:06PM
Oh dear Mabelcat, that is pretty awful.  Will you be able to get yourself another one that suits you?
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Post by: Mabelcat on 23 Aug 2015 02:11AM
I'll have to.  I can't get to work without wheels.  I'm going to have to hire a car for a week so I can get out and about to look at cars.  This is the downside of rural life.
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Post by: Fiz on 23 Aug 2015 06:56AM
Is there a reliable dealer near you that sells cars in your price range? Finding an honest dealer like that is a godsend plus you get a 3 month guarantee from a dealership. Plus full MOT.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 23 Aug 2015 12:59PM
A starter motor is not that difficult or expensive to replace can it not be fixed.
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Post by: Mabelcat on 23 Aug 2015 07:26PM
The car is sixteen years old and even without this breakdown was very unlikely to pass its MOT next month.  It's really not worth spending money on at this stage of its life.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 23 Aug 2015 07:37PM
 I see >hugs<
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Post by: Mabelcat on 26 Aug 2015 08:49PM
I pick up a six year old Skoda Fabia Estate on Wednesday.  It's very low mileage and low tax.  I'm going to be completely skint but I can't manage without a car.
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 26 Aug 2015 09:29PM
Hoping it gives you reliable service for a goodly while  >x-fingers<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 26 Aug 2015 09:38PM
Glad to hear you're back on the road, Mabel >thumbsup<
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Post by: Fiz on 22 Sep 2015 12:35PM
My car failed its MOT today and I have no money to fix it. I am going to really miss it.  :-(

The only good thing is, that means no ED therapy as I can't get there.

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Post by: Hurtyback on 22 Sep 2015 03:51PM
Oh Fiz  :-(   >hugs<
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 22 Sep 2015 05:31PM
What a sod, Fiz - do you use your car for much else besides getting to appointments?
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Post by: Fiz on 22 Sep 2015 05:51PM
Getting to ED therapy, shopping, gym, depression support group. I can't use buses because it's agony for my back, it can't cope with the swinging round corners thing that buses do. I can walk to my GP and to CMHT so those 2 places will be my life! The gym is the only thing I ever get pleasure from, and then only on good days so it's quite a loss.

I collected the car today and on telling the mechanic the original electrical diagnostical guy he'd recommended hadn't got time to assess the car to see what the problems are for a week he gave me another name of a bloke round the corner who he thought had the diagnostic unit. I went round there and he's going to do the diagnostics tomorrow morning. He said there's a small possibility it could be something cheap and easy to fix causing the problem but we'll know tomorrow. This new guy seemed very genuine and I'm not someone who handles any contact with men well but I think I can drop the car down there tomorrow okay. I still think it's more likely to be something too expensive for me to fix though. I need to get it fixed if it's affordable within 10 days if it's to get a free MOT at today's garage.
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 23 Sep 2015 05:56PM
A ny news on the car Fiz?
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Post by: Fiz on 24 Sep 2015 03:24PM
Yes, the diagnostics man diagnosed 3 faults but said there is a chance it's just condensation in the system because having cleared the warning lights they didn't come on again at his garage. He told me to take it for a run on the motorway and if the lights don't come on again take it back to the MOT centre to have the emissions retested which I did and all was fine so I now have a car with an MOT and I paid the diagnostics guy just £20. Today the engine warning light is back on again but I don't care, it's got an MOT and it's legal to drive and gets me from A to B. So I'm relieved. I'd be lost without it.
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 24 Sep 2015 03:28PM
That's brilliant news! I'm so pleased for you  >biggrin<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 24 Sep 2015 06:09PM
 >thumbsup<  >biggrin<
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 24 Sep 2015 07:07PM
I would take it back and tell the man that the light came on again.  It may or may not be important.
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Post by: Fiz on 30 Sep 2015 02:13PM
The light had been on for months prior to the MOT. I have no money to fix it so I'm not taking it back, it has a valid MOT now and that's what matters to me. I'm sure really it needs a whole new exhaust including catalytic converter but hey Ho. That worry is for another day.
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Post by: neurochick on 30 Sep 2015 04:58PM
If you don't have full breakdown cover, you might want to make sure that you have a back-up plan in case the car packs in on you while you are out and about.  You wouldn't want to have too much stuff in it that you'd need to empty out and carry home.  You'd also want a plan for getting it uplifted and/or towed 'somewhere' if it gives up the ghost - obviously you can't just abandon it wherever it stops because sooner or later someone will come knocking and asking you to move it or they'll be sending you a bill for moving it for you.     
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Post by: Mabelcat on 30 Sep 2015 07:32PM
My car was very considerate and died about 300 yards from my garage!
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Post by: Fiz on 02 Oct 2015 07:55AM
Yes, I've previously had AA or RAC cover, alternating them each year so I always got the new customer discount but when the car achieved its 10 year old status 2 years ago it became too dear. However I have added it to my car insurance this year which is a fraction of the cost of the AA, RAC or the Green Flag so I am covered and feel reassured by that. Much as I'm very grateful for the benefits I receive, it doesn't allow for any savings towards repairs etc. If I get through this current MH crisis, then I might attempt to apply for the DHG to cover the bedroom tax which would help with that. Stupidly, I get emotionally thrown by getting turned down so even to apply if I can cope with the forms, seems an emotional risk. But I'm currently in crisis so needing to concentrate on getting through a single hour at a time and can't deal with any future thinking.

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Post by: SteveX on 03 Oct 2015 05:16PM
A quick Aaaaaaaarggh.  I fell down the stairs this morning.  It's not bad, obviously could have been infinitely worse but I was shaken up a bit and I've taken the skin off both my arms below the elbow, have a bump on the back of my head and a sore backside. 

I've been meaning to buy new slippers for months, the bottom of these are shiny and slippery (hah) so I guess it serves me right but it still hurts.
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 03 Oct 2015 05:25PM
Oh, bad luck, Steve!  Even when injuries are relatively slight, a fall can still be a nasty experience.  You get those slippers sorted as soon as!
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Post by: Hurtyback on 03 Oct 2015 05:40PM
Ouchy Steve! glad the damage is not worse but I expect you will discover new bruises over the next couple of days  >hugs<
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Post by: Sunshine Meadows on 03 Oct 2015 08:13PM
 >bighugs< should of could of would have falls or accidents are the worst.
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Post by: SteveX on 03 Oct 2015 09:00PM
Thanks all  >hugs<
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 03 Oct 2015 09:11PM
Sorry to hear that Steve. Falls are scary and I hope you bounce back quickly.
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 03 Oct 2015 09:13PM
Steve, do you have any arnica to put on the bruises?
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Post by: Yvette on 04 Oct 2015 10:36AM
Yes, everyone needs to keep an eye on the soles of their slippers as the soles can wear through quite quickly.

Hope you feel better soon, Steve.  >thumbsup<
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Post by: huhn on 04 Oct 2015 10:41AM
aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrg...
my tooth is hurting,  monday  I can see the dentist for the next root treatment. till then i  am in  a bad mood.
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 04 Oct 2015 11:21AM
You have my full sympathy there - aching teeth aren't funny  >angry<
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Post by: SteveX on 04 Oct 2015 11:47AM
Steve, do you have any arnica to put on the bruises?

I have no idea what that is, so I'm thinking no.   its okay, I heal fast normally :)
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Post by: SteveX on 04 Oct 2015 11:48AM
aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrg...
my tooth is hurting,  monday  I can see the dentist for the next root treatment. till then i  am in  a bad mood.

oh that's bad, nothing worse than toothache, hope they sort it out for you.   >hugs<
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Post by: Yvette on 04 Oct 2015 06:59PM
Huhn, do you have any oil of cloves to put on your tooth?  It tastes absolutely vile but does help with pain.
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Post by: Fiz on 04 Oct 2015 07:06PM
 >bighugs<
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Post by: huhn on 05 Oct 2015 09:32AM
Yes I do this, i am allergic to the most pain  killers.But my teeth are realy bad, its genetic.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 07 Oct 2015 09:37AM
 >bighugs<
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 07 Oct 2015 12:23PM
Huhn, did you manage to get to the dentist?  Here's hoping you are a little more comfortable now  >hugs<
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Post by: Sunshine Meadows on 22 Nov 2015 09:43AM
As requested the Aggggrrrh thread is back  :-) I edited out the more sensitive posts but before I put the thread in Talk or Chat I want to give participants the opportunity to ask for individuals posts they made to be deleted so Agggggrrrhh will sit here for a few days. Any requests for deletions posted on this thread will be removed before the thread goes public. Also feel free to email me if you would rather ask for a post deletion on this thread that way.

Also if you are having a Aggggrhhh time the thread is here to vent on  >steam<
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Post by: Hurtyback on 23 Nov 2015 06:09PM
The thread is in Management Feedback but it doesn't seem I can post on it? And I really need it at the moment  :-(


I went on the waiting list for a permanent Spinal Cord Stimulator in April and was told it would probably be about 6 months wait. The surgeon went off sick in July and came back part time in September - I don't know if he is up to full-speed yet or not. It's annoying but he can't help being ill and there are not a lot of spare neurosurgeons hanging around. Spoke to surgeon's sec just today and she thought things had probably been pushed back by 5-6 months.


This afternoon I had a call from the hospital asking if I wanted to be put back on the waiting list yet. Sorry, what?? Back on the waiting list? I never left it, did I?


It seems that, when I phoned up to tell them I was going away for 4 days in July, they took me off the list! I had been assured, by the surgeon's sec and the assessment nurse practitioner that notifying holiday dates simply made sure I was not called during this time, no-one has ever suggested that I would be taken off the list!


I have complained to Patient Services, they don't seem to have a PALS and am awaiting their reply before I decide on my next step. But Aaaaaarrrrrrrgggggghhhhh!!  >angry<



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Post by: auntieCtheM on 23 Nov 2015 06:26PM
 >hugs<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 23 Nov 2015 06:33PM
Good God what idiots.

 >bighugs< >bighugs<
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Post by: huhn on 23 Nov 2015 07:51PM
 >chocolate< >bighugs<
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 23 Nov 2015 09:23PM
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The thread is in Management Feedback but it doesn't seem I can post on it? And I really need it at the moment  :-(

I think SunshineM locked it for a couple of days pending any requests from members to delete sensitive posts - so starting this one is fine, we can always merge threads if necessary later.

Hurty, I'm sorry you're getting this crap deal, 'you couldn't make it up'  >doh<  >thumbsdown< I do hope you will receive a speedy response to your complaint. 


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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 23 Nov 2015 09:40PM
Hurty >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs<
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Post by: Sunshine Meadows on 24 Nov 2015 12:14PM
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I think SunshineM locked it for a couple of days pending any requests from members to delete sensitive posts - so starting this one is fine, we can always merge threads if necessary later.

 >thumbsup< no one has asked for posts to be removed or got in touch to complain so I have merged the thread  >bighugs<

Hurtyback,

I am glad you started the new (now merged) thread because that Agggggghhhrrr certainly should not have had to wait. How awful  >angry< I cant help wondering how many other people rang in to mention holidays and got taken off the list too. I hope it gets sorted and you get bumped up the list to where you should have been.

 >bighugs<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 26 Nov 2015 06:23PM
As I was on my way out this morning at 10 AM I opened the door as the postman was about to knock he handed me a load of letters one of which was from the NHS opening it I found a it was an appointment letter for the QMC for today at 1130 AM I live about twenty miles from the QMC miraculously I made it on time just, only to find the doctor was running 60 minutes behind.

Any way had the consultation then blood tests then CTI scan with contrast dye, how was that for short notification. Oh yes Arghhhhhhhhh!.

Was there till gone three.
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 26 Nov 2015 06:34PM
 >bighugs<  >bighugs<  >bighugs<
I'll be thinking of you Dic
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 26 Nov 2015 07:22PM
 >tah<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 26 Nov 2015 07:52PM
 >bighugs< >hugs< >bighugs<
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Post by: huhn on 28 Nov 2015 07:50PM
I had a very  very bad day.
My husband left  my 2 girls alone at home, one with Shizo  and one with communication problems, I was out with the boys. so the big one  called me, we are alone, what is  with lunch, I  know they can not cook, so I said I am on my way, wait 1 hour then i am home. So we were walking 1 hour back from the field , where we done all morning  work. so 1 hour walk up the hill with 20 kilo each on tools carring. so we arrived at home, i cooked fast  what i prepared this morning 5 o clock, that we have food when the girls come. after 1 hour he came and when my  boys complained he  told them is  not their business, he can do what he wants, that  he does already  since 5 years. he comes only to eat and moan and take money.  so he  got in a argument with my bigger one, when i went then between, he was on the way to  get away again i  wanted to tell him,  his anger outburst are not acceptable, and he can not leave the children alone , i  put my wheight  on my hand in the car door. suddenly he closed the door and 4 fingers where stuck, he opened quickly and closed again the door, without waiting  for me to take the hand out . He opened again and closed the door again , and  while the door did not  close  complete he   try to lock the door from inside
 now  i can  not move the fingers complete. My son called the police, he is tired of this bad treatment from my husband over a long time
 they came and took me to the hospital in our village . Tomorrow i have to go to  the next town to get a X-ray. i can not drive car, I am only partial sighted . and see Monday what happens with the social services, wa#hat  they will do.  Since 4 years i  explain to  them, I am alone with 3 Children , who have problems and my husband is never there when needed and does not take responsibilities. he claims he  is all day doing work in the house, and i am the problem and liar. Over the years my husband successfully  cut nearly all my social  contacts. I hope that this time  the social  worker listen  what i say and  give me support and not  uses  todays happenings against me.The  other problem what i  face is, one doctor writes, i am stessed out and depressed and  the other one  wrote I have a personality disorder. I am scared that  my opening and talking is back firing. In  my life, most things went against me. I have only  support from my children and 2 friends. even my parents, reacted when i said i have problems with my  husband, that i have to understand him, that i got over the  years to fat and to  ugly and to grey to be accepted as a person.also  is my health not the best, was never the best, but i pushed me always to the limit and that is now visible. sorry, i feel me as a complete disaster and  failure.
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 28 Nov 2015 08:03PM
 >bighugs<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 28 Nov 2015 08:44PM
 >bighugs<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 28 Nov 2015 10:14PM
 >bighugs<
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 29 Nov 2015 12:44AM
You are not a complete disaster Huhn.  At the very least you have made a home, gave birth to and have brought up good children.  That is pretty good going, I would say.
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Post by: Hurtyback on 29 Nov 2015 06:34PM
Dic  >bighugs<  Huhn  >bighugs<


Huhn, I agree with auntie - you are far from being a failure!


My email has been passed to the 'Head of Neurosciences Care' who is supposed to respond to me directly. I will give them til the end of next week and, if I have not had a satisfactory reply, will then take the issue further.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 29 Nov 2015 07:28PM
Sounds like a plan, Hurty >thumbsup<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 29 Nov 2015 08:43PM
Too right Hurty give em hell  >thumbsup<
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Post by: Sunshine on 01 Dec 2015 01:00PM
Huhn,

I agree with Auntie and Hurtyback you are far from being a failure.

Not being listened to by the people who could actually make you and your children's life better is the worst thing. I dont have any advice that can help at the moment.

 >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs<
Take a photo of your hand so you have a record of it.

Hurty,

I hope you get a well thought out response that includes an apology.

Dic,

The Queens Med  >yikes< that place is scarey. Well done in getting there and waiting when the consultant was late. Mr S would have walked out and that is if he had even gone there on short notice.
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Post by: Fiz on 07 Dec 2015 04:27PM
A woman has died after falling from the top floor of the Ikea car park onto the asphalt pathway into the store. The entrance has been cordoned off while police investigate and so cars cannot drive into the car park, though customers on foot can enter the store. Reading the comments under the news story really upsets me, people calling her selfish, all because it causes delays and disruption to them. Do they have no idea of the level of distress she must have been feeling and how her family and friends will feel reading the heartless comments. Why is so much of humanity so horrid!
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Post by: Hurtyback on 15 Jan 2016 12:01AM
Have recently heard that funding has been withdrawn and there will no longer be 'wardens' at Mum's so-called supported housing. The alarm pendants will also be taken away. Mum has lived there for around 15 years but not needed much input until recently. with her dementia she is needing frequent low level  input throughout the day. A carer visiting for, say, 30-60 minutes once a day (even if she were deemed to qualify for this, which she wouldn't) would not meet this need. It's a case of answering the same question multiple times, providing reassurance etc. How can this happen without any form of consultation? I don't know what other options we have. If we move her to another scheme there is no guarantee that the same thing would not happen again!


Don't know whether to  >angry<  or  >crying< , probably a bit of both!


Other 'news' is that my b/p is unacceptably high, even with treatment and likely to further delay my op which is currently booked for 4th Feb. Oh well, I suppose a few more weeks won't matter after waiting 40 months already!  :-(
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Post by: Fiz on 15 Jan 2016 08:39AM
(((Hurty)))

Has your Mum got a care manager at Adult Services? She should have. If so, talk through those concerns with the care manager and with a list of your Mum's needs in front of you, ask the cm how those needs are going to be met. If she currently doesn't have a cm you can phone her area Adult Services and request an assessment for her.
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 15 Jan 2016 03:54PM
This happened at my mother's housing too.  However they did put in a grill with a red button.  If she pushes the button there is someone to talk to at a central place.  This central place has my contact details.  Maybe this is what they plan to do at your Mum's place Hurty.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 15 Jan 2016 04:09PM
Hurty >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs<
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Post by: Sunshine Meadows on 17 Jan 2016 04:45PM
 >bighugs< I hope your blood pressure comes down in time for you op  >x-fingers<
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Post by: huhn on 17 Jan 2016 06:32PM
maybe  you can  share your blood pressure with mine. I have low one, some days i must  look  out for it. >hugs< >hugs< >hugs<
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Post by: Hurtyback on 17 Jan 2016 08:53PM
You are very welcome to some of mine Huhn. It always used to be very low and still drops like a stone if I have an anaesthetic. It was very high this evening but am trying not to worry as that will only make it worse (I'm worried about my op, not the b/p as such).
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 21 Jan 2016 11:17PM
I have come to the conclusion that MG sucks I have also concluded that diabetes sucks but that having them both together is just plain sh*te.

Sorry if sound sorry for myself but right now cant tell if the diabetes is making me feel the way I do or if its the bloody MG if it's the diabetes then I can wait it out if its the MG then a trip to AE may be in order.

 

 
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Post by: Hurtyback on 21 Jan 2016 11:19PM
Dic  >hugs<  I do hope that, whatever the cause of your illness, you are soon feeling better.
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 21 Jan 2016 11:45PM
Thanks Hurty I'm just going to hang on in there and hope I fell better in a while  even after all this time though the thought of going to sleep can be a little bit scary at times.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 22 Jan 2016 12:48AM
 Hoping that you avoid A&E, Dic >hugs< >x-fingers<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 22 Jan 2016 09:29AM
Yes thanks toughed it out not feeling  so bad now.  :-)
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 22 Jan 2016 09:54AM
Glad to hear it! >hugs<
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Post by: suessad on 22 Jan 2016 11:54AM
Hope it's feeling even better now Dic.  >hugs<
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Post by: Hurtyback on 22 Jan 2016 10:17PM
 >thumbsup<
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 22 Jan 2016 10:39PM
Better night tonight. Just wish I could persuade my doctor that self testing in my case would be a good idea
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Post by: Fiz on 23 Jan 2016 11:39AM
Pleased you're improving dic.

I have set my spinal problems off by bending stupidly and have been in agony for the last 30 hours. My GP prescribed me 100mg modified release tramadol after a phone call yesterday, the adjoining chemist collected the script and a friend then collected the meds from the chemist for me. I'm taking that alongside 50mg tramadol and dihydrocodeine and together the pain has reduced enough to move around the house now. Yesterday getting down onto the loo and standing up again was agony. I'm trying to keep the pain as low as possible so the muscles around the discs don't seize or spasm in response to the pain as that would make it worse. Just when I was getting over the foot problem I'm now housebound again! I'm slightly away with the fairies though, but rather that than awful pain!
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Post by: huhn on 23 Jan 2016 02:21PM
Fiz  i joined you, Thursday I moved the gas bottle to the heater, since  then i  can not sleep, sit, or walk. Monday I get the next injection. >chocolate< >chocolate< >chocolate< >chocolate<nice to know, I am not alone.
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Post by: Fiz on 23 Jan 2016 04:19PM
 >hugs<

I'm doped up to the eyeballs with 3 different opioids, but the pain is much better controlled today because of it. I will try just 2 tomorrow and see how that goes, I'm hoping this flare up won't last long. But I think I should keep some 100mg MR Tramadol tablets at home on standby again like I used to. This used to be a regular thing but it's been so much better recently. Have you got good pain relief? The physio tells me that's the key for quick recovery from the injury and pain. Hope you feel better soon
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 23 Jan 2016 04:23PM
Fiz and huhn >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs<

I find that the application of heat is beneficial to spasmy muscles, so if you have a hot water bottle use it.  >thumbsup<

Dic - I'm glad to hear you're on the mend. >bighugs<
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Post by: Fiz on 23 Jan 2016 04:48PM
My pain is from the degenerative disc disease I have in 3 discs in my lower back, facet joint disease and osteophytes so not muscle related at the moment. It's just if I don't control the pain quickly the muscles will tense in response and they'd be hurting too. Thankfully today the medication I now have is doing a better job. I was definitely right to call the surgery yesterday and organise some stronger stuff, yesterday it was pretty unbearable.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 23 Jan 2016 05:20PM
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It's just if I don't control the pain quickly the muscles will tense in response and they'd be hurting too.

Sorry Fiz. The application of heat can assist with preventing spasmy muscles, as well as with the actual spasms themselves, but I failed to say so in my earlier reply >blush< .  I have a dodgy disc in my neck and my physio (who is very keen on heat) advocates both immediate pain relief and heating of the surrounding muscles as soon as an attack of pain occurs. It seems to help.

I'm glad that at least your pain is under some sort of control, and I hope the flare-up is short lived.  >bighugs<
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Post by: Hurtyback on 23 Jan 2016 10:25PM
Fiz and Huhn  >hugs<
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Post by: Hurtyback on 24 Jan 2016 10:44PM
May I just say aaaaarrrrggggghhh? Well, I am going to whatever you say. Here it is - aaaaarrrrggggghhh[/size].

[/size]I had a call from the emergency alarm call centre just before 8.30 am to say that Mum had fallen and called them (that means that she was actually wearing it!). I was going to dash straight out without brekkie but Hubby persuaded me to eat first - which was just as well as I only had a KitKat between then and 18.45. I met the paramedic as he was arriving so I was able to let him in. Loads of the residents were in the lobby - most of them still in nightwear - which was underpants only for some of the men. It's an image I would like to forget! [/color][/size]Mum was sitting/lying on the floor of her bathroom with her right foot jammed under the lip of the toilet bowl. We really have no idea how she got like that! She was very bruised all down her lower back and she had a bit of a fainting episode so the paramedic called an ambulance. Mum wanted me to go in the ambulance with her so my car was left in the car park.Mum was seen by the stroke team but we agreed that she did not seem to have had another one. X-Rays of back and foot were clear but we did have to wait until 16.45 to find that out. With Mum becoming increasingly fed up, bad mannered and agitated. I was very fraught, especially by the time I was physically having to stand by the bed to stop her trying to get up (she was convinced that the computer screen, on the desk just ahead of us, was her records and we could just look at it to find out her results). Nurse sent me off for a break as I was near to tears. By the time I got back Mum was up and demonstrating how well she could mobilise with a rollator. So, home in a taxi as Hubby was out playing bowls (of course!). Mum didn't want any analgesia (they had given her paracetamol and ibuprofen in A+E but I suspect she will be barely able to move tomorrow Fortunately, Hubby had the forethought to put the chicken in the oven in auto and he carried on getting dinner once I was home. I was glad not to have to cook, nor wait long for a meal.I paid the taxi driver £16, Mum carefully counted out 4 x 20p and said 'There you are, that's your £16'! I hate having to ask for more money from her, even though she always give it without a quibble.[/color]
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 24 Jan 2016 10:59PM
Lots of warm  >hugs< Hurty.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 24 Jan 2016 11:28PM
 Hurty >bighugs<
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Post by: RoseRodent on 25 Jan 2016 02:35PM
if I don't control the pain quickly the muscles will tense in response and they'd be hurting too.

I spent a good 20 years being told a muscle relaxant tablet would be no use to me for this kind of spinal pain. My lovely GP finally decided to let me try some and I now want to go on a murdering spree of all the people who said it wouldn't work but didn't let me try it. I had spasms in places I didn't even know about, and now I am not only in (slightly) less pain but also can swallow better, speak better and all sorts. If heat is not enough or is too difficult to apply consistently to the affected area, medication might be worth trying.
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Post by: huhn on 25 Jan 2016 06:21PM
 >hugs< >hugs< >hugs<super good news, I had also a good news, its only a trapped nerv, and the discs are all fine. had  today a jab and wednesday and friday the next one. slowly get it better.
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Post by: Fiz on 25 Jan 2016 06:23PM
That's really interesting Rose. For the first time the pain has been difficult to bear this afternoon despite strong opioids x2 but I recognise for the first time that it's mainly muscle pain rather than disc/facet pain so I've obviously failed at keeping the pain low enough for the muscles not to join in. And I was wondering if there was such a thing as a muscle relaxant. I'm not sure I'd be allowed to take them with the opioids but it is something I will discuss with the GP I see on Thursday. It would be so good to be free of this pain. I feel as if in 2016 after 8 years I am making real progress with my mental health but physically I am going downhill fast what with the ligament in my foot and now this disc/facet flare up!

(((Hurty))) that sounds a very stressful and exhausting day, physically and definitely emotionally. I hope that you sleep really well tonight and recover from such a stressful day quickly.
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Post by: ally on 25 Jan 2016 06:37PM
Hopefully this year can only get better for all those posting on this forum. You could all do with some good news.  Hurty, I'm sorry about your Mum.  I hope she recovers as quickly as possible.  Ageing parents are always a worry.  Take care  >bighugs<
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Post by: RoseRodent on 25 Jan 2016 07:41PM
I'm not sure I'd be allowed to take them with the opioids

I do! If you're quite affected by drowsiness it might not be possible, but if you're pretty tolerant they're OK together. Just make sure to say "spasm" not other similar words, that was my magic moment! Be clear you aren't asking for diazepam, as that class can also be used as muscle relaxants and then you REALLY look like a drug seeker!

If your pain is just under the surface then lidocaine patches are worth asking about too. Pretty much instant relief of surface pain, including muscle pain, but I do find the baclofen better for various reasons.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 25 Jan 2016 08:43PM
I had also a good news, its only a trapped nerv, and the discs are all fine. had  today a jab and wednesday and friday the next one. slowly get it better.

 >thumbsup< >hugs<




That's really interesting Rose. For the first time the pain has been difficult to bear this afternoon despite strong opioids x2 but I recognise for the first time that it's mainly muscle pain rather than disc/facet pain so I've obviously failed at keeping the pain low enough for the muscles not to join in. And I was wondering if there was such a thing as a muscle relaxant. I'm not sure I'd be allowed to take them with the opioids but it is something I will discuss with the GP I see on Thursday. It would be so good to be free of this pain. I feel as if in 2016 after 8 years I am making real progress with my mental health but physically I am going downhill fast what with the ligament in my foot and now this disc/facet flare up!

 >hugs< >x-fingers<
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Post by: MabelDR on 26 Jan 2016 11:07PM
Hi lovely people.I feel like I need to talk about this 'cause it's stressing me out right now...





So mom got new furniture days ago and we have a cat since like 2004 and she's very ummm wild,she's a cat!!!and so she has screwed mom's previous furniture with her nails and now mom put her locked in the laundry room where she sleeps.I feel horrible cause she's locked there and its just 7 06pm.I regret telling her the cat was putting her nails into the furniture this morning 'cause now she's locked up and im so sad and don't know what to do.I feel so bad about this.I love my cat and I understand mom's frustration but this thing of keeping my cat locked up just to avoid her from messing the furniture is ughhhh.....

Hope you're all doing ok.Hugs
xx
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 26 Jan 2016 11:28PM
That is a difficult one Mabel.  I have a new dog and she tears everything up.  I have had to put a baby gate across the bottom of the stairs and lock her in the kitchen at night.  She has ruined a pair of slippers, two pairs of shoes, an amazing amount of paper and cardboard etc etc. What can you do?

Yes, it is lovely having a pet.  Do your cat's claws need clipping - maybe they are just too long.  Has the cat got a scratching post?
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Post by: Fiz on 27 Jan 2016 07:48AM
Most cats stretch and claw carpets and furniture even if they have a scratch post. That's my experience anyway. My cats have wrecked the bottom and top step carpet, Tizzie has wrecked the lounge carpet due to smelling like a dog and shedding half a ton of dog hair daily. I've deciding I'm not replacing the carpet until the animals are no longer around. There is spray available that you can spray on areas where you don't want cats to scratch available in pet shops. It's a clear spray and it just creates an unpleasant smell for cats so they go elsewhere. I don't personally know how effective it is but I've noticed it sells well in my local pet shop which indicates some people think or know it does.

I wouldn't want a cat shut in a small area either, especially when they've been used to more freedom so I can empathise how hard that must be for you  >hugs<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 27 Jan 2016 08:18AM
There are some good suggestions hee, MabelDR:

http://icatcare.org/advice/problem-behaviour/scratching-furniture-and-carpets
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Post by: Hurtyback on 27 Jan 2016 10:42PM
Thank you for your support guys  :-)   >hugs<  Mum denies being in pain, even though she is black and blue. She is mobilising well. She says she went to Day Centre yesterday and enjoyed it enough to want to continue (I need to phone the manager and make sure that actually happened...). We have also been told that the support staff are going to stay in post long-term.


I'm not daft enough to believe that 'long-term' actually means that, just hoping it will last as long as Mum needs it. Selfish I know  >blush< 
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 28 Jan 2016 08:36AM
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Selfish I know


There's nothing selfish about hoping that your Mum gets the support she needs. >hugs<
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Post by: huhn on 28 Jan 2016 01:15PM
Why  everyone thinks, that the family has  to provide all  help? first we are not trained  carers or nurses and we  can not go home after 8  hours work. I  just told today a  teacher in school, sorry i did not this, i was sick, then came , I am always sick. But what to do , when you care  for someone, or i do  have 2  and weekends 3 to  care for, then my back  says thats to much and my lungs  say  its time to get a rest and we produce  asthma. so look after  yourself and let  other people do the job. You are the daughter, take your  time to have  a coffee with your mum and leave the  other things .
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Hurtyback on 29 Jan 2016 04:09PM
Thank you NN and Huhn  >hugs<
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 25 Feb 2016 04:35PM
Permission to have a quick scream?

The work to the house, which I organised earlier this month, has begun. I'd honestly forgotton just how frightening I find it to have strange men in the house. I've been managing by keeping the door to my room locked, and marathon-watching varioux box sets with my headphones on, so that booming voices and thump of heavy boots doesn't reduce me to a panicky, tear-staind heap every few minutes, but it's still really unpleasant. And of course, with all that stress comes elevated pain levels, so things are really joyous at the moment.

Still, at least that's the first stage completed. I get a few days break before the next lot of strange men invade.  :-(
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Post by: Dic Penderyn on 25 Feb 2016 05:01PM
 >bighugs< >bighugs<
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Post by: Sunshine Meadows on 25 Feb 2016 05:51PM
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I get a few days break before the next lot of strange men invade.  :-(

I hear you  >bighugs<

Over the years my reducing mobility means I get more and more stressed when workmen are here. Living in a house where I answer the door in a wheelchair but have to go upstairs on my feet can be confusing to others. I expect you have similar things occurring.

More  >bighugs<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 25 Feb 2016 06:56PM
Thanks Dic and Sunshine.  >bighugs<
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Post by: Hurtyback on 25 Feb 2016 10:51PM
NN  >bighugs<
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Post by: Fiz on 26 Feb 2016 01:54AM
 >hugs< I absolutely hate having men in my house so you have my total sympathy. 
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 26 Feb 2016 08:55AM
Thanks Hurty and Fiz >bighugs<
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Post by: Hurtyback on 26 Feb 2016 06:04PM
I'm feeling a bit fraught at the moment. I'm still quite limited following my surgery and get more fatigued than usual. As a result I'm trying to get out of the house for coffee etc but don't want to overdo things. Over the next 2 weeks I have to contend with appointments for mum, 2 funerals, Mothers' Day and mum's birthday party - which means I will have to cancel some of the things I want to do, to make room for the things I have to.


I know this situation is not new. Most of you suffer from a similar situation and some of you are more limited than me. But I'm still feeling a bit overwhelmed  :-(
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 26 Feb 2016 07:00PM
That's a lot for anyone to deal with, be they limited or not, Hurty. No wonder you're feeling overwhelmed.  >hugs<


>Editing to add: Can any of the things you're having to cancel be re-sheduled, so that you can look forward to doing them once this hectic period is over and you've had a chance to rest?
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Post by: Hurtyback on 27 Feb 2016 08:19PM
I think what I will have to cancel will be my 'regular' outing with friends and hubby. So we won't actually reschedule, just pick up again when things are quieter. As I say, I hate having to cancel the things I want to do - but that's not a very mature attitude!


Hubby took me to Tesco's today (I know how to live!) so that I could get disposable plates, napkins and cups, several large bottles of Lambrini (  >feeling-sick< ) for 'toasts' and an iced, but not decorated, fruit cake. So that's a bit done towards Mum's party and a bit less for me to mither about. Then we went to Chiquito's for lunch  :-)
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Noisyworld on 08 Apr 2016 12:39AM
Hi fab Ouchie people!
Turns out I've actually been aaaaggggghhhhhh-ing internally for the last couple of years and not realising it, although it hasn't been diagnosed I'm pretty sure I've been depressed with the combination of family death and SDA to ESA change (which freaked me the "heck" out).
I'm currently feeling a bit more like my head's above water so I have just enough breath to say hi!
Hurtyback I definitely know the difficulty of having to chose must over want, I hope you're getting through it and have planned something fun for after the responsibilities :)
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Post by: Hurtyback on 08 Apr 2016 12:41AM
Thank you Noisyworld  >hugs<  Things have quietened down a bit now.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 08 Apr 2016 09:17AM
Noisyworld >hugs<
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Post by: Noisyworld on 10 Apr 2016 11:17PM
I'm glad to hear it Hurtyback and I hope you're recovering.
Thanks NN :)
Hopefully I'll be able to dip my toe back into the boards again now!
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Post by: Hurtyback on 11 Apr 2016 10:47PM
It will be good to 'see' you more often Noisyworld  :-)
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Post by: MabelDR on 06 May 2016 05:18PM
hi
thank you
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Post by: Hurtyback on 06 May 2016 07:41PM
Hi Mabel, how are you?
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Post by: huhn on 12 May 2016 10:41AM
rrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr >run< >run< >run< >run< >run<
today is not my day.
 i had yesterday so nice delicious apricots, only 5 pieces, half an hour later i looked  like a strawberry. normally i have only problems with peaches and almonds and  then i have a  itchy throat . when i went to the doc and told him that i took already antihistamine and cream  and still looking like a strawberry he did not believe it. and still now  5 hours after a jab i look like red with hundreds of blisters on my body, do not ask in which areas, everywhere , even there where you can not reach to itch and they are all itchy.
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 12 May 2016 08:38PM
oh Ouch!   >hugs<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 12 May 2016 11:41PM
 >hugs<

Do you have any baking soda (sodium bicarbonate) in the house? Dissolving one or two tablespoonsful in a sink of water to bathe the inflamed skin can help to counterract the maddening itch a bit.

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Post by: Noisyworld on 28 May 2016 10:19PM
I hope the itchiness has subsided Huhn, that sounds horrible :(
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 03 Jun 2016 12:51PM
Bit of a pants day today. I discovered that my cash card has been compromised. The money missing isn't a vast amount, but it's enough to set back work on making the ground floor of the house more accessible.

I'm trying to be philosophical about it - I'm not the first person to have this happen to them, but it's a nasty shock nevertheless.  :-(
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Post by: Hurtyback on 03 Jun 2016 03:08PM
Oh NN  >crying<   >hugs<  Aren't there some barstewards around?!  >angry<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 03 Jun 2016 03:11PM
Thanks Hurty >hugs<

Quote
Aren't there some barstewards around?!  >angry<

Oh yes.
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 03 Jun 2016 08:00PM
NN, what does your bank say?  Will they give you the money back?
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Post by: Sunshine Meadows on 03 Jun 2016 08:18PM
 >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs<
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 03 Jun 2016 08:36PM
NN, what does your bank say?  Will they give you the money back?

That was my first thought as well.

So sorry this has happened to you NN - may the scrote who did this receive their just reward somehow.. I'd like to remove their dirty little thieving fingers from their hands.  With a blunted instrument (see how kind and compassionate I am to the crud of the earth?  ;-))
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 03 Jun 2016 09:17PM
Auntie and Kizzy - hopefully. I'll know more one's the bank's fraud team have done their work.


Thanks for the  >bighugs< everyone.

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Post by: auntieCtheM on 03 Jun 2016 09:25PM
Have you got any idea how it happened?   Did you get a mysterious phone call or something?
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 03 Jun 2016 10:32PM
Best guess is either it was skimmed at a compromised ATM, or there was a data breach at one of the places where I shop online.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 04 Jun 2016 02:42PM
Just recieved a letter from the bank stating that the money will be refunded. I have a form to fill in and return within 10 days.
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Post by: Hurtyback on 04 Jun 2016 03:27PM
Just recieved a letter from the bank stating that the money will be refunded. I have a form to fill in and return within 10 days.


That's great news!  >biggrin<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 04 Jun 2016 06:13PM
It's a heck of a relief!  >whatarelief<
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 04 Jun 2016 10:52PM
That is a it should be.  Did they say how it happened?   >hugs<
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Post by: huhn on 05 Jun 2016 07:36AM
 >yikes< >yikes< >yikes< >yikes< >yikes<
unbelievable first my little girl broke a finger, 1 month later my little boy now my other boy broke his leg. my question is, who is the next? the good thing is, my  boy is sitting outside and peals the potatoes .
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 05 Jun 2016 09:55AM
That is a it should be.  Did they say how it happened?   >hugs<

That wasn't mentioned in the letter. Which is annoying, as I'd rather like to know!


>yikes< >yikes< >yikes< >yikes< >yikes<
unbelievable first my little girl broke a finger, 1 month later my little boy now my other boy broke his leg. my question is, who is the next? the good thing is, my  boy is sitting outside and peals the potatoes .



According to superstition, things like this are meant to happen in groups of three. So the rest of your family should be fine, as three broken bones have already happened.  >x-fingers<

 >hugs<
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Post by: Hurtyback on 05 Jun 2016 03:47PM
What a nightmare Huhn! I do hope this is the end of your families mishaps.
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Post by: Noisyworld on 19 Jun 2016 11:52PM
NN- so glad the bank is covering you for what could be their mistake if it's fraud  >biggrin<

Huhn- blimey those are some unlucky breaks (sorry for the terrible pun  >whistle< ) I hope everybody is on the mend :)
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Post by: huhn on 22 Jun 2016 05:48PM
 >steam< >yikes< >yikes< >yikes< >yikes<
 What kind of people live here. ? I  live  on a steep hillside, and when I water my plants on the terasse  can go few drops over on the  other terasse under us, I want make also the point , they do not use the terasse. So my daughter waters the plants, she is a little bit  clumsy and  made a  few more drops  then me.  this woman under us  came out and made pictures and  runs now to the police to  file a complaint against me. First I do not want to have taken pictures  from my girl, she does not look  beautiful  with all the  psycho medis and second I  am very happy that she started to help in the house, that is  discrimination . This  woman never ask  why  this happened she is  just terrorizing my girl, who is now distressed.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 22 Jun 2016 06:07PM
Oh Huhn, that's horrible for you and your daughter! >hugs<

Why on earth would your neighbour think she has grounds for complaining to the police, just because your daughter spilled a little water while watering the plants? She's being incredibly malicious.

I hope your daughter will soon be able to feel calmer. >hugs<
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Post by: huhn on 23 Jun 2016 05:13PM
 >angry< >angry< >angry< >angry< >angry<
 it was getting worse. today she done  the same with my little boy  and he got shacking and cry cramps , had to bring him  to the hospital with high blood pressure and pulse and needed medis to calm him done .he is a total nerves wreck now.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 23 Jun 2016 05:45PM
Do you know if this woman behaves the same way towards other families in the area, or is she just targetting yours?

 >hugs< for you and your children.
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Post by: Noisyworld on 23 Jun 2016 08:46PM
That sounds horrible huhn :(
I hope the police told your neighbour that it's just water and it will evaporate or run away soon!
>bighugs< for your family
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 24 Jun 2016 12:40PM
I've just been informed that I'm going to have to leave the GP practice I've been in since childhood, because I'm living just outside the boundary area.

Not so much Aaaaagh, as  >crying<
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Post by: huhn on 24 Jun 2016 01:18PM
 >hugs< >rose<, you poor one, nothing is worse then start again with docs, and make them to believe you what is  going on.
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Post by: Hurtyback on 24 Jun 2016 04:09PM
Oh NN  >bighugs<  and  >angry<
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Post by: Sunshine Meadows on 24 Jun 2016 10:54PM
 >bighugs<

How horrid, the only upside is you might be able to get your new GP to look at your records to get to know you, which is way better than a GP retiring and ending up stuck with a locum.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 25 Jun 2016 08:33AM
Huhn, Hurty and Sunshine, thanks >bighugs<


Sunshine, that's a very positive way to look at it. Thank you. >rose<
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Post by: AndMac on 25 Jun 2016 05:50PM
This morning I answered the back door to the Amazon delivery guy. At the other end of my very long hallway is the front door.
At the same time that I was at the back door, two small parcels and a 'Sorry You Were Out' card were dropped through the front door.
I have stickers on both doors asking deliverymen to be patient and wait for me to answer as I am disabled.
Obviously the postie couldn't be ar5ed to wait and  had legged it when I reached the door.

Normally I enjoy cycling down to the parcel depot for collections,  but stuff them, they can re-deliver it, the impatient sods.
This is the second time this has happened recently, both times since I put the 'Please wait and be patient' stickers up.
GRRR!
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 25 Jun 2016 08:31PM
That's really frustrating, AndMac >hugs<
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Post by: Hurtyback on 26 Jun 2016 04:07PM
AndMac  >hugs<  What an absolute idiot the postie must be!  >angry<
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Post by: Noisyworld on 28 Jun 2016 12:23AM
Oh NN that must be a scary proposition, best of luck, I hope you get a good'un :)
AndMac- I find the delivery drivers much less patient than the Royal Mail ones. There's one who rings the bell and leaves the parcel on the porch, he doesn't think to check whether we happen to be in or not!!!!
Then when I do get there I have the fun job of trying to pick the  >bleep< thing up without falling over or cracking my head on something (I don't have great awareness of my position in relation to other things).
They seem to have no common sense :(
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Post by: huhn on 29 Jun 2016 10:38AM
 >yikes< >yikes< >yikes<
 had  just a  call from my welfare officer, she  complained that I  did not open  my door yesterday  for her, I am  to her, I  did not was able to do it, I was all day out. then she said why was my big daughter not opening, I said my daughter was yesterday in her home in   the next town. nobody was home I said, she ok she goes now to see my baby in school, my baby is 111, haha, a little big for a baby. she said  she  comes a other day, I do not know when, can they not call first and second who says  that  I have to be at home? I am not a slave or prisoner but sometimes I feel like that.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 29 Jun 2016 10:59AM
Oh NN that must be a scary proposition, best of luck, I hope you get a good'un :)
AndMac- I find the delivery drivers much less patient than the Royal Mail ones. There's one who rings the bell and leaves the parcel on the porch, he doesn't think to check whether we happen to be in or not!!!!
Then when I do get there I have the fun job of trying to pick the  >bleep< thing up without falling over or cracking my head on something (I don't have great awareness of my position in relation to other things).
They seem to have no common sense :(

Thanks Noisyworld. >hugs<

As for impatient callers to the front door, I'm thinking about installing an intercom. It would certainly help with the physical difficulty of getting to the door, but don't know if the device itself would serve to increase or decrease anxiety levels.


>yikes< >yikes< >yikes<
 had  just a  call from my welfare officer, she  complained that I  did not open  my door yesterday  for her, I am  to her, I  did not was able to do it, I was all day out. then she said why was my big daughter not opening, I said my daughter was yesterday in her home in   the next town. nobody was home I said, she ok she goes now to see my baby in school, my baby is 111, haha, a little big for a baby. she said  she  comes a other day, I do not know when, can they not call first and second who says  that  I have to be at home? I am not a slave or prisoner but sometimes I feel like that.

 >hugs< There's nothing worse than being penalised for not being at home when someone decides to call. 
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Post by: Noisyworld on 30 Jun 2016 11:36PM
Huhn, that's bonkers!
Not only are you allowed to have a life, for all she knew you could have had a doctor's appointment or be in hospital, they should phone and check things first!
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Post by: SteveX on 01 Jul 2016 08:26PM
Just a quick moan, I've been having a LOT of pain and trouble from my left arm in the past 2-3 weeks, mainly the wrist and from time to time my hand/fingers.  Its very painful when I move it or lift something heavier than a cup of tea.   What is really really annoying is that I sleep with my left hand under my head and recently I've not been able to do that as my wrist is too painful or my hand is too painful when my head rests on it, so not only am I suffering with a bad arm but I'm losing sleep too as its harder for me to drop off without my hand there. (yes it sounds dumb, but I'm just a bit weird)

My mum gave me a tube of umm.. hold on, I forget what it's called.    oh Movelat but I'm not sure I dare use it because the leaflet says not to use it if you have asthma. 

but yeah, I'm having a really hard time with this arm/wrist right now and after like 3 weeks+ it's getting tiresome.  (no, I'm not going to the docs, stuff that.  haha)
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Post by: huhn on 02 Jul 2016 06:06AM
steve how is it to strap  the hand?
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 02 Jul 2016 07:35AM
Steve >bighugs<

Have you tried either heat or cold to see if it has theraputic effect on the pain?
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Post by: SteveX on 02 Jul 2016 11:31AM
steve how is it to strap  the hand?

I've tried an elastic strap on my wrist for 3-4 days but to be honest, I'm not sure if it made it feel better or worse.   :)
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Post by: SteveX on 02 Jul 2016 11:32AM
Steve >bighugs<

Have you tried either heat or cold to see if it has theraputic effect on the pain?

No, I've not.   good idea that!  I'll try both and see how it goes.
Thanks
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Post by: Fiz on 02 Jul 2016 05:25PM
Also Steve, have you tried TENS? They can be really effective for pain relief though ime you need a good quality one, not the sort you can buy in Lloyds Chemists. You can buy them without paying VAT if you are disabled too.
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Post by: SteveX on 03 Jul 2016 08:19PM
Also Steve, have you tried TENS? They can be really effective for pain relief though ime you need a good quality one, not the sort you can buy in Lloyds Chemists. You can buy them without paying VAT if you are disabled too.

I've no idea what that is but I'll look it up and see, thanks!
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Post by: Hurtyback on 04 Jul 2016 06:43PM
I had a call today from the staff where Mum lives. She and her friend had an altercation at the weekend, there was a bit of pushing and shoving. Friend admits that she started the physicality but has reported Mum for 'hitting' her.


Mum has spent most of her time with the friend, making coffee, taking out the rubbish and other little errands as well as just keeping her company. They used to eat their evening meals together - although the friend's carers did complain about being asked to cook Mum's meal too (cook = microwave).
 
Mum doesn't remember anything about the incident, nor that she is not allowed to go and see her friend anymore. The staff are currently getting her evening meal for her before they go home but I will need to get something arranged for her.


Adult Services were contacted several weeks ago but they are 'too busy' to even assess her at the moment  :-(
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 04 Jul 2016 08:07PM
 >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs<
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 04 Jul 2016 08:45PM
Oh how frustrating for you.  There is little that you can do if your Mum does not remember the incident.  But the friend does?  Can you talk to the friend and see if she really does not want to talk to your Mum ever again.  Maybe they can call a truce for a fixed period of time.
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Post by: Fiz on 05 Jul 2016 04:33PM
Oh hurty, that's hard. Atrocious that adult services are too short staffed to respond quickly enough. Bloody cuts. Well, as long as the rich get their tax cuts that's all that matters  >steam<
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Post by: SteveX on 05 Jul 2016 08:24PM
Hurty >bighugs<>bighugs<
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Post by: Hurtyback on 06 Jul 2016 03:55PM
Friend ( ex-friend?) has completed incident form and admitted that she pushed Mum first. However, she is manipulated by the woman who I refer to as 'TF' (who attacked Mum a few weekends ago) so is remaining firm in that she doesn't want to see Mum. I just have to hope that the friend soon gets bored and lonely and decides to change her mind.


Meanwhile, Mum is bored and lonely, as well as sad. She now remembers that she is not allowed to spend time with friend, but not why. Today she uttered the words I have always dreaded 'I wish I could live with you'  >yikes<


I was actually at the small row of local shops at the same time as TF today. I deliberately kept well out of her way, cos I couldn't guarantee I would keep my temper under control if I came face to face with her!
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 06 Jul 2016 06:15PM
 >hugs<
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 06 Jul 2016 06:57PM
 >thumbsdown< to nasty people in general  >angry<  Keep the faith, Hurty, all will come out right one way or the other ("karma's a bitch" and all that)  >hugs<
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 06 Jul 2016 06:59PM
What a horribly difficult situation to be in. I hope that everything calms down within a few days  >hugs<
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 06 Jul 2016 11:14PM
Hopefully they will all get over it, given time.
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Post by: Hurtyback on 11 Jul 2016 11:04PM
Mum has been allowed to go and sit with her friend, D, sometimes - but nothing like the amount of time they used to spend together. We had a care assessment for Mum this afternoon and she is going to have 2 visits a day and see how things go, plus an extra day at Day Centre. Of course, the social worker didn't say how long this might take to arrange.


I had my ESA assessment this morning, so it has been quite a day!
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 11 Jul 2016 11:20PM
Goodness Hurty, I hope that you can now relax a bit.
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 11 Jul 2016 11:42PM
Good to see that social services are doing something to help. It must be a big worry for you.

How do think the esa assessment went?
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 13 Jul 2016 04:13PM
Hurty >bighugs<
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Post by: Hurtyback on 13 Jul 2016 09:31PM
Thanks guys  :-)


The Social Worker is new in post and seems quite keen. She has promised a twice day care package and an extra day at Day Centre for Mum. She did mention Direct Payments but it's not something I want to consider at the moment.


The ESA assessor was the same nurse who saw me last time (about 4 years ago). She remembered me and seemed quite friendly. She cut the assessment short (30 minutes) and said 'I don't think you'll have any problem with this' so I can only hope. She was also appalled when I told her I had been given 0 points earlier this year (but was given WRAG for 3 months as I was recovering from surgery)!
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 13 Jul 2016 10:46PM
 >hugs< >x-fingers<
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Post by: Fiz on 20 Jul 2016 05:30PM
I am finding it hard to do anything or think of little else than the DWP envelope due through my door anytime from now up until 3 weeks time. Anxiety is paralysing.

A totally different issue, a gardener just knocked on my door. I knew he would come round at some time to measure the back garden for how much sand is needed but he turned up unexpectedly and I just can't cope with that. So I didn't answer the door and I've taken diazepam to stop myself crying. Why can't I live a normal life?
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 20 Jul 2016 07:44PM
With you Fiz in spirit, bloody bloody head demons  >steam< >angry< felt the same when an unexpected visitor called earlier, nearly chewed her head off as I was hot and bothered and trying to change clothing at the time ..  Hope the Diazepam is kicking in now, if you need it you need it  >hugs<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 21 Jul 2016 12:21PM
Fiz and Kizzy >hugs< >hugs<

May I join you both in giving a hearty "get stuffed" to the head demons? Feeling completely imprisoned at home - haven't been able to get out regularly for months, and the whole change in GP business has resurrected a lot of issues I thought were firmly in the past. To cap it all, there are work persons coming tomorrow morning, to do some more preparation for the next phase of work downstairs, so anxiety is a squealingly high levels.

 >bighugs<
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Post by: Hurtyback on 21 Jul 2016 12:34PM
 >bighugs<  and  >chocolate<  for you all
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Post by: Fiz on 21 Jul 2016 12:52PM
 >bighugs<
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 21 Jul 2016 09:51PM
Can you think of the workmen as cabbages, noisy ones.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 22 Jul 2016 12:43PM
Can you think of the workmen as cabbages, noisy ones.

Interesting idea, auntie. Not sure if I could make it work!

They've been and gone. Managed to maintain digified demeanour, but now drained and shaky.

Fiz, hope you're doing better today >bighugs<
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Post by: lankou on 22 Jul 2016 12:59PM
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Post by: Hurtyback on 22 Jul 2016 04:05PM
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Not when they have their hands and feet tied together . . .  >devil<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 23 Jul 2016 12:49AM
Quote
Not when they have their hands and feet tied together . . .  >devil<

I like your thinking.
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 23 Jul 2016 07:39AM
So do I  >biggrin<

Actually, the tortures I have devised for my 'head demons', especially the most recent ones, would make your collective hair curl ...

Hope everyone is feeling somewhat happier with the world today  >x-fingers<
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Post by: huhn on 24 Jul 2016 03:12PM
 >doh<not me again
 had a great day planed, the first almonds are ripe, took one of my boys and my little girl with me with drink and potatoes salad to gather them. and after sitting on the edge to get them . I got a sting from a baby  scorpion, and needed to rush to the hospital. now  I am better but was not so easy to deal with it.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 24 Jul 2016 06:12PM
Ouch! That sounds nasty, huhn. Glad you are feeling better now. >hugs<
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Post by: huhn on 24 Jul 2016 08:18PM
Thanks
 yes it is  really not the best thing, I did  not expect them there in the middle of the mountains.
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 24 Jul 2016 08:22PM
Ooh, Huhn, I winced on your behalf when I read that - here in Blighty (United Kingdom) we don't really have to think too much about poisonous animals.  Hope your bite heals as soon as  >x-fingers<
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 24 Jul 2016 08:43PM
Huhn, how awful for you. I do hope it heals soon.

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Post by: Hurtyback on 25 Jul 2016 08:33PM
That sounds very nasty Huhn! I hope you are soon feeling much better - and that you still managed to get some almonds for your pains.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 28 Jul 2016 01:32PM
Went to my pain management group yesterday. Had massive panic attack and cried in front of everyone. :-(
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 28 Jul 2016 01:34PM
I hope that they were supportive and understanding.
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 28 Jul 2016 03:43PM
NN  >hugs<  and *raspberry*! to the sodding pain  >thumbsdown<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 28 Jul 2016 05:19PM
Thanks auntie and Kizzy >bighugs<

The other members were slightly taken aback as it's not an MH-type group, so they weren't expecting displays of emotion, and some of the members are a bit traditional. One lady was lovely about it, and the facilitator handled it really well. I did warn her in our one to one induction meeting, that I have real difficulty in speaking in front of a group, and that although I can do so sometimes, at others I get completely overwhelmed and dissolve into a puddle of tears. So at least I know the group leader won't be making an issue of it.
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Post by: Hurtyback on 28 Jul 2016 05:47PM
NN  >hugs<  so sorry that you have need of such a group!
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Post by: huhn on 28 Jul 2016 07:32PM
 >hugs<
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 28 Jul 2016 08:32PM
Maybe some of the more traditional members will feel a little freer to express the odd emotion every now and again now that you have showed that the sky does not fall in if you emote infront of others.  I am pleased that the leader was not phased by you, that is really good.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 01 Aug 2016 10:32AM
Thanks Hurty and auntie >bighugs<

Auntie, I'm hoping so. Part of me wants not to go back to the group, but I'll do it. It's not a crime to cry when overwhelmed.

 >bighugs<
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 01 Aug 2016 07:47PM
It takes guts to cry infront of a group of people.  Maybe they are positive in how they deal with things and that made you able to let go.
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Post by: Sunshine Meadows on 05 Aug 2016 10:52AM
Agggggrrrrhhh a bit trivial I know but the printer and computer are playing up and I want to hoy the printer out of the window ~splat~


Ohhhhhh no it is working all I did was come here to agggrrrh and now it works, if only posting on Ouch Too was a consistant miracle cure  >dove<
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 05 Aug 2016 12:48PM
 >biggrin<  Not 'trivial' at all when our computers are almost like a lifeline...

Perhaps posting on here let your equipment know who was boss  ;-)
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Post by: Hurtyback on 05 Aug 2016 05:59PM
My comp and pooter frequently refuse to speak to each other. It is common for whatever-it-was to print out a day or two later. After I have sent it to Mr H and asked him to do it  . . .
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Post by: Sunshine Meadows on 08 Aug 2016 01:12PM
 >biggrin< it is a conspiracy  >whistle<

It did it again but this time I located the problem it was ermm....... me  >doh< I had unplugged the cable when I needed to plug my mobile phone into the computer.

I am such a wally  >angel<
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Post by: Hurtyback on 08 Aug 2016 08:42PM
 >lol<     >hugs<
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Post by: Hurtyback on 11 Aug 2016 11:26PM
Please may I have a whinge?


Today I have had 2 people telling me about how much pain they are in, how tiring it is, they might even have to take a tablet etc. Neither of them indicated that they were telling me because they know I understand, both of them acted as if they are the only people in the world who have ever been in pain  >angry<


I feel particularly guilty about moaning as one of the people concerned actually has a lot on her plate, including undergoing chemo for cancer, and I understand that the pain (from something unconnected to the cancer) was the last straw. So I shouldn't moan or feel grumpy - but I do!  >raspberry<
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 12 Aug 2016 09:30AM
You moan and feel as grumpy as you like (and keep blowing those raspberries  >biggrin<)  >chocolate< >hugs<
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Post by: Sunshine Meadows on 12 Aug 2016 09:43AM
I would be the same   >bighugs< nothing wrong with being grumpy
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Post by: Hurtyback on 12 Aug 2016 05:09PM
Thank you. Things are a bit more in perspective today  :-)
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 12 Aug 2016 07:43PM
Sometimes one just does not want to know and at other times one is full of sympathy for others aches and pains.
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Post by: huhn on 26 Aug 2016 11:11AM
I think  I go nuts. or I am  targeted  by a conspiracy? Or is  there corruption?
yesterday I went with my son to the doc, he got a long list of blood test, today I went  to the local doc to make  an appointment for a blood test and they charged me 3 euro for making an appointment. ok 3 euro are not much but I am used that I  pay as a foreigner always more,  I heard alarm bells. so I  called the  big hospital and they  sai d, I do not need to pay, go back and ask them, to call us.  so I  went back and said  please call the number,  he rejected it, but I  said, no  you call. he called and  in the end he said I am wrong, so I called the other hospital again and now this person said to me,  she is not in charge, but she was 15 minutes ago. later I found out, they started last week to charge everyone 3 euros when they make appointment for the tests.   so I looked  at the  publishing about the prices and I can not find it. then I called the ministry, and can not find one person who is in charge and can  do  something. I just send  my request to  the local newspaper, it looks to me like a new scandal. and the other thing is  my local person said, that the  hospital said I was abusive when I  ask them. that is not true, my local  person screamed at me and I walked in the end totally distressed out.
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 26 Aug 2016 11:19AM
 >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 23 Sep 2016 12:38PM
Some work needed to be done in the house today. The work required that the room concerned be cleared of furniture. Some men duly arrived to lift the furniture. They broke a nice table belonging to me. I am very, very unamused.  >angry<
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Post by: huhn on 23 Sep 2016 01:27PM
 >hugs<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 23 Sep 2016 09:36PM
Thanks Huhn. Like almost everything I own, the table was worth very little in terms of money, but had considerable sentimental value. I'm hoping it can be repaired.  >x-fingers<
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Post by: ATurtle on 24 Sep 2016 06:37PM
You're lucky NN, I had a little problem a few years ago when my knee dislocated.  Not a problem for me, until the wife pointed out the table that she used as a sewing box, pins, needles, etc. had broken my fall.  She kindly pulled out said needles and pins then proceeded to pound my un-landed upon shoulder as she pointed out the previous owners.

Her mother,
Her grandmother,
Her great-grandmother.  Then, I think, it was one punch per decade it had existed.  (about 20)

Repair possibilities, zero.  And that was the table, me, well, we humans self-repair!
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 25 Sep 2016 10:31AM
Ow! That does sound painful Turtle!  >yikes< >hugs<
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Post by: huhn on 25 Sep 2016 05:15PM
many years ago I was  getting a sewing needle in my leg and I was not able to move more my leg, but happily it looked out 1 mm and I  got  it  then out.
 but today I have a blue  finger, trying  to crack nuts, and sometimes I think my  thumb is a nut >run<

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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 26 Sep 2016 12:05PM
Yeowch!  >hugs<
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 04 Oct 2016 10:19PM
I have lost my car keys.  The dog was jumping up and distracted me.  A friend was here and distracted me.  and I was rooting around looking for the dog's harness and that distracted me too.

Anyway they are nowhere.  Not in the house and not in the car.  Blast.  The AA wanted to charge me £200 to recover the car - which is parked 20 yards away from my house drive on a yellow line.  No thank you.  They said they would get the locksmith out to change the locks then phoned back to say that they do not deal with this type of car.  I contacted someone online by email - their preferred method of communication, but they did not get back to me.  I phoned someone else who did not do car keys but would charge me an arm and a leg to come out and change the house key.  So I am waiting for them to turn up now.

So tomorrow I expect to have a penalty charge for parking on a yellow line, pay the AA to have to car taken to a dealership who presumably can change the car lock, pay to have the locks changed, have copies of the house key made to pass round to the people who keep my keys and miss  to cap it all will pilates in the morning.  Grr

Ah, the key replacement man has arrived and is currently changing the house lock.  So if someone has taken the keys I can at least sleep soundly in my bed.

The young rather handsome locksmith has been and gone.  Not only did he change the lock on the front door but he broke into the car for me.  No keys in there.  I've left one door unlocked so that should make tomorrow's adventures easier.  Noone can steal the car by driving it away as the steering lock will come on.

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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 04 Oct 2016 10:21PM
 >hugs<
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 06 Oct 2016 08:27PM
It is all sorted.  It took hours.  Mazda gave me the phone number for a mobile key-cutter that they use who was able to get the right codes to use to make duplicate keys.  It is all computerised now.  We talked dogs and motorbikes and he charged me £265.  Crumbs.

The hole in the wall would not give me enough money so the man is coming back tomorrow to collect the rest.

There is a lesson to be learned in this.  Have a spare car key (and spare house keys).
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 07 Oct 2016 08:57PM
I'm glad you got is sorted out, auntie, even though it was rather expensive!

My disaster du jour was dropping a full 600ml bottle of Gaviscon on the nail of my big toe. It really hurt and there's a huge bruise on the nail bed. Grrr!
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 08 Oct 2016 07:06PM
Oh ouch, that sounds horrible NN.  >hugs<

Well, I should have realised that it was too good to be true.  The man did not come back and has left me with three spare keys that do not yet work!
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 08 Oct 2016 09:24PM
Thanks auntie >hugs<

I've still got the huge bottle of Gaviscon, if you'd like to borrow it to drop on that man's foot when he finally does make an appearance.  >devil<
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 08 Oct 2016 09:27PM
Auntie,  are you able to claim on your home insurance for the keys? Some policies cover replacement costs so it may be worth checking.

NN your sore foot sounds horrible.  I hope the bruises go down soon.
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Post by: auntieCtheM on 08 Oct 2016 10:00PM
Well, I had not thought of that.  Are they likely to put my premiums up if I make a claim?  That is what the Norwich Union once did to me (now Aviva).
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Post by: Hurtyback on 10 Oct 2016 08:28PM
What an absolute pain this has been for you!  >hugs<  I'm sorry, I cannot answer your question about the insurance.
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Post by: Rosie on 11 Oct 2016 08:09AM
Auntie, I have always had spare house and car keys, although I have not had a car for years now.  And they are always on a hook on the door frame.

Until once.  My then young son had removed them and hidden then under his pillow.  The spare set were, of course, well I do not remember where. 

No kids now so my keys [house, mailbox, The Shack where The Silver Monster lives - think that is all] stay high on the inside doorframe.  On the other side are my keys for The Silver Monster, Tontoo, and my neighbour's house.

Umm no - too many keys.  Oh well.

But there are also spares in a box in the cupboard at the top of my wardrobe.  About four of each. 

But if this thread is for Arghhhhhhhhhhh - I wanna kill those boys that go backwards and forwards outside in the evening on their bikes and scooters, yelling and hooting and whistling at the puppy.  She rushes out, barks and rushes in, so they start again.  She is on a 12m tether and they know she cannot get close to the pavement, they also know I am in an electric chair and by the time I get to the door way they yell again at me and it seems the only English they know is f*** you - other words I will not say.

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Post by: Hurtyback on 11 Oct 2016 04:00PM
I thought respect for elders was an integral part of Judaism??
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Post by: Rosie on 11 Oct 2016 04:22PM
I thought respect for elders was an integral part of Judaism??

Most of the boys [aged maybe 9-11] are very respectful but there are that few who go through a phase...  this is a religious Moshav which keeps Shabbat and Chagim but it is not ultra Orthodox.  I mean these kids will mess around on pedal bicycles and the three wheel scooters but will not use their electric bicycles or scooters.  They go through a phase and then grow up.

Until the next lot turn up.

It is only a few - most of the children here are very respectful, quiet and polite, and are a pleasure.  It would be easy to ignore them but each year...  one lot would distress poor Pereg and now another lot do the same to the puppy.  Different lots of boys each time but they are either trying to deliberately aggravate the dogs, or me, knowing that I am liable to go out and scream at them.

It is when the stone throwing starts that blows my top.
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Post by: huhn on 11 Oct 2016 04:30PM
 >hugs< >hugs< >hugs< >hugs< >hugs<understandable
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Post by: Hurtyback on 12 Oct 2016 04:27PM
Isn't that always the way - that a few cause the majority of the problems? It must be soul-destroying when you get one wave after another of troublesome boys, knowing that this lot will grow up and be replaced by others  :-(   >hugs< 
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Post by: Fiz on 13 Oct 2016 06:11PM
I spoke to my GP on the phone today with regard to advice on exercise. On leaving hospital I was told to mobilise around the house but rest for 2 weeks which would end in 5 days time. I'm quite eager to start some pilates or yoga or the moves that my back allows me to do but she examined my wounds yesterday and while outwardly they're all healing well, I have a large rock hard lump under my tummy button which she says is where they sewed up my stomach muscle wall lower down. The lump may take months to reduce and disappear or may not ever entirely go. It's sore to touch it. I'm not a dress girl but as I can't wear anything around my waist I'm living in one dress or my nighties!

Anyway she's said because my stomach wall isn't healing well I'm to do nothing but walk/mobilise for at least a month because there's a real risk of the stomach wall wound coming apart and as that would happen internally it could be fatal. I will do as she says but I'm gutted, and bored and want to go into the city for a mooch and a cuppa but can't manage the walk to the train station and would never manage the hill I'd need to climb at the other end.

Ahhhhh!  I don't make a very patient patient! 
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 13 Oct 2016 09:20PM
 >bighugs<
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Post by: SteveX on 14 Oct 2016 08:12PM
>bighugs<
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Post by: Rosie on 14 Oct 2016 08:52PM
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Post by: wheelydad on 15 Oct 2016 12:06AM
 >bighugs<
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Post by: Fiz on 25 Oct 2016 06:16PM
I had an impacted wisdom tooth out today at the hospital. Ow! Ow! Ow!  >crying<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 26 Oct 2016 05:56PM
 >bighugs< I hope the pain subsides quickly.
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Post by: huhn on 26 Oct 2016 06:03PM
poor you >chocolate<
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Post by: ditchdwellers on 26 Oct 2016 08:48PM
Oh Fizz, I'm cringing with the memories of impacted wisdom teeth extraction.  Better out than in, is my opinion and I do hope you make a quick recovery.   >cheerup<
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Post by: Hurtyback on 27 Oct 2016 09:57PM
Fizz  >hugs<  Many years ago I worked for an oral surgeon who did a lot of these ops. I'm not surprised you are feeling sore!  >hugs<
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Post by: Fiz on 02 Nov 2016 03:05PM
Thank you for answers and hugs. My face swelled up and turned black blue and yellow like I'd been beaten up. I read the discharge notes and the dental surgeon removed bone from my gum to enable the tooth to come out at the front of my mouth rather than be pulled up, then the bone minus any splinters was replaced and my stitches went all the way from the wisdom tooth area to almost the front of my mouth so that's quite a flap of skin they lifted to access the teeth. I was given a hefty antibiotic injection while under anaesthetic but told to look for signs of infection. I had a fever 2 days running so I've been on a 7 day course of Augmentin. I've never really had pain from the tooth area or the stitched gum, the pain has been in the roof of my mouth and my throat. I assumed the first was caused by a clamp keeping my mouth open and the throat due to the airway being at an unusual angle with my mouth wide open. Anyway the pain from those 2 places got worse and worse until Friday night swallowing saliva was excruciating. From then on the only water I swallowed was to get my medication down. Saw a Doctor Monday and apparently the antibiotics have caused a severe case of oral thrush and I have red patches slightly weeping blood in my throat and on the roof of my mouth. He gave me anaesthetic gargle so I could eat and drink so I went back to eating mousse and more mousse. I've got nystatin too which has eased the pain a bit, I only woke due to pain once last night whereas I'd been waking every 3 hours through each night needing opiods. The Doctor wanted me to finish the course of antibiotics so I'm due to take the last one this evening after which the nystatin will then work much quicker and the pain should have completely gone by the end of the weekend. Sorry for my absence but the pain overwhelmed me and I've been in bed working out how soon I can have each of the different pain medications and watching seconds tick by! Whoever knew oral thrush could be this painful, I'd have done something sooner if the pain hadn't existed there when I woke from the anaesthetic, I just assumed it was part of the deal not something different!
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Post by: ally on 02 Nov 2016 04:57PM
Fizz, that sounds dreadful  >hugs<  I've been waiting four months for an appointment for oral surgery at the hospital for the exact same thing.  I developed a new wisdom tooth two years  ago.  It's severely impacted, and I've had a couple of infections with it.  I'll also need some bone removed etc.  After reading what you've been through,  I'm now  in no hurry, and I'm  scared.  It seems you've been through a lot recently.  Hope things improve for you soon  >rose<
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Post by: KizzyKazaer on 02 Nov 2016 05:09PM
Good grief, Fiz, you shouldn't have had to go through all that..

Bloody teeth - pain when they arrive, pain when they go  >angry<

Sending some more healing hugs  >hugs<
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Post by: huhn on 02 Nov 2016 06:35PM
 >rose< >rose< >rose<all the best, I have no idea why  god put wisdom teeth there, who needs them,, they give only  problems. ice cream and apple  sauce are  a great help in pain relief.
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Post by: SteveX on 02 Nov 2016 08:14PM
oh Fiz, that sounds really awful :(

 >hugs< >hugs<

Regarding teeth, I have a broken wisdom tooth at the back which keeps getting sore, my dentist said he wouldn't pull it but would make a hospital appointment to have it done.   That was close to 2 years ago and I'm still waiting lol.  (not in pain most of the time luckily as I constantly plug the huge gaping hole with those 'temporary' filling kits you can buy.   Yes, I'm a coward ;)
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Post by: Rosie on 03 Nov 2016 06:56AM
I am one of the supposedly rare ones who never had wisdom teeth form.  I had Xrays when I was younger and having eight years of orthodontic treatment due to a narrow top jaw.  These days it would be surgically done by breaking and adjusting my upper jaw, and fixed within maximum two months.

So, not wisdom teeth but the orthodontic treatment [special brace on my top teeth to try to give me a proper bite - from the age of 8 to 16] still did not work so years later I had to have crowns made for most of my top and bottom molars.  Which involved root canal treatment etc, all under local anasthaetic, and the resultant major allergy attacks from even minor surgery, needing massive doses of Prednisone.

Now a few of those crowned teeth have broken from the gum line and will need major surgery  to remove the dead roots.  But I cannot have a GA except in a major emergency, which this is not classed as, and no way can I pay for it to be privately - still with the risk of a GA.

I cannot chew anything - the gaps where there are roots but teeth broken just about gun level needing food digging out if I try to chew.  So even if I could afford it, no steak for me.

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Post by: huhn on 03 Nov 2016 09:16AM
Rosie, looks like we are twins. >run< >run< >run<
 I have in the moment all my molars done with crowns, my jaws are not the best and so it goes...
I hope  my last rain did not reach  you  with full force. we had  horrid  down rain and storms, that everything including my outside  kitchen sink were  flying down the hill and landed  in the garden from other people.
we are back  with  sun shine, but a little cold up here.
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Post by: Rosie on 03 Nov 2016 10:18AM
Huhn - hello neithbour!

My molars were either crowned or well filled years ago in England - and they have just collaped.  Well the molars that were crowned have disintegrated just on or just below the gum line, leaving large roots that will have to be dug out under a GA.

Fillings, also done years ago in England are falling out like leaves in a windy autumn day.

No rain yet - a couple of two minute spit spots last Thursday but nothing since.  But I have not needed the a/c on in any room [I have small wall a/c units in each room, not central a/c] and only one of the small fans that are connected to my PC via USB  when necessary, but all windows are open day and night and I still only have a very thin "summer blanket" on my bed, which ends up being kicked off.

Still wearing very lightweight, loose, floor-length caftans during the day, and Crocs Athens toe-post sandals.  But it is not the fierce heat of summer, still very warm to hot but bearable.
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Fiz on 03 Nov 2016 04:27PM
My wisdom teeth didn't arrive until my mid 40's which was a surprise, I thought they came through earlier but apparently they can arrive at any age.

Ally, I had no pain at all where the tooth was removed, or where they broke the bone or stitched along one side of my mouth. All my pain was my throat and roof of my mouth, and the theory is that the oral thrush started off with the hefty antibiotic injection in theatre made worse by the tablet course. They think I was physically run down after having a run of physical injuries and illnesses and poor diet. So take heart, the tooth and jaw bit wasn't painful and if you get pain elsewhere like I did, get to the GP sooner rather than later so any cause can be treated. I was trying to be stalwart at home; no sense at all in that!

I've another wisdom tooth equally impacted on the other end of my lower jaw but it's never been infected and hopefully never will so it'll be staying put.
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: ally on 03 Nov 2016 06:40PM
Fizz, thanks for your reassurance.  It doesn't take much to put me off, as I'm already concerned about having the tooth out.  I had a few infections a year ago.  Then, they abated, so, I put off going ahead with the extraction.  However, this year, I've been on three lots of antibiotics, which isn't good.  I'm on the waiting list, as I know I can't carry on with a swollen face and glands..  After reading your post, it scared me. As you've explained, it seems the thrush caused most of the problems, not the extraction. I really hope the thrush clears up, and you're on the mend soon.  Take care  >hugs<
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Rosie on 03 Nov 2016 09:22PM
Some antibiotics can cause both oral and vaginal thrush, because the antibiotics encourage the growth of the candida fungus, which is yeast.  It throws the natural balance of various other organisms, many of them bacteria. These bacteria, which live on the skin and in the mouth, intestines and vagina, among other places, are harmless but good at fighting off yeast, whereas the antibiotics encourage the growth of the fungus.

I well remember taking my then newborn son to the doctor and saying that he had oral thrush, only to be told that breast-fed babies do not get oral thrush.  Only they do, as I had been taking an antibiotic after an episiotomy when he was delivered, and it passed through my breast milk to my son.  Who then developed oral thrush.

Now?  I am allergic to 90% of antibiotics, which is why I only take them in an emergency and am prescribed a good supply of Prednisone,  and two Epipens at a time
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: Fiz on 06 Nov 2016 08:52PM
Big improvement in my tooth today. I had lunch at a new pub with opening offers and I ate roast chicken dinner and chocolate fudgecake and ice cream. REAL food and veggies for the first time in months. I ate it all fine and didn't even have to think which teeth I was chewing or biting with. Finally a good move in the right direction for healing. There were things on the menu I wouldn't attempt yet but I'm finally eating properly.
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Post by: SteveX on 07 Nov 2016 12:48AM
That's really good Fiz!   Well done :D
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Post by: Hurtyback on 07 Nov 2016 06:49PM
That's very good to hear Fiz  >hugs<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 07 Nov 2016 08:10PM
Great news, Fiz. Glad you're on the mend. >hugs<
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Post by: Rosie on 08 Nov 2016 09:58AM
Fizz -  >thumbsup<  >hugs<
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: huhn on 12 Nov 2016 02:44PM
yesterday my son had a accident,  some wood pieces went in his eye. I took him  strait away to the hospital and waited and waited. after 1.5 hour waiting and all other patients gone I asked when he gets treated. and the answer was, wait we will call you, I said wait a moment I am  waiting and people behind us are all  out are gone, tell me how long it takes. so  they looked and found  his admission paper got lost, I am back new registration and they put it on the top of the pile , so I can wait again  1 hour or longer, then I said that is not going and made a big fuss . so we got him in  and they cleaned everything up and got  3 different eye drops and the doc made in the end the comment,  do not wait before you7 come. he did not know  that  we were waiting for  the yesterdays day. we have  good docs but the admin is a big big mess.
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: KizzyKazaer on 12 Nov 2016 05:01PM
Quote
..we have  good docs but the admin is a big big mess.

Sounds rather like here, then  >doh<

A nasty mishap for your son, hope he's OK after the course of eye drops  >thumbsup<

Fiz, how's Ye Olde Gnashers now?
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 12 Nov 2016 05:43PM
 >bighugs<for you and your son, huhn. I hope he will soon be fully recovered.  >chocolate<
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Post by: Sunshine Meadows on 13 Nov 2016 09:41AM
 >bighugs< I hope the doctor hand a word or two with the admin staff to encourage them not to be so crap.
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: huhn on 21 Nov 2016 02:10PM
so, next letter send out, now it went to the ombuds lady,  the ministry  of labour and social affairs, did not answer to my  complaint, that last month  my  daughter  and many more adults with handy cap had a cut of 200  euros, that means for my daughter,  no pocket money, what  she needs for telephone card, bus ticket home and personal  things like shampoo, toothpaste and tampons( pocket money was 50 Euro)no more  bus ticket  to go  to therapies daily and  that the staff has to  be reduced by her  care home. I do not know  what goes in the brain around by people  who do this  type of decision , everyone needs toothpaste or  shaving foam or  for  ladies  tampons. How are people get better when they have no therapies,  free therapies do not help when  you have no transport and 20 km one way to walk is not acceptable when the therapy starts 8. And  cuts are always  without warning. I am >steam< >steam< >steam< >steam< >steam< >steam< >steam< >steam< >steam< >steam<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 21 Nov 2016 02:46PM
 >bighugs< >bighugs< >bighugs<
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Post by: SteveX on 21 Nov 2016 08:12PM
>bighugs<
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Post by: swift on 21 Nov 2016 08:22PM
 >bighugs<
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: SteveX on 03 Dec 2016 12:27PM
Been suffering again with my broken wisdom tooth, from time to time it flares up, is sensitive and the gum around it is painful, usually this subsides in 2-3 days but it's hanging around this time.  its not unbearably painful and I'm not in agony but it is annoying and uncomfortable.   Have been waiting for an appointment to have it removed for close to 2 years now.  (yes really lol!!)

I hope it stops hurting soon and goes back to its normal dormant state for the next month  ..I would like to chew on some chocolate brazil nuts, come xmas..    but I'll have some paracetamol instead today :D

Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 03 Dec 2016 12:38PM
My dentist used to recommend a saline mouth wash for inflamed gums - just household salt and hot water. It tasted vile, but worked. I hope you have found something that helps, while you await the tooth's removal.   >hugs< >chocolate<

(Virtual chocolate is safe to nibble, even with a grumpy tooth ;-) )
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Post by: SteveX on 04 Dec 2016 08:12PM
My dentist used to recommend a saline mouth wash for inflamed gums - just household salt and hot water. It tasted vile, but worked. I hope you have found something that helps, while you await the tooth's removal.   >hugs< >chocolate<

(Virtual chocolate is safe to nibble, even with a grumpy tooth ;-) )
I'll try that, thank you!
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 04 Dec 2016 08:52PM
As salty as possible is the key. Hope it helps. >hugs<
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 20 Dec 2016 10:12AM
How is your tooth/gum getting on, Steve? Is it any better?
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Post by: SteveX on 20 Dec 2016 08:30PM
How is your tooth/gum getting on, Steve? Is it any better?

Much better thank you, a good pair of pliers and a good strong arm work wonders ;)
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Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 20 Dec 2016 11:02PM
 >biggrin< Glad to hear you've found some relief.
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: huhn on 21 Dec 2016 06:04AM
hurayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy
my son got yesterday his paper that he does not need to go to the army.
Title: Re: Arghhhhhhhhhh !!!!
Post by: NeuralgicNeurotic on 21 Dec 2016 10:37AM
Great news, huhn >magicfairy< >bubbly<
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Post by: ally on 21 Dec 2016 11:01AM
Happy for you Huhn, that'll take a load off your mind.  Glad your tooth is improving Steve.  I've received a letter from the hospital.  It appears that I'm  having neurosurgery, and have been sent the usual forms to fill in.  Despite my husband ringing the pain clinic, and the consultants secretary, I've no idea what surgery I'm having.  I then received a vague evasive letter from the consultant which tells me zilch. I doubt I'm going to know what surgery I'm having until my pre operative consultation.  I know it's for my SCS, but, that's all I know. i can't plan anything for next year, and I'm now in limbo. :-(